In my rush to reassure a virgin that nerves and inexperience don't make him "unmanly," I wrote the following in "Savage Love" this week:
As for concerns about seeming less than manly: You're bringin' the dick, NEWB, so you're the man. Nerves don't render you dickless.
Not all men have dicks, as my buddy Buck Angel proves, and not all women have vaginas. A guy doesn't have to be have been born with a penis between his legs to bring the dick—he can bring the dick he ordered online, he can bring the dick in his soul. My apologies to the differently dicked.