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Saddlebacked!
January 29, 2009
Please settle a difference of opinion that stumped our small group at the coffee shop: Why do guys wear socks on their feet in porn? I say it's a tradition. My friends claim it is a foot-fetish thing. My credibility rides on this.
Socked In Denver
Socks in porn a tradition? Sorry, SID, but no. Socks on feet in porn—as opposed to socks on cocks?—are like zits on butts in porn or track marks on arms in porn. They're incidental, not traditional. And unless someone licks socked feet or the socks are removed and used as gags, they're not a "foot-fetish thing." So neither you nor your friends have any credibility on porn attire, SID.
I was recently on an airplane seated next to a man talking on his cell phone. The man stated that he was "excited to use [his] new strap-on tonight!" It made me wonder why and how a guy would use a strap-on. Wouldn't he just use his own penis? When I glanced over, he told his caller he had to go as he was getting the "stink-eye." I wasn't disgusted, just curious because he acted like this was a normal toy for guys, not to mention an appropriate conversation to have on an airplane. My gay friends were stumped. Can you could solve this mystery?
Stink-Eye In 12E
The most obvious answer: The strap-on was a late Christmas gift presented to him to be used on him, not by him. A slightly less- obvious answer: Some small-dicked men—ones who are not at all insecure—use strap-ons on partners who miss that "filled-up" feeling. The least obvious answer: The man on the airplane was a female-to-male transsexual who, like a lot of forward-thinking FTMs, declined to get an expensive phalloplasty during his transition and the pretty-much-nonfunctional penis a phalloplasty "endows" an FTM with. Instead, he invested in a high-quality, looks-like-a-prick, feels-like-a-sneaker strap-on.
If your gay friends couldn't come up with any of these answers, SEI12E, you need smarter, more insightful, more credible gay friends.
Longtime reader, first-time writer. In last week's column, there was a letter from JON, a just-out gay kid who is not ready for anal sex. Please excuse a question from a naive but well-meaning/curious straight guy... but what other kinds of gay sex are there? Just hands-on and oral, kind of like what us hetero folks do? Or are there other things that would blow my mind?
Dumb-Ass White Guy
You mean heteros haven't heard of ear-holin' and nose-bangin' and piss-slittin' and ann- coulterin'? You gotta get out more, DAWG.
Actually, there are no mysterious gay sex acts, nothing that we can do that you can't do better. And there are things we can't do at all. We can call it "boypussy" and "mangina" all we want, but two gay men aren't going to do vaginal intercourse as well as a hetero couple, and lesbians who want to snowball have to resort to cream-cheese frosting cut with a little skim milk. The only pronounced difference between gay and straight sex—besides the hotness—is that most gay folks regard "hands-on" and oral as "real sex," not as disappointing consolation prizes we're handed when "real" sex, i.e., fucking, isn't in the offing.
Straight people—particularly straight men—would do well to emulate queers in this regard. The more things you consider "real" sex, the more sex you'll be having.
Dan, your advice to LIMP—the man who was reluctant to use a vibrator on/with his wife—was right on! I'm a 34-year-old woman who needs a vibrator to get off, and for years I felt "defective." My husband didn't exactly help, but he eventually asked me to show him how I did it. He wanted to try. Bingo—the look on my face was all he needed; he was a convert.
One of his issues with the vibrator, though, was the phallic shape; he felt like it was replacing him. Many men don't like vibrators for that reason. It's bigger, harder, and lasts longer—that can intimidate a guy. But you can buy tiny vibrators that are just a couple of inches long, egg-shaped ones, and butterfly-shaped ones. LIMP should visit his local adult-toy shop with his wife and pick out a silly one that doesn't compete.
Bottom line: She has been brave enough to share her needs with you. Would you prefer it if she faked it for your entire marriage and quietly took care of herself in private?
Nothing Beats A Good Buzz
Thanks for sharing, NBAGB.
SADDLEBACKING DEFINED: The votes are in, the people have spoken, the democratic idea is renewed. But first: Anyone who picks up the January 24 issue of the Economist—I pick it up every week for the "Page 3 Boy"—will find this lead paragraph to a story about Barack Obama's inauguration:
Any decision Barack Obama makes can cause a stir. He invited Rick Warren, a popular pastor, to say a few words at his inauguration. The aim was to stroke conservative Christians, thereby fostering a warm feeling of national unity. But some of Mr. Obama's gay supporters were appalled. Though hardly a fire-breather by the standards of Southern Baptists, Mr. Warren holds old-fashioned views about homosexuality. Bloggers lamented Mr. Obama's "betrayal." Dan Savage, a gay columnist, urged his readers to protest by coining a new meaning for "Saddleback"—the name of Mr. Warren's church. Many of the suggestions were unprintable.
Many of them were unprintable? Not true, Economites. I printed all of them right here in this space. So it's not that the suggestions themselves were unprintable, it's that you poofs just don't have the balls to print them. That's very different.
And now... without further delay... the winning definition of "saddleback"... by a gaping margin... definition number 5: "Saddlebacking: the phenomenon of Christian teens engaging in unprotected anal sex in order to preserve their virginities." After attending the Purity Ball, Heather and Bill saddlebacked all night because she's saving herself for marriage.
Here's why this definition is perfect: Saddlebacking, like barebacking, involves one person riding up on another's backside. But in this case, it's not the bare-naked cock-in-ass that's the most important feature of the ride, but the fact that the person being ridden has been saddled—thanks to the efforts of the Rick Warrens of this world—with religious hang-ups and serious misconceptions about sex. Like the barebacker who casually tosses away his health—or his partner's health—because he believes, quite erroneously, that "risky = sexy," the saddlebacker offers up her ass because she believes, quite erroneously, that she can get fucked in the ass—vigorously, religiously—and still be considered a virgin on her wedding night.
I've set up a
website—www.saddlebacking.com—to popularize the new
definition. (Get to work, Google bombers!) Now let's get this term into
common usage as quickly as possible. 
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Just a niggly little question: does anal sex with protection count as saddlebacking? (could happen.) Or is it just the unprotected kind?
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My GF is very adamant that *I* use the vibrator on her. She talks about how hot it is and how different it is when I'm in control instead of her. In short, she makes it very obvious that it's ME who's making her cum. Not her. Not the toy. And that makes sense; I mean guys know that a handjob from their partner is a totally different experience than doing it yourself. Sometimes it's how you frame the request that makes all the difference.
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The most important thing about this whole idea of a vibrator or a dildo being "competition" for someone with an actual flesh penis is... vibrators are not people!
As much fun as they may be, they aren't going to comfort you when you have a shitty day at work, they aren't going to surprise you with a trip to your favorite restaurant, they aren't going to tell that you are sexy when you wake up in flannel pajamas with a bird's nest in your hair.
Beyond that, the sexual experience itself isn't the same. You can't scratch a vibrator's back or bite its neck or grab on to its hair. If you call it a dirty slut in the heat of passion, it won't respond. A vibrator can't give you a good open-hand slap on the ass.
