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Feb 4, 2016 Caralain commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Intropervert Dumps Extropervert.
Nope nope, we do NOT have enough information here to make a decision. I recently had a very extroverted friend, who is also totally cool in private, fun in public, but regularly makes an ass of himself and doesn't understand people's boundaries. Can he understand LW's boundaries and respect them? The talking about kinks in public thing would be a total deal breaker for me.
Jan 21, 2016 Caralain commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Dildos and Dildon'ts.
Oh come on. The owners of real cocks also produce grossness every single day, dildoes don't. Also, not every guy showers every day so...
Jan 14, 2016 Caralain commented on Homeland Security Asks Hotel Workers to Spy On Guests.
Oh man, me and my partner apparently do so much terroristic sex trafficking on our anniversary. I'm glad I found out that condoms in the bin and 'do not disturb' signs are indicators of criminality and grounds for being spied on. We go to the hotel to get AWAY from his snoopy judgey mother.
Jan 6, 2016 Caralain commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Sizing the Asshole.
I really don't get your views on marriage, Dan. You're always like "don't get married too young!!" Or "there's no real commitment until marriage actually takes place!"

Most younger people I know (background: I don't live in America, maybe it's different there) actually don't give a shit about being married or getting married anymore. It's a huge party to make grandma happy, to be the centre of attention and for everyone to applaud your awesome taste. That's it. A wedding may demonstrate already existing commitment but it's not usually a brand new vow. Commitment is something that gradually creeps up on you with time, like when you discuss "being exclusive", "making it official", become involved with each other's families, personal crises, make financial commitments or personal sacrifices.

People that I know who are/have been married at my age aren't any more serious about their relationships than I am about fact many of them are a good deal less serious (several marriages were a last ditch attempt to save a failing relationship, an acquiesing to a traditional family without true intentions of commitment, or a quick whirlwind romance that ended in disaster) than mine. Weddings don't really change anything, and most people I know don't see it as changing anything. So why do you treat questions from people in committed LTRs so differently from married people, or say your advice or perception of them would have changed if they had gone through with a wedding and written you afterwards?

Maybe it's different because the US treats marriage so differently than civil/common law partnerships, but I think your attitude towards marriage is becoming out of step!
Jun 2, 2015 Caralain commented on Savage Love Letters of the Day: Ramping Back Up.
What?? I've never seen a letter removed before. Can someone please give a quick breakdown of the question and answer with identifying details removed? If this letter was soooo special that it's the only one to be removed in the history of forever, it must be SO JUICY.
Jan 29, 2015 Caralain commented on SL Letter of the Day: Betrayal and Ballache.
Just a point...the literature on periods and fertility is very alarmist .

Every contraception piece is like:conception is possible at ANY TIME in a woman's cycle INCLUDING period OMG you guys, don't do the period sex, your sperm will ride the red wave all the way to the ovaries and then camp out til an egg gets there and attack!

Every "trying to conceive" piece is like: the period and days after are literally impossible to conceive. Don't you fucking read? No egg, stupids. What you think your sperm are gonna just hang out and wait for eggs to come along? Not a chance buddy.

Every rhythm piece: ALL THE DAYS ARE SAFE. I mean...not these three over here. But you should probably just have sex anyway, for Jesus.

So not a lot of great info on that topic to be had really...
Jan 15, 2015 Caralain commented on SL Letter of the Day: A Monstrous Fantasy.
I feel like...maybe she should be watching more weird-ass hentai for inspiration. After reflecting on some of the more bizarre stuff I've seen I've come up with a few weird scenarios that might float her boat:

-his load is actually digestive enzymes that will eat her from the inside

-his cock has a mouth at the end and with every thrust he takes a bite

- some sort of scenario where his cock is "tenderising her for a monster waiting in the next hall?

-where only her orgasm has the power to summon the dragon that will eat her?

-putting on soundtrack of a scary voice threatening to eat her, then pushing her into a sleeping bag/some stretchy elasticated tube with him? in a room with a red light bulb and watery digestive/drippy sounds? Wiping her all over with a big hot wet towel/tongue? Doing it between lubed up rubber sheets with an electric blanket below and above for a realistic mouth experience?
Jul 9, 2014 Caralain commented on I, Anonymous.
You people are acting like this is a sketchy party full of sketchy people she can't trust. Most rapes are committed by people you DO know and think you CAN trust. I've gone to sleep quite drunk in the same room as a very good friend I called brother, who I knew for years and helped me out of tough/dangerous spots before. Someone I knew had my back. Turns out years later he raped two of my friends. It could have been her boyfriend, or her husband or her cousin. It could have been her girlfriend and a finger. Who the fuck are you to make these assumptions?
May 27, 2013 Caralain commented on Usually When I'm Sent a Photoshopped Image of a Gun Pointed At Me....
These people seriously need to get over themselves.
Apr 7, 2013 Caralain commented on John Corvino: Risky Lifestyle?.
I just wanted to point out, it was facts and arguments like the ones John uses in his videos that changed my mind on gay issues and women's issues. I read a statistic on abortion that showed that where abortions are made illegal, the rates of abortions stay the same, and the number of women who die shoots up. It really drew the veil back for me on the Catholic Church and the patriarchy.