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Mar 6 gueralinda commented on This Amazing Sign Just Appeared on the Fence Surrounding the Capitol Hill Light Rail Station.
We already have internment camps for immigrants - forced labor, indefinite "sentences" (in quotation marks because these people have not had a day in court or been convicted of a crime for the most part), family separation being used as a tool of terror (see today's statement by secretary Kelly), all as part of a for-profit prison system. The US has embarked on a full scale ethnic cleansing campaign.
Feb 22 gueralinda commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: What Does “Vanilla” Even Mean?.
It's impossible to make an accurate analysis with such scanty information. How did the guys make her feel weird? Did they actually say "that's weird?" Did they lose their erections? Maybe just get an uncomfortable look on their face and giggle nervously? Strikes me that the most likely explanation is the pretty common "straight guy slightly intimidated by forthright, assertive woman" scenario. It's been many years since I fucked somebody for the first time (long term married) but I think I'd leave the commentary for at least the second "date." Obviously this doesn't mean she should suffer in silence if the sex is really bad, but maybe leave the verbal instructions for a later date.
Feb 22 gueralinda commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Overcoming Abuse & Finding Partners Who Aren’t Pieces of Shit.
I wish you the best - I have been there (well, I'm a straight cis chick so not really, but as far as ongoing abuse and multiple rapes goes). I completely empathized with your occasional decisions to have sex with people who don't feel safe just because you need sex and human contact. I have DEFINITELY been there. But you know what? I think there's a silver lining to that - it means you have, like I did, a healthy libido and you are willing to take chances. Maybe we took STUPID chances, but we can learn to take smarter chances. I don't know how old you are now. Most of my sexual abuse/rapes happened when I was 13-22, and it took me years to recover, I'm gonna say until I was about thirty. Please be patient with yourself and start treating yourself as kindly as you can. I can't guess what your future journey will look like, but I'm here to tell you recovery is possible.
Feb 22 gueralinda commented on Two Milo Reax Reax—One Long, One Short.
The reason nobody cares about Roman Polanski (or R. Kelly, or any of a thousand others) is that they only fucked underage GIRLS. Which is naughty, but not heinous, according to most people's subconscious beliefs. Certainly not anywhere near the heinousness level of doing the exact same thing to BOYS. See, when you fuck an underage girl, you are just anticipating by a few years what is normal and natural - it's her destiny to be used for fucking by men. That's why god created her, right? But you aren't ever supposed to use males that way. Males are the fuckers, not the fuckees. Right?
Feb 17 gueralinda commented on Dreamer Daniel Ramirez Medina Will Remain Detained for Now.
If individual ICE officers can unilaterally and immediately confiscate work permits and "revoke" DACA status, and if border guards can unilaterally confiscate visas and "revoke" permanent resident status (as happened during the chaotic initial rollout of the Muslim ban) then documents issued by the US have no value, our legal system has no credibility, and the rest of the world would be right to treat us as a pariah state whose legal word cannot be trusted.
Jan 18 gueralinda commented on From "aPodments" to Luxury One-Bedrooms, We Scoured Seattle to Find Out What the Rental Market is Like.
Jesus Christ. I gotta raise the rent. I rent out a four bedroom house in Ballard which is not either funky or historic but at least everything's functional and it has a nice big yard. I must be getting old but I just can't imagine charging more than $2,000/month. Maybe when the three year lease is up.
Jan 9 gueralinda commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Stamping Out "Just My Preference" Gays.
I agree with the person who said have your preferences but don't advertise them on your profile. Or if you must, do it as a "plus" for your likes, not a "minus" for your dislikes. I had a thing for men from a specific ethnic group when I was younger. I'll even admit to kind of sort of "fetishizing" them. I never used dating apps; I just hung out at places where there were a lot of guys from that group (Okay! Okay! It was Latino dudes and I learned to salsa dance!) I certainly never ruled out dating anyone based on their race, national origin, or physique - I just flirted with the guys who turned me on. I fail to see how that can be construed as racist. Eventually I married one of the Latino dudes that I dated. - not because he was Latino, but because after dating him for a while I fell in love. I might be wrong but I think that's how it's supposed to work ;)
Jan 5 gueralinda commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Marathon Man & Woman.
"Trust ON the part of the woman," that should have read.
Jan 5 gueralinda commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Marathon Man & Woman.
I don't see any great options here other than avoiding PIV entirely (which doesn't mean five days of anal-only!! Sheesh) or condoms. Withdrawal is more effective than we were all taught in school, but it requires a lot of trust in the part of the woman. If it were me, meeting an occasional lover and going bareback with no backup, there's no way in hell I could relax enough to enjoy myself. Just out of curiosity - men? What's the more desirable option? Wearing a condom and being able to ejaculate inside your
Partner, or going in naked but having to pull out?

As far as a UTI, I actually find that the irritation from a condom is more likely to cause symptoms than a naked penis. And yeah, five days in a row of multiple rounds would probably provoke one no matter how clean we were.
Dec 13, 2016 gueralinda commented on SL Letter of the Day: Stop pathologizing your husband.
I remember this letter, and I still think what I thought then - a person who is having daily sex AND masturbating twice a day? Okay, it's not impossible but it is unusual. Has he always been like this or is it new behavior? SOMETIMES excessive masturbation can be a coping mechanism for stress or depression. How is everything else in his life? If it's all hunky-dory, then yeah, she needs to just give him plenty of space and let him wank his horny little heart out. But I think it's not crazy to dig a little deeper and find out if there's something behind it.