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Joe Newton
I love my boyfriend of three years, but I fucked up. We've had our ups and downs—he broke up with me for two months last summer because he said he was "young and needs to feel free"—but we've always worked through things. He is super supportive of me, and we've both really grown a lot as people together. But despite the affection and love, I just don't feel wanted. I don't feel like he wants to fuck my brains out like he used to. In fact, he rarely does, even when I try to initiate sex. Over the last six months, I've struggled with depression and not feeling sexy, and not feeling wanted is making both things worse. Last year, we talked about opening up our relationship, but I wasn't really comfortable with it.
Long story short, I went to visit a friend in another city who lives practically next door to a former fling of mine from four years ago, and I ended up fooling around with the former fling. It wasn't full sex, but it was highly inappropriate. And yet... it felt so good to be wanted so badly.
I feel like a terrible person for so many reasons. I told my boyfriend—he didn't respond emotionally, and after 45 minutes he got up and left and said he would call me when he knew how he felt. I want him to forgive me, but I have a feeling he can't. I don't want to cause him any more pain than I already have, but I have no idea how to do that. Do I give him space? Do I go on with my life?
Self-Loathing Unfaithful Tramp
Go on with your life, SLUT. Suicide seems a little drastic, given the circumstances, so let's not open a vein over this.
It seems to me that the boyfriend was causing you a great deal of pain before you caused him pain. He has essentially rejected you again and again—the time he broke things off so he could "feel free" (what are you, a cage?), and the many times he's rejected you sexually and made you feel unwanted. Your sexual and emotional needs were not being met, and you succumbed to the attentions of a man who made you feel wanted. And that was unfortunate, SLUT, but it wasn't entirely your fault. If the boyfriend wasn't sending you the mother of all mixed signals—doesn't want to leave you, doesn't want to fuck you—you would have been either single and free to fool around on that trip or not at all interested in fooling around because you were getting what you needed at home.
So feel a little bad about what you did—you were technically involved with someone else when you messed around with that former fling—but don't feel too bad. This relationship needed to end; it wasn't making either of you happy. Think of it this way: You slammed your car into a brick wall and totaled the thing. But it was a lemon, SLUT, and now you're free to get yourself a new ride.
I have been considering becoming a woman. But the straight women I have talked to about this are very reluctant to assist me in my transition from being male to being female. I am wondering if you think that lesbians might be more open-minded in assisting me in my transition.
Gender Identity Readjustment Looming
You're considering becoming a woman—that's wonderful, GIRL, very interesting, very compelling stuff, always a special time in a man's life. But it's not like you're rushing a sorority; current members—the straight women you've approached, the lesbians you're thinking about approaching—are not obligated to answer your questions, offer you assistance, host a tea, or take even the slightest interest in your transition. Find a support group for MTFs, GIRL, and you'll find plenty of women—longtime members and new pledges—interested in hearing about your journey. But leave the women you meet in the normal course of your life—straight women and lesbians who are not your friends—alone.
There have to be people out there, walking among us, who enjoy having sex with those stretched earlobe holes, right? The first cook to be kicked off the new season of Top Chef had her lobes stretched around what looked like rims from P. Diddy's ride. I'm writing for confirmation that this "community" exists.
Happy With Seven Holes
As a general rule, HWSH, if it can be fucked, someone out there somewhere is fucking it, has fucked it, is about to fuck it, and has already posted videos of them fucking it on XTube. Not every hole gets a "community," HWSH, but every hole gets its fair share.
My hubby wants to do anal for my first time, him fucking me, and that's fine—but I'm only going to let him do it after he eats his own goo! Standoff! We've been married 17 years, and I think it would be hot! He thinks not! I say fair trade! I go down on him after he puts it in me sometimes, so I know how I taste! Am I the only woman who has ever asked her husband to eat his goo?!?
He is willing, finally, because he really, really wants to get into my ass. But was it wrong for me to ask? Am I a freak?!? I've asked around, and all my girls think I'm crazy and that it's a bad sign about our relationship! But we've got two great kids and we love each other and we have a really happy life! I just want to see my hubby eat his goo! My girls tell me I must be trying to make him gay! Nope! I just figured if he gets something he wants, I get something I want! Am I a freak?!? Please help!!! Tell me I am not a freak! Tell me others write about this!
You are respected in our household, and my husband will hear your answer because I intend to read it to him!!!
Great Oozing Orgasms
You're a freak, GOO—not that there's anything wrong with that, of course. As for the particulars...
You made granting your consent to fulfill his fantasy contingent upon his consenting to fulfill yours. That was manipulative and unfair of you, GOO, but it was also pretty freaking hot, just the kind of good-natured, give-and-take-no- prisoners power play that keeps the sex interesting after 17 years of marriage. And I don't just say that as a fan of goo-eating generally—you might have gotten a "yes" quicker if you didn't insist on calling it "goo"—but as a fan of sexual adventures and pushing boundaries.
You set a bar for the husband to clear, GOO, but you didn't set it too high or impossibly high. You weren't asking him to let you fuck his ass first, fair but more challenging, or to swallow some other dude's load, unfair and extremely challenging. You didn't ask him to do something he absolutely, positively couldn't do, and you didn't ask him to do something you haven't done yourself (swallow his loads, taste your own juices).
Finally, there's nothing gay about a guy eating his own come—unless, of course, he's eating it off some other guy.
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Dear Dan,
I watched you on MSNBC - interviewed by Keith Olbermann. You were awesome! Just one suggestion - when you said that the Democrats should "man up" - in the future would you perhaps consider another way of exprssing that thought, or at least say "man up and woman up" - there are a lot of women like me, who are active in the Democratic party - and telling us to "man up" is a bit sexist.
Thanks - Keep up the great work!
I watched you on MSNBC - interviewed by Keith Olbermann. You were awesome! Just one suggestion - when you said that the Democrats should "man up" - in the future would you perhaps consider another way of exprssing that thought, or at least say "man up and woman up" - there are a lot of women like me, who are active in the Democratic party - and telling us to "man up" is a bit sexist.
Thanks - Keep up the great work!
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Why was there nothing in the last response about the abuse of exclamation points and question marks?
I really wanted Dan to say, "You're a freak - not for your tame bits of kink, but because you have no clue how to punctuate. Chill out."
I really wanted Dan to say, "You're a freak - not for your tame bits of kink, but because you have no clue how to punctuate. Chill out."
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ahhh... a liberating article for all types of women. thanks Dan you're the best. "Goo" Girl Rocks... keep your Man interested
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AKKD,
I don't want to be a jerk, but people who get offended by people saying "man up" really make liberals in general look like a bunch of wussies.
Man up already. Or woman up. But, come on.
I don't want to be a jerk, but people who get offended by people saying "man up" really make liberals in general look like a bunch of wussies.
Man up already. Or woman up. But, come on.
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As a girl with 1.5" stretched ear lobes, I would say that I kind of doubt anyone would let you fuck their lobes, simply because it would not be good for the tissue. The chance of tearing, infection, etc, is WAAAY too high.
If we've spent years slowly and carefully stretching our lobes, there are not going to be many (I would never say never) of us who would let you fuck them up just to get your rocks off.
Also, with my size lobes (pretty big) I can only get about 3 small fingers through my lobes comfortably. You'd have to find someone with much bigger lobes or you'd better have a pretty small dick.
If we've spent years slowly and carefully stretching our lobes, there are not going to be many (I would never say never) of us who would let you fuck them up just to get your rocks off.
Also, with my size lobes (pretty big) I can only get about 3 small fingers through my lobes comfortably. You'd have to find someone with much bigger lobes or you'd better have a pretty small dick.
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GOO, there is nothing gay about a guy eating or tasting his own come, especially when the release involves a woman. Especially, when it's post facial, then its hot, at least that's the consensus amongst my girls.
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For the empty sacs who are too timid or PC (Pathetically Correct) to say "man up!", how about you just say "grow a pair" instead.
A pair could be testicles or ovaries. Your choice...
pussies.
A pair could be testicles or ovaries. Your choice...
pussies.
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Hetero men eating cum is just not typical. Not their own, and not somebody else's. That is really pushing a boundary for the hetero guy.
If I had to draw an equivalent, I would say eating cum for the hetero man is like a guy peeing in a woman's mouth for the woman. These are sexual practices that simply will garner more resistance, I suspect because to each gender the aforementioned sexual acts are (often) deemed more degrading.
I'm sure somebody will insist I am wrong, and yeah, I know, there are exceptions to these rules, but consider this: sexual practices are all normative. If not for these norms, a kiss on the cheek would be the social equivalent of cumming in a woman's mouth.
I think it is fairly obvious that a hetero man eating cum is simply more taboo than a woman accepting anal sex. This is only to say that GOO's husband should try to negotiate for more, perhaps for some ass to mouth action.
Hetero men eating cum is just not typical. Not their own, and not somebody else's. That is really pushing a boundary for the hetero guy.
If I had to draw an equivalent, I would say eating cum for the hetero man is like a guy peeing in a woman's mouth for the woman. These are sexual practices that simply will garner more resistance, I suspect because to each gender the aforementioned sexual acts are (often) deemed more degrading.
I'm sure somebody will insist I am wrong, and yeah, I know, there are exceptions to these rules, but consider this: sexual practices are all normative. If not for these norms, a kiss on the cheek would be the social equivalent of cumming in a woman's mouth.
I think it is fairly obvious that a hetero man eating cum is simply more taboo than a woman accepting anal sex. This is only to say that GOO's husband should try to negotiate for more, perhaps for some ass to mouth action.
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Dan, you are the one fomenting hatred, portraying we conservative christians as hostile. Glenn Beck and Rush continually advocate common sense solutions to problems in government and society, and if you would truly listen to them I think you would find yourself alligned with them in many of their viewpoints.
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Hello,
It's a singular delight to get to thank an athiest for mentioning some actual Christianity on television, as you did on the Olberman interview! There's very little Christianity to be viewed in the media these days, which pains me greatly. So, thanks very much indeed!
Could you kindly suggest where one might share a brief essay on why Jesus would not tell us we can't afford to tend the sick, and why Christianity does not teach us that health insurance reform is really a government plot to euthanize the weak and destroy America? Between the Bachmans and Bishops of the Roman Catholic Church of late, some of us who seek to follow Christ are in very real pain, and would find it downright medicinal to get this message out.
Is there some secular forum where - in spite of the static of lies and lunatics presently in posession of megaphones - where there's a chance that some word might be heard explaining why the Christian Right is, well...neither?
In any event, good work on the Countdown interview!
The Rev. Laina Wood Casillas
Blessings@Laina.us
It's a singular delight to get to thank an athiest for mentioning some actual Christianity on television, as you did on the Olberman interview! There's very little Christianity to be viewed in the media these days, which pains me greatly. So, thanks very much indeed!
Could you kindly suggest where one might share a brief essay on why Jesus would not tell us we can't afford to tend the sick, and why Christianity does not teach us that health insurance reform is really a government plot to euthanize the weak and destroy America? Between the Bachmans and Bishops of the Roman Catholic Church of late, some of us who seek to follow Christ are in very real pain, and would find it downright medicinal to get this message out.
Is there some secular forum where - in spite of the static of lies and lunatics presently in posession of megaphones - where there's a chance that some word might be heard explaining why the Christian Right is, well...neither?
In any event, good work on the Countdown interview!
The Rev. Laina Wood Casillas
Blessings@Laina.us
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Dan, can we get a lesbian themed column? Pretty please? Lots of hot dykey action and some freaky typical savage love drama. Thanks!!
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Dear # 13,
If Glenn Beck and Rush are really into providing "common sense solutions to problems", then maybe they should put it to a good use by advising GOO.
If Glenn Beck and Rush are really into providing "common sense solutions to problems", then maybe they should put it to a good use by advising GOO.
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Can we PLEASE get straight guys to end this myth that they are raging fuckmonsters who want to have sex always and if they ever turn it down it's because the woman has something seriously, seriously wrong with her? Because pretty much every straight woman I know has been turned down by a boyfriend with a low(er) sex drive and, while it's fine, different strokes and whatever, people still feel the need to perpetuate this myth. It's not doing anyone any good -- women who feel like freak sluts for wanting sex more than their boyfriends or husbands and guys who'd rather play videogames than screw.
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@17 - I am a straight man and your argument totally does not hold water. You have some issues I think with your own sexuality if the vitriol of your writing is any indication.
Eating ones own cum is not pushing any boundaries farther than asking a woman to take it up the ass who had never done so before.
Your idea of norms has gotten really twisted and you might want to talk to someone about that, because I am sening some pent up homo hormones within you.
Eating ones own cum is not pushing any boundaries farther than asking a woman to take it up the ass who had never done so before.
Your idea of norms has gotten really twisted and you might want to talk to someone about that, because I am sening some pent up homo hormones within you.
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Come on, hetero men eating a little cum is NOT atypical. Have you ever gone down on a girl after you've finished? As a kid, didn't you ever taste your own cum just to see what it was like? Maybe most straight guys aren't willing to admit to these things, but most of us have done them, just like many (most?) to-be-straight guys experimented at least a little with another boy when they were really young.
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I saw your interview on MSNBC, you are flat wrong about what is happening, Yes, religion is involved, not your thing, cool. Not one of the religious institutions I work with condones violence of any type. Perhaps you need to read, or watch Glenn Beck, no one will refute what he says, I know, me and my company do research to ascertain what the truth is before we rebroadcast it, (for a cell service company). Our clients want the truth, and we give it to them, the problem is the more I learn about this Administration, the more I get confused and concerned, btw, have you tried to read the health care bill? Prime example of this, it can only be described as the intentional misinformation put out by the Democrats. Oh and going on Olbermann, you do realize Jeffery Immelt is on the White House economic advisory panel, has now been named to the Federal Reserve Bank of New York, and has his hand in all the socialist causes, not to mention assisting in getting the former head of the AFL/CIO of New York named as President of the same Fed.
I guess what I am trying to say is, you have a right to your opinion, When Prop 8 passed in California; I saw more hate and intimidation in those few weeks from the stop 8 crowd, than from the Tea Party members in the last 4 months. Tolerance is a two way street.
So Sayeth the Impaler!
I guess what I am trying to say is, you have a right to your opinion, When Prop 8 passed in California; I saw more hate and intimidation in those few weeks from the stop 8 crowd, than from the Tea Party members in the last 4 months. Tolerance is a two way street.
So Sayeth the Impaler!
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On the cum-eating debate, I will side with those who say it's OK for GOO to ask her husband to eat his own come in exchange for anal sex -- note that, despite its popularity among hetero guys, anal sex is actually more difficult and potentially painful than eating semen. And like everything one tries because it pleases one's partner, the kick you get out of turning them on pays off royally. GOO's husband should just imagine how hot she will look while she's looking at him eating his semen. Remember: your pleasure, my pleasure, our pleasures...
I hope GOO's husband will agree. And then that both of them will think about where to go from there. Happy kinky fun!
I hope GOO's husband will agree. And then that both of them will think about where to go from there. Happy kinky fun!
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GIRL is a man, not a woman. Having a so-called "sex-change operation" will not make him a woman. It will make him a mutilated, hormone-addled man. "Sex change" is a fraud. If GIRL is confused about his gender, that is a mental problem, not a physical one.
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Dan, I was so pleased to hear your “somebody had to say it” comment on Olbermann tonight. Many of us have been pitching a fit about it for months, and now the secret message has been revealed to all.
Ever since Palin was carefully scrutinized, vetted and then coronated VP candidate by the McCain Campaign braintrust, we have been continually visited with comments (sometimes sutble, sometimes—as with Palin—not) veiled messages to the GOP nutball core of “You know, sometimes a president just gets killed in office, we don’t know how it really happens. Just one of those things. You know, you’re mad at the president because he’s going to kill your grandma and Sarah Palins little baby, you got a gun or whatever lying around, and it just-happens.”
If you and Olbermann didn’t prearrange his pullback after your comment, who cares (besides perhaps your booking agent, that is)? You’ve pointed out the turd in the punchbowl, plopped it right in the middle of the plate of murderous hors d’overs being served by the treasonous right, and now the discussion of what nobody wanted to discuss may begin.
Better yet, you’ve stuck your chin out and given us cover to launch the attack by referencing your comment! All I can say is what a guy! better you than me! and watch your back!
Truly, it is a relief to have someone who will push Olbermann occasionally beyond his comfort zone, especially on serious matters such as covert entreaties for assassination of a sitting president. Call me “old-fashioned,” but I really was raised to follow a basic code of ethics called “The Ten Commandments,” and we all know what the first one is.
For over 2 decades I’ve been the one in the real world and internet ethers I frequent, who delivered the turd-punchbowl commentary, and suffered the flak from the pantywaist circle-jerk liberals who seem to populate the majority of discussion outlets.
Now I can reply to liberals who cringe in horror when I point out the simple little turd right there for everyone to see, “No, I’ve not ‘gone too far yet again.’ Dan Savage, who was on [CHOIR SINGS] Keith Olbermann last night, agrees with me.”
Do you send out alerts to followers before your turd-punchbowl commentaries? If so, please add me to list. I would not want to miss any of them.
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Ever since Palin was carefully scrutinized, vetted and then coronated VP candidate by the McCain Campaign braintrust, we have been continually visited with comments (sometimes sutble, sometimes—as with Palin—not) veiled messages to the GOP nutball core of “You know, sometimes a president just gets killed in office, we don’t know how it really happens. Just one of those things. You know, you’re mad at the president because he’s going to kill your grandma and Sarah Palins little baby, you got a gun or whatever lying around, and it just-happens.”
