commented on SL Letter of the Day: Worst. Sex. Ever.
@31 - yes, you're right about dining out on bad date/lay stories. I had a very bad date in college (make-out session, not full-on sex, thankfully) but I told the hilarious tale for years. I had to stop because the guy in the tale is a tiny bit, slightly famous now and I'd rather not get the story on the Internet FOREVER. The guy was a clueless 19-yr-old, so he had an excuse. I'm hoping he got the help he needed from some other patient women along the way.
commented on Northgate Mall Wet Seal Employees Slam Company with Sign in Store Window
Good for them. My experience in retail is that the top executives and main office staff are not in touch with the reality of customers shopping in their stores. They listen to idiot consultants about what they should be doing to save more money, like ending full-time employees, making everyone part-time (few benefits, no insurance). Oh, wait, all those full-timers were the lifeblood of the stores, the individuals who knew the business and were enthusiastic about helping customers. These employees were the reason the public shopped the stores in the first place. Once these knowledgeable employees left (because they needed a full-time paycheck), customers quit coming in.
Companies that succeed can do so by actually asking questions and listening to the retail employees at their store level. I mean really listen and take into account what their workers are saying. AND STOP listening to consultants who just make shit up to justify their fees. Whenever something stupid comes down from corporate, we all know it is some idiot consultant who sold a clueless executive some miracle idea. Huh. Said executive probably never worked at the store level and has no clue what in the trenches retail needs.
Companies should do something equivalent to the "Secret Shop" (process of paying someone to shop at random places, random times and record their experiences to rate retail stores; this use to be the terror of all retail employees, but the Great Recession ended this practice in a lot of retail chains) and have "Secret Information Gathering." Hire a handful of employees as new hirees/transfer employees to different stores and write reports of what they learn from current employees.
Oct 15, 2014
commented on SL Letter of the Day: My New Girlfriend's Sister Is Dying
@30 - I agree with you. Add to that what @20 said about being linked to the death. My opinion is the LW should not go. I am sure her girlfriend knows she cannot easily afford it financially. But even if money was not an issue for the LW, I don't think their relationship is at the stage that it could handle the stress of the situation. No matter if she truly felt and could act the way Dan suggested, I think she could be an emotional burden on her girlfriend by being JUST ONE MORE THING she'd have to deal with during a stressful time.
Aug 27, 2014
commented on Savage Love
"Santorum" alternate definition - unqualified idiot who runs for president; usage: "Rick Perry is such a santorum" and "I think Mitt Romney is looking to take up the mantle of santorum again."
Aug 19, 2014
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Judgement Daze
To the Letter Writer: people can be shits. People who are shits are usually jealous shits. Sure, technically they are judging you. You should look at it this way, though, they survey your easy, fulfilling life and it KILLS THEM. How dare you do what you want? How dare your life show theirs up for the train wreck it is?
As an unmarried woman in my 30s, the shit I endured wasn't exactly like yours, but constant judgement is hard, I know. However, I wasn't strong enough to withstand it and when I fell in love, I, ugh, got married. I love him, yeah, and there are some perks to being married, but if I could time travel back to my younger self, I would tell her what I am saying to you. You are unburdened and fulfilled, you don't need to be like everyone else just to make them SHUT THE FUCK UP. Be strong and do your own thing.
Take the advice of some of the above commentators and hey, be creative. Tell a different story to everyone who dares comment to your face. Not in relationship because: 1) military accident (meaningful gaze) 2) love of my life killed by speeding train 3) family trust fund forbids marriage/LTR 4) secret ambition to join a religious order 5) thinking about a sex change 6) already fathered six kids for infertile friends. Have fun with it. Keep 'em confused. Imagine the fun.