I've never had the desire to cuddle with my vibrator after sex. Conversely, I've never had the desire to shove my partner in a drawer after sex. There really is no comparison.
As much fun as they may be, they aren't going to comfort you when you have a shitty day at work, they aren't going to surprise you with a trip to your favorite restaurant, they aren't going to tell that you are sexy when you wake up in flannel pajamas with a bird's nest in your hair.
Beyond that, the sexual experience itself isn't the same. You can't scratch a vibrator's back or bite its neck or grab on to its hair. If you call it a dirty slut in the heat of passion, it won't respond. A vibrator can't give you a good open-hand slap on the ass.
I've never had the desire to cuddle with my vibrator after sex. Conversely, I've never had the desire to shove my partner in a drawer after sex. There really is no comparison.
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saddlebacking.com could possibly be the absolute best web site i've ever seen! so clean and simple... straight to the point! thanks dan!
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I must playfully disagree with Mizz Blau. Vibrators or their cousins, dildos, can provide great comfort after a shitty day at work! While they can't take you out on the town, they don't care what you look like, what you're wearing or whether or not you've put on a few pounds. They require much less maintenance than a man (their hobby is certainly less expensive...compare the price of batteries to a mid-life crisis sports car!) and they don't care what you call them. Finally, I have had a partner or two (or more) that I would have been pleased to have stuffed in a drawer when I was done with them!
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damn, I posted the link to saddlebacking.com on SLOG hours ago... no appreciation here? Ah, whatever, I'm just glad it's out! You rock Dan!
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You don't explain why so many porn movies inexplicably do have the stars wearing shoes and socks. I thought it must be an OSHA requirment for employee health and safety. You must have porn stars and producers reading this. Who knows?
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Nothing (other than my boy friend's touch with a vibrator)gives me MORE pleasure than imagining Rick Warren's stunned face when he reads the definition on Saddlebacking.com. It even references his church. LOVE IT. love dan.
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This is long overdue for a name! Thank you, Dan I have experienced this act first hand years ago.
My first girlfriend was a Southern Baptist who wouldn't have vaginal sex but gave great blow jobs and liked to saddleback.
While she eventually lost religion and gave up her objection to traditional penis-vaginal sex. But for a year I had a helluva fun time saddlebacking!
My first girlfriend was a Southern Baptist who wouldn't have vaginal sex but gave great blow jobs and liked to saddleback.
While she eventually lost religion and gave up her objection to traditional penis-vaginal sex. But for a year I had a helluva fun time saddlebacking!
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I am so happy that this phenomenon finally has a name (as I talk about it almost ad nauseam with friends)!!! Yay!
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not a marketing link, one to urbandictionary, search for 'saddlebacking' there and positively review the definition we have set forth. Then be evangelical convincing others to be live (and use) the definition.
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I love it, and it's the definition I voted for, but I have one nit I want to pick:
The PHENOMENON of Christian teens having anal sex to preserve their virginity is a noun.
The ACT of having anal sex to preserve one's virginity, presumably out of adherence to Christian morals or pledges, is the verb.
The definition you have up on saddleback.com needs to be expanded. (I also love that you have a website with just the definition... it's a thing of beauty that I've already linked on my facebook.)
The PHENOMENON of Christian teens having anal sex to preserve their virginity is a noun.
The ACT of having anal sex to preserve one's virginity, presumably out of adherence to Christian morals or pledges, is the verb.
The definition you have up on saddleback.com needs to be expanded. (I also love that you have a website with just the definition... it's a thing of beauty that I've already linked on my facebook.)
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Hi Dan,
I sent this letter to Betty Bouwer back on 15 June 2004. It relates to saddlebacking.
Piet de Best, from Amsterdam, The Netherlands writes:
I know that anal sex can be a way for good Christian girls to have their fun and still retain their virginity (at least technically). But what advice do you have for a young gay boy who wants to keep his virginity but still doesn't want to lose his boyfriend because he won't "go all the way"?
Thank-you in advance for a Christian answer!
Betty's Reply:
Anyone who engages in anal sex is going all the way. All the way to Hell.
It was a wise-ass question, and I got a wise-ass answer.
Piet
I sent this letter to Betty Bouwer back on 15 June 2004. It relates to saddlebacking.
Piet de Best, from Amsterdam, The Netherlands writes:
I know that anal sex can be a way for good Christian girls to have their fun and still retain their virginity (at least technically). But what advice do you have for a young gay boy who wants to keep his virginity but still doesn't want to lose his boyfriend because he won't "go all the way"?
Thank-you in advance for a Christian answer!
Betty's Reply:
Anyone who engages in anal sex is going all the way. All the way to Hell.
It was a wise-ass question, and I got a wise-ass answer.
Piet
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Dan – Regarding your response to letter three: I’m noting a little inconsistency here. You always say that the solution for couples in which one partner wants sex more frequently than the other is to have sex less frequently than the more desiring partner wants and for the less-desiring mate to “milk” his/her partner between bouts of sex. This has always confused me, because I (a straight person) always considered all the suggested acts of “milking” as sex. Now you are admitting this, too. So, really your prescription for when there is a discrepancy in sexual desire within a couple is for the couple to have as much sex as the one who wants it more desires.
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I call RULE 34!
When we see saddleback porn. That's when it will stick in the public subconscious.
When we see saddleback porn. That's when it will stick in the public subconscious.
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I suspect that porn stars wear socks because they think that their feet are so fugly that the mere sight of the corns and calluses and bunions and what-all will kill the mood.
By the way, LOVE the definition of saddlebacking--perfect!
By the way, LOVE the definition of saddlebacking--perfect!
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Could be a straight guy who wants to double penetrate his partner. Been there and done that and it was REAL good
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I'm not a chick, but I can't imagine giving my a-hole before my pussy. I guess that points up the absurdity, right?
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To Rick
Yes a vibrator is a great comfort but Mizz Blau is right, fucking a human is so much better than fucking a piece of vibrating plastic, and even better than that is to have the human and the vibrating plastic. If you want to stuff your partner in a drawer when you're done, you're fucking the wrong kinds of people.
Yes a vibrator is a great comfort but Mizz Blau is right, fucking a human is so much better than fucking a piece of vibrating plastic, and even better than that is to have the human and the vibrating plastic. If you want to stuff your partner in a drawer when you're done, you're fucking the wrong kinds of people.
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I had a thought about the guy with the strap-on. I haven't attempted this, but it occurs to me he might be intending to double-penetrate a female partner. I don't know if, physically, that would actually work. But it's also possible that he didn't know yet, either.
That, or he's the guy from a few weeks ago who intends to wear it on his nose....
That, or he's the guy from a few weeks ago who intends to wear it on his nose....
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Cowboy up! Too bad I never was offered the ass for any reason in my teen years...I'm still kinda jealous of all these teen Christian (saddlebacking) virgins, but the word and its definition is an instant classic. Thanks Dan!
