Mar 29 gonzo commented on Savage Love.
Andy-in-BC @ 8, >"and his lie worked out well for him, so? "<
Seems a bit early to draw that conclusion. True, he did get some rock'n sex out of the lie, and apparently they hit it off , but we don't know if DADT will end up seeing him again or how his lie may compromise what might have been. Personally I agree with your earlier statements. Just tell the fucking truth. Although I don't disagree with Dan's advice, if I were DADT, I'd proceed with extra wariness. Pretty big thing to lie about.
Nov 2, 2016 gonzo commented on Savage Love.
GasparFagel @13, I'll second that. Surely we're moving past that tired old cliche. "kick ass and take names", "shoot first and ask questions later", "were going to build a wall".....surely we've had enough macho bullshit bluster to last a lifetime.
Oct 19, 2016 gonzo commented on Savage Love.
The best deconstruction of the trump tape I have heard, especially the "locker room talk" aspect of it, is here:…

He gets to the heart of the matter at 7:40, if you aren't interested in the whole thing. I missed last weeks column, so apologies if this has already been brought up.
Oct 19, 2016 gonzo commented on Savage Love.
@ 35 *overreacting*
Oct 19, 2016 gonzo commented on Savage Love.
About whether the mom in the first letter was over reacting; nothing she says makes me think that, but really, we should take our cues from the nine year old daughter:

"I hated that man," my daughter says once we get in the car. "He smelled bad, I wanted to hit him, if anyone ever does that to me again I'm going to scream."

Her utter revulsion about what just happened paints a pretty clear picture.
Jun 22, 2016 gonzo commented on Savage Love.
@Doggone, Because you randomly know the origin of the name, this is your cross to bear, and I would contend, if it's the worst randomness that comes your way, you lead a charmed life. Talk about randomness, quite a contrast between the first and last letters.
May 19, 2016 gonzo commented on Savage Love.
Many people (some of whom are regular contributors to this thread) find themselves in long term, committed relationships in which the sex part no longer works or doesn't work so well. The reasons are legion, but one common one is getting married before having a good understanding of what makes you light up sexually. This seems to be the case for LIBIDOS. Right now the wife is getting some hot sex. The husband is not and things sexual in the relationship are unequal and unfair. That doesn't make her a bad person. Personally, I have the deepest sympathy for people in such circumstances. When she says she adores her husband, I take it at face value. When she says her relationship works well in other ways and she wants to maintain it, I take that at face value also. We can theorize endlessly about what the husband thinks or how he feels, but the fact is he didn't write in, and any conclusions on that front are speculation. LIBIDOS is troubled by the situation, so she writes for advice- some new perspective, some new ideas, some way to make things better. She's trying to figure it out. Good for her, I say.
May 18, 2016 gonzo commented on Savage Love.
BiDanFan @29, I Hate Screen Names @31 & SublimeAfterglow @37, Did we all read the same letter? From her letter, LIBIDOS states:

"Before I go on, let me say that I adore my husband in all ways except sex."
May 18, 2016 gonzo commented on Savage Love.
@1, I hate screen names & 12, BiDanFan: Raising kids together, sharing daily activities of life- cooking, eating, sharing art and music, making a household work- these don't qualify as having a relationship? What about love? It sounds like LIBIDOS genuinely loves her husband and wishes to keep her relationship with him. What about when one or both partners are no longer able to have sex? Does their relationship suddenly go POOF, regardless of any other connections or how strong they are? Don't the parties involved get to define what a relationship is?
Apr 27, 2016 gonzo commented on Savage Love.
venn @ 33, so agree with that; wish he would let people speak for themselves without alteration, and if the letter is too long, then so be it. It seems that sometimes the letter writer's issue is compromised in favor of Dan making some tangential point. Having said that, I thought it was all good advice and funny too (FRIEND).

Hunter @4, are you trying to deliberately provoke trolls? Not funny.

Lava@27, re dick is abundant....I didn't read her message as "denigrating male sexuality". My abridged version is: There are countless (especially young) entitled men wanting to hook up, as long as it doesn't involve them doing any of the adapting or compromising involved. Young men who recognize that girls just wanna have fun but not necessarily do all the work are a much rarer breed. l feel no compunction in rejecting the former (gleefully) while seeking the latter.