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Nov 15
jade commented on A Dangerous Drug Imperils Skiers and Snowboarders in Colorado.
65. It's not been deleted: The Tard Supper
Nov 14
jade commented on SL Letter of the Day: My Son Likes Stickpussy.
44, 48, 49, and 55, it feels good to get such positive feedback. Thank you.
Nov 13
jade commented on SL Letter of the Day: My Son Likes Stickpussy.
#24.
I could not agree more, and I'm so glad to see someone else say this.
From my experience and work and reading about harm that is done to queer kids, second only to outright bigotry from parents is silence. There have been far too many parents--good, loving parents--who have been stunned and heartbroken by their gay and trans kids attempting (and sometimes committing) suicide. They say, "But we've never said anything negative about homosexuality."
The problem is that they've said nothing negative, and nothing at all, about it. Their very silence on it has been interpreted as condemnation, whether they meant that or not. The unmentioned because the unmentionable.
If this guy's letter is true, and it isn't about him, but rather his son, I hope he doesn't keep silent. His son could very well interpret that silence as judgment, or worse: disgust.
But he doesn't need to have a cheesy American Pie-like heart-to-heart either. All dad has to do is look his kid in the eye and say, "Everything is cool. Everything. I'm here if you want to talk. If not, I'll mind my own business. But everything is cool."
And then, keep his word.
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Pretending it never happened just sends the message that son SHOULD be ashamed. That is the wrong message.
I could not agree more, and I'm so glad to see someone else say this.
From my experience and work and reading about harm that is done to queer kids, second only to outright bigotry from parents is silence. There have been far too many parents--good, loving parents--who have been stunned and heartbroken by their gay and trans kids attempting (and sometimes committing) suicide. They say, "But we've never said anything negative about homosexuality."
The problem is that they've said nothing negative, and nothing at all, about it. Their very silence on it has been interpreted as condemnation, whether they meant that or not. The unmentioned because the unmentionable.
If this guy's letter is true, and it isn't about him, but rather his son, I hope he doesn't keep silent. His son could very well interpret that silence as judgment, or worse: disgust.
But he doesn't need to have a cheesy American Pie-like heart-to-heart either. All dad has to do is look his kid in the eye and say, "Everything is cool. Everything. I'm here if you want to talk. If not, I'll mind my own business. But everything is cool."
And then, keep his word.
Nov 12
jade commented on Irshad Manji on Hardball.
This is brilliant, Dan. And true. I can't pass it along, though, because I'd become a pariah.
Nov 12
jade commented on School Cancels Prom Rather Than Letting Lesbian Student Attend With Her Girlfriend.
31.
But then she would have had to be closeted at her own prom. I think the point of all this is that she wanted to be at the prom with a date. A date she could dance with and be romantic with.
She could have gone with her girlfriend without stating it was her girlfriend. No one would have known.
But then she would have had to be closeted at her own prom. I think the point of all this is that she wanted to be at the prom with a date. A date she could dance with and be romantic with.
Nov 12
jade commented on Carrie Prejean Knows From Inappropriate.
She is so smug, so self-righteous, and so coached. I doubt she knew of such a word as "inappropriate," or had ever used it in a sentence, until that interview.
Nov 11
jade commented on Mormon Church Backs Gay Rights Law In Salt Lake City.
#14.
Not this group.
WTF, people, can a group just "do the right thing" without being buried with suspicion?
Not this group.
Nov 11
jade commented on Meanwhile in Rhode Island.
#84.
Loveschild is a closeted gay white man.
This passage makes me think Loveschild MUST be a hoax . . .
Loveschild is a closeted gay white man.
Nov 10
jade commented on SL Letter of the Day: Should He Finally Meet His "Ex" In Person?.
This has already been said, but what the hell.
Don't live with "what ifs." They'll suck you dry. Go into this knowing that there's a chance it'll be wonderful. Go into it knowing there's an even bigger chance it won't.
Go into it knowing you're likely to fuck up your current relationship. Be as ethical to her as possible. Be completely, clearly, kindly, and morally as ethical as you possibly can. And know and accept that Karma is going to bite you in the ass anyway.
But don't live with What If. Meet your Internet romance. Life is damn short, and the best thing we can do for ourselves is make sure that we have as few "what if I'd..." as possible.
But, dude, you're probably going to lose your current girlfriend. I'd feel bad for her, except for the fact that she deserves better than a guy who's pining for "what if."
Don't live with "what ifs." They'll suck you dry. Go into this knowing that there's a chance it'll be wonderful. Go into it knowing there's an even bigger chance it won't.
Go into it knowing you're likely to fuck up your current relationship. Be as ethical to her as possible. Be completely, clearly, kindly, and morally as ethical as you possibly can. And know and accept that Karma is going to bite you in the ass anyway.
But don't live with What If. Meet your Internet romance. Life is damn short, and the best thing we can do for ourselves is make sure that we have as few "what if I'd..." as possible.
But, dude, you're probably going to lose your current girlfriend. I'd feel bad for her, except for the fact that she deserves better than a guy who's pining for "what if."
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