Jul 17, 2012 Karey commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Ladies Who Lunched.
Yeah, I don't kiss lovers in front of their parents on the first meeting. No matter how slight this kiss was, that's just uncomfortable for everyone. Once I feel pretty familiar and accepted into the family, then maybe its ok to have little moments once in a while.
Jun 13, 2012 Karey commented on Savage Love.
I don’t think most break-up texts are a one-line notice of dumping with a “don’t ever contact me again” tacked on, barring you from ever being able to communicate yourself. That’s just more hyperbole from people trying to villainize something about it. You have a conversation, its just written rather than spoken. I just think its a little silly to get all hung up on the way someone transmitted their words. Isn’t the words that were actually said what matters? Its a red herring. I don’t believe my words deserve to mean less or be discarded more if they’re over text. The ones doing the trivializing are the anti-text bunch.

Clearly some people would rather have the chance to show their broken hearts to the dumper with tears yelling and attitude, but personally I’d rather not feed their ego with such a display. Its humiliating, you’re not sticking it to them or whatever.
Jun 13, 2012 Karey commented on Savage Love.
No, texting is not a dick move. Its communication, words are still said back and forth, you are having a conversation. All you’re being deprived of is the chance to manipulate someone with your tears.
Jun 12, 2012 Karey commented on By Josh Weed's Logic....
Unless Lolly is also gay, why wouldn’t she have been distracted by all the lust chemicals? She presumably is still attracted to guys isn’t she? And gets to sleep with one, even though he’s gay. And she made it through to this transcendent phase.

I think there’s some anti-male subtext to this one. Basically all women are of course hardwired to have sex and love be the same thing but men are naturally incapable of this, and the only way to get them to this point is to take away the lust I guess.
Apr 27, 2012 Karey commented on Savage Love.
If you’re just so important that you need partners who understand how much more important your work is than they are, you’re only going to have partners who value your needs equally little as you do theirs. He can DTMFA but he’ll just end up in something with the same dynamics if he doesn’t change his priorities. Not saying he should, but he can’t have his cake and eat it too. He’s gotta pick one or the other.
Apr 24, 2012 Karey commented on SL Letter of the Day:.
I don’t know, my uncle and his “roommate” are about as obvious a gay couple as they come and yet we’re all supposed to carry on the charade of thinking they’re just roommates and I think I’d get in a massive amount of trouble if I ever acknowledged the obvious. I chalk it up to the fact they grew up in an era where these things just have to go unsaid and I’d cause some major shitstorm and family rift somehow, so I don’t. Even though everybody knows and is fine with it and its a major pain in the ass pretending not to know.
Apr 13, 2012 Karey commented on Meanwhile in Arizona.
So what timeline are all the other states using, if Arizona is doing something different by declaring gestational age from LMP? Is there anything else to go off of other than what the OBGYNs say is the age of the fetus? If the docs use LMP then what on earth are all states except Arizona using?
Apr 13, 2012 Karey commented on Savage Love.
Sorry but I’m lumping piss in with those other gross things. I thought the point of it as a kink was that its so unacceptable anyway. Thats what makes it work. If you’re in to degradation its gotta actually be degrading, that sort of thing.
Apr 4, 2012 Karey commented on Savage Love.
Good to know I'm not the only one with an obscene cat. It's pretty bothersome but he spontaneously insists on cuddle time whenever I've pulled out the vibrator. I don't feel right multitasking on this though so it's gotten to the point I pull it out, put it down and wait for the cat to come over, give him his 10 minutes of petting, he goes away and then I have my me time.
Mar 19, 2012 Karey commented on SL Letter of the Day: Next Leveling.
Jeez people, why all the hate for moving in together after “only" a year? Not everyone takes years and years. In fact I think the older people get, the more they know themselves and what they want in a partner and don’t need to spend eons dating and making sure they won’t change personalities drastically. Because, after a certain age you are who you are and this isn’t so hard to figure out anymore. The advice that the LW should probably dump the guy and move on is probably more useful. If he’s still living with his parents then he would be the kind of person you need to spend multiple years vetting.