If you and Olbermann didn’t prearrange his pullback after your comment, who cares (besides perhaps your booking agent, that is)? You’ve pointed out the turd in the punchbowl, plopped it right in the middle of the plate of murderous hors d’overs being served by the treasonous right, and now the discussion of what nobody wanted to discuss may begin.
Better yet, you’ve stuck your chin out and given us cover to launch the attack by referencing your comment! All I can say is what a guy! better you than me! and watch your back!
Truly, it is a relief to have someone who will push Olbermann occasionally beyond his comfort zone, especially on serious matters such as covert entreaties for assassination of a sitting president. Call me “old-fashioned,” but I really was raised to follow a basic code of ethics called “The Ten Commandments,” and we all know what the first one is.
For over 2 decades I’ve been the one in the real world and internet ethers I frequent, who delivered the turd-punchbowl commentary, and suffered the flak from the pantywaist circle-jerk liberals who seem to populate the majority of discussion outlets.
Now I can reply to liberals who cringe in horror when I point out the simple little turd right there for everyone to see, “No, I’ve not ‘gone too far yet again.’ Dan Savage, who was on [CHOIR SINGS] Keith Olbermann last night, agrees with me.”
Do you send out alerts to followers before your turd-punchbowl commentaries? If so, please add me to list. I would not want to miss any of them.
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Mr. Cayce:
I'm a woman and I agree with your comment about politically correct objections to "man-up," but for a different reason.
As an aggressive, goal-oriented woman, I frequently find myself using comments like "balls to the wall." Obviously, being a woman, I don't have balls of any kind, let alone any I could take to the wall.
But, truly, how would "ovaries to the wall" sound? Incredibly stupid and certainly not as strong as "balls to the wall."
You don't hear comments about someone's courage as them having "ovaries the size of oranges," do you?
So all of the anatomical references of courage, strength, assertiveness or aggressiveness are male.
The way I see it, until women get respect for their own reproductive organs in common and tacky vernacular, I'm stuck with using the male references.
I'm a woman and I agree with your comment about politically correct objections to "man-up," but for a different reason.
As an aggressive, goal-oriented woman, I frequently find myself using comments like "balls to the wall." Obviously, being a woman, I don't have balls of any kind, let alone any I could take to the wall.
But, truly, how would "ovaries to the wall" sound? Incredibly stupid and certainly not as strong as "balls to the wall."
You don't hear comments about someone's courage as them having "ovaries the size of oranges," do you?
So all of the anatomical references of courage, strength, assertiveness or aggressiveness are male.
The way I see it, until women get respect for their own reproductive organs in common and tacky vernacular, I'm stuck with using the male references.
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Dan goes on TV with weird streaky lighting/ make up issue that makes him look he's a college kid playing someone's dad in a musical. Which-- he looked like a kid pretending to be his own age-- so that's good?
Dan does his, "Look how OUTRAGEOUS I'm being shtick." Check out the sparkle in his eye just before he goes over the line even Keith Olbermann (!) won't cross.
The kinds of journalists who go to school don't bring up the possibility of assassination until there is something that has to be reported because it is universally seen as likely to encourage bloodshed.
Dan does his, "Look how OUTRAGEOUS I'm being shtick." Check out the sparkle in his eye just before he goes over the line even Keith Olbermann (!) won't cross.
The kinds of journalists who go to school don't bring up the possibility of assassination until there is something that has to be reported because it is universally seen as likely to encourage bloodshed.
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God damn, what kind of poor repressed housewife are you, GOO? It's called cum or semen, and a guy who's never tasted his own jizz is lying, a virgin, or the biggest prude this side of the Atlantic.
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Impaler:
1) The comment was not "ALL religious groups," so you create a strawman argument (logical fallacy) by arguing that the groups you work for don't advocate violence.
2) How well do you know the groups you work for? There are some groups that serve as launderers for other groups. So your group "XYZ Power" may not advocate violence but if they shuttle money to the "WHN And How" group that does advocate violence, XYZ Power may, indeed, be financing advocation of violence.
3) Most entreaties for violence are not overt, but covert. It is done with a series of not-even-subliminal comments and lies which lead the more gullible folks to be slowly convinced that an action they believe is wrong is actually kind of right or not so bad that doing it wouldn't be so wrong.
4) Many groups are actually a complex web of power and financial sharing. Groups like the Scaife foundations have in the past funded Free Congress Foundation which was involved in covert support of death squads in RENAMO and Operation Condor in Argentina, as well as many other CIA-related efforts to overthrow governments that were not willing to give away the country's resources to U.S. corporations, then the installation of a leader who would support U.S. corporations' plunder of the nation's resources. So Scaife can say he never funded support of death squads, but in fact he really did because his funding both provided the original funding for the launch of the FCF (as well as the Heritage Foundation) and was their major contributor for years.
5) Ever heard of Pat Robertson's "Operation Blessing"? It was part of his church ministry, supposedly planes fitted as medical support resource for countries in need of help. It was actually used for Robertson's exploitation of diamond mines in Zaire and in support of CIA covert efforts (http://www.peacecorpsonline.org/messages…). Robertson was given the rights to the mines shortly after Mugabe (with the aid of the CIA, which also supported Mugabe’s death squads) overthrew the Ian Smith regime. The Ian Smith regime was no icon of freedom, but it was a model of democracy, prosperity and peace when compared to what Mugabe has visted on Zaire as president. Robertson even appeared in public with Mugabe, knighting Mugabe with credibility by Robertson using his cloak of Christianity and his role as (at least at that time) not only being the leader of one of the largest Christian ministries in the U.S., but also a man who could walk up to Capitol Hill and gain access to many GOP politicians. If you follow OB’s history, you will find it was active almost always in areas where the CIA was involved in overthrowing a government.
I spent over 10 years doing research on the religious right. I am quite aware of what some religious PACs have done in the name of Jesus Christ.
Dan Savage was correct when he said that groups in the religious right have produced an actual decrease in the number of people who will even say they are Christian and who will admit they go to a Christian Church. That is the fault of both the filth on the religious right that participated or supported these heinous deeds AND of every Christian church in our nation who knew that these political groups using the banner of Christianity was doing in the name of Jesus and remained silent, letting the Pat Robertsons continue their fraud of their supporters and continue to use Christ’s name when assisting the CIA back murderous death squads like Mugabe’s.
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1) The comment was not "ALL religious groups," so you create a strawman argument (logical fallacy) by arguing that the groups you work for don't advocate violence.
2) How well do you know the groups you work for? There are some groups that serve as launderers for other groups. So your group "XYZ Power" may not advocate violence but if they shuttle money to the "WHN And How" group that does advocate violence, XYZ Power may, indeed, be financing advocation of violence.
3) Most entreaties for violence are not overt, but covert. It is done with a series of not-even-subliminal comments and lies which lead the more gullible folks to be slowly convinced that an action they believe is wrong is actually kind of right or not so bad that doing it wouldn't be so wrong.
4) Many groups are actually a complex web of power and financial sharing. Groups like the Scaife foundations have in the past funded Free Congress Foundation which was involved in covert support of death squads in RENAMO and Operation Condor in Argentina, as well as many other CIA-related efforts to overthrow governments that were not willing to give away the country's resources to U.S. corporations, then the installation of a leader who would support U.S. corporations' plunder of the nation's resources. So Scaife can say he never funded support of death squads, but in fact he really did because his funding both provided the original funding for the launch of the FCF (as well as the Heritage Foundation) and was their major contributor for years.
5) Ever heard of Pat Robertson's "Operation Blessing"? It was part of his church ministry, supposedly planes fitted as medical support resource for countries in need of help. It was actually used for Robertson's exploitation of diamond mines in Zaire and in support of CIA covert efforts (http://www.peacecorpsonline.org/messages…). Robertson was given the rights to the mines shortly after Mugabe (with the aid of the CIA, which also supported Mugabe’s death squads) overthrew the Ian Smith regime. The Ian Smith regime was no icon of freedom, but it was a model of democracy, prosperity and peace when compared to what Mugabe has visted on Zaire as president. Robertson even appeared in public with Mugabe, knighting Mugabe with credibility by Robertson using his cloak of Christianity and his role as (at least at that time) not only being the leader of one of the largest Christian ministries in the U.S., but also a man who could walk up to Capitol Hill and gain access to many GOP politicians. If you follow OB’s history, you will find it was active almost always in areas where the CIA was involved in overthrowing a government.
I spent over 10 years doing research on the religious right. I am quite aware of what some religious PACs have done in the name of Jesus Christ.
Dan Savage was correct when he said that groups in the religious right have produced an actual decrease in the number of people who will even say they are Christian and who will admit they go to a Christian Church. That is the fault of both the filth on the religious right that participated or supported these heinous deeds AND of every Christian church in our nation who knew that these political groups using the banner of Christianity was doing in the name of Jesus and remained silent, letting the Pat Robertsons continue their fraud of their supporters and continue to use Christ’s name when assisting the CIA back murderous death squads like Mugabe’s.
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P.S. to Impaler:
Are you aware what Rick Warren (Saddleback Church) is doing in Christ's name in Africa? Here's a tip: it will make anything Pat Robertson ever did look as pure as the driven snow, AND it is setting up Africa for an outbreak of disastrous proportions of any communicable disease that gains a toe-hold there.
Are you aware what Rick Warren (Saddleback Church) is doing in Christ's name in Africa? Here's a tip: it will make anything Pat Robertson ever did look as pure as the driven snow, AND it is setting up Africa for an outbreak of disastrous proportions of any communicable disease that gains a toe-hold there.
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@17; no, it's not fine. Those woman with fine, healthy libidos should drop those lame asses and hook up with someone else who isn't getting enough. And then the low libidos will fall in together. Once we get that all sorted out peace and happiness will reign.
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@24 (Warsaw)
Your gender politics and opinions are all well and good, but you sound to me like you're leveling the sort of hatred at GIRL (and by extension all transgendered and transsexual people) that speaks of putting your beliefs above other people's lives and sanity. I disagree very, very strongly with your statements.
Your gender politics and opinions are all well and good, but you sound to me like you're leveling the sort of hatred at GIRL (and by extension all transgendered and transsexual people) that speaks of putting your beliefs above other people's lives and sanity. I disagree very, very strongly with your statements.
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Um, spare us your political rants, all of you. (look left, look right) If I wanted to hear about Olberman or some such, I would be at Drudge.
Not every website comment section has to turn into the "Tastes Great! Less Filling!" scream fest you guys seek.
Not every website comment section has to turn into the "Tastes Great! Less Filling!" scream fest you guys seek.
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Its not about libido ,it`s about taking care of a partners needs.People who only have sex when they feel like it are selfish and manipulative.I know because I lived with one such person for fifteen years .In the future I won`t put up with a person like that,not even for fifteen seconds...BRADLEY
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Gaudior, there is no hatred at all (certainly not on my part). This is not a question of beliefs, but facts versus delusions. A man who thinks he is "really a woman inside" is deluded. He is not a woman. Mutilating him and stuffing him with hormones will not make him a woman. I may think I am the King of France, and you may even call me Majesty, but France is still a republic.
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Dan,
In your response to GIRL you seem to forget that straight (or lesbian) and transgender are not mutually exclusive! There are lots of straight and lesbian trans women.
And when you say the "normal" part of GIRL's life, did you mean the part where she pretends to be a man, or what?
I know your schitck is to be an asshole, but your ultimate goal here to is to educate right? I know it's probably really easy to just copy and paste your answers--but try changing them up a little bit next time.
In your response to GIRL you seem to forget that straight (or lesbian) and transgender are not mutually exclusive! There are lots of straight and lesbian trans women.
And when you say the "normal" part of GIRL's life, did you mean the part where she pretends to be a man, or what?
I know your schitck is to be an asshole, but your ultimate goal here to is to educate right? I know it's probably really easy to just copy and paste your answers--but try changing them up a little bit next time.
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Haven't most guys tasted their own cum before? I thought it was pretty standard for most guys to taste what they expected their sexual partners to suck out of their cock at least once.
Now I could see some straight guys not wanted to admit that they had tried it because it might sound kind of gay but it just seems like curiosity would get the best of most of them. Not to say they blew a load into a cup and savored it but at least suck their finger in the mess on them and gave it a quick taste.
Now I could see some straight guys not wanted to admit that they had tried it because it might sound kind of gay but it just seems like curiosity would get the best of most of them. Not to say they blew a load into a cup and savored it but at least suck their finger in the mess on them and gave it a quick taste.
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Dan, by all means, keep saying "man up".
When a faggot squeaks it out we just roll in the floor laughing.
When a faggot squeaks it out we just roll in the floor laughing.
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@ 26: Hey, AmazonRed, "C*nt To the Front!" sounds pretty agressive (not to say "ballsy")--how about using that? Best wishes.
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The Rev. Laina Wood Casillas,
Check out this blog post on healthcare as a moral issue:
http://aufhebung1.blogspot.com/2006/12/h…
I don't know if Bishop John Shelby Spong has written anything on the healthcare debate, but you might want to check out his writings, too.
Check out this blog post on healthcare as a moral issue:
http://aufhebung1.blogspot.com/2006/12/h…
I don't know if Bishop John Shelby Spong has written anything on the healthcare debate, but you might want to check out his writings, too.
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Impaler: You are a dumbass. Saying there was "more hate and intimidation" from the Stop Prop 8 crowd is ridiculous.
Many of us - especially those of us whose marriages were being voted on like a bad "The Bachelor" episode were ANGRY as hell but the only thing most of us hate is the hate spewed by lunatics like you who can't wrap your simple minds around the fact that when other people try to legislate what you do based on their own narrow views, you offend and upset people - people who should be able to focus their energies on helping our country instead of finding people to pick on and harrass.
And if you didn't see the hateful stuff that preceded the election last November, your head must have been in the sand. Or in your ass.
Many of us - especially those of us whose marriages were being voted on like a bad "The Bachelor" episode were ANGRY as hell but the only thing most of us hate is the hate spewed by lunatics like you who can't wrap your simple minds around the fact that when other people try to legislate what you do based on their own narrow views, you offend and upset people - people who should be able to focus their energies on helping our country instead of finding people to pick on and harrass.
And if you didn't see the hateful stuff that preceded the election last November, your head must have been in the sand. Or in your ass.
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Straight dudes shouldn't be afraid of their own juices. If my man cums on me, he isn't afraid to get it all over himself too, or to kiss it or taste it in my mouth. He doesn't stop and make a boundry of wherever on my body has cum on it. He just resumes, and it makes me feel loved and sexy, not "eww, go take a shower right away". It's not like he goes out of his way to eat it up, but it's nice we can enjoy eachother, and with whatever happend to be upon us.
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As a "cum-junkie" myself, when I have asked my partners to eat their own "goo", I have never encountered any resistence. Maybe because I am sooo enthusiastic they are curious? Maybe since I have tasted myslef on my lover's penises after sex, and expressed how much I love it they are more willing to taste themselves on my tongue?
Maybe it's all about the approach....mmmmm.. yummy results regardless!!!!
Maybe it's all about the approach....mmmmm.. yummy results regardless!!!!
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Jesus is happy when we take care of the sick.
He is not happy when we confiscate our neighbors income at gunpoint to spend on causes we pick as worthy.
Government healthcare is not an act of Christian love or "charity".
It is passing the buck on caring for your neighbor to the government.
Jesus is happy when we take care of the sick.
He is not happy when we confiscate our neighbors income at gunpoint to spend on causes we pick as worthy.
Government healthcare is not an act of Christian love or "charity".
It is passing the buck on caring for your neighbor to the government.
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Way to go Dan! Seems like everyone I talk to thinks that you gave the best 10 minutes of television they've seen in a long time. Way to put out!
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@44
Well christians aren't doing their job taking of people and I sure don't want to sit around waiting for some christian neighbor to come take care of me.
Why would christians support the profit making healthcare system in place today? Does refusing care to cancer patients to make a buck make jesus happy?
Well christians aren't doing their job taking of people and I sure don't want to sit around waiting for some christian neighbor to come take care of me.
Why would christians support the profit making healthcare system in place today? Does refusing care to cancer patients to make a buck make jesus happy?
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Amazonred @26
"balls to the wall" has nothing to do with testicles.
It's an aviation term. The throttle levers on old WWII airplanes had big red balls on the ends of them, to make them different from flap handles and landing gear levers. To make the plane go faster, you shove the throttles toward the instrument panel. To go all out, max thrust, you push the throttles all the way forward - "balls to the wall".
"balls to the wall" has nothing to do with testicles.
It's an aviation term. The throttle levers on old WWII airplanes had big red balls on the ends of them, to make them different from flap handles and landing gear levers. To make the plane go faster, you shove the throttles toward the instrument panel. To go all out, max thrust, you push the throttles all the way forward - "balls to the wall".
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@32 To be trans is to feel that the gender you were assigned at birth does not match up with an inherent, natural sense of yourself as something other than that gender. Why is this concept so outrageous and threatening, why does it need to indicate something diseased? Why do you think you're an expert?
The problem with protesting this hard and this angrily, of course, is that people automatically assume that you're up late at night watching trans lady porn. And there's nothing wrong with that, of course, those performers need people to buy their video content...
The problem with protesting this hard and this angrily, of course, is that people automatically assume that you're up late at night watching trans lady porn. And there's nothing wrong with that, of course, those performers need people to buy their video content...