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There is a saddlebacking page up on Wikipedia but it's already being considered for deletion. Comments in support of it would be helpful.
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Hi Dan
Just one suggestion: could you fix the spacing between the last and next-to-last lines? Needs to be shrunk a bit...
Your eternal fan and layout fascist here in Nara...
Just one suggestion: could you fix the spacing between the last and next-to-last lines? Needs to be shrunk a bit...
Your eternal fan and layout fascist here in Nara...
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@Greenbandit: That's what I thought too. I've seen harnesses meant for men that also come with a strap-on attachment, meant for DP.
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http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.ph…
Vote up the new definition and vote down the one that is simply wrong.
Vote up the new definition and vote down the one that is simply wrong.
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Note about the strap-on - also has a use in hetero sex to allow double penetration with just two people.
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just an irreverent thought, but - if it's ok for women to insist on their male partners using a vibrator, even though it makes them uncomfortable, surely that means it's ok for the male partner to insist on being able to watch porn during sex, even though it makes the female partner uncomfortable... right?
just checking. i mean, fair's fair!
just checking. i mean, fair's fair!
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I think you should change the example sentence to say: "After attending the Purity Ball, Heather and Bill saddlebacked all night because HE'S saving HIMSELF for marriage."
That crazy-think infects boys too, y'know.
That crazy-think infects boys too, y'know.
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Dan, it is very, very rare that oral, at least performed on a man, is a consolation. Especially if your lady/dude is good at it
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The man with the strap could've easily been a heterosexual male with an average endownmnet that wants to give his woman double penetration - anal and vaginal intercourse at the same time.
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Hey Dan, how about calling out the douchebag who is talking about strap-ons on a fucking airplane? Oh yeah, we're all so hip and sexually adventurous and wokka wokka wokka - how about some common damn courtesy? Am I the only one who noticed this? Where's fucking Emily Post when you need her?
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I was someone who originally voted for definition #1, but now I quite agree #5 was the way to go. It's too hilarious.
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I agree - saddlebacking.com is perfect in its simplicity. Just one small detail - the pronunciation guide should say /'sæd-dl-bæ-kiŋ/ - the /a/ symbol represents the sound in caught, not in cat (which would be /kæt/). Sorry about the nitpicking, but it might help get the word out better.
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Actually, the most obvious answer to the question posed in the second letter is that it was something completely unrelated to sex. Though the term "strap-on" will make Savage Love readers think of a particular accessory in particular, there are no doubt countless other accessories for different hobbies that this person could have been referring to. Which would explain why the person had no qualms about expressing his excitement about it in a crowded plane.
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Not everyone can please everyone everytime. So I was fine with Rick Warren speaking at Obama's inaugeration. I think that was a good gesture on Obama's part.
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I have to agree with Dabe. The thing that stood out in letter #1 was the caller telling his friend he had to go because he was getting the "stinkeye". This would imply the letter writer was in the wrong for noticing a distinctly personal conversation had not only in a public place, but in the forced intimacy of an airline isle. Why didn't you call him out on that Dan?
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I heard, what could possibly be just good gossip, that originally men wore socks in porno because the floors in the shooting locations were filthy.
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Re M: had the caller been referring to a non sexual strap on of some kind, I doubt he would have referred to the writer noticing his remarks with "stinkeye". Example, I am an avid horse enthusiast. I would not hesitate to refer to riding "bareback" in pubic no matter the audience and it would neither occur to me that someone might notice the phrase or that anyone might be offended by it. It simply would not occur to me (as a straight woman). The caller noticing the writers look and considering it to be judgmental and his rude dismissal of it points to him being an inconsiderate, rude ass with a sense of entitlement.
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The only problem with this definition is that very few people will actually be using it. I for one am neither a Christian, nor a teenager. (I suppose I could be considered a virgin, in that I am a gay man who is a Kinsey 6 -- a perfect score.)
I do have have an opportunity to mention the santorum on occasion.
I do have have an opportunity to mention the santorum on occasion.
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Saddleback Definition:
I agree with the above comment that saddlebacking.com could benefit from elaboration. Specifically the part about being "saddled ... with religious hang-ups and serious misconceptions about sex". To me, this is what makes a simply funny definition profound.
I agree with the above comment that saddlebacking.com could benefit from elaboration. Specifically the part about being "saddled ... with religious hang-ups and serious misconceptions about sex". To me, this is what makes a simply funny definition profound.
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I wondered if the man was talking about something non-sexual and thought he was getting the stinkeye for being a rude jackass who talks loudly on his cell on the plane. Which would be deserved (although the letter writer was just glancing over, not glaring), regardless of the conversational content.
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Now we need a meaning for "coulter" or "ann-coulter". She really deserves to have something named after her.
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Re. Stink-Eye In 12E. A reason that Dan did not mention for a man to wear a Strap-on instead of his penis is that maybe he cannot use his penis for one reason or another. I've worked in adult stores, and I will always remember the man who came in because, as the result of a serious accident, his penis was perminately damaged. He bought a Strap-on so that he could feel more like a man and to satisfy his wife.
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I'm going to have to disagree with you about the socks, Dan.
Seeing a pair of socks on a guy while he screws some willing body really does it for me. It's that little bit of something hidden... especially ankle socks.
Maybe it's not intentionally done as a foot fetish thing, but it does it for this rather mild foot fetishist.
Seeing a pair of socks on a guy while he screws some willing body really does it for me. It's that little bit of something hidden... especially ankle socks.
Maybe it's not intentionally done as a foot fetish thing, but it does it for this rather mild foot fetishist.
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A few months ago, I stumbled across a report on brain scans of people reaching orgasm ( http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_an…). It included the following finding:
"The experiments also revealed a rather surprising effect: both men and women found it easier to have an orgasm when they kept their socks on. Draughts in the scanning room left couples complaining of "literally cold feet", and providing a pair of socks allowed 80 per cent rather than 50 per cent to reach a climax while their brains were scanned."
I think about this now whenever I see some guy in a porno wearing socks.
"The experiments also revealed a rather surprising effect: both men and women found it easier to have an orgasm when they kept their socks on. Draughts in the scanning room left couples complaining of "literally cold feet", and providing a pair of socks allowed 80 per cent rather than 50 per cent to reach a climax while their brains were scanned."
I think about this now whenever I see some guy in a porno wearing socks.
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I must say, I'm surprised at how quickly someone has put this up on wikipedia (I know Dan, you hate wiki... but, I guess your fans don't...)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saddleback
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saddleback
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Some strap-ons come with two "circles" (pardon my ignorance for the correct word). The penis can go through one, the dildo secured in the other. This permits DP of a partner.
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Greenbandit said:
"I had a thought about the guy with the strap-on. I haven't attempted this, but it occurs to me he might be intending to double-penetrate a female partner. I don't know if, physically, that would actually work."
It works.
"I had a thought about the guy with the strap-on. I haven't attempted this, but it occurs to me he might be intending to double-penetrate a female partner. I don't know if, physically, that would actually work."
It works.
