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Jan 1 Brie commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Scenes From a Marriage.
I'm glad that that Dan specified that her husband should use the dildo to fuck her. Some guys would say she should go get a dildo and masturbate. And, while masturbation is a beautiful thing, the letter writer is entitled to the sexual attention of somebody she loves. If she's going to open her jaw and bob her head for however long it takes him to get off, he can move his arm back and forth for however long it takes her to get off.
Jan 1 Brie commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Live In Nope.
CLOSURE said "It also doesn't mean that the person denying you the thing you want is allowed absolute immunity"

That statement is completely wrong. Learn to take "No" for an answer. You're not going to always get what you want, so learn to fucking deal with it. If you can't, then get some fucking therapy, so that you can stop being a self entitled prick.
Dec 25, 2015 Brie commented on Savage Love.
Another option for the subble: the female condom! It will cover the entrance to the vagina, and act as a barrier to the stubble.
Jul 18, 2015 Brie commented on Savage Love Letters of the Day: Three Pack.
I want to say this in defense of Recon guy. How would it be clear to him WHY the letter writer didn't want to be marked? If you don't know that he's trying to hide this activity from a partner, there's absolutely no reason to think that shaving hair is even close to limit pushing. Shaving hair doesn't hurt. It *doesn't* leave a mark. It's not even close to permanent. It'll all grow back.

The letter writer never mentions if the *told* the Recon guy that he was cheating on his boyfriend. I'm betting he didn't. And without that bit of information, I don't think he screwed up that badly.
Apr 27, 2015 Brie commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Photo Play.
The thing is, the dildo wasn't "their" sex toy. It was HER sex toy. There's no way it was appropriate for him to lend out her dildo, any more than if a friend and stopped by and used it without asking. Married or not, some things are not "shared" property.

Also, I get Dan's point at the end, that he's coming around to being flexible on monogamy, so maybe it's a good thing. But I bet you dollars to donuts that this new found flexibility doesn't extend both ways, regardless of what he says.
Apr 2, 2015 Brie commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Secret to Success.
Maybe reading Mating in Captivity would help start a discussion?
Aug 15, 2014 Brie commented on SL Letter of the Day: Truly, Madly, Fairly.
I just wanted to add that a "feeldoe" is a great dildo for a vagina owner to wear while penetrating their partner. Instead of being strapped on, part of the dildo goes into the vagina. The other part sticks out like a penis.

I won't touch the relationship advice stuff, as Dan has already handled it.
Aug 15, 2014 Brie commented on SL Letter of the Day: Potential Murder, She Wrote.
Spot on advice from Dan.
Apr 14, 2014 Brie commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Ex Files.
Speaking as somebody with anxiety issues, I know the letter writer isn't holding on to her neuroses for fun. Nobody does, umnless theyre faking it.What she needs is a therapist who will help her dvelop tools to overcome her anxieties.
Jan 8, 2014 Brie commented on Savage Love.
I'm glad gender roles were brought into this discussion, because that's a needed conversation.

She is the one feeling helpless. There is empowerment in declaring your desires openly. It is incredibly powerful to say "This is the kind of relationship I want with you. Please let me know ife you feel the same way."

When faced with a direct question, a person thinks about something in a different way. If my friend comes upto me and says "Hey, anytime you want to invite me to a picnic, I'm game" it might well inspire me to have a picnic and invite the friend. I'd likely take my time, simply because picnics are not my priority. If my friend says "Picnic on the 17th, are you in?" I have to think about it in a much more immediate way.