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9:27 PM yesterday Slartibartfast commented on SL Letter of the Day: Did You Think I Was Going To Tell You Not To Come Out? (PLUS: Help Free Kate!).

I'm 31. It just hit me now, reading the comments, that my high school boyfriend could have been slapped with the same "sex offender" label if we had been a bit more physical - we started dating the summer after my freshman year in high school, when he was going off to college. So the same age difference as between these two girls. And yes, we did get caught by the cops "parking" once or twice, although since I was still pretty much a prude back in those days, we were both clothed when the officer knocked on the window. If we hadn't been, that boyfriend - now a US army veteran, college graduate, engineer, father of two, and all-around excellent individual - might still be in jail for it.

May 16 Slartibartfast commented on SL Letter of the Day: Living Discomfortably.

Are you sure you're not female? Because this shit is a big part of the reason young women are hesitant to move in with opposite-sex roommates they don't know well - it's pretty classic user behavior, and all too often it ends up in rape. (Or "almost rape" or "maybe was rape but it was kinda my fault because I was too drunk/high to say no effectively" or "I just quit fighting him off after a while because I was sick of the pestering" - in other words, rape.)

Step one is to tell him to back the hell off, that his creeping on you is NOT cool and you're not okay with it. Step two is to move out ASAP. Step three is to warn other potential roommates in your social circle about what a dick this guy is being.

May 10 Slartibartfast commented on SL Letter of the Day: Walk The Talk.

@20 @22 I couldn't care less if you want to jack off to my comments (I am female, by the way) - but that's because I don't know you and I don't have an ongoing non-sexual relationship with you. In her letter, PHM says "It also makes me feel awkward when we hang out with his friends because I can't help thinking about how many times I've come while shouting out their names." Her boyfriend's cuckolding fetish - and the fact that they're using these guys over and over - is causing her non-sexual relationship with these guy friends to become something awkward and sexual. That's not cool, and it's especially not cool because they'd probably be creeped out knowing their friends (both halves of the couple) are fantasizing about them in bed.

Daydream about fucking your friends all you want to - but when it starts affecting your ability to treat them as a friend, you're going too far.

May 9 Slartibartfast commented on SL Letter of the Day: Walk The Talk.

You know what's not cool? The two of you involving his friends in your sex life - to the point it's affecting your relationship with them - WITHOUT THEIR CONSENT. It would be one thing if he were asking you to pretend to be fucking anonymous, non-named generic other guys, but you're invoking very specific people in your bedroom and it's bleeding over into your friendships. THAT'S GOT TO STOP.

Either it stops by you changing around the script for this fantasy, or by getting your boyfriend to have a man-to-man with his friends and letting them know he gets off on the idea of you fucking other guys, specifically them. They ought to have the right to tell him "Ew, dude, I'm not down with that!" or "Whatever floats your boat!" or "Want me there for real?"

May 8 Slartibartfast commented on Savage Love.

@35 I'm shocked nobody else cottoned onto that, too! TSTQ, if you move out, YOU will end up being on the hook and having your credit trashed when your husband doesn't pay rent. Depending on where you live, you can also be found "at fault" in a divorce for "spousal abandonment" (really) for moving out and not cleaning/cooking/sleeping with him anymore, even if he's a complete deadbeat. That can really affect how much of your shared finances and debt you end up with if you get the wrong judge.

Instead, make sure when you move out that you get yourself financially disentangled from him. Get your name off the lease, make sure you don't have any joint credit cards or bank accounts, etc. Even if you're not ready for divorce yet, separating your finances is a prudent move - you can always re-mingle them if things get better, but you can't get the money back if he goes on a wild spending spree with YOUR credit.

Apr 25 Slartibartfast commented on SL Letter of the Day: Wrong To Completion.

@13 I'll complain about all the women who don't give good blowjobs if/when all the men who can't or won't eat pussy well (or at all) will man up and actually learn how.

Feb 5 Slartibartfast commented on Another Attempt At a Grindr For Straights.

I'm pretty sure I've seen this scheme before.

OMG OPEN THIS EMAIL ONE OF YOUR FRIENDS THINKS YOU'RE HOT!

Just go to our site and tell us the name and email address of anyone you think it might have been, and we'll tell you if you were right!

So you go and put in the four or five people you think it might have been. Of course, ten minutes later, they all get "OMG OPEN THIS EMAIL" messages in their mailboxes, claiming that one of their friends (you) think they're hot, and the cycle begins again. Even if you do happen to guess the person who submitted your name, you have no way of knowing whether they were really interested or whether it was just a guess borne out of curiosity.

Jan 18 Slartibartfast commented on Boeing Agrees to Provide Equal Pension Benefits to Married Gay Couples.

Does anyone know if this applies outside Washington? I live in Huntsville, Alabama, and Boeing is one of our major employers here (along with NASA and other aerospace companies). We're not going to be legalizing gay anything anytime soon short of the National Guard forcing it at gunpoint, but it would be nice for Boeing to buck the trend.

Jan 7 Slartibartfast commented on You're a Sex Addict, I'm a Sex Addict, We're All Sex Addicts.

Awesome! I took the SAST and it said that I - a healthy, monogamous married woman whose only sexual partner has been my husband - am a sex addict! Granted, some of the questions were asked poorly: "Have you had sexual contact with a minor?" Yes, technically, although I was in high school at the time . . . and it assumes you count getting my boobs groped as "sexual contact" . . .

Jan 7 Slartibartfast commented on SL Letter of the Day: A Married Bi Man Makes His Move.

Another point to make: explain to her how your interest in guys is purely about the physical. If you're going to be fucking around on her, you're *just fucking* - not creating lasting emotional commitments, not trading protestations of love, not falling for someone else. This might make it easier for her to take.