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One other use a straight man has for a strap-on--which is, wearing so it sits above or below his own home-grown hard-on, to allow for double penetration (anal & vaginal) of a woman. My boy and I do this occasionally (when I'm not using it on him), and it's mighty fun.
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Men are in competition with vibrators, a tiny bit. Not any man in a relationship so much, but the NSA sex that so many desire, is done a real disservice by them. Selfish i'm-only-here-to-get-myself-off sex really doesn't compete. A vibrator gets that job done a lot better than a one night stand. Sure vibrators don't call you on your birthday, comfort you when you're sad, etc etc, but neither does some NSA fuck buddy. So what else have you got?
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I love the definition... the way you worded it - however, to me - makes it sound as though it does indeed preserve virginity... maybe it needs a little clarification there...as in.. with the illusion of preserving virginity...
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Dan, my FB always wears his socks during sex (he wanted to be a porn star when he was younger), but I suspect his feet are cold. And yes, he was excited by having me try out a strap-on on him and still does. I am female and he is a 53 year old hetero male.
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I would like to suggest a different use-it-in-a-sentence for saddlebacking:
As Matt saddlebacked her, Kelsey admired her purity ring and thanked God that she had an understanding boyfriend who was willing to wait for their wedding day.
As Matt saddlebacked her, Kelsey admired her purity ring and thanked God that she had an understanding boyfriend who was willing to wait for their wedding day.
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Re SEI12E: he could be talking about a dildo harness which is meant to be worn over a chastity belt (see meo-team.com > Chastity > Hi-Tech).
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Dan, as a logophile, I feel obliged to point out that the definition on www.saddlebacking.com indicates that "saddlebacking" is a verb. It's not. As defined ("the phenomenon…"), it is a noun (technically a verbal noun), though it could also be a form (present participle or gerund) of the verb "to saddleback." Also your sample sentence illustrates the verb, not the headword noun. If you want to keep this as a definition of "saddlebacking," I suggest you mark it as a noun and change the sample sentence to something like: "After attending the Purity Ball, Heather and Bill devoted the whole night to saddlebacking, because she's saving herself for marriage."
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I'm so impressed. Saddlebacking is already the third google hit for the word. I'm guessing it'll be a while before "saddleback" gets you the new definition.
I do feel a little sorry for Saddleback College and Saddleback Maine (and really anyone in the Saddleback Mountain range).
I do feel a little sorry for Saddleback College and Saddleback Maine (and really anyone in the Saddleback Mountain range).
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regarding men and strap-ons - not just too-small dicked guys, but too-big ones, and ones who don't last as long as their partners like.
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Doesn't it seem plausible that guys wear socks in porn for the same reason that people wear socks when they're not doing porn? Socks keep their feet warm. I bet porn shoots are often cool, drafty places.
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Yeah, taking the "tool" approach to vibrator use may be the way to go. Has anyone ever heard a carpenter say "I stood around all day while my hammer banged in nails and my jigsaw cut some wood"? Of course not. (But you should almost never use a jigsaw in sexual play.)
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The Economist? Really? Well Whoop-de-Fuckin-Do! So what? No one reads the Economist. Never heard of it. Oh well. I guess you'll take what you can when your a small potato columnest compared to Dear Abby and Ann Landers. Let us know when Saddlebacking makes it into Time, Newsweek or even the USA Today.
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holy shit, the power of Savage Love readers! it's less than 24 hours since the column was posted on the web and i just googled "saddlebacking" and got more than 10 sites that have the definition up. Dan, speak and it will be done!
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i think you should alter (or add to) the www.saddlebacking.com website to say "saddleback (verb)" rather than just "saddlebacking"--b/c when people do a search for rick warren's church, they won't be searching for "saddlebacking", they'll be searching for "saddleback"--& we want your site to be the 1st one that comes up in their searches!
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Re the second writer: Perhaps there are "strap-ons" that aren't fake penises? Maybe he has strap-on bicycle panniers or something.
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You know, I don't have a problem with Rick Warren at the inauguration either now. Not after the Rev. Dr. Lowery made him look like a pathetic hack. :)
Regarding men watching porn during sex, I personally wouldn't have a problem with it occasionally, but it's a different thing. Asking your partner to use a sex toy ON YOU to get you off is quite a bit different than telling your sex partner you want to use them as a sperm toilet while you focus on and pay attention to someone else(s) entirely.
A more appropriate analogy would be a guy who asks his partner to use a masturbatory aid on him, or dildo for the prostate stimulation, because that's how HE gets off.
Regarding men watching porn during sex, I personally wouldn't have a problem with it occasionally, but it's a different thing. Asking your partner to use a sex toy ON YOU to get you off is quite a bit different than telling your sex partner you want to use them as a sperm toilet while you focus on and pay attention to someone else(s) entirely.
A more appropriate analogy would be a guy who asks his partner to use a masturbatory aid on him, or dildo for the prostate stimulation, because that's how HE gets off.
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Dan, saddlebacking.com should include your commentary, too, to give context about this particular type of barebacking: "Saddlebacking, like barebacking, involves one person riding up on another's backside. But in this case, it's not the bare-naked cock-in-ass that's the most important feature of the ride, but the fact that the person being ridden has been saddled—thanks to the efforts of the Rick Warrens of this world—with religious hang-ups and serious misconceptions about sex. Like the barebacker who casually tosses away his health—or his partner's health—because he believes, quite erroneously, that "risky = sexy," the saddlebacker offers up her ass because she believes, quite erroneously, that she can get fucked in the ass—vigorously, religiously—and still be considered a virgin on her wedding night."
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I concur with "glen keenan" regarding saddlebacking.com site, it should be "saddleback [v]", saddlebacking is a gerund...the grammar police will have to issue you a conjugation citation!!
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Well I hate to say this but porn seems to be rushed so maybe they are rushed to take their pants and drawers off and forget to take their socks off.
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Socks on feet.
The reason that people wear socks on their feet in porn is that the soundstage that porn is filmed on is made of black stuff that rubs off on feet easily. My friends who have been in the biz always roll their eyes at seeing "porn star feet" - a girl is on her back, she's perfectly made up, but the soles of her feet are black. This means that she was walking around on set, outside the dressing room, in bare feet (instead of in the flip-flops the girls are supposed to use). It's a mark of an amateurish production or performer. Guys wear socks for the same reason, and occasionally they forget to take them off, that's all.
The reason that people wear socks on their feet in porn is that the soundstage that porn is filmed on is made of black stuff that rubs off on feet easily. My friends who have been in the biz always roll their eyes at seeing "porn star feet" - a girl is on her back, she's perfectly made up, but the soles of her feet are black. This means that she was walking around on set, outside the dressing room, in bare feet (instead of in the flip-flops the girls are supposed to use). It's a mark of an amateurish production or performer. Guys wear socks for the same reason, and occasionally they forget to take them off, that's all.
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The google-bombing won't work as well if "saddlebacking" is the keyword. When people google "saddleback" looking for the church, we want them to find "saddlebacking." Google looks for those two terms separately, so we need to tie the search term "saddleback" very very closely to the saddlebacking.com URL.