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@36
I think you are reading too much negativity into Dan's answer to GIRL. He is saying go find a supportive group who explicitly cares about your transition and can give advice, not find support/advice from the women you have regular associations with.
I think you are reading too much negativity into Dan's answer to GIRL. He is saying go find a supportive group who explicitly cares about your transition and can give advice, not find support/advice from the women you have regular associations with.
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Rev. Laina Wood Casillas, if you really want to get your message out, you're going to have to invest as much in media and public relations as your competing Christians.
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I'm a little surprised in this day and age that people think a hetero man eating his own come is a big deal. It just ain't people...it just ain't. And while anal sex isn't a big deal either it's much more difficult, requires much more preparation and is potentially much more painful than eating one's own come. Personally I think GOO is letting her hubby off easy. She should make him eat his come several times before she gives up her ass. And yeah, I'm a hetero guy who will eat his own come without a second thought and fucks his hot wife in the ass all the time.
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and I'm sure those MEN flying, fighting and who died in WW2 were not making dick jokes (# 48.)
Ladies its just a term of endearment, no one doubts your importance
Ladies its just a term of endearment, no one doubts your importance
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Hey 44,
It's very fun and melodramatic to say the President is going to "confiscate our neighbors income at gunpoint", but the correct way of saying it would be "taxes". I know that's a dirty word for you, but it's completely legitimate.
By the way, did you complain and cry about how upset Jesus would be when Dubya confiscated my income at gunpoint to spend on a cause he thought was worthy, namely killing hundreds of thousands of innocent Iraqis??
You need to go back and read your Bible, because if you don't think Jesus believed in caring for the sick, you're crazy.
Finally, Jesus view on taxation: "Give unto Caesar what is Caesar's. Give unto God what is God's." Translated from Amish-speak, he's saying pay your taxes.
And 53, I absolutely think the guys in WWII were making dick jokes. They were men, not saints. Have you ever been around a group of guys in the teens and 20's who did NOT make dick jokes?
It's very fun and melodramatic to say the President is going to "confiscate our neighbors income at gunpoint", but the correct way of saying it would be "taxes". I know that's a dirty word for you, but it's completely legitimate.
By the way, did you complain and cry about how upset Jesus would be when Dubya confiscated my income at gunpoint to spend on a cause he thought was worthy, namely killing hundreds of thousands of innocent Iraqis??
You need to go back and read your Bible, because if you don't think Jesus believed in caring for the sick, you're crazy.
Finally, Jesus view on taxation: "Give unto Caesar what is Caesar's. Give unto God what is God's." Translated from Amish-speak, he's saying pay your taxes.
And 53, I absolutely think the guys in WWII were making dick jokes. They were men, not saints. Have you ever been around a group of guys in the teens and 20's who did NOT make dick jokes?
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"Jesus is happy when we take care of the sick.
He is not happy when we confiscate our neighbors income at gunpoint to spend on causes we pick as worthy."
Listen, this is true. Jesus actually said, "Consider the lillies of the field. They toil not, neither do they payeth taxes, and they doubly not payeth for healthcare taxes, especially when the recipient may be some random Mexican." John 3:19-20, I'm serious.
Actually wait. He didn't say that. And more to the point, who cares, he was just a guy that died 2000 years ago, and the imaginary sky Gods offer us nothing of value when it comes to debating ethics or government policies.
He is not happy when we confiscate our neighbors income at gunpoint to spend on causes we pick as worthy."
Listen, this is true. Jesus actually said, "Consider the lillies of the field. They toil not, neither do they payeth taxes, and they doubly not payeth for healthcare taxes, especially when the recipient may be some random Mexican." John 3:19-20, I'm serious.
Actually wait. He didn't say that. And more to the point, who cares, he was just a guy that died 2000 years ago, and the imaginary sky Gods offer us nothing of value when it comes to debating ethics or government policies.
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Lucky for us the Constitution protects us from being taxed to implement your personal religious views.
Lucky for us the Constitution protects us from being taxed to implement your personal religious views.
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Man eating his own come is not so weird. Remember eating snot when you were little? Well the only reason you didn't eat come when you were 3 was that you didn't have any. It's a matter of timing.
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Assumedly the husband has kissed her after coming in her mouth, so it's not like he hasn't tasted it already. Every time I kiss my boyfriend with a mouth full of his cum, I ask, "So, are you gay now?" He says, "not yet." So apparently it takes a while to turn the man gay. Just saying.
@#12--you have a way more interesting sex life than I do. If I follow your logic . . .it is a normal everyday activity for a man to come in a woman's mouth. Therefore, a woman sharing that cum with the man is a little odd. So . . . it is a normal, everyday act for a man to pee into his own mouth. Therefore, the man sharing that pee with a woman is also a little odd, in your world. Did I get that right? And, if so, is that why you sound so pissy?
@#12--you have a way more interesting sex life than I do. If I follow your logic . . .it is a normal everyday activity for a man to come in a woman's mouth. Therefore, a woman sharing that cum with the man is a little odd. So . . . it is a normal, everyday act for a man to pee into his own mouth. Therefore, the man sharing that pee with a woman is also a little odd, in your world. Did I get that right? And, if so, is that why you sound so pissy?
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@12 flawless logic, I would love to hear you truly justify this. Women are expected to eat cum regularly, it's not bad for you. Urine on the other hand is not healthy to drink.
Why is it okay for a girl to do so, and not a man? It's not going to do them one bit of harm. I see it as no different than asking you to eat something distasteful, which is EXACTLY what it is. Truth is, you don't even know if it tastes bad if you have never tried it. Some like it, some don't, some like peas, some don't.
#24 Warsaw, define man and woman.
Chromosomes are not an accurate measure, neither are the sex organs themselves. Nature gets a lot of things wrong. There many, many who walk among you who are not 100% correct male or female. Your view of human anatomy is extremely narrow and ignorant.
Why is it okay for a girl to do so, and not a man? It's not going to do them one bit of harm. I see it as no different than asking you to eat something distasteful, which is EXACTLY what it is. Truth is, you don't even know if it tastes bad if you have never tried it. Some like it, some don't, some like peas, some don't.
#24 Warsaw, define man and woman.
Chromosomes are not an accurate measure, neither are the sex organs themselves. Nature gets a lot of things wrong. There many, many who walk among you who are not 100% correct male or female. Your view of human anatomy is extremely narrow and ignorant.
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Warsaw, you need to get your facts straight.
Thousands of infants are born with intersex (male and female) characteristics; society quickly sorts them almost immediately through surgery, but that doesn't stop from many individuals having ambiguous sexual identities. You choose to ridicule these people, describing them as possessing mental disorders. They very well may have significant psychological issues stemming from their identity crisis, but that's based on a physiological reality that society has systemically ignored & marginalized throughout history.
http://www.isna.org/
Thousands of infants are born with intersex (male and female) characteristics; society quickly sorts them almost immediately through surgery, but that doesn't stop from many individuals having ambiguous sexual identities. You choose to ridicule these people, describing them as possessing mental disorders. They very well may have significant psychological issues stemming from their identity crisis, but that's based on a physiological reality that society has systemically ignored & marginalized throughout history.
http://www.isna.org/
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I would suggest to goo girl that she find some other fantasy of hers that her hubby would be willing to fulfill, rather than forcing him to do something he really doesn't want to do. There's pushing boundaries, and then there's extortion.
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To flawless logic : are you serious?
Peeing is NO equivalent to cum... most girls have cum in their mouth while they're still virgins even... and plenty of guys kiss them afterward, maybe not deeply, maybe with a wince, but cum is the most commonly mouthed bodily fluid after saliva.
Whereas pee-in-mouth is NOT a "norm" of sexual play ... it is squarely in the fetish zone (or extreme emergency wilderness hydration/medicine).
Don't egrandize your squeamishness rationalizations as if it's "Logic". You have the right to your tastes and dis-tastes... but I've kissed plenty of hetro guys after going down on them, and they were plenty men about it, and plenty hetro.
Peeing is NO equivalent to cum... most girls have cum in their mouth while they're still virgins even... and plenty of guys kiss them afterward, maybe not deeply, maybe with a wince, but cum is the most commonly mouthed bodily fluid after saliva.
Whereas pee-in-mouth is NOT a "norm" of sexual play ... it is squarely in the fetish zone (or extreme emergency wilderness hydration/medicine).
Don't egrandize your squeamishness rationalizations as if it's "Logic". You have the right to your tastes and dis-tastes... but I've kissed plenty of hetro guys after going down on them, and they were plenty men about it, and plenty hetro.
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For Goo, have him cum in you and eat it out of you. Trust me this really isn't all that gross. If he doesn't have a problem eating you that is, and if he does then you have an whole different set of issues. Mostly it is going to taste like a combo of you both and this might get him over the freaking out. It isn't like you asked to peg him. Which I have actually set as the trade off for anal in one case.
Now for the actual anal. It isn't that bad, go slow, don't tense up, use lots of lube, and remember pain = stop, and try again in a few days. Might I suggest small toys to start as not all people are able to take a dick up there ass with out training. Just be willing to try again if it hurts. Because my guess is if you have been married this long and haven't tried it there is a reason even if it is just mental. I am a girl and I rather enjoy getting fucked up the ass. Good luck...
Now for the actual anal. It isn't that bad, go slow, don't tense up, use lots of lube, and remember pain = stop, and try again in a few days. Might I suggest small toys to start as not all people are able to take a dick up there ass with out training. Just be willing to try again if it hurts. Because my guess is if you have been married this long and haven't tried it there is a reason even if it is just mental. I am a girl and I rather enjoy getting fucked up the ass. Good luck...
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I'd like to know what women find hot about seeing a man eat his own sperm. If you have some insight into that, I'd like to know.
As for resistance to eating one's own sperm, I think the husband's resistance may come from the fear that if he does it in front of his wife, he'll be perceived by her as less of a man/attractive.
As for resistance to eating one's own sperm, I think the husband's resistance may come from the fear that if he does it in front of his wife, he'll be perceived by her as less of a man/attractive.
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AmazonRed - fuck off with your over-educated PC bullshit. Fuckwits like you actually make me think the Republicans aren't that bad.
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to HWSH: I have already seen at least one picture of a dick through someone's stretched lobe-hole.
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Warsaw, your comment was funny, but I think not quite accurate. A small but significant percentage of newborns have a mismatch between external genitalia, internal sex organs, and hormone profiles, so for these babies, gender is ambiguous and perhaps not at all immutable and absolute.
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"A small but significant percentage of newborns have a mismatch between external genitalia, internal sex organs, and hormone profiles, so for these babies, gender is ambiguous and perhaps not at all immutable and absolute."
Yes, but that explanation overlaps poorly with observed trans behavior. Show me something that says a substantial fraction of transexuals actually have anatomic or hormonal intersex features. Trust me, if people could tell who they were there would be a LOT less controversy over the issue. Most are normal anatomic males with plenty of testosterone--I've met a bunch having sex or on viagra they only needed after estrogens and spironolactone took the edge off their boners (medical settings only).
Yes, but that explanation overlaps poorly with observed trans behavior. Show me something that says a substantial fraction of transexuals actually have anatomic or hormonal intersex features. Trust me, if people could tell who they were there would be a LOT less controversy over the issue. Most are normal anatomic males with plenty of testosterone--I've met a bunch having sex or on viagra they only needed after estrogens and spironolactone took the edge off their boners (medical settings only).
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@#12:
Hetero men eating cum may not be normative sex, but a girl getting a cock up her ass isn't normative sex either, so yeah, still fair trade.
Hetero men eating cum may not be normative sex, but a girl getting a cock up her ass isn't normative sex either, so yeah, still fair trade.
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Goo- you are my hero. Your husband wants you that badly after 17 years of marriage? I think I'm going to have to show my husband this week's column and commenters. Good for you and good for him. Dan was right- definitely freakin hot.
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@15
Here's your dyke column from Dan: pussies are icky, lesbians are uncool and full of drama, but Dan will "man up" and admit that there are some hot buch firefighter dykes that he would *theoretically* fuck. Also, some of his best friends are dykes.
Anything more insightful or empathetic about lesbians from Dan would be an f-ing miracle...
Here's your dyke column from Dan: pussies are icky, lesbians are uncool and full of drama, but Dan will "man up" and admit that there are some hot buch firefighter dykes that he would *theoretically* fuck. Also, some of his best friends are dykes.
Anything more insightful or empathetic about lesbians from Dan would be an f-ing miracle...
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@15
Here's your dyke column from Dan: pussies are icky, lesbians are uncool and full of drama, but Dan will "man up" and admit that there are some hot buch firefighter dykes that he would *theoretically* fuck. Also, some of his best friends are dykes.
Anything more insightful or empathetic about lesbians from Dan would be an f-ing miracle...
Here's your dyke column from Dan: pussies are icky, lesbians are uncool and full of drama, but Dan will "man up" and admit that there are some hot buch firefighter dykes that he would *theoretically* fuck. Also, some of his best friends are dykes.
Anything more insightful or empathetic about lesbians from Dan would be an f-ing miracle...
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My guess is that GOO's husband believes she'll enjoy anal sex as much as he will - but on the other hand, GOO doesn't think her husband will enjoy eating his own jism. Why would you want your partner to do something he finds repulsive?! Why not pick a never-fulfilled fantasy that he might actually enjoy? Or is the fact that he'll hate doing it precisely the thing that turns you on? If that's the case, then yeah - you're a freak.
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Eating cum...? Lick. Swallow. Done in one second. Big deal! C'mon, monkeys, just do it. Better than whining. Slurp, done!
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Did the last writer say that she told her daughters about her husband's desires? ("My girls tell me I must be trying to make him gay.") Hopefully her daughters are grown women and they all talk about sex anyway, so this isn't way over the line.
I say ew. Ew ew ew.
I say ew. Ew ew ew.
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@44 (St Pius) Gee, I sure hope your poor neighbor without health insurance gets ALS (Lou Gherig's Disease) so you can spend the rest of his life being his caregiver, buying all the equipment he needs to survive, emptying his urine bag, pureeing his food, changing his cath, and giving him suppositories so his bowels move.
Yeah, that's what we all would prefer: self-righteous Xtians offering us charity so they can get a higher seat next to Jayzus.
Why do I bet money you aren't engaged in a single charitable act beyond dropping some change in an occasional box? I bet you send more money to the NRA and the GOP though.
BTW, why do I also bet you considered the Iraq war a "necessary cause" worth spending your neighbor's income on?
You are so blind you must have had somebody else type your comment.
Yeah, that's what we all would prefer: self-righteous Xtians offering us charity so they can get a higher seat next to Jayzus.
Why do I bet money you aren't engaged in a single charitable act beyond dropping some change in an occasional box? I bet you send more money to the NRA and the GOP though.
BTW, why do I also bet you considered the Iraq war a "necessary cause" worth spending your neighbor's income on?
You are so blind you must have had somebody else type your comment.
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Dear Goo,
I praise you for sticking to your guns and making him taste his own goo, I think I will have to take that apporoach too!
I praise you for sticking to your guns and making him taste his own goo, I think I will have to take that apporoach too!
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I really am amazed that Dan din't comment on the ridiculous amount of exclamation points in that last letter...it did come off as a teenager writing it. And "goo"...are you effing kidding me?!!
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To "SLUT":
ALL men get bored of having sex with their female partners (wives/girlfriends/etc) after about 9-12 months (tops). Blame it on biology. Males are biologically "wired" to have sex with as many partners as possible, in order to spread our genetic material as far and wide as possible.
I don't know one healthy man who could honestly say they are still excited about having sex with their female partners after about 12 months. Yeah, we'll have sex with you, and we'll even enjoy it, but it's not like it's hot anymore for us. It's not that you aren't sexy, it's just that it gets boring to keep humping the same chick all the time. And the guys that DO think it's still sexy and hot? They're just saying that. Trust me.
Why else do you think a guy would rather play a video game than have sex with you? (Because the game is actually a challenge).
If you really need men to f**k you in order to feel sexy, you might want to consider non-monogamous relationships. Seriously. And if you really think you did your man wrong by "cheating", I won't even go into how us men deal with the frustration and boredom that comes from regular monogamous sex. Don't feel bad about cheating. It's one of the few ways to keep monogamy interesting (until you turn 50 and you don't care about being "sexy" anymore).
ALL men get bored of having sex with their female partners (wives/girlfriends/etc) after about 9-12 months (tops). Blame it on biology. Males are biologically "wired" to have sex with as many partners as possible, in order to spread our genetic material as far and wide as possible.
I don't know one healthy man who could honestly say they are still excited about having sex with their female partners after about 12 months. Yeah, we'll have sex with you, and we'll even enjoy it, but it's not like it's hot anymore for us. It's not that you aren't sexy, it's just that it gets boring to keep humping the same chick all the time. And the guys that DO think it's still sexy and hot? They're just saying that. Trust me.
Why else do you think a guy would rather play a video game than have sex with you? (Because the game is actually a challenge).
If you really need men to f**k you in order to feel sexy, you might want to consider non-monogamous relationships. Seriously. And if you really think you did your man wrong by "cheating", I won't even go into how us men deal with the frustration and boredom that comes from regular monogamous sex. Don't feel bad about cheating. It's one of the few ways to keep monogamy interesting (until you turn 50 and you don't care about being "sexy" anymore).
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You would lose those bets.
Conservatives as a group are much more generous givers than liberals.
You would lose those bets.
