Sep 28, 2011
gayBoiNYC commented on Savage Love.
For FAP: The American Botanical Pharmacy has astoundingly effective herbal products which address many areas, including female (and male) sexual responses. Unlike herbal medicine in a health store (which is often weak and ineffective), these products are made from organic and wild-harvested sources.
They work. Don't be put off by their rather cheesy advertising.
They work. Don't be put off by their rather cheesy advertising.
Jul 26, 2011
gayBoiNYC commented on Savage Love.
I am flabbergasted by Dan's analysis of CPAS. Yes, CPAS should dump her, because she is abusing him. But this has nothing to do with looks. It is irrelevant what the guy looks like, and what his girlfriend looks like!
Weird...
Weird...
Jul 6, 2011
gayBoiNYC commented on Savage Love.
@ 9 and 17:
I think there are significant distinctions between all these various terms, with "she-male" meaning something quite specific. Perhaps Dan would correct this or elaborate at some point. (Pre-op vs. Post-op.)
"Transgender" or "Transexual" mean that the gender is either literally reassigned, either through actual medical procedures, or the permanent wish to do so. "She-male" is not related to this.
"Transvestite" is very different - just a biological male that dresses in typically female clothing, as well as usually hair-style, and make-up. This individual might or might not be gay at all.
"She-male" is a special sub-category of transvestite, associated with sex work, in which the penis is likely desired by the client (as in WBNE's ex, above, who fantasizes and perhaps desires to be fucked BY the she-male.) Therefore, an authentic transgender person would probably have little to do with the "she-male" phenomenon and not often have an issue with the term.
A "Tranny" is a broader sub-category of transvestite, in which it a more general feminine "passable" identity is assumed, and probably a sex-worker. The client would more likely want to fuck the tranny than be fucked by her.
And finally, a "drag queen" is simply a performer, a female-impersonator, that may or may not be gay.
(If I am off-base in these, please have at me! Not literally of course...)
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I think there are significant distinctions between all these various terms, with "she-male" meaning something quite specific. Perhaps Dan would correct this or elaborate at some point. (Pre-op vs. Post-op.)
"Transgender" or "Transexual" mean that the gender is either literally reassigned, either through actual medical procedures, or the permanent wish to do so. "She-male" is not related to this.
"Transvestite" is very different - just a biological male that dresses in typically female clothing, as well as usually hair-style, and make-up. This individual might or might not be gay at all.
"She-male" is a special sub-category of transvestite, associated with sex work, in which the penis is likely desired by the client (as in WBNE's ex, above, who fantasizes and perhaps desires to be fucked BY the she-male.) Therefore, an authentic transgender person would probably have little to do with the "she-male" phenomenon and not often have an issue with the term.
A "Tranny" is a broader sub-category of transvestite, in which it a more general feminine "passable" identity is assumed, and probably a sex-worker. The client would more likely want to fuck the tranny than be fucked by her.
And finally, a "drag queen" is simply a performer, a female-impersonator, that may or may not be gay.
(If I am off-base in these, please have at me! Not literally of course...)
Feb 16, 2011
gayBoiNYC commented on Savage Love.
The last line of Dan's advice is one of the greatest ever.
The equivalent of "To be or not to be" for Shakespeare.
I remember at least a decade ago, there was a letter from a really bitchy and disrespectful guy who wanted advice about bleeding during anal sex, and Dan said "Go walk your bloody ass down to the bookstore and read about it." (That was before internet age. Wow I'm old.)
The equivalent of "To be or not to be" for Shakespeare.
I remember at least a decade ago, there was a letter from a really bitchy and disrespectful guy who wanted advice about bleeding during anal sex, and Dan said "Go walk your bloody ass down to the bookstore and read about it." (That was before internet age. Wow I'm old.)
Feb 9, 2011
gayBoiNYC commented on Savage Love.
@22. As a 10-year practitioner of yoga, I have to express my serious doubts that yoga or meditation would make a difference with people like SCIL.
In some of the less serious yoga places, entitled drama queens like SCIL (of both sexes) still manage to make it "all about them", whether it is vomiting their personal issues all over the class, or constant groaning and demanding of the teacher's attention. And finally, the class can just become another opportunity to cheat and find affairs - maybe with the instructor.
It wouldn't hurt to try of course, and so it's still good advice in case it helps.
In some of the less serious yoga places, entitled drama queens like SCIL (of both sexes) still manage to make it "all about them", whether it is vomiting their personal issues all over the class, or constant groaning and demanding of the teacher's attention. And finally, the class can just become another opportunity to cheat and find affairs - maybe with the instructor.
It wouldn't hurt to try of course, and so it's still good advice in case it helps.
Feb 8, 2011
gayBoiNYC commented on Savage Love.
And for S.C.I.L. - what a self-involved, narcissistic jerk. She feels ENTITLED to be answered by Dan?!? And claims he is IGNORING her, without any regard for the mountains of mail he gets? She things Dan has a responsibility to answer her mundane letter just because she is a cheating jerk?
I feel sorry for all the men she torments.
I feel sorry for all the men she torments.
Feb 8, 2011
gayBoiNYC commented on Savage Love.
For C.R.A.P., I do think that while you continue your FWB situation, you should try and date other people too. Maybe you're different than I am, but if I were in your position I would not be able to separate the feelings for the Ex, and I would still "think" we are together even though it is officially over. So maybe that would help you to keep things in perspective.
Plus, it will make her jealous! (Aren't I mature!!)
Plus, it will make her jealous! (Aren't I mature!!)
Feb 1, 2011
gayBoiNYC commented on Savage Love.
I don't agree with Dan on the first letter. I think I would need much more information about Minimally Sexual Guy before giving him such specific advice to date other "Minimally Sexual" people.
For example, how old is he? If he's for example in his mid 20's, he just may not have found the Right One or even his Right Type yet. If I were his therapist, I would not assume that this is his permanent state, nor would I advise him only to limit dating to those people similar to him. Perhaps a certain "Normal" could elicit a more sexual response. For that matter, this could even apply to later bloomers.
There was a pretty bold article in this weeks New York magazine about how today, many guys are much more able to get aroused watching porn on the Internet than they do with their real life partners. Maybe there is something to this new age.....the ease of HD porn and the wide open menu of choices, leading to a loss of desire for the "real thing"? Just wondering.
For example, how old is he? If he's for example in his mid 20's, he just may not have found the Right One or even his Right Type yet. If I were his therapist, I would not assume that this is his permanent state, nor would I advise him only to limit dating to those people similar to him. Perhaps a certain "Normal" could elicit a more sexual response. For that matter, this could even apply to later bloomers.
There was a pretty bold article in this weeks New York magazine about how today, many guys are much more able to get aroused watching porn on the Internet than they do with their real life partners. Maybe there is something to this new age.....the ease of HD porn and the wide open menu of choices, leading to a loss of desire for the "real thing"? Just wondering.
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