Dec 5, 2011
commented on Bullying Victim's Video Goes Viral
@21 It may be hard for you to grasp but even in this day & age there may be no one to talk to. When I was growing up there was the occasional kid who would step in, only to be bullied themselves for associating with me. I would bet this video was a last resort for Jonah. At least he did something which is more than you appear to be doing. If you've been through this yourself then you should be ashamed to even suggest that it's "emo narcissism bullshit".
Obviously, if you went through this and 'just suck it up' was your solution it didn't work for you. Survival doesn't have to equal bitterness.
Nov 17, 2011
commented on On Glitter, Transphobia, and Hate Speech
@249 You've hit the nail on the head. Reminds me of an exchange between Clive Owen & Jude Law in the movie "Closer":
Law: Everybody wants to be happy.
Owen: Depressives don't. They want to be unhappy to confirm they're depressed. If they were happy they couldn't be depressed anymore. They'd have to go out into the world and live. Which can be depressing.
As someone who spent 30+ years being rejected before getting my act together I can say that things were much, much easier when I was being rejected for something I have very little control over. You get used to it. You know where you stand. There's no validation for for getting your shit together. In fact, there's a bit of rejection from people like Rose Pedal who insist it's your fault they're miserable. Vicious circle that.. With relative happiness comes responsibility. With rejection there's a built in excuse for every woe that befalls you.
Sep 15, 2011
commented on Who You Wanna Take Sex & Relationship Advice From?
Reading the comments on the article I'd like to know when 'explicit' became a bad word. I'd much rather take advice from someone like Dan who actually gives a damn that what he's telling people is based on fact not fantasy and who shows compassion for people who need it. If I recall correctly, Ann Landers, called it 'comforting the afflicted and afflicting the comfortable'. Most religions have that backwards.
Sep 1, 2011
commented on SL Letter of the Day: A Friendly Amendment to CPOS Rule
@1 We can't ignore that celibate by circumstance is not the norm. And there is a norm, a majority if you will. Your average person will more than likely say that they don't know what they'd do if they were never intimately touched by another human being. A tiny portion of the population knows that you can survive, it's very, very hard, but not impossible. But I don't think it's out of line for Dan to acknowledge that's not the norm.