Conservatives as a group are much more generous givers than liberals.
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I'm a gay guy; I tried tasting my own come once & hated it (it reminded me of week-old borscht) & I've never done it again. But then I'm also a gay guy who refuses to engage in anal sex, which apparently many str8 guys do engage in, so figure that one out.
The confusion continues!
And btw, does anyone really believe that Dan reads these posts? Je ne le pense pas.
The confusion continues!
And btw, does anyone really believe that Dan reads these posts? Je ne le pense pas.
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You are a complete idiot who who runs a cheap savage love column and you pair up well with a MTV V-Jay such as Olbermann. To washed up journalist who will never be taken seriously and leave no legacy. People like you come and go. And your ratings on MSNBC should give you a clue.
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ROGO @13 you aren't the only one who has noticed the the common association, however errant, between Christianity and hardline fundamentalism. Much of this is thanks to those who were given the spotlight, and access to the administration during the Bush era. Such groups acted as if their reign would never end, and it could be some time before Christians or conservatives are trusted again in the US.
Of course, the vocal extremist minority who still has access to the mic continues to speak for the prosecution in this regard, as do the angry internet militants who wish Hellfire upon all who disagree with them. They, like Jack Chick's tracts, have almost become self satirizing. But it isn't Dan's fault this has happened.
As a teenager, I was flexible enough to autofellate (NSFW), and, indeed, this was, for a while, my primary method of masturbation. (And no, I'm not as endowed as Ron Jeremy, I was just really bendy then. Think Short Bus) Consequentially, I've never been bothered by the taste or texture of my ejaculate (though there's an icky aftertaste when I'd swallow). I guess the lack of curiosity amongst other het guys is somewhat surprising.
Sadly, I'm analphobic, or copraphobic, but either way am silly scared of santorum, so I won't be anally penetrating or being anally penetrated for the foreseeable future.
Of course, the vocal extremist minority who still has access to the mic continues to speak for the prosecution in this regard, as do the angry internet militants who wish Hellfire upon all who disagree with them. They, like Jack Chick's tracts, have almost become self satirizing. But it isn't Dan's fault this has happened.
As a teenager, I was flexible enough to autofellate (NSFW), and, indeed, this was, for a while, my primary method of masturbation. (And no, I'm not as endowed as Ron Jeremy, I was just really bendy then. Think Short Bus) Consequentially, I've never been bothered by the taste or texture of my ejaculate (though there's an icky aftertaste when I'd swallow). I guess the lack of curiosity amongst other het guys is somewhat surprising.
Sadly, I'm analphobic, or copraphobic, but either way am silly scared of santorum, so I won't be anally penetrating or being anally penetrated for the foreseeable future.
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Come is very nutritious. Just like dairy products it can be a vector for disease, but not necessarily if the donor is healthy.
You don't see people saying ick about breast milk, yet the mother must have her health-- same for come.
You don't see people saying ick about breast milk, yet the mother must have her health-- same for come.
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@76: Her girlfriends. Not her girl-children. Dur.
@84: yawn
@85: Ever heard of an enema? Anything that slides out of me post coital is lickably clean.
@87: Come isn't "very nutritious;" there's just enough sugars to fuel sperm to an egg. If there was lots of good stuff in it, teenage boys all over would be malnourished parting with it 5 times a day.
@84: yawn
@85: Ever heard of an enema? Anything that slides out of me post coital is lickably clean.
@87: Come isn't "very nutritious;" there's just enough sugars to fuel sperm to an egg. If there was lots of good stuff in it, teenage boys all over would be malnourished parting with it 5 times a day.
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@26 Said:
"So all of the anatomical references of courage, strength, assertiveness or aggressiveness are male.
"The way I see it, until women get respect for their own reproductive organs in common and tacky vernacular, I'm stuck with using the male references."
This is what I say:
"Wow, that woman sure has clit."
"So all of the anatomical references of courage, strength, assertiveness or aggressiveness are male.
"The way I see it, until women get respect for their own reproductive organs in common and tacky vernacular, I'm stuck with using the male references."
This is what I say:
"Wow, that woman sure has clit."
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Impaler (#22) I hope you never run into a guy like the reverend (sic) Stephen Anderson whose "I Hate Obama and I Pray He Dies" diatribe has made it to the media (Google his name and Baptist to find him) but he is not alone. I have met people like him all across the continent. I hope the peaceable Christians "man up" and make them take the back seat again. Otherwise we'll have pogroms and ethnic cleansing in the US of A.
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Not all straight women are narrow. I have had a couple of transgender friends and I was happy to help them with the process of learning to look and act more like a real woman. I can only speak from my own perceptive of course, not for all women, but sure I would answer those questions. Why not?
"Girl" needs better friends, people who will accept her and go with her on the journey. Transgender support group definitely the way to go, but a good pal, of any sexuality would still accept and help her out anyway.
Gender isn't always about what's between your legs. My male cat is looking like a "girl" down there too, but that doesn't mean he's any less a boy because he had to have surgery. In his head he's a Tom, period, and for the record a complete lack of genitals hasn't stopped him from courting a lady cat or two. He got around his disability in a way I can't discuss here and which you probably wouldn't believe if I told you anyway, laugh, but my point is he's still a BOY where it counts, in his head.
Girl is a girl where it counts, in the head. But being raised as a girl "she" may have a few problems adjusting to behaving like one. Questions to ask. Who is she going to ask if not other women? Other transsexuals who may or may not be able to help answer the questions honestly?
Finding a hetero gal friend who won't judge, who will help probably won't be easy outside a trans-gender group. More likely than not she'll end up talking with a relative of someone met in the group before she'll ever end up talking to pals at work or whatever. But telling her to bug off where the straight women in her life already are concerned isn't very helpful. She may very well find a kinder soul who will accept her and answer her questions from a straight female perspective. You never know. But hey you don't ask, you don't get. You know?
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"Girl" needs better friends, people who will accept her and go with her on the journey. Transgender support group definitely the way to go, but a good pal, of any sexuality would still accept and help her out anyway.
Gender isn't always about what's between your legs. My male cat is looking like a "girl" down there too, but that doesn't mean he's any less a boy because he had to have surgery. In his head he's a Tom, period, and for the record a complete lack of genitals hasn't stopped him from courting a lady cat or two. He got around his disability in a way I can't discuss here and which you probably wouldn't believe if I told you anyway, laugh, but my point is he's still a BOY where it counts, in his head.
Girl is a girl where it counts, in the head. But being raised as a girl "she" may have a few problems adjusting to behaving like one. Questions to ask. Who is she going to ask if not other women? Other transsexuals who may or may not be able to help answer the questions honestly?
Finding a hetero gal friend who won't judge, who will help probably won't be easy outside a trans-gender group. More likely than not she'll end up talking with a relative of someone met in the group before she'll ever end up talking to pals at work or whatever. But telling her to bug off where the straight women in her life already are concerned isn't very helpful. She may very well find a kinder soul who will accept her and answer her questions from a straight female perspective. You never know. But hey you don't ask, you don't get. You know?
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That thing about having sex with a spacer-ed ear lobe? It's not really having sex with a hole; more like with a rubber band. Sounds unsatisfying to me.
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FYI -
http://www.thewrap.com/ind-column/burn-n…
"The series is described as a buddy cop drama. Jack is an ambitious, by-the-book cop who is partnered with with Dan Savage, a drunken, lecherous, wild-card cop who only hangs onto his job because of a heroic act many years prior. Amazingly, crimes still get solved."
I know, people don't own their names, but still....
http://www.thewrap.com/ind-column/burn-n…
"The series is described as a buddy cop drama. Jack is an ambitious, by-the-book cop who is partnered with with Dan Savage, a drunken, lecherous, wild-card cop who only hangs onto his job because of a heroic act many years prior. Amazingly, crimes still get solved."
I know, people don't own their names, but still....
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sometimes shutting @88 if I were to assume all anonymous comments with snarky siglines come from you (which I do, even when you appear to argue with yourself), then I reckon you have no business deciding what is or is not appropriate for disclosure, i.e. what is TMI. Get one of your registered friends to concurr, and I'll consider it.
Were I talking about copraphagic tendencies, I might agree with you, just to spare our readers their breakfasts.
Were I talking about copraphagic tendencies, I might agree with you, just to spare our readers their breakfasts.
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AmazonRed (@26, I think) I know what you mean about all 'tough' vernacular expressions being male-genital-centric. Well, how about:
'I wouldn't like to see what's coming outta her womb...'?
Hmmm?
Or:
'She's got Labia of Lead....'?
Come on, Savage Love readers, we must be able to come up with some more female centric tough-talk...
'I wouldn't like to see what's coming outta her womb...'?
Hmmm?
Or:
'She's got Labia of Lead....'?
Come on, Savage Love readers, we must be able to come up with some more female centric tough-talk...
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SLUT's question rang a bell for me.
A couple years ago, my colleague was going through depression, and his therapist gave him some advice which sounded a little—oh—familiar with what SLUT said: Because he wasn't feeling 'wanted' by his spouse, he should try and make his own 'happiness'—that feeling of being 'wanted'—a priority; finding it however and wherever it might present itself.
This advice—crudely administered—led my colleague into a Prozac prescription, having an affair, divorcing his new spouse, going through hell with his young and immature new lover, and finally, after two suicide attempts and a very rocky period with his employer, a life with another lover two thirds his age.
The experience left him noticeably altered—not entirely for the better, to be honest. There's a cloud of sadness around him where there used to be energetic and earnest vivacity. Who am I to know if he's happier? I hope he feels 'wanted' now, but I can't help thinking:
Is this sort of advice common among licensed therapists? Did SLUT get the same advice my colleague received when she (presumably) sought council during her depression? Is there such thing as a Therapists' Party Line?
A couple years ago, my colleague was going through depression, and his therapist gave him some advice which sounded a little—oh—familiar with what SLUT said: Because he wasn't feeling 'wanted' by his spouse, he should try and make his own 'happiness'—that feeling of being 'wanted'—a priority; finding it however and wherever it might present itself.
This advice—crudely administered—led my colleague into a Prozac prescription, having an affair, divorcing his new spouse, going through hell with his young and immature new lover, and finally, after two suicide attempts and a very rocky period with his employer, a life with another lover two thirds his age.
The experience left him noticeably altered—not entirely for the better, to be honest. There's a cloud of sadness around him where there used to be energetic and earnest vivacity. Who am I to know if he's happier? I hope he feels 'wanted' now, but I can't help thinking:
Is this sort of advice common among licensed therapists? Did SLUT get the same advice my colleague received when she (presumably) sought council during her depression? Is there such thing as a Therapists' Party Line?
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Sockpuppet Obama, Snarky Idjit @96, 98, 99 ad nauseum, I assume by inferring your belief that I should be humiliated by the particulars of my sexuality that you also believe that the details of anyone's sexuality should also be humiliating?
It would make sense. Some time ago you were accusing me of Pygmalionism. But I would think on Savage Love, nothing in the sexual arena is taboo.
Are you still in middle school?
You've got issues, dude.
Not that that's technically a bad thing; we all have issues. Some things might humiliate me, were they to be made public, but my history of autofellatio and the exit-only status of my rectum aren't among them.
You, in the meantime, seem to be struggling to keep your own Freudian slip from blowing right off.
Good luck with that.
It would make sense. Some time ago you were accusing me of Pygmalionism. But I would think on Savage Love, nothing in the sexual arena is taboo.
Are you still in middle school?
You've got issues, dude.
Not that that's technically a bad thing; we all have issues. Some things might humiliate me, were they to be made public, but my history of autofellatio and the exit-only status of my rectum aren't among them.
You, in the meantime, seem to be struggling to keep your own Freudian slip from blowing right off.
Good luck with that.
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Jesus is happy when straight men eat their "goo!"
Jesus is happy when ... I guess when we throw demon-possessed pigs at out-of-season fig trees.
What is up with these posts about the Keith Olberman show? Don't they know how to write Dan an email? Or do they really believe Dan sits there breathlessly reading all the comments on his column online?
Cuz he doesn't, Christies. Just sayin'.
Jesus is happy when ... I guess when we throw demon-possessed pigs at out-of-season fig trees.
What is up with these posts about the Keith Olberman show? Don't they know how to write Dan an email? Or do they really believe Dan sits there breathlessly reading all the comments on his column online?
Cuz he doesn't, Christies. Just sayin'.
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Maybe I'm missing something, but GIRL doesn't sound like a girl born with male equipment. He comes across as a dude who wants to BECOME a girl, and if that's actually the case he's in for a world of hurt and confusion. I wonder if he's taking that 'lesbian trapped in a male body' joke a little too far. You don't become female just by getting a second set of lips.
As for SLUT, there's a particular type of guy that your letter reminds me of (I know they exist, because I was this particular brand of jerk once). One of these guys equates his own success with that of his side of the relationship, and he really wants to be able to blame SOMEONE ELSE when it fails. He doesn't want it to just wind down into nothing, and he doesn't want to break up just 'cause he's not in love anymore: that means HE failed. He wants to drive his poor SO to doing something so completely heinous that he can be righteous about breaking up; he didn't fail, his partner did.
Sure, he broke up with you for a while, but this little behavioral gem may have coalesced out of his feelings while you two were apart. The fact that he didn't react emotionally to you cheating makes me think I'm on the right track with this.
So, SLUT, for his own good, I think you should throw this back in his face. He wasn't living up to his side of the relationship, and you're a hot, desirable chick who can get it elsewhere, so you did. If you actually want this sniveling excuse for a man back, make him apologize for his fuck-up, and promise he won't neglect you again. And when he does, throw his ass to the street; don't let him blame you for something he drove you to.
Or, you know, he could ACTUALLY not be that into fucking you, and I think my advice stands anyway.
As for SLUT, there's a particular type of guy that your letter reminds me of (I know they exist, because I was this particular brand of jerk once). One of these guys equates his own success with that of his side of the relationship, and he really wants to be able to blame SOMEONE ELSE when it fails. He doesn't want it to just wind down into nothing, and he doesn't want to break up just 'cause he's not in love anymore: that means HE failed. He wants to drive his poor SO to doing something so completely heinous that he can be righteous about breaking up; he didn't fail, his partner did.
Sure, he broke up with you for a while, but this little behavioral gem may have coalesced out of his feelings while you two were apart. The fact that he didn't react emotionally to you cheating makes me think I'm on the right track with this.
So, SLUT, for his own good, I think you should throw this back in his face. He wasn't living up to his side of the relationship, and you're a hot, desirable chick who can get it elsewhere, so you did. If you actually want this sniveling excuse for a man back, make him apologize for his fuck-up, and promise he won't neglect you again. And when he does, throw his ass to the street; don't let him blame you for something he drove you to.
Or, you know, he could ACTUALLY not be that into fucking you, and I think my advice stands anyway.
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How is semen comparable to urine? Heterosexual women (and homosexual men!) taste semen all the time, as a matter of course, without having a fuss. I think that if this guy wants anal sooo bad that he is bugging his wife about it, and if she is willing to give it a shot, her asking him to taste something she licks up all the time really isn't out of line. At all. Semen isnt' fetish, it's pretty damn vanilla at this point. Urine is a different pie. It's essentially a waste product, not something which usually comes out during sex. It looks, smells, and tastes different. Not the same thing.
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@18, 58, 59, 63, 70
I guess some people didn't understand my comment at 12, so I will try to be clearer.
In terms of sexual perversity, there is a societal scale that everyone understands. Let's say a kiss is a 1, for not very perverse, and a 10, is say, shitting in someone's mouth, quite perverse. As we go up the scale, we are less and less open about these activities, and less comfortable with them.
We all recognize these scales exist. If they didn't, then there would be no point to GOO's letter; in fact, you couldn't even understand GOO's letter if you did not understand that some sex acts are more taboo than others. Being tied up is more perverse than getting a hand job. Cuming in a girl's face is more perverse than playing with her tits. This is shit that everybody knows.
It is also true that gender norms play a part in what sexual acts are generally more taboo. A hetero man taking it in the ass is more taboo than for a hetero woman. Dan gets letters about this very thing in fact, and everybody understands why.
All this only goes to say that a hetero man choking down his own cum ranks higher in the scale of perversity than anal sex for a woman. I mean, a lot of women have anal sex BEFORE vaginal sex. Anal sex is almost the equivalent of eating pussy.
So, all this is only to say that, in fairness, GOO's husband is sacrificing more than his wife.
I guess some people didn't understand my comment at 12, so I will try to be clearer.
In terms of sexual perversity, there is a societal scale that everyone understands. Let's say a kiss is a 1, for not very perverse, and a 10, is say, shitting in someone's mouth, quite perverse. As we go up the scale, we are less and less open about these activities, and less comfortable with them.
We all recognize these scales exist. If they didn't, then there would be no point to GOO's letter; in fact, you couldn't even understand GOO's letter if you did not understand that some sex acts are more taboo than others. Being tied up is more perverse than getting a hand job. Cuming in a girl's face is more perverse than playing with her tits. This is shit that everybody knows.
It is also true that gender norms play a part in what sexual acts are generally more taboo. A hetero man taking it in the ass is more taboo than for a hetero woman. Dan gets letters about this very thing in fact, and everybody understands why.
All this only goes to say that a hetero man choking down his own cum ranks higher in the scale of perversity than anal sex for a woman. I mean, a lot of women have anal sex BEFORE vaginal sex. Anal sex is almost the equivalent of eating pussy.
