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Jul 1 Blackwood commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Man 4 Woman Annoyed @ Men 4 Men.
@7,
actually, I'll correct myself: it's male privilege meets male entitlement.
LW had always, so far, had the privilege of never being on the receiving end of unwanted advances, until he found some gay men on Craigslist do feel entitled to get some sort of attention from a straight dude.
As a woman who, like most of us, deals with unwanted attention daily merely for existing in public, I can't muster much sympathy for this LW. Sorry, dude.
Jul 1 Blackwood commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Man 4 Woman Annoyed @ Men 4 Men.
@1, Sportlandia
Indeed. it seems M4W has a encountered a situation that can be resumed as: "male entitlement meets male entitlement."
Jun 27 Blackwood commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Old Dirty Pics Piss Off Sex-Starved Spouse.
The fact that LW referred to his wife's chronic pain as "a turn-off for me" tells you everything you need to know about his priorities.
Jun 1 Blackwood commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Do All Gay Men Have Anal Sex?.
@20, maybe, although if LW was socialized as a woman before transitioning, my guess is he must not be very surprised at all. It seems in this case the problem has to do with broad generalizing and people not being able to understand that not everyone likes what they like. And LW not being able to take a comment lightly, probably.
May 26 Blackwood commented on Savage Love.
@72 Bi, ok, I get what you were saying and that you were extrapolating from personal experience now. My apologies.
May 26 Blackwood commented on Savage Love.
@61 CMD, the line "which might as well be true", sounded a little dismissive to me, but tone of voice is difficult to read. Sorry I misinterpreted you, it seems like we are on the same page.

@65 Bi. I agree with sex acts not defining sexual orientation. I thought you were implying otherwise when you stated "Actually, I'd assume that most couples engaged in pegging would be BI male/female. I guess we are both applying confirmation bias". Why does being pegged strikes you as a likely-to-be-bi thing? That's what confused me. to me, it sounded like you thought that for a male-female couple to engage in pegging, they would have to be somewhere along the not-straight spectrum. And no, of course I don't believe pegging (or any other sex act) is about "asserting straightness" or whatever sexual orientation. I'm not sure how you got that from what I wrote, it seems we're not reading each other in our respective intended tones.

As for the whole Mansplaining debate: the term "mansplain" doesn't exist in my country, so I won't debate as to what it means exactly. I mean, the phenomenon the word describes is everywhere and most of us seemed to have experienced it one way or another, but since I don't encounter the term in everyday life I'll guide myself by how other people use it. All I can say is that I see a tendency of labeling everyting a guy does as "man-something" or "guy-something", which may have a point in a lot of cases, but seems quite stupid in others, i.e "guyliner", "manscaping" which are things that don't differ in anything when a woman does/uses them. Sometimes it seems like a defensive misogynist thing, like "yeah I trim my pubes but it's MANSCAPING, not the same thing that women do", which honestly is ridiculous.
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May 25 Blackwood commented on Savage Love.
@CMD, with the "butch with a strap on" I was actually referring to lesbian sex as an example (I should have clarified that). Many people who think that a sex act in itself is gay or straight would think that having sex with a masculine woman using a strap on is a sign that the girl getting fucked is not gay (ask any lesbian who dates butch girls how many times she's been asked why doesn't she just date men instead). Which you seem to think as well, hence calling straight guys who like to be pegged but don't want a real dick as "trying to assert their straightness. which might as well be true", as if they're "trying too hard" to be straight, instead of accepting that just because someone likes a penis shaped object in their orifices, it doesn't mean that they like or want actual dick.
May 24 Blackwood commented on Savage Love.
@17 CMD,
pegging with a strap-on is one thing, having sex with an actual dick is another. a lot of straight guys who are into pegging would actually be squicked out by the real thing. Just like being fucked by a butch girl with a strap on is not the same as being fucked by an actual man.
May 24 Blackwood commented on Savage Love.
am I the only one who feels that NOT is not particularly attracted to her wife but doesn't want to admit it because she fears that it would make her a "bad queer"?. Some folks, even bi, are attracted to stereotypical men and women. I know I'm like that. I like stereotypically feminine girls and stereotypically masculine men (ok, maybe with a little leeway). I'm not sure if I could date someone whose genitals don't match their gender presentation. Just my 2 cents.
And regarding BLECH: she sounds sooo smug, maybe his friends are reacting to THAT, not her politics. if she comes across as holier-than-thou in real life as she does in this letter, that's likely to be the main issue, not feminism.
May 24 Blackwood commented on SL Letter of the Day: Psychopathic Tendencies.
I echo @21's perspective: gee, he always asumes that he's the smartest person in the room, admits that he's kind of an asshole (when someone admits something like that about themselves, it's usually downplayed) and wonders why he can't make a connection with anyone. Maybe it's just me, but I couldn't see myself getting wet in the pants on the perspective of bonding with someone who thinks I'm not on their intellectual level and is rude/sort of a dick.