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Aug 30 Action Kate commented on Savage Love Letters of the Day: Dammed If You Don't.
@7: my take was that "swing the other way" is a very old-fashioned way of describing same-sex relationships, like a lorgnette is an old-fashioned type of glasses.
Aug 23 Action Kate commented on Savage Love.
Three solid answers from Designer Dan. I think regular Dan might have worded Answer 3 a little more tactfully, but basically said the same thing.

What I want to know is how regular Dan found his other Dan Savages. LinkedIn trawl? Craigslist?
Aug 16 Action Kate commented on Savage Love.
what the hell is up with health care providers refusing to give people the HPV vaccine? It's ONE HUNDRED PERCENT EFFECTIVE. AGAINST CANCER. FFS. do these doctors want people to get cancer? I don't get it.

TOP, keep asking around — Planned Parenthood is an excellent suggestion — until you find a doctor with a brain who will give you the vaccine. And enjoy yourself.
Jul 27 Action Kate commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: My Loving Wife, The Dicktease.
Dan, can I be a pedant? It's "no holds barred," not "no holes barred." I believe it comes from wrestling — there are no kinds of holds which are barred from being used. (I realize "no holes barred" is a good pun for a sex advice column, however. :) )
Jul 13 Action Kate commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Crazy Soon-To-Be-Ex-Girlfriend.
Tinahp @9, that took a lot of courage to share. good on you, and I'm glad you got the help you needed.
Jul 12 Action Kate commented on Savage Love.
@4 I think you're conflating the wife who cheated for 20 years with the hypothetical one-night fling.

Dan is suggesting that if the committed musician's wife had one one-night stand in 20 years, talking it out and forgiving it equals being committed to a fallible, lovable human being. If a single lapse in 20 years of fidelity immediately equals walking out, do not pass Go, do not collect $200, Dan is describing that attitude as "being committed to an ideal."
May 23 Action Kate commented on Your Donald Trump Reader.
So look, what do we, as a populace, as individuals, actually do about this? I vote in primaries; I vote in generals. I throw a few bucks to my blue candidates. But is there something concrete I can undertake to move the election Dem? I'm in a solidly blue state, so it's not like I have to convince my undecided neighbors. Complain to editorial boards, to stop drumming up panic with editorials?

There's just all this hysteria, but without an actual call to action. Give me something productive to do and I'll do it.
May 9 Action Kate commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Missing Person Report.
We did this, years ago. Me, hubs, and my best friend were hanging out in the back yard playing Monopoly when we heard intermittent yelling and shrieking from a neighbor two or three doors down. We couldn't tell if it was good or bad shrieking. My best friend pointed out, "If she's being 'tickled,' she needs to know her voice is carrying. If she's not being tickled, she needs help."

I'm pretty sure we banged on the door and got no response. We called the cops. They showed up, banged on the door, and went upstairs. She was being tickled. Cops were amused and thanked us for our concern.

I have zero regrets. If she wasn't being tickled, she needed help. I would do it again. Dan's advice is sound. Find out what's going on with Marge, or her slave.
May 3 Action Kate commented on Savage Love.
>>a thumbtack glued to the base of the [butt] plug will inspire your boyfriend to be more focused and precise.


I don't even have one of those and my bits tried to retract in sympathetic horror, Dan. holy crap.

(I get why you said that... if the guy is accidentally-on-purpose trying to jam it in her ass with zero prep, it's quite painful, and that would be an effective deterrent, but... mercy!)