So, all this is only to say that, in fairness, GOO's husband is sacrificing more than his wife.
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flawless logic @109, while I agree with you that the perversity scale probably exists for everyone, I think that any given perversity scale is going to be unique in comparison to any other. Firstly, tastes are different. One guy might be into rattan canes, yet strap-ons are right out while another may care less about strap-on buggery, hate canes, especially rattan ones, but think doe-skin floggers are the shiznit. Yet another may love strap-ons and hate canes, except when used on his balls...and so on. Secondly, these tastes can change over time, or as partners change, or as new elements are discovered.
Myself, I'd be a lot squickier about some other guy's jizz than my own. I thought I saw a contrasting opinion to that above (someone who never tasted his own, but did other guys). To each, our own.
Thirdly, it's not necessarily supposed to be a fair trade. Goo and her beau obviously have a relationship that allows for some power exchange, so the inequitability of the trade may actually make the scenario hotter.
Myself, I'd be a lot squickier about some other guy's jizz than my own. I thought I saw a contrasting opinion to that above (someone who never tasted his own, but did other guys). To each, our own.
Thirdly, it's not necessarily supposed to be a fair trade. Goo and her beau obviously have a relationship that allows for some power exchange, so the inequitability of the trade may actually make the scenario hotter.
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The reason GOO's husband doesn't want to do what she wants is because she tells her girlfriends.
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break up for the summer so he can be free...... bullshit. my boyfriend also does that, and he isn't even fucking anyone else. I don't know if he's the idiot or I am the bloody loser. so far we always get back together. this time, I think it is time to DTMF.
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OH AND GOO, TRY ANAL.him eating his own juices.. if you like, and like to kiss him after ok... but don't miss out!
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Maybe I'm getting the wrong impression from GIRL's letter, but the writer comes off less like a person who is pursuing MtF transition, and more like a person who wants a woman to feminize him. Most trans people I know don't need "assistance" from women in order to transition. It takes a lot self evaluation, psychological and medical consulation and a desire to finally stop living a lie. There is nothing wrong with having a fetish to want to be feminized, but it shouldn't be veiled as MtF transition.
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@GOO : Dan already hinted at this, but to elaborate because I think it is very important. Calling your husbands Spunk "Goo" will in no way make him confident to eat it. The words we use to describe things really makes a big diffrence in how people see them.
The word Goo makes it sound as gross as he is likely seeing it. If you want it to happen, look for some more confident and sexy dialogue.
A few years back there was a girl I knew who constantly referred to Penis as Lolipop. She was a nice girl, fun, and we flirted alot and it looked like it would go somewhere, when talk started going in that direction and she started tossing that word around it was biggest turn off ever. Made me shudder honestly. If someone asked me to eat my Goo I would likely kick them out of my bed because the imagery is horrible, and I have and fdrequently do enjoy my semen and love when my fiance Snowballs me. Why would I want Goo in my mouth?
@GIRL : Full time pre-op MTF here. People are not friends because of their gender identities, they are friends because they share intrests and enjoy spending time together.
It is common for Trannies to try and surround themselves with female friends when they start transition as a way to seek a place of belonging. I did it myself. It is a natural human need to belong, and as children we did not have as much access to female role models and friends as a Bio-Girl would have.
However; being a Woman is not enough in common to be a friend or mentor any more than being a Man would have been in forming relationships for a Male identified person.
Good friends will accept you as yopu are regardless of whether you are Trans, Gay, whatever ; and among those people you will find your guidance and role models. It is not about asking people to help you dress and act, it is about finding people whom make you feel comfortable to dress and act as you feel around.
As for mentoring in your transition, there are loads of us Tgirls online who can share our experience. Also a good number of support and information sites dedicated to us.
Normally I wouldn't share my contact information on an open forum, howeverI will leave my name so you can search for me on Facebook if you have any questions or need some pointing in the right direction.
Patricia Ophelia Cross
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The word Goo makes it sound as gross as he is likely seeing it. If you want it to happen, look for some more confident and sexy dialogue.
A few years back there was a girl I knew who constantly referred to Penis as Lolipop. She was a nice girl, fun, and we flirted alot and it looked like it would go somewhere, when talk started going in that direction and she started tossing that word around it was biggest turn off ever. Made me shudder honestly. If someone asked me to eat my Goo I would likely kick them out of my bed because the imagery is horrible, and I have and fdrequently do enjoy my semen and love when my fiance Snowballs me. Why would I want Goo in my mouth?
@GIRL : Full time pre-op MTF here. People are not friends because of their gender identities, they are friends because they share intrests and enjoy spending time together.
It is common for Trannies to try and surround themselves with female friends when they start transition as a way to seek a place of belonging. I did it myself. It is a natural human need to belong, and as children we did not have as much access to female role models and friends as a Bio-Girl would have.
However; being a Woman is not enough in common to be a friend or mentor any more than being a Man would have been in forming relationships for a Male identified person.
Good friends will accept you as yopu are regardless of whether you are Trans, Gay, whatever ; and among those people you will find your guidance and role models. It is not about asking people to help you dress and act, it is about finding people whom make you feel comfortable to dress and act as you feel around.
As for mentoring in your transition, there are loads of us Tgirls online who can share our experience. Also a good number of support and information sites dedicated to us.
Normally I wouldn't share my contact information on an open forum, howeverI will leave my name so you can search for me on Facebook if you have any questions or need some pointing in the right direction.
Patricia Ophelia Cross
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@24 Warsaw :
You are partially correct but ignorant and misguided.
Yes it is a mental problem, however not in the sense that transsexuals are demented or mentally ill. It has to do with brain architecture. Masculine brains and Feminine brains are mapped out completely differently (enough that brain scans can tell the difference between men and women), and research shows the brains of MTF transgendered people to be more alike Bio-girls than Bio-boys, and after hormonal correction they are mostly identical.
Mental problems transsexuals have are the result of negative impact the body-produced hormones have on the brain (it is starved the estrogen and overfed the testosterone it is wired to receive) and also the result of trying to live the kind of life people like you expect of them.
Many Transsexuals are also Intersexed (self included) and are not simply boys in dresses. Their DNA is a mix of male and female in some way or another. A friend of mine was recently diagnosed as XXY and I myself have Chimerism (I was fraternal twins of opposite gender and one absorbed the other, my body is half XX and half XY)
I spent my whole life trying to conform to the expectations laid out by ignorance such as your own and it left me suicidal. I amounted to nothing in life, made alot of horrible life decisions, and contended with horribly macabre mental images of myself the likes of which I wouldn't wish on anyone. Since starting Hormone therapy (and thus countering the way my brain has been starved and poisoned my whole life) I have not had a single compulsion to mutilate harm or kill myself at all and have gone from a constant state of depression to being mostly happy. My life has moved forward more in the last year than I had in the 30 years prior.
It is pretty hard to call results a fraud, or legitimate medical conditions.
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You are partially correct but ignorant and misguided.
Yes it is a mental problem, however not in the sense that transsexuals are demented or mentally ill. It has to do with brain architecture. Masculine brains and Feminine brains are mapped out completely differently (enough that brain scans can tell the difference between men and women), and research shows the brains of MTF transgendered people to be more alike Bio-girls than Bio-boys, and after hormonal correction they are mostly identical.
Mental problems transsexuals have are the result of negative impact the body-produced hormones have on the brain (it is starved the estrogen and overfed the testosterone it is wired to receive) and also the result of trying to live the kind of life people like you expect of them.
Many Transsexuals are also Intersexed (self included) and are not simply boys in dresses. Their DNA is a mix of male and female in some way or another. A friend of mine was recently diagnosed as XXY and I myself have Chimerism (I was fraternal twins of opposite gender and one absorbed the other, my body is half XX and half XY)
I spent my whole life trying to conform to the expectations laid out by ignorance such as your own and it left me suicidal. I amounted to nothing in life, made alot of horrible life decisions, and contended with horribly macabre mental images of myself the likes of which I wouldn't wish on anyone. Since starting Hormone therapy (and thus countering the way my brain has been starved and poisoned my whole life) I have not had a single compulsion to mutilate harm or kill myself at all and have gone from a constant state of depression to being mostly happy. My life has moved forward more in the last year than I had in the 30 years prior.
It is pretty hard to call results a fraud, or legitimate medical conditions.
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Have you ever done any porn? My husband and I think you are hot...and hung...and we want more....
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Goo Girl you're not alone! While, ive never made my man swallow his own goo, I do make him kiss me after he cums in my mouth.... I told him, hey I swallowed you can at least kiss me after! then said, if you dont, i'll never let you cum in my mouth again......totally worked! And no, it's NOT "GAY" men are so strange! what's the big deal about having a girl swallow? weirdness!
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Fail to see how anything a man does to excite his wife that does not involve another person is remotely homosexual, regardless of the act.
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I don't have a problem with "GOO" "SPUNK" "JIZZ" "LOAD" whatever you want to call it! For years I thought about what it would taste like and a few times took a tiny taste when making love alone. Recently, I've gotten together with a woman who loves me to make a goo deposit and then go down for a smorgasboard of combined goo and juicy juice. I wish I'd found her years ago because the first time (and all subsequent times)while I was down there slurping away my cock resurected itself and we enjoyed another hour of fucking and sucking. BTW, it tastes great!
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Sorry, the browser f*cked up and rather than editing the post, it posted it. I was working on the punctuation and spelling. No way to remove the erroneous posts. I've reported them to the moderators.
Sheesh.
Sorry, the browser f*cked up and rather than editing the post, it posted it. I was working on the punctuation and spelling. No way to remove the erroneous posts. I've reported them to the moderators.
Sheesh.
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@85
Speaking of autofellation -
Two homos were at a Huskies football game, bored out of their skulls, watching the mascot who was busily licking his pecker and balls.
One of them leered at the other and said; "I wish I could do that...."
"I bet if you tried it he'd bite you-" the other warned.
Speaking of autofellation -
Two homos were at a Huskies football game, bored out of their skulls, watching the mascot who was busily licking his pecker and balls.
One of them leered at the other and said; "I wish I could do that...."
"I bet if you tried it he'd bite you-" the other warned.
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OK, I'm gay and I admit I like the spooge - mine, his, mixed together a- la-carte, whatever. But.. it's just spooge - it's not like, plutonium, or a burger full of e-coli. Straight guys are afraid of the stuff? What a buncha pussies.
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Oh, duh, now I get it! To straight guys, cum's got millions of teeny-tiny babies swimming in it and that's what grosses them out. Gay guys don't have that problem.
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What is UP with guys freaking out about eating their own cum? My first boyfriend was absolutely paranoid about getting any of it in his mouth, ever. He would make me brush my teeth after I went down on him - otherwise he refused to kiss me. It's so hypocritical - guys want girls to go down there, eat their jizz, give them a good time, but the thought of eating it themselves makes them want to puke. I hate this shit.
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@109, I understood you, but disagreed with your ranking. I think anal sex is more perverse than a guy tasting his semen. Most kids have tasted snot, and blood and sweat and tears. Semen is at least as "clean" as those bodily fluids, it's not like piss or shit, which are waste products.
I think it a little odd if a guy has never ever tasted his own jism. Doing it as part of a sex act is a little perverse, but really low on the scale, at least as I rank it. About par with oral sex, and well below anal.
I think it a little odd if a guy has never ever tasted his own jism. Doing it as part of a sex act is a little perverse, but really low on the scale, at least as I rank it. About par with oral sex, and well below anal.
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GOO writes: "My hubby wants to do anal for my first time, him fucking me, and that's fine—but I'm only going to let him do it after he eats his own goo! Standoff! We've been married 17 years, and I think it would be hot! . . . Am I the only woman who has ever asked her husband to eat his goo?!? . . . But was it wrong for me to ask? Am I a freak?!? . . . I just want to see my hubby eat his goo! My girls tell me I must be trying to make him gay!"
You're not a freak for thinking it would be hot to see your husband eat his come. There are guys, myself included, who think it's hot that you think that's hot. Most women don't think it's hot to watch a guy masturbate, much less eat his own come.
However, you ARE a freak for referring to it as "goo." Do you also refer to a cock as a "pee-pee"?
And your girlfriends are freaks (or maybe idiots is more like it) for thinking that you're trying to "make him gay" by wanting to see him eat his come.
It's very fair for you to ask him to do something you find hot if he wants to do something with you that he finds hot. Any man who wants to fuck a woman in the ass but isn't willing to eat his come in return is a big baby.
You're not a freak for thinking it would be hot to see your husband eat his come. There are guys, myself included, who think it's hot that you think that's hot. Most women don't think it's hot to watch a guy masturbate, much less eat his own come.
However, you ARE a freak for referring to it as "goo." Do you also refer to a cock as a "pee-pee"?
And your girlfriends are freaks (or maybe idiots is more like it) for thinking that you're trying to "make him gay" by wanting to see him eat his come.
It's very fair for you to ask him to do something you find hot if he wants to do something with you that he finds hot. Any man who wants to fuck a woman in the ass but isn't willing to eat his come in return is a big baby.
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@109 :
Your logic is flawed since your premises are wrong.
Even if it were that common amongst the girls in your surroundings, I can assure you that most of the women of the world hope they won't be anally raped by their partners.
Not saying that all anal sex is rape - but, let's face it, the average male earthling is a poor lover, showing minimal interest to his partner's pleasure once they are socially bound and tied by marriage. And the average female earthling has not enough social status to stand up to her legitimate right to get some pleasure of her own. So anal sex among heterosexual earthlings is mainly done without care from the dick bearer, which makes it extremely painful for the female and therefore non-consensual - if she's allowed not to consent.
Thanks to Dan, there is a beacon in this world of darkness that advocates for equal pleasure no matter the sex, the sexual orientation or the kinks. As others have pointed it before, if oral sex is the norm, guys who get it must either have tasted their own juices by kissing after the deed, or have strongly disrespected their partners by refusing to have anything to do with their mouth once they've been serviced. The second case being a case of DTMFA.
Therefore GOO's husband gets off very easy.
Now to the particulars : having been brought up in a conservative society, I've never been that interested in tasting juices. Thanks to Dan's column, I'm vying to be GGG and oral sex for both is on the menu with my new awesome partner. But there's no accounting for tastes, so while I'm OK with how my juices taste, I dislike sperm's taste. So when I blow my guy senseless, he never forgets to eat his come off my mouth. He has no problem with it and it's totally sweet.
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Your logic is flawed since your premises are wrong.
Even if it were that common amongst the girls in your surroundings, I can assure you that most of the women of the world hope they won't be anally raped by their partners.
Not saying that all anal sex is rape - but, let's face it, the average male earthling is a poor lover, showing minimal interest to his partner's pleasure once they are socially bound and tied by marriage. And the average female earthling has not enough social status to stand up to her legitimate right to get some pleasure of her own. So anal sex among heterosexual earthlings is mainly done without care from the dick bearer, which makes it extremely painful for the female and therefore non-consensual - if she's allowed not to consent.
Thanks to Dan, there is a beacon in this world of darkness that advocates for equal pleasure no matter the sex, the sexual orientation or the kinks. As others have pointed it before, if oral sex is the norm, guys who get it must either have tasted their own juices by kissing after the deed, or have strongly disrespected their partners by refusing to have anything to do with their mouth once they've been serviced. The second case being a case of DTMFA.
Therefore GOO's husband gets off very easy.
Now to the particulars : having been brought up in a conservative society, I've never been that interested in tasting juices. Thanks to Dan's column, I'm vying to be GGG and oral sex for both is on the menu with my new awesome partner. But there's no accounting for tastes, so while I'm OK with how my juices taste, I dislike sperm's taste. So when I blow my guy senseless, he never forgets to eat his come off my mouth. He has no problem with it and it's totally sweet.
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#109 - Lol. Anal sex is almost the equivalent of eating pussy? Eating pussy is the equivalent of sucking cock - hard, selfless work for hard, selfless work. Both feel really fucking good to the other person, and both are "normative" sexual practices (as if normal has anything to do with anything). If you think that going down on a women is equal to her going through the discomfort and difficulty of anal sex, you've obviously never been fucked in the ass. You're confusing porn with real life, honey. Anal sex isn't easy, and it's a VERY generous concession on the part of a woman.
The whole debate over whether it's fair to ask a guy to eat his own cum is beginning to piss me off. Do men realize how much cum women swallow on a regular basis? Get a fucking hold of yourself and realize that a) there is no pain involved in swallowing cum, b) it's completely safe (and actually nutritious), and c) WOMEN DO IT ALL THE TIME. And it's no easier for a woman to do it than for a man to do it - cum tastes weird, it has a weird substance, and we all just suck it up because we like pleasing our sexual partners.
I swear to god, porn is fucking with men's minds, making them think that most women are cum-guzzling anal sluts. And look, I enjoy porn as much as the next person, but it's acting! When you think about what you believe a woman should be willing to do sexually, think about what YOU'RE willing to do. If those balances aren't equal, re-check your premises.
And do us all a favor and stop dating.
The whole debate over whether it's fair to ask a guy to eat his own cum is beginning to piss me off. Do men realize how much cum women swallow on a regular basis? Get a fucking hold of yourself and realize that a) there is no pain involved in swallowing cum, b) it's completely safe (and actually nutritious), and c) WOMEN DO IT ALL THE TIME. And it's no easier for a woman to do it than for a man to do it - cum tastes weird, it has a weird substance, and we all just suck it up because we like pleasing our sexual partners.
