Jul 2, 2015
commented on Drunk of the Week
I tend to go for a lager or Pilsner when it is hot. My favorite cheap quaff after I've been working in the yard or riding my bike is Rolling Rock.
Jan 31, 2015
commented on Welcome to Town, Here's Why You're Stuck in Traffic
If it's possible for your work or commute, bicycling is one of the best ways to get around. With fenders and some rain-shedding clothes, it's possible to ride pretty much year-round here. (Although I draw the line at ice, which doesn't mix well with hilly terrain.) cars and transit have their places, but it's possible to beat the traffic and enjoy yourself while doing it.
Jan 26, 2015
commented on SL Letter of the Day: My Husband Just Came Out as Trans
Let me see if I can throw a little light on this situation, being a married trans person myself.
I would imagine that AAA's husband is pretty stressed out about her realization and what it means for her. If she is like me, she may be so uncomfortable with her male body that her hyperfemininity is not an act, but rather an attempt to find something that helps her feel at least somewhat comfortable with herself. Seriously, gender dysphoria is REALLY UNCOMFORTABLE. I did something similar for a while for just that reason, but in time I fixed the stuff that I couldn't live with, and I can't say I'm very feminine these days! I don't shave my legs, I wear ratty old souvenir t-shirts, I am happiest working on a bicycle, etc. pretty much the same as ever, in that regard!
My wife went through similar issues as AAA when I was "transitioning" (which is a word I hate), and had to come to terms with the idea that people might see her as lesbian. In the end she just said, "fuck 'em if they can't take a joke" and quit worrying about it. For my part, I did what I could to ease her mind about living with me- I assured her that I'd always be her husband, no matter what I looked like. It may be just a word, but some words mean a lot in a marriage!
Which presents another issue. AAA and her husband need to figure out a way to communicate! A couple with a trans partner can stay together, but being able to talk out what's going on, and being able to discuss what each person needs and wants, is even more important here than it is in a regular ol' relationship. My wife and I committed to that sort of communication, and it wasn't always easy, but we have a splendid marriage now, in large part _because_ we communicated so well.
All I can add is best of luck to both parties.