Mar 21, 2012
commented on SL Letters of the Day: Coming Out Kinky & BDSM as a Sexual Orientation
Nice letter choice today. Like BDSM (second letter, I was an "early kinkster"; I invented Bondage when I was in the second-grade, and had a crush on a classmate. That never went anywhere, sad to say. And for me, when I found out others had "discovered" BDSM later in my youth, I was devastated. (I'd thought I could patent it and make a fortune. Here I was, sitting on an idea that could make millions...)
But I kept on keeping on, with a lot of vanilla relationships, a few kinky ones (I self identify in my 50s as bi and kind of weird) and was outed to my family when an unexpected trip to the hospital led them to my bedroom to gather my meds. They saw my porn. I don't mean they saw the porn I'd collected over the years, they saw the porn I'd performed in, lo these many years ago. So, I'm seriously "outed" to family and I've been out to friends for decades.
It's not so bad being an "out" kinkster. And, just as it's good that people know GLBT people in their lives, non-vanilla folks being out isn't really a bad thing.
Feb 23, 2012
commented on SL Letter of the Day: How Many Is Too Many?
I just kicked over one of the best relationships of my life because "too many emotions make my head explode." An unsolicited word from one in the "two many to count" corner?
I was a serious bisexual party boy back in the day, as well as an occasional sex-worker. One of the most commonly used options, that I don't approve of personally, is when the "How many?" question comes up, don't answer it in some way or lie. If you lie, then gradually include more bits of the truth until you hit a wall or someone dumps you. But you have a relationship where he's willing to be honest with you, and deal with how you feel NOW. I kinda think this dude likes you enough. The question is, do you like him enough?
Dec 20, 2011
commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Gay Panic Offense
Umm...Dan, you got this one wrong. As a 50+ years old bi-guy, I have been in MMFs, FFMs, and other combinations over the years. (I've been out as bi since college.) Younger AS A GROUP tend to be less homophobic, depending on how the poll question is phrased, but age should not be a determining factor among consenting adults any more than income.
Or, in some cases, sexual orientation. My girlfriend is a MTF transgender Lesbian who still will, once in a while, exclaim, "I have a BOYFRIEND!" since it's still a pretty new idea to her. But we worked it out, I'm like a Kinsey 1-2,she's about a Kinsey 4-5, so we mostly just walk around town oogling girls.
Dec 20, 2011
commented on Will Obama Endorse Marriage Equality In 2012?
Yep! I wholeheartedly agree.
But I think our best chance of seeing a pro-marriage-equality president in the White House is to re-elect the president we've got now and then start raising holy hell on January 21, 2013.
Nov 8, 2011
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Hot Asian Topping
As a Chinese-American sadistic dominant male bisexual, may I say that there is some stereotyping going on here. Submissive women have no problem accepting that I am a top; I say it, they believe it, we go from there. Submissive (white) males require more negotiation, there are more trust issues, including the implied "are you sure you know what you're doing?", etc.