I swear to god, porn is fucking with men's minds, making them think that most women are cum-guzzling anal sluts. And look, I enjoy porn as much as the next person, but it's acting! When you think about what you believe a woman should be willing to do sexually, think about what YOU'RE willing to do. If those balances aren't equal, re-check your premises.
And do us all a favor and stop dating.
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@36,
What? Dan suggested finding a support group of people who would be interested in helping out with transitioning (he didn't say anything about whether these women would be lesbian or straight or whatever), and told GIRL to leave women met during the course of normal life (normal life = away from the support group) out of it.
What? Dan suggested finding a support group of people who would be interested in helping out with transitioning (he didn't say anything about whether these women would be lesbian or straight or whatever), and told GIRL to leave women met during the course of normal life (normal life = away from the support group) out of it.
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To #133/hermioneinchains: If porn causes any men to think that women are cum-guzzling anal sluts, then these are men who have had little-to-no actual experience with women because any guy who has had experience with women can attest that a woman who is a cum-guzzling anal slut is about as common as a religious right-winger in favor of same-sex marriage.
I'm not disagreeing with you that porn can fuck with men's minds. I'm just saying that if a man has had a fair amount of experience with real women, he can clearly see porn for what it is: fantasy, not some reflection of reality.
Having been with two women (out of many) who consented to anal sex (one actually liked it; the other just did it twice so I could see what it was like...bless her thoughtful and sexy 3G heart) I know that it's pretty damn hot. But I also know that it can't be that comfortable for a woman, VERY few women actually like it, and any guy who is with a woman, like "GOO", who is willing to do it for him should consider himself a very lucky man and be willing to do (almost) whatever she wants him to do for her in return.
About the come-eating thing... I'm in agreement with some other guys here. I'm sure most men have tried tasting their own, out of curiosity, at least once. While it's not as good as a microbrew or a chocolate shake, it's also not rat poison. And, even if very few women are cum-guzzling sluts, many women do taste or swallow it, at least on occasion. I actually think more men would do it in front of their woman if they weren't afraid that their woman would get all freaked out and think they were "secretly gay." Just look at GOO's girlfriends, who equate a guy doing that with being gay.
I'm not disagreeing with you that porn can fuck with men's minds. I'm just saying that if a man has had a fair amount of experience with real women, he can clearly see porn for what it is: fantasy, not some reflection of reality.
Having been with two women (out of many) who consented to anal sex (one actually liked it; the other just did it twice so I could see what it was like...bless her thoughtful and sexy 3G heart) I know that it's pretty damn hot. But I also know that it can't be that comfortable for a woman, VERY few women actually like it, and any guy who is with a woman, like "GOO", who is willing to do it for him should consider himself a very lucky man and be willing to do (almost) whatever she wants him to do for her in return.
About the come-eating thing... I'm in agreement with some other guys here. I'm sure most men have tried tasting their own, out of curiosity, at least once. While it's not as good as a microbrew or a chocolate shake, it's also not rat poison. And, even if very few women are cum-guzzling sluts, many women do taste or swallow it, at least on occasion. I actually think more men would do it in front of their woman if they weren't afraid that their woman would get all freaked out and think they were "secretly gay." Just look at GOO's girlfriends, who equate a guy doing that with being gay.
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#24, you got that right. Is being a woman so cheap and trivial that any mentally warped MAN can have his dick cut off and shoot himself full of horse hormones and thereafter call himself a 'woman"? Is that all we are? Men without their dicks are called EUNUCHS, not "women". It's like this: if I am convinced I am Napoleon and I demand surgery to make myself look more like Napoleon, I would be automatically classed as "MENTALLY ILL". So, why are MEN who insist on surgery to become "women" pandered to and mollycoddled? D'ye think it could it be because that(very expensive)surgery and all the pharmaceuticals required puts a LOT of money in the pockets of the medical profession and the pharmaceutical companies, hmmm?
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Roma, I agree with you on almost all points. The only thing is, you have a slightly optimistic view of the general male population, perhaps because you are one of the GGG ones. I've actually done experiments where I posted an ad on craiglist that more or less made me sound like a real life porn star, and the hundreds of responses I got were 10% "You are so not real," 40% "Where have you been all my life?" and 50% "Good, finally a whore who knows where she belongs: on her knees sucking my cock."
It was just an experiment, and I understand that I got a certain cross-section of the male population, but I found it kind of disturbing. I should have gotten a LOT more "this is obviously a fake ad." What became pretty apparent to me is that most of the men who emailed me "knew" that a lot of women were secretly 'whores' who wanted to be fucked in all holes, and treated like crap. Which says to me that they believe the porn they watch, because they're not getting this from women.
Anyway, I think that's the mindset #109 is in when he thinks that "anal sex is equal to eating pussy." His sense of equality has been warped by the multi-million dollar industry playing to his fantasies. I think anal is great if everyone involved wants to do it, but please be realistic - it may cost you a fair trade, and that fair trade ain't gonna be "eating pussy."
It was just an experiment, and I understand that I got a certain cross-section of the male population, but I found it kind of disturbing. I should have gotten a LOT more "this is obviously a fake ad." What became pretty apparent to me is that most of the men who emailed me "knew" that a lot of women were secretly 'whores' who wanted to be fucked in all holes, and treated like crap. Which says to me that they believe the porn they watch, because they're not getting this from women.
Anyway, I think that's the mindset #109 is in when he thinks that "anal sex is equal to eating pussy." His sense of equality has been warped by the multi-million dollar industry playing to his fantasies. I think anal is great if everyone involved wants to do it, but please be realistic - it may cost you a fair trade, and that fair trade ain't gonna be "eating pussy."
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"Man up" is a phrase that is sexist always, not only when it is directed toward women. It alludes to the traditional social stereotype that men ought to be masculine, tough, and unemotional. It is sexist against men. Phrases like these perpetuate misandry in our society. Don't know what misandry is, but you've heard of misogyny? Search Google for "men's rights" to learn more.
-Jay Hammers
-Jay Hammers
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I really applaud the advice you gave to SLUT. I was in a really similar situation a few years ago and I can barely express how much my life (and emotional well being) improved once I broke it off with the guy I was dating. I really cared for him and it was hard, but when you don't feel wanted and loved and that person can't (or won't) make an effort for you, it's best to move on. Good Luck, SLUT! :)
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Hey Dan, you were on my flight from LA to Seattle last week. I walked past you as I got on the plane and noticed you writing something on your computer while examining some kind of video which looked like it featured Glen Beck. I thought about saying hi but I had to keep moving. Anyway, It made the screaming babies not seem so bad for some reason. Thanks :)
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Dan has to feed his Beck fetish 24/7.
He gets cranky if he is late with a fix.
It is best for everyone that you walked on by...
Dan has to feed his Beck fetish 24/7.
He gets cranky if he is late with a fix.
It is best for everyone that you walked on by...
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Great Oozing Orgasms is not asking too much of her husband and she should probably try to find a group of more open-minded and creative friends.
Now, as to the request she made... Its not in what you ask , but how you ask it. Some men might find the idea of eating their own spunk less disgusting if it is presented to them in a hot and naughty way. This is where the "snowball" comes into play. Once you have his consent, go down on him and collect a lil of his semen in your mouth, but don't let him come! It may take practice, but its worth it. He will still be turned on and able to have whatever sex you want afterward and you will be able to take the semen you have collected and kiss him with it. He tastes his "goo", giving you what you want. He is also still hard, so you can give him what he wants. Everyone happy.
Now, as to the request she made... Its not in what you ask , but how you ask it. Some men might find the idea of eating their own spunk less disgusting if it is presented to them in a hot and naughty way. This is where the "snowball" comes into play. Once you have his consent, go down on him and collect a lil of his semen in your mouth, but don't let him come! It may take practice, but its worth it. He will still be turned on and able to have whatever sex you want afterward and you will be able to take the semen you have collected and kiss him with it. He tastes his "goo", giving you what you want. He is also still hard, so you can give him what he wants. Everyone happy.
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Hey Dan, i think you and Keith should get married. Two deviant homo liberals - a match made in heaven!
If Beck, Hannity, Coulter and the rest were wrong - NOBODY WOULD LISTEN! And, FOX's ratings would not be through the roof. And Americans would not be giving liberal Democrats hell in town meetings.
You and Keith's bitterness stems directly from the fact that you know you're wrong and you are on the losing side. The funny thing is, you Olbermann have to keep up this facade because its your bread and butter. I'll bet you secretly listen to Rush!!! Hahahahahahah! Keep dreaming fags!
If Beck, Hannity, Coulter and the rest were wrong - NOBODY WOULD LISTEN! And, FOX's ratings would not be through the roof. And Americans would not be giving liberal Democrats hell in town meetings.
You and Keith's bitterness stems directly from the fact that you know you're wrong and you are on the losing side. The funny thing is, you Olbermann have to keep up this facade because its your bread and butter. I'll bet you secretly listen to Rush!!! Hahahahahahah! Keep dreaming fags!
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HOW GAYS ARE HURTING THEIR CAUSE
When Rick Warren was picked to lead the prayer at President Obama’s inauguration the gay community went into an outrage. How could Obama pick someone who doesn’t agree with their sexuality to lead the prayer? I read so many disparaging remarks about Warren by gays that I started to believe that maybe they were the ones discriminating. Since when is it a crime to hold an opinion that is different that someone else’s? The response by the gay community in this circumstance highlighted two very important things to me: one, they HATE others who aren’t in agreement with their lifestyle and two, they are hurting their cause to gain equal rights through their constant banter. The main plea of the gay community is to be seen as equals, that they are just like heterosexuals, which I believe they are. Gays do deserve to have the same rights as married couples do, no question about it; however, within situations like this they are giving those who don’t want them to have rights more reason to campaign against the gay community. How can the gays expect right wing Christians to listen to them if all they do is bash their beliefs? I thought America was built on diversified views? I even read a column by Dan Savage that Rick Warren is probably a closet gay. And most of the article made fun of Warren’s church name, Saddleback Church, stating how it could be defined as many different things, such as: (4) "To saddleback is to rail against gay sex in public while secretly indulging in the same in private. Ted Haggard? Total saddlebacker. Larry Craig? Saddlebacker. Rick Warren? Probably a saddlebacker." It didn't add to the point he was trying to make; it detracted from it. To disagree with someone’s views is quite different than slandering that person. I disagree with Rick Warren. I don’t believe gays are any different than heterosexuals, but through protesting in such a hateful manner they are highlighting their intolerance for different views and being non-accepting, which is ironic. I have a hard time listening to someone even if I agree with that person if they are screaming at the top of their lungs to be heard. Martin Luther King Jr. made an effort to unite people, not slander others for their differing views. Instead, he focused on all the similarities of different races and brought people together through these similarities and treated his enemies with respect. I expect the same from the gay community and to not bring themselves down to such low standards. If they want to be treated like equals then they should treat their opponents as equals as well.
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When Rick Warren was picked to lead the prayer at President Obama’s inauguration the gay community went into an outrage. How could Obama pick someone who doesn’t agree with their sexuality to lead the prayer? I read so many disparaging remarks about Warren by gays that I started to believe that maybe they were the ones discriminating. Since when is it a crime to hold an opinion that is different that someone else’s? The response by the gay community in this circumstance highlighted two very important things to me: one, they HATE others who aren’t in agreement with their lifestyle and two, they are hurting their cause to gain equal rights through their constant banter. The main plea of the gay community is to be seen as equals, that they are just like heterosexuals, which I believe they are. Gays do deserve to have the same rights as married couples do, no question about it; however, within situations like this they are giving those who don’t want them to have rights more reason to campaign against the gay community. How can the gays expect right wing Christians to listen to them if all they do is bash their beliefs? I thought America was built on diversified views? I even read a column by Dan Savage that Rick Warren is probably a closet gay. And most of the article made fun of Warren’s church name, Saddleback Church, stating how it could be defined as many different things, such as: (4) "To saddleback is to rail against gay sex in public while secretly indulging in the same in private. Ted Haggard? Total saddlebacker. Larry Craig? Saddlebacker. Rick Warren? Probably a saddlebacker." It didn't add to the point he was trying to make; it detracted from it. To disagree with someone’s views is quite different than slandering that person. I disagree with Rick Warren. I don’t believe gays are any different than heterosexuals, but through protesting in such a hateful manner they are highlighting their intolerance for different views and being non-accepting, which is ironic. I have a hard time listening to someone even if I agree with that person if they are screaming at the top of their lungs to be heard. Martin Luther King Jr. made an effort to unite people, not slander others for their differing views. Instead, he focused on all the similarities of different races and brought people together through these similarities and treated his enemies with respect. I expect the same from the gay community and to not bring themselves down to such low standards. If they want to be treated like equals then they should treat their opponents as equals as well.
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As a raging germophobe and somebody who really, really likes the taste of peppermintand a loathing for immature big-mouthes, I feel for GOO's husband. What the hell is wrong with spitting?
@ 146,
Nobody here cares about your tiresome, off-topic rant about queers. Nobody here cares about the opinion of ignorant blow-hards who wave the bible around to justify bigotry.
Sod off.
@ 146,
Nobody here cares about your tiresome, off-topic rant about queers. Nobody here cares about the opinion of ignorant blow-hards who wave the bible around to justify bigotry.
Sod off.
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As a raging germophobe and somebody who really, really likes the taste of peppermint and a loathing for immature big-mouthes, I feel for GOO's husband. What the hell is wrong with spitting?
@ 146,
Nobody here cares about your tiresome, off-topic rant about queers. Nobody here cares about the opinion of ignorant blow-hards who wave the bible around to justify bigotry.
Sod off.
@ 146,
Nobody here cares about your tiresome, off-topic rant about queers. Nobody here cares about the opinion of ignorant blow-hards who wave the bible around to justify bigotry.
Sod off.
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This stretched lobed dude (FTM and at 2&1/8") doesn't want ANYTHING dick-like near my lobes...
...and seriously...stop asking. It's rude and not as funny as you think.
...and seriously...stop asking. It's rude and not as funny as you think.
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Fucking lobe-holes would be like fucking a cockring, wouldn't it? Doesn't make sense.
Goddamn, I can't even tell if the people posting all of the angry "OH NO QUEERS" shit and the "OH NO TRANSGENDER" shit are trolling, or serious. If it's the latter, then they've managed to become caricatures of themselves. It's like reading a Chick tract.
Goddamn, I can't even tell if the people posting all of the angry "OH NO QUEERS" shit and the "OH NO TRANSGENDER" shit are trolling, or serious. If it's the latter, then they've managed to become caricatures of themselves. It's like reading a Chick tract.
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@145: "If Beck, Hannity, Coulter and the rest were wrong - NOBODY WOULD LISTEN!" You're right, its just a popularity contest. If slaveholders were wrong in 1800, no one would have listened. If the Catholic church was wrong about Galileo, no one would have listened. Bravo on your logic. Hey, wait, if Obama was wrong, would he have won the election?
"And Americans would not be giving liberal Democrats hell in town meetings." Wait, I didn't know Democrats weren't Americans!!! So interesting.
"And Americans would not be giving liberal Democrats hell in town meetings." Wait, I didn't know Democrats weren't Americans!!! So interesting.
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goo
goo and more...
im straight heterosexual. i love pussy.
but i figure there's got to be some kind of pleasure a man gets with another man...but the thought of myself being with another man makes me want to vomit, literally...so then, how could i explore this possible pleasure ? thats easy, let my wife do it for me. no strap-on needed. fisting works just fine. i like it and she has fun too.
tasting my own cum ? it's salty, but the presem. lube is sweet and yummy, just like my wife's juices, sweeet and yummylicious.
you are what you are, then why would you be afraid to be labeled something that you are not...unless you're hiding in the closet.
call me what you want, i dont care because i already know with complete confidence that there is nothing at all wrong, morally or otherwise, with the pleasures my wife and i provide for one another.
u go goo girl, you and your man keep making each other happy and dont degrade yourself for that.
goo and more...
im straight heterosexual. i love pussy.
but i figure there's got to be some kind of pleasure a man gets with another man...but the thought of myself being with another man makes me want to vomit, literally...so then, how could i explore this possible pleasure ? thats easy, let my wife do it for me. no strap-on needed. fisting works just fine. i like it and she has fun too.
tasting my own cum ? it's salty, but the presem. lube is sweet and yummy, just like my wife's juices, sweeet and yummylicious.
you are what you are, then why would you be afraid to be labeled something that you are not...unless you're hiding in the closet.
call me what you want, i dont care because i already know with complete confidence that there is nothing at all wrong, morally or otherwise, with the pleasures my wife and i provide for one another.
u go goo girl, you and your man keep making each other happy and dont degrade yourself for that.
