Sep 13 Ophian commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Bitter Pill.
venomlash @1, I know, right? Some people just don't get that it's an Italian thing.
Jun 22 Ophian commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Target Engaged.
But if he wants to keep you, he'll have to propose to you. (Under duress, CAC, so don't expect a flashmob.) If he doesn't want to propose to you, he loses you.


Dan Savage @45, I know you've advocated that women can be the proposer. That is why I cannot fathom why you gave the advice you did. She can propose an engagement. He can accept or decline. She can then decide if that is a deal-breaker.

But to advise that she insist on a situation wherein he proposes "under duress" is ludicrous and sexist. Unless you meant that he should propose, she should accept, and he should secretly void the engagement in his head to placate her...which is just bad advice.
Jun 22 Ophian commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Target Engaged.
+1 chi_type @13. You're feelin' it.
Jun 22 Ophian commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Target Engaged.
I haven't read the comments yet, but I call Bullshit on this sexist bullshit. The advice is that she sit down with her BF and require that he propose to her. What?

I thought an engagement proposal was when someone asked someone else if they wanted to get married [some time in the future]. In this case, she wants to see if he is willing to entertain the idea of getting married.

She should propose to him. He should accept or decline as is his prerogative, and Dan Savage should apologize for being a sexist, heteronormative troglodite.
May 26 Ophian commented on Donald Trump Clinches GOP Nomination, Sanders and Trump May or May Not Debate.
Could have been a make or break moment for Sanders. I guess all we get to do now is endure another 5 months of this useless crap, and hope that we get the first female US president.
May 20 Ophian commented on Second Ghostbusters Reboot Trailer a Charm?.
she @12, I thought we were supposed to have made a little progress in the intervening three decades.
May 16 Ophian commented on Travis Weber's Youth Pastor Watch.
Frankly I think we should all go out and find these anti-trans bigots, shake their hands, and thank them for all of the help they have been giving us to forward trans rights!

Sandiai @4, A former housemate of mine here in Texas--a post-GRS transwoman, who doesn't pass so much--had her legal gender changed. Her ID says female, so she would be able to legally use the women's room...but would still be subject to harassment all the same.
May 9 Ophian commented on Attorney General Loretta Lynch's Full Remarks On North Carolina's Anti-Trans Bathroom Bill HB2.
Yup. This is what I have been saying. These disgusting laws are the direct result of progress being made: the bigots see change and lose their shit. They are also the next step towards equality.

They are terrible legislation. Not just because they are discriminatory and harmful, but because they are unfeasible. If one actually tries to enforce theses laws, trans people who pass will not be questioned, and cis people who are of non-normative gender appearance will be harassed [along with trans people, of course].

Because the haters have bungled into making this a legal issue, now we can fight this in the courts and legislatures. In fact, because the law is soooo ill conceived it has to be addressed by the courts and legislatures.

It's a shame that we have to do this dance [instead of having a system that actually protects the rights of minorities from the get-go], but this is still winning.
Apr 30 Ophian commented on Lesbian Without ID Shoved Out of Women's Restroom by Male Cop.
The NC law is so horrible and untenable that it will--eventually--force non-discriminatory legislation. Until then we will see more shit like this.

If I had been in that situation, I hope that I would have had the guts to look the officer in the eye, drop trou, and tell him to fuck the fuck off.