Also, personal aside... my husband has had the same qualms about vibrators. He's over it now. Apparently, when I orgasm with my vibrator, I clench his cock hella harder than when I orgasm without. Handy, that.
Also, personal aside... my husband has had the same qualms about vibrators. He's over it now. Apparently, when I orgasm with my vibrator, I clench his cock hella harder than when I orgasm without. Handy, that.
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As a previous critic of the new definition of saddlebacking, I've come around to it, at least for its implication, which is is as Dan puts it here:
"But in this case, it's not the bare-naked cock-in-ass that's the most important feature of the ride, but the fact that the person being ridden has been saddled—thanks to the efforts of the Rick Warrens of this world—with religious hang-ups and serious misconceptions about sex."
In fact, the best definition I have ever heard for religious indoctrination that says it all is "mind fuck."
I would be overjoyed if saddlebacking was expanded, not just with the context for the original definition, but with a secondary definition that describes the intellectual raping, "the mind fuck," that religious indoctrination represents.
It would expand the use of the word, and produce a definition for the indoctrination that made possible such perversity in the first place, as well as continue with the sexual nature of the original definition.
I must say, the grammar police have gone and dumped me by the roadside, in that I had to examine the definition on saddlebacking.com to figure out the noun/gerund issue, and then when "conjunction citation" was brought up later in jest, not knowing what a conjunction is almost led me to weep on the spot...
I can't handle this!!!
"But in this case, it's not the bare-naked cock-in-ass that's the most important feature of the ride, but the fact that the person being ridden has been saddled—thanks to the efforts of the Rick Warrens of this world—with religious hang-ups and serious misconceptions about sex."
In fact, the best definition I have ever heard for religious indoctrination that says it all is "mind fuck."
I would be overjoyed if saddlebacking was expanded, not just with the context for the original definition, but with a secondary definition that describes the intellectual raping, "the mind fuck," that religious indoctrination represents.
It would expand the use of the word, and produce a definition for the indoctrination that made possible such perversity in the first place, as well as continue with the sexual nature of the original definition.
I must say, the grammar police have gone and dumped me by the roadside, in that I had to examine the definition on saddlebacking.com to figure out the noun/gerund issue, and then when "conjunction citation" was brought up later in jest, not knowing what a conjunction is almost led me to weep on the spot...
I can't handle this!!!
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Hrm... I might be wrong about the google thing... I thought the tense flexibility was only for commonly-used words, but when I googled "saddlebacking," "saddleback" options still came up. There was a different first page of results, but several of them were the same.
In any case, saddlebacking.com wasn't on the top 5 pages of either search. Thought plenty of other Dan references on the "saddlebacking" search.
In any case, saddlebacking.com wasn't on the top 5 pages of either search. Thought plenty of other Dan references on the "saddlebacking" search.
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Don't forget...a guy can also use his penis and a strap-on a girl at the same time, but in different places.
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http://www.reddit.com/r/funny/comments/7…
I know you are going after Saddleback church and all which is why you chose "Christian" but women do this all over the world. This definition needs expanding!
Otherwise GREAT WORD! I'm going to go saddleback a chick right now.
I know you are going after Saddleback church and all which is why you chose "Christian" but women do this all over the world. This definition needs expanding!
Otherwise GREAT WORD! I'm going to go saddleback a chick right now.
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Re. socks: I think burning_waffles and Afreet have it. I read (I think it was in What Wild Ecstasy) that it was common in old porn films for the crew to be working in cold rooms.
@mw: sorry, but there's a major difference. A woman who can't get off without a vibrator pressed against her clitoris has a physical problem (easily solved with the application of the proper tools). A man who can't get off without porn has a psychological problem.
Please note: I'm not saying that watching porn is inherently a problem, just that not being able to get off without it is.
And, just as couples should try to find toys that they're both comfortable with, I think that couples should also try to find porn that they're both comfortable with.
@mw: sorry, but there's a major difference. A woman who can't get off without a vibrator pressed against her clitoris has a physical problem (easily solved with the application of the proper tools). A man who can't get off without porn has a psychological problem.
Please note: I'm not saying that watching porn is inherently a problem, just that not being able to get off without it is.
And, just as couples should try to find toys that they're both comfortable with, I think that couples should also try to find porn that they're both comfortable with.
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Note to self: Do not piss off Dan Savage, or his readers. No telling how they would redefine my last name!
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It already made it to Wiktionary. I went to add it and it was there. http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/saddleback
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If I cheat on my Christian girlfriend by fucking someone else in the ass, am I sidesaddlebacking? Was Ted Haggard sidesaddlebacking all along?
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TC, you have not heard of the Economist? What uneducated rock do you live under? If you have not heard of it, you are the nobody.
It is probably the most influential news magazine published in the English language. NOT the most widely read, but the most influential among people who actually make decisions. Political decisions. Economic decisions. Business decisions. It liberal in the old meaning of that word. It has supported legalization of drugs and gay rights for decades, while at the same time being fiscally conservative. Its average reader earns well over 6 figures a year and is rumored to have been required reading in the State Department for the past four decades -- no matter what party was in the White House. It puts rags like Newsweek and Time to shame.
The Economist is a trend setter. Not in fashion and art, in politics and business. By the time you read it in USA Today it is yesterdays news. The fact that you are reading it in the Economist means that it is about to be news everywhere else.
The folks that write the Economist think themselves too clever by half. The backhanded way the mention Dan and his campaign to name "Saddlebacking" is in fact their highest compliment. They KNOW that their readers are now going to go search the internet and try and find what those "unprintable" definition are, and in fact will be more curious not less by the description they give them. The Economist was very amused or they would not have mentioned it. Kudos to Dan.
It is probably the most influential news magazine published in the English language. NOT the most widely read, but the most influential among people who actually make decisions. Political decisions. Economic decisions. Business decisions. It liberal in the old meaning of that word. It has supported legalization of drugs and gay rights for decades, while at the same time being fiscally conservative. Its average reader earns well over 6 figures a year and is rumored to have been required reading in the State Department for the past four decades -- no matter what party was in the White House. It puts rags like Newsweek and Time to shame.
The Economist is a trend setter. Not in fashion and art, in politics and business. By the time you read it in USA Today it is yesterdays news. The fact that you are reading it in the Economist means that it is about to be news everywhere else.
The folks that write the Economist think themselves too clever by half. The backhanded way the mention Dan and his campaign to name "Saddlebacking" is in fact their highest compliment. They KNOW that their readers are now going to go search the internet and try and find what those "unprintable" definition are, and in fact will be more curious not less by the description they give them. The Economist was very amused or they would not have mentioned it. Kudos to Dan.
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Touche for #5 (Or should I say "do not touche, since you're saving yourselves for marriage, all you under-aged religious freaks...)
The gesture is very educational too; the awareness just might save a few lives in the bargain...(inferior religious freak lives, sure, but lives, all the same...)
