commented on Savage Love: Fisting Fibromyalgia?
Obviously this particular letter writer doesn't have a case, but are their other instances of people winning personal-injury suits for damage incurred during consensual sex acts? Like, if you consented to be fisted, and your partner did something wrong and accidentally damaged you in some way, could you potentially win a case against them?
commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Daily Caller
Document, document, document, and DO NOT ENGAGE. If you say anything at all after he sends you 1,000 texts, it just teaches him that sending 1,000 texts is what it takes to get your attention.
If the phone calls become unbearable, get a second number. Give your contacts the new number at let all calls to the old number go to voice mail. Have a friend periodically check the old voice mail for you and pass on any legitimate messages from other people. Save the nutter's voice mail in case you need it as evidence.
Let the cops know what's going on, but don't go for the restraining order yet unless you're sure it will do some good. As de Becker illustrates in "The Gift of Fear," (which is where my information is coming from) restraining orders often just make crazy exes even crazier, and don't actually deter them from doing physical harm.
commented on Are Colleges Shunning the Classics?
Yeah, kids get enough of the classics in high school, and can get plenty more by taking literature classes. I bet hardly any high school curricula include even one book written after 1990. Common reading selections give incoming college students something to discuss together as well as a taste of the greatly-expanded pool of works they will be drawing on at university.
When I was an incoming first-year in 2002, we read "The Battle for God" by Karen Armstrong. It was timely, challenging, and much more educational at that moment than a rehash of Melville would have been.
commented on To Tip Your Server or Not to Tip Your Server: That Is Not the Question
I live in a country with no tipping, and staff here freak out when you try to give them one. On the whole it's really really nice. But once in a while I miss tipping, like when my party is being a pain or the staff have gone out of their way to accommodate my vegetarianism, which is also a foreign concept here. Then I wish I could give a little extra without it being weird.
commented on SLLOTD: Accidental Sex
Ugh, I think this advice is awful. If there's a sex act this young man is uncomfortable with, his girlfriend should respect that and persistant comments about how much she wants him to fuck her are out of line. He'll get over his hangup in time - subtle encouragement would be more helpful than badgering. If the genders were flipped and it was the girl who was hesitant to engage in penetrative sex and was upset about an accident, we'd all be shouting DTMFA if the boy wrote texts like the ones suggested by Mr. Savage.
Meanwhile, "P.S. "Accidental" sex can lead to STDs and unwanted pregnancies, too. Get tested for both." Are you serious? Two near-virgins and a single moment of penetration are very, very, unlikely to get pregnant or infected. Panicking and getting tested would probably just add to the boy's hangups.
commented on Street Harassment
@172 I don't "know" you, but judging from that comment, you are a terrible person.