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HOW GAYS ARE HURTING THEIR CAUSE
When Rick Warren was picked to lead the prayer at President Obama’s inauguration the gay community went into an outrage. How could Obama pick someone who doesn’t agree with their sexuality to lead the prayer? I read so many disparaging remarks about Warren by gays that I started to believe that maybe they were the ones discriminating. Since when is it a crime to hold an opinion that is different that someone else’s? The response by the gay community in this circumstance highlighted two very important things to me: one, they HATE others who aren’t in agreement with their lifestyle and two, they are hurting their cause to gain equal rights through their constant banter. The main plea of the gay community is to be seen as equals, that they are just like heterosexuals, which I believe they are. Gays do deserve to have the same rights as married couples do, no question about it; however, within situations like this they are giving those who don’t want them to have rights more reason to campaign against the gay community. How can the gays expect right wing Christians to listen to them if all they do is bash their beliefs? I thought America was built on diversified views? I even read a piece by Dan Savage that Rick Warren is probably a closet gay. And most of the article made fun of Warren’s church name, Saddleback Church, stating how it could be defined as many different things, such as: (4) "To saddleback is to rail against gay sex in public while secretly indulging in the same in private. Ted Haggard? Total saddlebacker. Larry Craig? Saddlebacker. Rick Warren? Probably a saddlebacker." It didn't add to the point he was trying to make; it detracted from it. To disagree with someone’s views is quite different than slandering that person. I disagree with Rick Warren. I don’t believe gays are any different than heterosexuals, but through protesting in such a hateful manner they are highlighting their intolerance for different views and being non-accepting, which is ironic. I have a hard time listening to someone even if I agree with that person if they are screaming at the top of their lungs to be heard. Martin Luther King Jr. made an effort to unite people, not slander others for their differing views. Instead, he focused on all the similarities of different races and brought people together through these similarities and treated his enemies with respect. I expect the same from the gay community and to not bring themselves down to such low standards. If they want to be treated like equals then they should treat their opponents as equals as well.
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When Rick Warren was picked to lead the prayer at President Obama’s inauguration the gay community went into an outrage. How could Obama pick someone who doesn’t agree with their sexuality to lead the prayer? I read so many disparaging remarks about Warren by gays that I started to believe that maybe they were the ones discriminating. Since when is it a crime to hold an opinion that is different that someone else’s? The response by the gay community in this circumstance highlighted two very important things to me: one, they HATE others who aren’t in agreement with their lifestyle and two, they are hurting their cause to gain equal rights through their constant banter. The main plea of the gay community is to be seen as equals, that they are just like heterosexuals, which I believe they are. Gays do deserve to have the same rights as married couples do, no question about it; however, within situations like this they are giving those who don’t want them to have rights more reason to campaign against the gay community. How can the gays expect right wing Christians to listen to them if all they do is bash their beliefs? I thought America was built on diversified views? I even read a piece by Dan Savage that Rick Warren is probably a closet gay. And most of the article made fun of Warren’s church name, Saddleback Church, stating how it could be defined as many different things, such as: (4) "To saddleback is to rail against gay sex in public while secretly indulging in the same in private. Ted Haggard? Total saddlebacker. Larry Craig? Saddlebacker. Rick Warren? Probably a saddlebacker." It didn't add to the point he was trying to make; it detracted from it. To disagree with someone’s views is quite different than slandering that person. I disagree with Rick Warren. I don’t believe gays are any different than heterosexuals, but through protesting in such a hateful manner they are highlighting their intolerance for different views and being non-accepting, which is ironic. I have a hard time listening to someone even if I agree with that person if they are screaming at the top of their lungs to be heard. Martin Luther King Jr. made an effort to unite people, not slander others for their differing views. Instead, he focused on all the similarities of different races and brought people together through these similarities and treated his enemies with respect. I expect the same from the gay community and to not bring themselves down to such low standards. If they want to be treated like equals then they should treat their opponents as equals as well.
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@152
How Obama won the election = voter fraud and anonymous towel head donations from the the Middle east.
Your statement is so generic and uneducated, oh wait, the type of dumbass who got Obama elected.
Put that in your butt plug and shove it.
How Obama won the election = voter fraud and anonymous towel head donations from the the Middle east.
Your statement is so generic and uneducated, oh wait, the type of dumbass who got Obama elected.
Put that in your butt plug and shove it.
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@145: Obama and the liberal fags are failing so quickly, I'm don't even care if I get any presents for Christmas.
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Thanks, Impaler. I enjoy this column for its remarks on sex, but when it strays into religion, it becomes a real amen corner and could use an alternative viewpoint now and then.
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Last word on "sex change" "operations" (for 136 et al.) Yes, it is cynical for the medical profession to take money for mutilating people who are mentally confused. Yes, however, as correctly pointed out, there are "intersex" cases (such as genotype/phenotype mismatch and other variants). These are a somewhat different matter. What we might call "sexual clarification" surgery would be reasonable and humane (and consistent with the Hippocratic Oath).
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Wow....it get's really weird down here at the bottom of the posts...No wonder nobody ever reads below 25 or so.
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Conservative @ 145, 155, 156 I must admit you have the slurs and the bonehead bigotry down pat. I get that it's a necessity in the small town or Christian commune that is your present home to wave around the Jesus and praise the stars and stripes, to spit hatred at gays and women and anyone who doesn't conform to the hard-line family values, ultra-conservative agenda and dominionist denomination of your enclosed parish. I say, keep fighting the hard fight and bide your time until you can escape that hellhole, climb the walls and crawl under the barbed wire and escape to our heathen civilization of internet porn, designer cupcakes and free information. The sooner you escape, the sooner you'll see all that you've been missing.
But you get that Beck, Hannity, Coulter and the rest of Murdock's clowns are getting their ratings because they're clowns, and because they're willing to as good ol' Adolph put it, tell the big lie. Right?
And you get that McCain couldn't have won the election against Mickey Mouse or one of the Bin Ladens, right? Not because of that harpie shrew he tapped for VP, though that certainly sealed the deal, but because his predecessor fucked up so bad that our country will be paying dues for generations, if it survives long enough to do so.
Obama-era conservatives seem to forget much of Bush history, from letting Osama and the rest of the Bin Ladens escape, (I still suspect a LIHOP scenario), to burning our own spy for political reprisal, to starting an illegal, useless war on false pretenses (oh, that) to torturing POWs to exact confirmations of false intelligence to justify said military action and blatantly flipping off the UN and the Geneva Convention, not to mention hiring mercenaries to circumvent rules of engagement. Then there's the gutting of FEMA in the name of the DHS just before Katrina sacked New Orleans; sneaking Christianity into our public schools via Intelligent Design and Abstenance Only Sex Education, funneling tons of tax-dollars to big churches, big oil, big pharmaceuticals, the guys who test our kids and dump our failures in No Child Left Behind and Halliburton, and then deny, deny, denying that global warming is a problem until it became climate change.
Need I go on? There are reasons that some most are a bit ticked off at the Republicans.
Incidentally, the towel-heads, by which I assume you mean the Sauds are staunch supporters of the Republican party. So are all the terrorist groups (who don't usually have enough money to put into American politics). The former enjoy the kickbacks that they receive in spades, and Repubs are good for terrorist recruitment.
As for voter fraud, nothing will compare to the Florida fiasco in 2000 that ultimately got your man Bush in office (ultimately because daddy pulled strings in the USSC), but books have been written about the levels of disenfranchisement pulled by brother Jeb and his minions. No, rather, Obama was put into office because the Rove campaigning machine just couldn't compete with the country's resentment, because the economy sucked (not entirely Bush's fault, but he did a lot to hurt and nothing to help), and because the internet kept a lot more informed about what was really going on, and revealed the lies McCain was spewing on his ad spots.
But the difference you're seeing today, is that we liberal fags (some of us more faggy or liberal than others) are willing to be openly critical about our man in office, particularly when he doesn't do right by us, because we're not afraid we're going to get lynched or disappeared when we don't tow the party line. Indeed, your boys like to sport your sidearms in public, and have been able to do so with minimal harry by the authorities. We get it. You guys tow your country-hick jingoistic line because you have to. That's okay. We understand.
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But you get that Beck, Hannity, Coulter and the rest of Murdock's clowns are getting their ratings because they're clowns, and because they're willing to as good ol' Adolph put it, tell the big lie. Right?
And you get that McCain couldn't have won the election against Mickey Mouse or one of the Bin Ladens, right? Not because of that harpie shrew he tapped for VP, though that certainly sealed the deal, but because his predecessor fucked up so bad that our country will be paying dues for generations, if it survives long enough to do so.
Obama-era conservatives seem to forget much of Bush history, from letting Osama and the rest of the Bin Ladens escape, (I still suspect a LIHOP scenario), to burning our own spy for political reprisal, to starting an illegal, useless war on false pretenses (oh, that) to torturing POWs to exact confirmations of false intelligence to justify said military action and blatantly flipping off the UN and the Geneva Convention, not to mention hiring mercenaries to circumvent rules of engagement. Then there's the gutting of FEMA in the name of the DHS just before Katrina sacked New Orleans; sneaking Christianity into our public schools via Intelligent Design and Abstenance Only Sex Education, funneling tons of tax-dollars to big churches, big oil, big pharmaceuticals, the guys who test our kids and dump our failures in No Child Left Behind and Halliburton, and then deny, deny, denying that global warming is a problem until it became climate change.
Need I go on? There are reasons that some most are a bit ticked off at the Republicans.
Incidentally, the towel-heads, by which I assume you mean the Sauds are staunch supporters of the Republican party. So are all the terrorist groups (who don't usually have enough money to put into American politics). The former enjoy the kickbacks that they receive in spades, and Repubs are good for terrorist recruitment.
As for voter fraud, nothing will compare to the Florida fiasco in 2000 that ultimately got your man Bush in office (ultimately because daddy pulled strings in the USSC), but books have been written about the levels of disenfranchisement pulled by brother Jeb and his minions. No, rather, Obama was put into office because the Rove campaigning machine just couldn't compete with the country's resentment, because the economy sucked (not entirely Bush's fault, but he did a lot to hurt and nothing to help), and because the internet kept a lot more informed about what was really going on, and revealed the lies McCain was spewing on his ad spots.
But the difference you're seeing today, is that we liberal fags (some of us more faggy or liberal than others) are willing to be openly critical about our man in office, particularly when he doesn't do right by us, because we're not afraid we're going to get lynched or disappeared when we don't tow the party line. Indeed, your boys like to sport your sidearms in public, and have been able to do so with minimal harry by the authorities. We get it. You guys tow your country-hick jingoistic line because you have to. That's okay. We understand.
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@159 et. al.
The thing with sex-change operations is: I would have no problem with them IF THEY WORKED. Have you ever seen the results of such an operation? Post-ops DON'T have a vagina or a cock. They have a mutilation.
I can understand gender dysphoria, but I can't understand feeling that having working genitalia between your legs (no matter what they might look like) isn't better than a nasty mess of scar tissue.
I also kinda feel that the whole expectation that someone with "masculine" traits has to have a cock, and vice-versa is just a socially-generated thing. If I like someone as an individual, I'm willing to play with whatever they've got... but I would prefer it to be a nice, natural, healthy set of genitals, not a surgery disaster.
The thing with sex-change operations is: I would have no problem with them IF THEY WORKED. Have you ever seen the results of such an operation? Post-ops DON'T have a vagina or a cock. They have a mutilation.
I can understand gender dysphoria, but I can't understand feeling that having working genitalia between your legs (no matter what they might look like) isn't better than a nasty mess of scar tissue.
I also kinda feel that the whole expectation that someone with "masculine" traits has to have a cock, and vice-versa is just a socially-generated thing. If I like someone as an individual, I'm willing to play with whatever they've got... but I would prefer it to be a nice, natural, healthy set of genitals, not a surgery disaster.
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#137/hermioneinchains: "Roma, I agree with you on almost all points. The only thing is, you have a slightly optimistic view of the general male population, perhaps because you are one of the GGG ones. . . . It was just an experiment, and I understand that I got a certain cross-section of the male population, but I found it kind of disturbing. I should have gotten a LOT more "this is obviously a fake ad." What became pretty apparent to me is that most of the men who emailed me "knew" that a lot of women were secretly 'whores' who wanted to be fucked in all holes, and treated like crap. Which says to me that they believe the porn they watch, because they're not getting this from women."
Perhaps my view of the general male population is optimistic. But you really can't conduct an experiment on Craigslist, of all places, and think that you're getting some accurate representation of men and how they view women. I would bet that the typical Craigslist guy is exactly the kind of guy I referred to earlier, the kind who has little-to-no experience with real women so he is far more likely to buy into the fantasies that porn sells. Intelligent men who have experience with real women understand that porn is fantasy, no matter how much of it they watch.
Perhaps my view of the general male population is optimistic. But you really can't conduct an experiment on Craigslist, of all places, and think that you're getting some accurate representation of men and how they view women. I would bet that the typical Craigslist guy is exactly the kind of guy I referred to earlier, the kind who has little-to-no experience with real women so he is far more likely to buy into the fantasies that porn sells. Intelligent men who have experience with real women understand that porn is fantasy, no matter how much of it they watch.
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@155: My post is "generic and uneducated." Yours are... conservative poetry? They could have been written by anyone (with no style or sense of logic). I'm sorry I handed you your ass on that post but let's not be bitter. Obama won with the... vote. Dems aren't the ones with push polls and efforts to disenroll / not register city voters, you know.
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I wasn't going to comment, but can't resist saying that #80, you are a fucking idiot.
"ALL men get bored of having sex with their female partners (wives/girlfriends/etc) after about 9-12 months (tops). Blame it on biology. Males are biologically "wired" to have sex with as many partners as possible, in order to spread our genetic material as far and wide as possible."
Have you interviewed ALL men? How the fuck would you even know? My boyfriend and I have an open relationship and he didn't sleep with another woman for years because having sex with me was so hot. So, I guess he doesn't fit into your "ALL men" category. Or maybe I'm just an exceptional woman because he didn't get bored with me after 12 months?
Also, who the hell proved that men are "wired" to have sex with as many partners as possible? PLEASE show me the medical studies that have confirmed this. Really, that was just a bullshit theory to let men off the hook for being promiscuous while persecuting any woman who wanted to sleep with more than one man (look into the history of rape law and you'll see how and why your fucked up theory came about).
So, all in all, you are a sexist asshole.
"ALL men get bored of having sex with their female partners (wives/girlfriends/etc) after about 9-12 months (tops). Blame it on biology. Males are biologically "wired" to have sex with as many partners as possible, in order to spread our genetic material as far and wide as possible."
Have you interviewed ALL men? How the fuck would you even know? My boyfriend and I have an open relationship and he didn't sleep with another woman for years because having sex with me was so hot. So, I guess he doesn't fit into your "ALL men" category. Or maybe I'm just an exceptional woman because he didn't get bored with me after 12 months?
Also, who the hell proved that men are "wired" to have sex with as many partners as possible? PLEASE show me the medical studies that have confirmed this. Really, that was just a bullshit theory to let men off the hook for being promiscuous while persecuting any woman who wanted to sleep with more than one man (look into the history of rape law and you'll see how and why your fucked up theory came about).
So, all in all, you are a sexist asshole.
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By the way, #80, you ought to check out the book "Gender and motivation" by Dan Bernstein for a little enlightenment on the subject of biological studies.
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@161: First off all, you've been playing too many warrior video games. You sound some evil leader in a knock-off Star Trek episode. Anyway, despite your efforts to think you know me, or where I'm from are totally wrong. In true liberal fashion you think you can just dismiss the opposition and wish them into irrelevancy. Sorry pal, the opposition, or those who are wise to the game, aren't going anywhere and ARE GROWING in numbers. I do know you however. You play your video games about 10 hour per day in your efficiency apartment; you have about 2 friends and your idea of fun is jacking off to a Sheena Warrior Princess poster; and you troll the chat rooms looking for 12 year old girls (or boys). I think that's pretty close. So, i would take the small town behind the walls any day over your miserable deviant life.
@164: Yes, sir, you are uneducated. And, unfortunately, there is no cure for it.
In regard to being gay, solid studies show that homosexuals are a very depressed group with high suicide rates. Why are they depressed? Because there's not enough rainbow clothing at the boutique? No, because they are an abomination of humanity. Being gay is a SEXUAL PREFERENCE, not a biological. The public has been tricked into believing its a biological thing so that gays can feel validated. Gays shouldn't have special rights because you are not a race or a religion.
You just have a sexual preference, no more than someone who prefers a certain sexual position. I know it hurts to hear it spelled out like that, but it is the factual truth. Plain and simple.
And, if I'm wrong, I won't get one angry response. See, when people get angry about what is said, that means the messenger has said something worthy.
So, I will leave you all to wallow in your own miserable filth. I have to catch Hannity and Beck on FOX. Good day butt pirates!!!!!!!!!!1
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@164: Yes, sir, you are uneducated. And, unfortunately, there is no cure for it.
In regard to being gay, solid studies show that homosexuals are a very depressed group with high suicide rates. Why are they depressed? Because there's not enough rainbow clothing at the boutique? No, because they are an abomination of humanity. Being gay is a SEXUAL PREFERENCE, not a biological. The public has been tricked into believing its a biological thing so that gays can feel validated. Gays shouldn't have special rights because you are not a race or a religion.
You just have a sexual preference, no more than someone who prefers a certain sexual position. I know it hurts to hear it spelled out like that, but it is the factual truth. Plain and simple.
And, if I'm wrong, I won't get one angry response. See, when people get angry about what is said, that means the messenger has said something worthy.
So, I will leave you all to wallow in your own miserable filth. I have to catch Hannity and Beck on FOX. Good day butt pirates!!!!!!!!!!1
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The guy who wants to become a woman probably was asking women he's friends with. His letter was a bit sparsely worded in a way that sounded a little weird perhaps (maybe due to editing? letters I've sent to this column appeared in an edited form) but i don't think he deserved a scolding for something as inappropriate as asking random strangers for help changing genders, as i doubt he (soon, if he proceeds with his plan, to be she) did that. (Please lighten up Dan. As I've told you before, you're a tad too harsh.) Love, jenae
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Right, I'm a little late to this party but I did want to pipe up a little.