The gesture is very educational too; the awareness just might save a few lives in the bargain...(inferior religious freak lives, sure, but lives, all the same...)
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Hurrah on definition five's victory and its appearance in "The Economist"!
But, Dan, please amend the term's classification: (as others have pointed out) "saddlebacking" is a noun (a verbal noun or gerund), not a verb. "[To] saddleback" is the verb form.
I agree that "saddleback" should be added to the web page in order that web searches for the church make their way to www.saddlebacking.com instead (or in addition to).
Way to go!
P.S. Perhaps the man on the plane wasn't even referring to a strap-on dildo? I mean, how does the writer know he was referring to a sex toy (and in public, no less)? I recently purchased a strap-on heating pad for my back, and I'm pretty sure I said aloud more than once, "I can't wait until the strap-on arrives [in the mail]." Just a thought.
But, Dan, please amend the term's classification: (as others have pointed out) "saddlebacking" is a noun (a verbal noun or gerund), not a verb. "[To] saddleback" is the verb form.
I agree that "saddleback" should be added to the web page in order that web searches for the church make their way to www.saddlebacking.com instead (or in addition to).
Way to go!
P.S. Perhaps the man on the plane wasn't even referring to a strap-on dildo? I mean, how does the writer know he was referring to a sex toy (and in public, no less)? I recently purchased a strap-on heating pad for my back, and I'm pretty sure I said aloud more than once, "I can't wait until the strap-on arrives [in the mail]." Just a thought.
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The guy on the plane - he was getting off on the other guy listening in to his conversation. That was a form of exhibitionism.
No normal person would expect to cover some graphically intimate subject in a phone conversation while shoulder to shoulder with a total stranger, and not expect to discomfort/startle them.
No normal person would expect to cover some graphically intimate subject in a phone conversation while shoulder to shoulder with a total stranger, and not expect to discomfort/startle them.
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There's already a joke site called Saddlebacking Church (offering our Poopers for Purity!) -- at least, I *think* it's a joke site. They expect video proof that you did the "sacrament" correctly and left the vagina alone!
I tried Googling strap-on and found strap-on tree steps & tree stands for hunters, strap-on crampons for mountain climbers, strap-on tackle boxes for fishing, strap-on doppler flow meters (used in industry, to measure liquid inside a pipe), strap-on bike racks, strap-on control systems for robotic vehicles (which could be pretty exciting), a band named Strap-On Tools, and a strap-on musical keyboard (again, might be exciting for the musician who's been wanting to try such a thing!)
I can't say I ever noticed the porn socks. But while there *may* be a funnier bedroom sight than a man naked except for his socks, I can't think of one at the moment. If a woman can get through the scene without laughing her ass off, more power to her.
I tried Googling strap-on and found strap-on tree steps & tree stands for hunters, strap-on crampons for mountain climbers, strap-on tackle boxes for fishing, strap-on doppler flow meters (used in industry, to measure liquid inside a pipe), strap-on bike racks, strap-on control systems for robotic vehicles (which could be pretty exciting), a band named Strap-On Tools, and a strap-on musical keyboard (again, might be exciting for the musician who's been wanting to try such a thing!)
I can't say I ever noticed the porn socks. But while there *may* be a funnier bedroom sight than a man naked except for his socks, I can't think of one at the moment. If a woman can get through the scene without laughing her ass off, more power to her.
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You're really on a roll in this column. Fairly rare that I find multiple belly-laughs in such a short space, but "a high-quality, looks-like-a-prick, feels-like-a-sneaker strap-on" topped it.
This opens a whole new area for porn for sports-nuts. Can't wait for the NFL endorsements.
This opens a whole new area for porn for sports-nuts. Can't wait for the NFL endorsements.
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I presume guys wear socks on their feet in porn because the floor is full of lube and jizz and is probably cold and because they hardly seem the type to engage in a pedicure, all good reasons to wear socks even though they look ridiculous
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God love you, Dan. The answer to SEI12E with a glancing reference to an Easy Spirit shoe campaign, circa 1987? Just brilliant.
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I agree with Mary (and Dan) about manual and oral "milking" as actual sex. In fact, as a straight woman with an easy-please anatomy, it takes less effort and is more enjoyable for me to lie back and get fucked than to go to the trouble of giving oral or handjobs. So if I wasn't in the mood for sex, "milking" would be a doomed suggestion. In such cases, my partner should go get himself off and I'll enjoy the show. Or I'll just go read a book or something. Pleasuring him is my pleasure, but not it's not my duty. Sometimes he needs good old DIY spirit.
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From Rick Warren's 1/24/2009 blog
After the Inauguration I was asked, "Hey Rick Warren - after leading the nation in prayer, what are you going to do now?" "I'M GOING TO SADDLEBACK!" I shouted.
I'll see you this weekend.
http://www.saddlebackfamily.com/blogs/ne…
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After the Inauguration I was asked, "Hey Rick Warren - after leading the nation in prayer, what are you going to do now?" "I'M GOING TO SADDLEBACK!" I shouted.
I'll see you this weekend.
http://www.saddlebackfamily.com/blogs/ne…
tehe
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I would like to see saddlebacking.com show up in Google TOGETHER with its soulmate sites.
You know, sites like:
http://truelovewaits.com/
http://silverringthing.com/
www.purityrings.com
www.abstinenceproducts.com
technicalvirgin.com (currently inoperative, best damn site I ever saw)
and any others, especially all the reports about how teens don't keep their purity pledges. Those, you get when you Google "purity pledge".
I just Googled "getting your site on Google" to learn more.
Help me out here, computer nerds.
You know, sites like:
http://truelovewaits.com/
http://silverringthing.com/
www.purityrings.com
www.abstinenceproducts.com
technicalvirgin.com (currently inoperative, best damn site I ever saw)
and any others, especially all the reports about how teens don't keep their purity pledges. Those, you get when you Google "purity pledge".
I just Googled "getting your site on Google" to learn more.
Help me out here, computer nerds.
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Saddlebacking definition has already reached Japan... on a gay man's website...
Googling "saddlebacking" returned 10,000 hits as of 13:00 EST on 29 Jan 2009...
Googling "saddlebacking" returned 10,000 hits as of 13:00 EST on 29 Jan 2009...
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Though Jane was enjoying the thorough saddlebacking she was getting, Dick felt a bit icky about all the santorum being produced.
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Dan,
You should change the verb tense to be "to saddleback" That way it will ultimately rise to the top of the google search results for those looking for the church.
Basically the same effect that Santorum had.
You should change the verb tense to be "to saddleback" That way it will ultimately rise to the top of the google search results for those looking for the church.
Basically the same effect that Santorum had.
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Great definition. I've known/known of several Mormon girls that were into Saddlebacking. Why is it always the Mormons??
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I just googled 'saddleback' and the final result on the first page was a Boston Globe article entitled:
'Saddleback a comfy fit for McCain'.
What more is there to say?
'Saddleback a comfy fit for McCain'.
