Sea Otter
Vancouver, BC
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Sea Otter is too cool to live, too smart to die.
Mar 12, 2016 Sea Otter commented on Helen Fisher on Open Marriages: "They never end up working long-term.".
My therapist says that in her experience it's very common for one person in an open marriage to hide their unhappiness with the situation. But then it's not like people don't hide their unhappiness with monogamous arrangements too.

Also, STFU and MYOB Dr. F, you don't know Mo'Nique's life.
Mar 12, 2016 Sea Otter commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: My Coworker Is Vetting Sugar Daddies!.
@1 Actually, assuming this letter is real*, the letter writer is losing. It's annoying and demoralizing to have a coworker who slacks off at work, especially if it directly affects your ability to do your job, but even if it doesn't.

*It's probably not; see @5
Mar 9, 2016 Sea Otter commented on Savage Love.
@25 Thanks for sharing. You learn something new every day.
Mar 9, 2016 Sea Otter commented on Savage Love.
@14 Yeah, my first thought was "ever heard of a safeword?" Seems obvious. I wonder if Dan was sort of assuming in his answer that the LW already knew about that.

THINK, it might pay to do your research. I'm no expert on BDSM/role playing involving "forced" sex (I think EricaP is SLOG's resident expert on that, or one of them) but I have read this book, and it seems like a useful and practical guide.
Mar 9, 2016 Sea Otter commented on The War On Cars: Pedestrian Deaths Skyrocketing.
Every time I have a near-being-run-over incident as a pedestrian, the driver is talking on or looking at their phone. Every time.
Mar 9, 2016 Sea Otter commented on Savage Love.
Great response to FAIL. Jesus what a douchestar.

Two additional thoughts:

1) I thought ATM was more a thing in porn than in real life. Someone correct me if I'm wrong. I mean, there are pretty obvious practical reasons not to do it. I would never consent to doing it, and I don't have any related sexual trauma in my past.

2) If I ever accidentally swallow poison and there's no ipecac syrup around, I'll just get someone to talk to me about how they think so-and-so might be "The One," but they're not sure. Why do people think committing to someone is some kind of magical Indiana Jones shit where they either pick the True Grail, or get turned into a shattered pile of dried bones?
Mar 3, 2016 Sea Otter commented on New Ghostbusters Trailer Poll.
"Erin, no one's better at quantum physics than you...." Maybe I'm a curmudgeon, but I take this as a sign that the writing in this movie might leave something to be desired.
Mar 2, 2016 Sea Otter commented on I, Anonymous.
The times they are a-changin'.

Good for this dad, although I hope he also taught his son the finer points of what's acceptable with service workers (harmless flirting = generally ok; bold advances = tread very carefully and remember that this person is at work and is obligated to be nice to you).

Also, where are all the usual suspects in the I,A comment thread? I feel lonely here. Someone come and post a trolling comment or something.

Feb 24, 2016 Sea Otter commented on Savage Love.
@45 I see what you did there.
Feb 24, 2016 Sea Otter commented on Savage Love.
P.S. Stop trying to make clitzpah happen. It's not going to happen.