@ 136 (XXChromosomes): Unbunch your ovaries a little. If somebody waved a magic wand and turned you into a man, how do you think you'd feel? Like a woman in a man's body, I'll bet. Sex (anatomy) does not always equal gender (identity). Most females become women, most males become men, but for some individuals being born female or male is just a technicality. For whatever reason, their gender develops separately - and this is reflected in their social and sexual tendencies as well as their actual brain development. In a lot of transgendered people, it's really like someone took a woman's (or man's) brain and placed it in a male (or female) body. All I'm saying is that, in terms of woman-ness, it's really what's in your head that counts - even more than the whole uterus/ovaries/vagina setup.
@ the conservative trolls: buzz buzz. Why are you even here?
@ Warsaw: I have a 8-year-old little brother. He has always, by his own choice, acted like a girl, dressed like a girl, befriended girls and picked girl characters in games of make believe. He harbors no delusions - he knows that he is a boy right now, and is growing up to be a man. However, if he decides to change that when he is older - decides to become the girl that he's, so far, always been - I don't think anyone that knows him would see it as anything but a corrective surgery. There's nothing twisted or wrong about him, he just seems like a girl. I hope he doesn't feel like he has to go all the way to sex reassignment, but if he really needs to be a female to feel like him/herself, I wouldn't hold it against him/her.
In my case, I'm a 22 year-old lesbian who has always enjoyed being "boyish" - being strong and tough and rough-and-tumble. And while I tend to talk and act generally boyish, I also have a nurturing, vulnerable, kind, gentle side that I wouldn't let go for all the world. I don't feel like a woman. I don't feel like a man. And I don't want to be either of those things, ever. So I go on dressing however I feel for the day, acting like a guy, giggling like a girl, playing rough, talking about my feelings, blurring the lines because that's how I am. I don't understand what's so sacred about the "man" and "woman" boxes that our society is constantly defining and redefining - maybe I'm missing something there - but I honestly feel happiest when I'm just doing what comes naturally, be it stereotypically manly or girlish or completely undecipherable.
On a further note, personal gray areas aside, we all understand that males and females do each TEND to have specific traits, but sex (anatomy) does not always equal gender (identity), and I find that my peers who've been raised with the age of GSA and PFLAG are not so drastic in seeking out their true form. My transgendered friends (I have four around my age) are becoming the men and women they are without, so far, altering genitalia. Three take hormones, one of the FTMs (who takes hormones) had chest surgery... but however they change their bodies, my friends are happiest and most at home when their outside reflects their gender, and socially no one even knows or cares what their sex is. I know one of my friends is considering sex reassignment in the future, but the rest say that, at least for now, they'd rather not. So yeah, just saying that I know guys with vaginas and chicks with dicks and their pretty much like regular guys and chicks. They're not crazies. Which leads me to believe that it's not the mismatch that makes people crazy so much as our society's insistence that everything gender-related be so narrow and binary.
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@ 136 (XXChromosomes): Unbunch your ovaries a little. If somebody waved a magic wand and turned you into a man, how do you think you'd feel? Like a woman in a man's body, I'll bet. Sex (anatomy) does not always equal gender (identity). Most females become women, most males become men, but for some individuals being born female or male is just a technicality. For whatever reason, their gender develops separately - and this is reflected in their social and sexual tendencies as well as their actual brain development. In a lot of transgendered people, it's really like someone took a woman's (or man's) brain and placed it in a male (or female) body. All I'm saying is that, in terms of woman-ness, it's really what's in your head that counts - even more than the whole uterus/ovaries/vagina setup.
@ the conservative trolls: buzz buzz. Why are you even here?
@ Warsaw: I have a 8-year-old little brother. He has always, by his own choice, acted like a girl, dressed like a girl, befriended girls and picked girl characters in games of make believe. He harbors no delusions - he knows that he is a boy right now, and is growing up to be a man. However, if he decides to change that when he is older - decides to become the girl that he's, so far, always been - I don't think anyone that knows him would see it as anything but a corrective surgery. There's nothing twisted or wrong about him, he just seems like a girl. I hope he doesn't feel like he has to go all the way to sex reassignment, but if he really needs to be a female to feel like him/herself, I wouldn't hold it against him/her.
In my case, I'm a 22 year-old lesbian who has always enjoyed being "boyish" - being strong and tough and rough-and-tumble. And while I tend to talk and act generally boyish, I also have a nurturing, vulnerable, kind, gentle side that I wouldn't let go for all the world. I don't feel like a woman. I don't feel like a man. And I don't want to be either of those things, ever. So I go on dressing however I feel for the day, acting like a guy, giggling like a girl, playing rough, talking about my feelings, blurring the lines because that's how I am. I don't understand what's so sacred about the "man" and "woman" boxes that our society is constantly defining and redefining - maybe I'm missing something there - but I honestly feel happiest when I'm just doing what comes naturally, be it stereotypically manly or girlish or completely undecipherable.
On a further note, personal gray areas aside, we all understand that males and females do each TEND to have specific traits, but sex (anatomy) does not always equal gender (identity), and I find that my peers who've been raised with the age of GSA and PFLAG are not so drastic in seeking out their true form. My transgendered friends (I have four around my age) are becoming the men and women they are without, so far, altering genitalia. Three take hormones, one of the FTMs (who takes hormones) had chest surgery... but however they change their bodies, my friends are happiest and most at home when their outside reflects their gender, and socially no one even knows or cares what their sex is. I know one of my friends is considering sex reassignment in the future, but the rest say that, at least for now, they'd rather not. So yeah, just saying that I know guys with vaginas and chicks with dicks and their pretty much like regular guys and chicks. They're not crazies. Which leads me to believe that it's not the mismatch that makes people crazy so much as our society's insistence that everything gender-related be so narrow and binary.
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@169: Ok, Obama. Just call your opposers names and wish them away. Fat chance. I'll burn this blog to the ground if i wanted to, but i'm having too much fun. I'm just toying with my little liberal "friends".
As far as your little brother, just take away his dolls.
As far as your little brother, just take away his dolls.
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"In regard to being gay, solid studies show that homosexuals are a very depressed group with high suicide rates. Why are they depressed? Because there's not enough rainbow clothing at the boutique? No, because they are an abomination of humanity."
Having problems with your repressed feeling there, mate? I can see why you'd be depressed, especially given your nature to act straight in public but then display your true nature here. I just hope you don't have a family you're destroying. And you may want to keep watch of your wide stance for awhile.
Having problems with your repressed feeling there, mate? I can see why you'd be depressed, especially given your nature to act straight in public but then display your true nature here. I just hope you don't have a family you're destroying. And you may want to keep watch of your wide stance for awhile.
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Conservative 167 I wasn't trying to guess who you were, I was openly mocking you. A captive member of a closed religious commune who had the brights to realize the nature of his captivity and that a better world exists outside of the the menagerie that is the FOX news no spin zone might actually be redeemable. But it was apparent from the moment you slithered onto the stranger, it was the shortage of bashable gays in the pit from which you spawned.
As for what you imagine me to be, you might have guessed better if you read the subtext of the my posts in this thread, let alone the ones I've posted that season the rest of SLOG, but nice try and thanks for playing.
Speaking of FOX news, I take you are aware that every underdog radical revolutionary organization and every evangelist revealed faith exaggerates their numbers to the converts, right? Maybe not; you seem deluded regarding a wide gamut of topics. Still, you might want to consult neutral resources before bragging about your growing numbers; there hasn't been a time in this nation's history that someone was crying that the revolution was neigh usually with claims that the requisite liberation army was in place. Guess how many times they were right.
According to your logic (gays are suicidal because they're abominable) suicide rates directly correspond to the degree by which God hates them, right?
So let's say that the average US Abomination Level is AL11 (Average suicide rate in the US is 11 per 100,000) (source), then, according to your logic:
Gay young people 14-24: AL30 Note: This is a guess. President George W. Bush suppressed all statistical studies done about gay suicides during his administration. I don't have enough data to estimate the rate for all gays, but this age range is the most critical.
All young people 14-24: AL10
White men AL17.7; women AL4.5; nonwhites AL5.5 -- does God find white men abominable?
Montana: AL22; Alaska: AL19.7; California: AL8.9; New York: AL6.2; New Jersey: AL6.1
Washington: AL13.1
Men over 65: AL29.5
Gun owners: AL17
Gamer geeks: AL<1
Black women: AL1.8
Perhaps I overestimated you, Conservative
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As for what you imagine me to be, you might have guessed better if you read the subtext of the my posts in this thread, let alone the ones I've posted that season the rest of SLOG, but nice try and thanks for playing.
Speaking of FOX news, I take you are aware that every underdog radical revolutionary organization and every evangelist revealed faith exaggerates their numbers to the converts, right? Maybe not; you seem deluded regarding a wide gamut of topics. Still, you might want to consult neutral resources before bragging about your growing numbers; there hasn't been a time in this nation's history that someone was crying that the revolution was neigh usually with claims that the requisite liberation army was in place. Guess how many times they were right.
According to your logic (gays are suicidal because they're abominable) suicide rates directly correspond to the degree by which God hates them, right?
So let's say that the average US Abomination Level is AL11 (Average suicide rate in the US is 11 per 100,000) (source), then, according to your logic:
Gay young people 14-24: AL30 Note: This is a guess. President George W. Bush suppressed all statistical studies done about gay suicides during his administration. I don't have enough data to estimate the rate for all gays, but this age range is the most critical.
All young people 14-24: AL10
White men AL17.7; women AL4.5; nonwhites AL5.5 -- does God find white men abominable?
Montana: AL22; Alaska: AL19.7; California: AL8.9; New York: AL6.2; New Jersey: AL6.1
Washington: AL13.1
Men over 65: AL29.5
Gun owners: AL17
Gamer geeks: AL<1
Black women: AL1.8
Perhaps I overestimated you, Conservative
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lol @ rogo.
killing abortion doctors is a common sense problem to a societal problem?
I think a common sense answer to a problem of 'too many kids without parents' is allowing gay people to adopt easily. Not common sense enough?
killing abortion doctors is a common sense problem to a societal problem?
I think a common sense answer to a problem of 'too many kids without parents' is allowing gay people to adopt easily. Not common sense enough?
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My husband always wants to kiss me after he's gotten me off using his tongue, sometimes I lick myself off, sometimes I push his face to my neck and let him rub in on my neck and shoulders. I asked him once, long ago, to lick me clean after he shot a hot load up in me, which he did with a little encouragement. When he saw how hot it made me again, he realized it wasn't as disgusting as it sounded! Every now and then he'll ask if that's what I want....NICE.....
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In your letter to SLUT, I felt like you were talking to me, and a little of the guilt from the past year and a half eased. Thank you.
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As far as eating semen goes, have you heard of prostaglandins. These are some of the most powerful chemicals known, as few as three molecules of some prostaglandins (generated by the prostate) on a uterus have been shown to induce greater uterine motility (easy to see how evolution could select for such a mechanism) So semen is extremely powerful stuff (even aside from the genetic packets.) So if your lover does not want to eat semen (whatever their gender) fine. very un-macrobiotic. If you need to dominate them and they are perverse enough to take it, go ahead. Aside from transfers of cash by overt contract, I do not go for a marketplace attitude. I learned about sex from a wonderful gay friend, my first GF's best friend as well. If your my lover, I will please you, inventively and massively, I will let you stretch my boundaries in search of my pure pleasure, not yours. Stimulus generalization (look it up if you need to) is for people who cannot face the pleasure that their own bodies can bring.
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To #80- I don't doubt that men are hardwired to want new & exciting after a while.
But the way you put it, is all wrong. There are so many things you can do to keep a man interested. The main one being different things. Don't do the same positions everytime. Make it realy long sometimes and a quickie others. Add in tons of variation. You can keep a man happy & interested.
After 13 years together, in the past month we've had sex in the car, quickies, marathons as long as 3 hours at a time, as many as 5 times in a day, lingerie on, nothing on, we always leave the lights on, oral, anal, toys, you name a position we probably did it. Exciting enough?
But the way you put it, is all wrong. There are so many things you can do to keep a man interested. The main one being different things. Don't do the same positions everytime. Make it realy long sometimes and a quickie others. Add in tons of variation. You can keep a man happy & interested.
After 13 years together, in the past month we've had sex in the car, quickies, marathons as long as 3 hours at a time, as many as 5 times in a day, lingerie on, nothing on, we always leave the lights on, oral, anal, toys, you name a position we probably did it. Exciting enough?
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@ Conservative: Or I could just take away your bible. Wait, no you'd still be a right-wing flamethrower. Only unhappier. Der.
Taking away dolls doesn't take away the inclination to play with dolls, Mr. Conservative. It only makes some poor kid sad and confused about why he's not allowed to play with dolls anymore.
That's like saying that celibacy cures (homo or hetero) sexuality.
That's like saying that taking away your bible would cure your "christianity."
BTW, Jesus, if he actually existed, wouldn't have liked you at all. When he was yelling at lawyers and pharisees - hypocrites! - he was talking about all the dogmatic, greedy, self-righteous conservatives just like them, namely you. You can say and do whatever you like, but if you ever just go and read the new testament, and exclude Paul (who was, frankly, just a misogynistic nut job that was something like 100 years to late to be relevant, but was included in the bible with the less radical gospels so that Rome's theological underpinnings wouldn't undermine it's patriarchal, hierarchical socio-political structure), the other Gospels, which are at least rumored to have foundations in the stories of people who actually met and studied with Christ, all have a very distinctly anti-conservative message. I mean, all of Jesus' quotes seem to indicate that he was a pretty okay guy who fought systemic injustice and oppression with human compassion and kindness, and who encouraged people to look past their preconceptions and prejudice and see the people behind the label and not judge them. A kind, compassionate, nonjudgmental Christian would not take away a kid's dolls just because he had preconceptions that male=boy=[some certain set of boyish/manly interests].
I don't believe in God, but that Jesus guy... he was pretty alright. And also Jewish. And also a child conceived out of wedlock. And he had very egalitarian beliefs, like that prostitutes and tax collectors and all women deserved the same basic human respect and consideration as any high-class, wealthy patriarch.
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Taking away dolls doesn't take away the inclination to play with dolls, Mr. Conservative. It only makes some poor kid sad and confused about why he's not allowed to play with dolls anymore.
That's like saying that celibacy cures (homo or hetero) sexuality.
That's like saying that taking away your bible would cure your "christianity."
BTW, Jesus, if he actually existed, wouldn't have liked you at all. When he was yelling at lawyers and pharisees - hypocrites! - he was talking about all the dogmatic, greedy, self-righteous conservatives just like them, namely you. You can say and do whatever you like, but if you ever just go and read the new testament, and exclude Paul (who was, frankly, just a misogynistic nut job that was something like 100 years to late to be relevant, but was included in the bible with the less radical gospels so that Rome's theological underpinnings wouldn't undermine it's patriarchal, hierarchical socio-political structure), the other Gospels, which are at least rumored to have foundations in the stories of people who actually met and studied with Christ, all have a very distinctly anti-conservative message. I mean, all of Jesus' quotes seem to indicate that he was a pretty okay guy who fought systemic injustice and oppression with human compassion and kindness, and who encouraged people to look past their preconceptions and prejudice and see the people behind the label and not judge them. A kind, compassionate, nonjudgmental Christian would not take away a kid's dolls just because he had preconceptions that male=boy=[some certain set of boyish/manly interests].
I don't believe in God, but that Jesus guy... he was pretty alright. And also Jewish. And also a child conceived out of wedlock. And he had very egalitarian beliefs, like that prostitutes and tax collectors and all women deserved the same basic human respect and consideration as any high-class, wealthy patriarch.
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@169/178 (SexIsNotGender): Thank the Gods. I have just become a part of the Queer Department at my Universitty, and have been exposed to people of different gender identies after 6 years in a conservative country. I am friends with two pre-ops (one MTF, one FTM) and quite a few people somewhere inbetween male and female. While I consider myself 100% female, I do not think that everyone else with my genatalia must be too.
I hope that whatever your brother decides in regards to his gender, he is happy and doesn't let fuckwits like Warsaw doubt himself.
Oh, and just to blow some of your conservative little minds: my MTF friend is a lesbian and at one time considered becomming a priest.
I hope that whatever your brother decides in regards to his gender, he is happy and doesn't let fuckwits like Warsaw doubt himself.
Oh, and just to blow some of your conservative little minds: my MTF friend is a lesbian and at one time considered becomming a priest.
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Dan, I love you advise, but that doean't mean I need to read it twice... Am I wrong, or did all but the first of these writers already appear in your column? Please bring on the new stuff!
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Dan, reading the advice you gave the first reader was really comforting for me to hear. I was in a similar situation recently, and some friends (and my own damn self) made me feel like a bad person for not being saint-like in my devotion to a guy who thought a date was a lengthy Facebook chat conversation. I was apparently "impatient" for ending my bogus (long-distance!) relationship in favor of getting to know someone really awesome. There's still these really weird, ancient ideas going around abut how women are inherently patient and all-forgiving. Lame.
Anyway, I've been working on laying my residual guilt to rest, with the help of family, friends, and someone really awesome. But somehow, the cool finality of a sex advice columnist's opinion was all I needed. Thanks again, Dan.
Anyway, I've been working on laying my residual guilt to rest, with the help of family, friends, and someone really awesome. But somehow, the cool finality of a sex advice columnist's opinion was all I needed. Thanks again, Dan.
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