What more is there to say?
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Because Mormons are scary.
I had a roommate that was a mormon in college, she was always confessing to her bishop about the shit she did, the "raciest" of all was licking her BF's spine...
Saddleback, I am going to blog about it.
I had a roommate that was a mormon in college, she was always confessing to her bishop about the shit she did, the "raciest" of all was licking her BF's spine...
Saddleback, I am going to blog about it.
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I've already used "saddlebacking" in a sentence today (talking about a scene in Nip/Tuck). What a useful word!
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There's also a state park in California called Saddleback Butte.
http://www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=618
http://www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=618
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I have to object to the "Christian" part of the definition. I was in the Middle East last year, a place where the stakes for a woman having sex before or outside of marriage can be very high indeed.
I was living in a college town, and was told that plenty of hanky-panky goes on, but that if it goes past 3rd base, that it ends up as saddlebacking.
So I think "Christian" should be replaced with "Christian or Muslim" or maybe just "religious."
I was living in a college town, and was told that plenty of hanky-panky goes on, but that if it goes past 3rd base, that it ends up as saddlebacking.
So I think "Christian" should be replaced with "Christian or Muslim" or maybe just "religious."
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I have to agree with the commenter that pointed out that "saddlebacking" is a verb and the definition is a noun. It doesn't matter to me personally but it'll give you more credibility if you know basic elementary school grammar. just sayin.
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As for the attempted rebranding of the name "Saddleback" and "Santorum", evangelical Christians would be wise to ignore it (with the possible notable exception of Rick Santorum). If gay groups have the audacity to co-opt even a symbol of God's promise to humanity (in the view of Christians), a rainbow, certainly trying to abuse a church's or person's name is par for the course. Though it is mildly surprising that the community would attempt to generate more fuel to feed stereotypes and derogatory comments. Perhaps it should even be viewed as an honour. You know, "Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me." (Matt. 5:10-11), kind of thing.
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Kudos, Dan. You said, "Some small-dicked men—ones who are not at all insecure—use strap-ons on partners who miss that "filled-up" feeling." Although my very-secure husband is average sized, he bought a strap-on (we've tried a number of them, in fact) just to give me the utmost pleasure. We don't always use it, but it certainly gives us one more way to have fun with each other.
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The only sox I've seen in porn are in bestial porn. Not that I go for that stuff, but I have had incidental exposure. The old myth of any kind of porn was that in case the cast and crew needed to make a fast getaway to escape a bust, they needed to be ready to run. In this day and age, I doubt this is necessary.
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Is it true that 'saddlebacking' can be added to the Oxford English Dictionary as soon as it appears in three different published documents?
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About the strap-on: you guys have no imagination! One of the things that attracted me to my present boyfriend was his post on Lustlab describing his use of a strap-on in addition to his cock, so he can fill both holes at once. It's the next best thing to having two guys, and hey-- no jealousy, no STD risk, no kicking out the extra guy...
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I played volleyball in high school with a girl who was known to saddleback...she could jump REALLY high!
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Please help me get this grouped with its sister soulmate sites!
I think http://truelovewaits.com/ should be informed of its twin site http://saddlebacking.com/, at truelovewaits@lifeway.com. They can learn from us, who know what their teens are doing!
(Which used to be so beautifully detailed in http://technicalvirgin.com/, until this informative site went down.)
I think http://www.abstinenceproducts.com/ should have some marketing people offer to sell them wholesale T-shirts. A T-shirt with a slogan such as "TEENS SADDLEBCKING FOR PURITY!" or "ATTEND THE SADDLEBACK BALL" would be a product true to their customers' tastes.
I think http://truelovewaits.com/ should be informed of its twin site http://saddlebacking.com/, at truelovewaits@lifeway.com. They can learn from us, who know what their teens are doing!
(Which used to be so beautifully detailed in http://technicalvirgin.com/, until this informative site went down.)
I think http://www.abstinenceproducts.com/ should have some marketing people offer to sell them wholesale T-shirts. A T-shirt with a slogan such as "TEENS SADDLEBCKING FOR PURITY!" or "ATTEND THE SADDLEBACK BALL" would be a product true to their customers' tastes.
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miss information on nerve is giving away a snuggie for whoever writes the best answer to a reader question. maybe we could all leave our socks on and get under the snuggie and screw like sweaty old-navy clad monkeys. what's next? vibrator cozies?
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Saddlebacking is already on half the sites that come up on a Google search of the term, and it's the #1 definition on UrbanDictionary.com
Let's keep it going, guys!! :D
Let's keep it going, guys!! :D
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Regarding the first letter, you're absolutely right in saying socks are not a foot-fetish thing, Dan; those of us obsessed w/feet insist on socks being OFF, for heaven's sake. Unless they're also masochists, I suppose, but then we get into territory even more confusing than the so-called straight men having much more gay sex on seancody.com than any gay man I know.
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Eh, I was rooting for condom-protected anal sex between homos. I felt the term would be in more common usage and seemed to fit better.
Plus how many Christian terms truly engage in anal sex to protect the hymens (as opposed to it just being enjoyable?)
Plus how many Christian terms truly engage in anal sex to protect the hymens (as opposed to it just being enjoyable?)
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I presume the use of virginities instead of virginity on http://saddlebacking.com was a reference to the born-again virgins?
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I'm a pro Domme and sex educator, and I teach classes on strap-on play. I suggest that men can use strap-ons for lots of reasons--
1)much lower risk of pregnancy with vaginal penetration
2)ability to penetrate a partner even if he can't achieve an erection (or, if he, say, can't achieve an erection sufficiently firm to do anal penetration.)
3)ability to keep going and going and going and going. Or ability to have "round two", even if his penis won't comply!
4)a different size or shape dildo from the size or shape of his penis-- it's not just small guys, Dan! Maybe he's got a huge penis and she likes 'em on the smaller side. Or likes a longer skinnier one for anal penetration.
5) DP, as has been mentioned
6)Chastity play, ditto above
7) Tease and Denial or Humiliation play. Maybe he hasn't "earned" the right to be inside her yet!
The options are endless-- and often pretty darned hot!
1)much lower risk of pregnancy with vaginal penetration
2)ability to penetrate a partner even if he can't achieve an erection (or, if he, say, can't achieve an erection sufficiently firm to do anal penetration.)
3)ability to keep going and going and going and going. Or ability to have "round two", even if his penis won't comply!
4)a different size or shape dildo from the size or shape of his penis-- it's not just small guys, Dan! Maybe he's got a huge penis and she likes 'em on the smaller side. Or likes a longer skinnier one for anal penetration.
5) DP, as has been mentioned
6)Chastity play, ditto above
7) Tease and Denial or Humiliation play. Maybe he hasn't "earned" the right to be inside her yet!
The options are endless-- and often pretty darned hot!
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I think your're wrong about the socks. Think about it this way: is there anything *all* men dislike on a woman? It's really hard to find one thing that all men agree upon a woman should not wear/be/look like/say etc. How about women. Is there *any* woman who approves of socks during sex? It's quite hard, I think, to find one. This suggests, that socks in porn aims at a male audience, and at something else.
