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Jul 4, 2013 Neptune commented on SL Letter of the Day: Ewww, Gross!.
Will there EVER be a Savage Love dating site?!

Feb 4, 2013 Neptune commented on SL Letter of the Day: Independent But In Love.
I remember this letter. It was one that really opened my eyes. It honestly changed the way I think about future relationships. Separate apartments would probably not be my ideal setup, but after reading this and thinking about it, I realized how much I love the idea of separate bedrooms. I strongly dislike sharing a bed. I like to sleep diagonal! Since no one is reading this far, I will also mention that my ex acted all shocked and pouty when I suggested that we could bring both of our beds if we moved in together. (So glad we didn't!)
Jan 16, 2013 Neptune commented on SL Letter of the Day: Lifted Program.
I can't believe Dan didn't think of suggesting a swimming pool! If they were both in water up to their chests with their feet touching the bottom, I think a piggy back ride would be fairly simple to pull off. Unless the context would ruin the act in someway, I think that's a perfect idea. A friend of mine who weighs about 100 pounds can hold/carry her enormous german shepard in the pool, no problem.
Aug 29, 2012 Neptune commented on Savage Love.
The one detail of the second letter that makes me scratch my head is the "in the morning" bit. I have a hard time imagining that they just went back to sleep after an incident like that without discussing it right away. I would've been up on my feet like, "Whoa, what the fuck, I thought you initiated?!"

And if I were him, I'd feel violated, too. I don't think he's being selfish at all. The thought of waking up to someone already fucking me makes me extremely uncomfortable. I can't even imagine how I would feel with that image stuck in my head. There is no way I would just "get over it" after the other person was like "sorry." And my advice to them would be to take "nocturnal sex" off the table. No sex after one or both of them has already fallen asleep at night. If the other wakes up horny, they can wait until morning. With that rule in place, any attempts to initiate will be easy to identify as unconscious/unintentional.

Also? I think "flick his penis" should win an award for being the weirdest piece of fucking advice to ever appear in SL. Sounds like it came from one of those shitty magazines. "Flick your penis at her, right after dipping it in Nutella."
Aug 10, 2012 Neptune commented on Some Restaurant in Seattle Needs to Start Offering These, Like, Now.
@40 And I guess you overlooked all fifty thousand posts about how much he loves cake?
Aug 10, 2012 Neptune commented on Some Restaurant in Seattle Needs to Start Offering These, Like, Now.
I definitely need to try that someday!

Reminds me of how much I wished we had flapjacks in the US after studying abroad in England. I got one from the cafe at Dover Castle while touring, and it was easily one of the most delicious "bar" treats I've ever tasted. I never found another one that was as good. I wish I had taken a picture!
Jul 19, 2012 Neptune commented on SL Letter of the Day: Now Hold It.
Thanks to everyone who answered me!

@29 Yes, gyno tested for STDs too, to rule them out. All negative. I should've mentioned that in my original comment.

@30 That's a really intereseting idea. Cool that it helped you solve your problem! I wonder if at-home UTI tests are available anywhere?

@43 I have tried to notice patterns or triggers for the burning, but it seems fairly unpredictable. It is more likely to happen when I'm dehydrated, though. I do remember one time when I was a kid, drinking orange juice made my pee burn, so maybe we're just sensitive-urethra-havers?
Jul 18, 2012 Neptune commented on SL Letter of the Day: Now Hold It.
I don't have anything to add to the letter/answer (except that I couldn't run away from that guy fast enough), but since lots of people in this thread seem pretty knowledgeable about urinary issues, I have a question for anyone reading this.

I have an issue that I have never been able to fully resolve, which is that my urethra starts burning randomly. It hasn't been as bad/often since I started taking the pill - so I'm not sure if that means it's hormonal or it was just a coincidence. But like I'll pee, it will suddenly start burning, and then continue burning for hours. When this first started happening, I was repeatedly tested for UTIs and always came back negative. My gyno even tried testing me for fungal infections and some other stuff, and all that came back negative too. So it was kind of like, "Well, shit, sorry, you must just have sensitive skin or acidic urine or both." Some people tell me "just drink tons of water" but that's not realistic for me because I already pee twice as much as a normal person, so drinking large amounts of liquid results in me about to explode every 10 minutes. (That's kind of a whole other problem...basically my bladder sucks.)

Anyway, that was long, but if anyone else has ever experienced something similar and found a solution, I'd love to hear it! I pretty much gave up on it after it stumped my doctor. (I think I might try that D-mannose 14 mentioned!)
Jul 13, 2012 Neptune commented on What Kind of Woman Would Agree to Sleep With Taylor Kitsch and Aaron Johnson at the Same Time?.
I'm an awake woman and I approve this message.
Jul 6, 2012 Neptune commented on Savage Love Episode 297.
The guy who thinks he can ignore his true sexuality forever might also want to read "She's Not There" about Jennifer Finney Boylan's life-long struggle with her trans identity. For those who haven't read it, she spent so many years shaming herself into thinking she was insane/stupid for wanting to be a woman that it wasn't until she was in her 40s and married with two children that she finally went through with the transition. It's an excellent read!

Also, Dan, I think you are too harsh on Cosmo. Yes, they give LOTS of hilariously batshit sex advice. But would someone reading it be doomed? Nah. Something I read in Cosmo at age 16 turned out to be really fucking good advice when I finally got to try it at age 20! Plus, one positive thing about that ridiculous stone anecdote you love is that it - hello - is encouraging straight women to think of their boyfriends' butts as part of sex! One thing I really have to give Cosmo props for is their consistency with incorporating "your man's backdoor" into their sex possibilities. If it weren't for the rocks and food...