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What is it with men who don't wear underwear. I am missing the point. When it is sub zero weather, wouldn't this just be plain silly. The last tow men I have dated don't wear underwear. What is the big secret guys?
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i still say its getting a fat chick on her hands and knees and getting on her fat back and wacking off in her hair. this way you dont have to see or smell to much of that fat funk.
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well I read through all the comments and indeed it was only mentioned 1 or 2 times.I not only use a strap on with my fiancee for the DP with two people. I also use it because if I come too soon the action is only a strap on away from continuing for as long as she needs.
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dear stink-eye, My goodness, did you then sit through the whole flight without talking to him? dan should have printed your letter and then left a blank space. Do you think maybe you could have asked? Are you sure you WERENT giving him the stink-eye? And your gay friends didn't ask why the silence? Maybe you could swap friends with SID. You both need a new batch!
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Okay, call me crazy, but I'm a little jealous of the kids today who get to saddleback and give and get oral and still call themselves virgins. I called my self a man-whore and I didn't get as much action as some of today's virgins. It's a changing world!!
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I Had The Greatest 30 Minute Conversation With My Parents In Their Car, En Route To Dinner, About Saddlebacking.
We Suggested Several Uses For The Word.
Thank You.
Santorum Is Also My New Favorite!
We Suggested Several Uses For The Word.
Thank You.
Santorum Is Also My New Favorite!
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You'd think that teens who are so hooked up to the internet would at least pull up a website or two about sex. This whole abstainence from sexual education in schools thing only works when people keep themselves ignorant. People are still trying to get intelligent design in schools, but no one is stupid enough to ignore the facts on that one. Why can't this be the same?
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Not topic related, but i thought you would enjoy this comic strip.
http://www.jesusandmo.net/2009/01/30/equ…
http://www.jesusandmo.net/2009/01/30/equ…
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Am I the only one who thinks that to successfully Google bomb something, you have to type the correct word as the link text?
For example,
Saddleback
If a billion people do the above, when someone Googles Saddleback they will get the dirty meaning. Members of the Saddleback church aren't going to Google Saddlebacking....
For example,
Saddleback
If a billion people do the above, when someone Googles Saddleback they will get the dirty meaning. Members of the Saddleback church aren't going to Google Saddlebacking....
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Do you have to be a Christian teen to saddleback?
There are times I've used the back door when the front door was "out of service" for some other reason. I'd like to call that saddlebacking. Can I? Of course I would never saddleback bareback...
There are times I've used the back door when the front door was "out of service" for some other reason. I'd like to call that saddlebacking. Can I? Of course I would never saddleback bareback...
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mw: it's not the same. A vibrator is stimulating. Porn is titillating.
All this talk about vibrators got me curious. I've used mine exclusively along up until now, and decided to bring it up with my boyfriend after reading all the comments. He was hesitant but game. The orgasm, with him thrusting, was mind blowing... Yes I'm doing that again!
All this talk about vibrators got me curious. I've used mine exclusively along up until now, and decided to bring it up with my boyfriend after reading all the comments. He was hesitant but game. The orgasm, with him thrusting, was mind blowing... Yes I'm doing that again!
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So, how do we get Saddlebacking to be a top hit with Google? And we want the link to come up when people search Saddleback also, correct?
I'm a little clueless, but I think using all the words Saddlebacking, Saddleback, and Saddlebacked like this, does the trick, I think.
I'm a little clueless, but I think using all the words Saddlebacking, Saddleback, and Saddlebacked like this, does the trick, I think.
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"...You poofs just don't have the balls..."
Amen to that! And if they thought that was bawdy, they should keep an eye on your column more often.
Amen to that! And if they thought that was bawdy, they should keep an eye on your column more often.
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Oolongtee, UrbanDictionary.com is your friend.
Be warned, though, it's one of those friends who's a mean drunk and frequently embarrasses you with his overgrown-frat-boy attitude.
Be warned, though, it's one of those friends who's a mean drunk and frequently embarrasses you with his overgrown-frat-boy attitude.
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Right on with your response to DAWG, Dan!
Why people would want to confine themselves to one style of sex, and the most disease and (if you're het) pregnancy prone sort at that, is beyond me.
Why people would want to confine themselves to one style of sex, and the most disease and (if you're het) pregnancy prone sort at that, is beyond me.
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we should make sure we link the term Saddleback, as in "to saddleback" rather than just "saddlebacking" as people type "saddleback" into search engines....
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Sadly, after all the media hype dies down, this will not have much presence. How often do you refer to teens having anal sex. the teens doing it won't call it saddlebacking, and neither will you or me.
Santorum is a term that can be used in various conversations. But oh well, it was funny while it lasted.
Santorum is a term that can be used in various conversations. But oh well, it was funny while it lasted.
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i'll be writing to our very liberal prime minister, kevin rudd (here in the land of oz) asking for saddlebacking instructions to enter the year 8 sex education cyllabus, right after the section about homosexuality being an 'alternative life choice'. yay dan - now it all makes sense!
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this is for DAWG, I have a strap on for my male partner. it is not for flicidness, it is for bondage. It is a harness that has a very large opening for the penis and a very nicely replicated penis shaped dildo for the anus. not only do I get to ride but he also gets riden at the same time.I have seen many forms of these in use in bondage.
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Shouldn't the definition submitter be identified and given credit?!! Let's face it, Dan is making this term popular but he isn't the creator. Give credit where credit is due :)
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I am SO peeved that when I was a teenage Christian, the girls thought anal sex was sex, BJs were sex and even milking counted. Mr. Warren is 40 years too late for me.
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Hi Dan,
Love you, hate this term. I live in the Saddleback Valley, as do many open minded people. I don't appreciate being stereotyped in this way. Please consider how you are "saddling" people who just happen to live in the vicinity of Rick Warren's megachurch.
Stephanie Buehler, Psy.D.,
Psychologist & Sex Therapist
www.theblogerotic.com
Love you, hate this term. I live in the Saddleback Valley, as do many open minded people. I don't appreciate being stereotyped in this way. Please consider how you are "saddling" people who just happen to live in the vicinity of Rick Warren's megachurch.
Stephanie Buehler, Psy.D.,
Psychologist & Sex Therapist
www.theblogerotic.com
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do you think there will be a problem with the difference between 'saddleback' church and the term 'saddlebacking'? due to the 'ing'... is it similar enough so as to compete with 'saddleback church' when googled? I cant wait until it is #1 on google. Great job everyone!!!!
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Shoot, I was voting for Def. #4; but #5, I guess, was my second choice. Anyway, glad a definition has been settled on...
--Karen the LairMistress
www.myspace.com/karenthelairmistress
--Karen the LairMistress
www.myspace.com/karenthelairmistress
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There's a campground in Central Idaho called Mormon Bend. I thought that was a great name for what you call saddlebacking.
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