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We Have a Winner!

June 21, 2001

The votes are in, they've been counted, recounted, and... actually, I'm going to resist making the stock Florida/hanging-chad/Republican-coup jokes. After all, this is serious business: What term, from this day forward, will be the commonly accepted slang for a woman fucking a man in the ass with a strap-on dildo? Three candidates stood in this election: bob, for Bend Over Boyfriend, a popular series of "how to fuck your man in the ass" videos; punt, for kicking the ball to the other team; and peg, for a device once used to, uh, keep the butts of some very unlucky boys gaping open. Thousands of people took the time to cast ballots (12,103 to be exact) and many included impassioned pleas for their favored candidate along with their votes.

No offense, Dan, but hey, Aunt Peg, fuck you! Pegging is too great a term to be eliminated so as to avoid offending one of your family members. Bobbing is too evocative of the action done by a person performing oral sex ("his/her head was bobbing up and down"), and punting gives the false impression that there's a foot involved somehow. Pegged, on the other hand, just seems to beg the addition "my ass." As in, "My girlfriend pegged my ass last night." The fact that it's a woman's name makes it all the more appropriate.

Picking Peg

The best thing about the verb "to punt" is that it has a meaning that you are possibly unaware of. In the English university towns of Oxford and Cambridge, to go punting means "to propel oneself down the river in a flat-bottomed, wooden boat, by inserting a massive pole into the river and pushing hard," much like a gondolier in Venice. This is surely a perfect analogy for ass-fucking by a woman who, after all, lacks her own pole to push with.

David M.
Robinson College, Cambridge

My name is Jackie Strano; my partner is Shar Rednour. Together we created, directed, and wrote the Bend Over Boyfriend series, starring Dr. Carol Queen. Shar and I loved your column about what to name woman-on-man anal sex. And of course we have to vote for ourselves! BOB! BOB! BOB! BOB is the word!

Jackie Strano
SIR Video Productions

You probably are not aware that straight women (and some of my lesbian friends, with a definite hint of sarcasm in their voices) refer to their cordless vibrators as Bob. It stands for Battery Operated Boyfriend.


Football is 50 percent violence, 20 percent men bending over, 15 percent big egos, 10 percent getting slapped on the ass, four percent inane dialogue, and one percent love. Sounds pretty much the same as getting "punted" to me! And I'm curious... after a vigorous session of punting, does the woman get to roll over and go to sleep while the man silently lies there and wonders what the future may hold?

Theology Major at Ohio Dominican College

I would think that in writing a column so dedicated to all manners of getting off, you would have done extensive research on Ye Olde British Navy. Some of my friends and I were trapped in an assembly in the high-school library a few years back and decided to entertain ourselves by searching for the most derogatory term in the American slang dictionary. Peg boy won hands down (or asses up). Peg boy was a position in Her Majesty's Navy: He was the boy available for the after-hours pleasure of the sailors on those long nights at sea. To keep loose for his hard nights' work, he would sit on a peg during the day.

Paid Attention in School

Definitely "peg." Consider: Pegged. Pegging. Pegger. Peggable. Sir Pegged-a-Lot. Soft peg/hard peg. Feeling a bit peggy. Peg me, dammit. Not tonight, I've got a peg-ache.

All for Peg

"Last night she pegged me." "Last night she bobbed me." "Last night she punted me." I'd rather be pegged.


I voted for "punting" because it blends p(enis) with (c)unting, and because men always feel more manly when they're talking about sports. As opposed to "bobbing," which reminds me either of apples (fairly neutral), or John and Lorena Bobbitt (fairly terrifying).


When you first suggested a term be coined for a sexual act that SPECIFICALLY applied to a woman doing something to a man, I wondered why we had to be so specific. After all, the terms fucking or fisting or kissing don't specify the gender of the actors. Then I saw the advantage. My husband (like most straight men) can't break the connection between being fucked in the ass and being gay--but a gender-specific term might help! If you're gay and another man is fucking you in the ass, he isn't PUNTING you. You have to be straight to get punted. A woman has to do the job. I vote punt!

Positively Uninhibited Newly Turned-on Effeminate Radical

Hey, Dan, have you ever notice that the word "Strap-On," spelled backwards, is "No-Parts"? Kind of ironically perfect, isn't it?

DB in Vancouver

No, I hadn't noticed, DBIV, but now that you've pointed it out, I'll never forget it.

And now, the moment you've all been waiting for... THE WINNER! In what can only be regarded as a stunning upset, my favored candidate, bob, came in dead LAST. Out of 12,103 votes cast, bob received only 2,721 votes (22.5%). In second place, with 4,166 votes (34.5%), was punt. And in first place, with 5,216 votes (43%), was peg! Peg is the winner!

I'd like to thank everyone who took the time to vote, including the handful of computer geeks who scolded me for not using some fancy e-mail program that would've allowed me to count the votes with a couple of key strokes. Sorry, guys, but I believe in counting votes by hand, as God intended votes to be counted.

And, finally, I'd like to offer an apology to my Aunt Peg. I've always been close to my Aunt Peg--she taught me about the birds and the bees--and she's always been there for me. And how do I thank her? By ruining her good name. I'm going to see my Aunt Peg at my brother's wedding this July, at which time she will no doubt peg the shit out of me for doing this to her. And who can blame her?

HEY EVERYBODY: This is the final weekend of Dina Martina's absolutely high-fucking-larious show, Come Back to the Re-bar, Dina Martina Dina Martina. This may be your last chance to see the best of Dina, including the apple-head dolls, "In the Ghetto," and Mr. Peanut. Go, go, go.

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I have been regularly pegged by my girlfriend for 4 years now. Her female lover has joined in on occasion, but is a sub-par pegger while my girlfriend is...just so good at it that I simply do not have the words to describe her skill/sensuousness. I was a virgin at the time of my initiation as bending over for my girlfriend was a prerequisite for fucking. I thought it was a one-time thing at the time but instead, it has become the centre of our sex life.
Posted by dangered MAREAN on November 6, 2008 at 8:23 AM · Report this
i wish i could meet women who like to pegg men. is there a club for them? if so please let me know. (619)829-4904 ask for "laura paulina" please no pros, no$. just the fun for these women and i.
Posted by paulo on December 1, 2008 at 8:44 PM · Report this
I have seen it on video for years , but only occasionally. Now that I have found out about the term 'Pegging' I have looked it up on the Internet and there is a lot of info about it. I would like my wife to take an interest in it and Peg me, but she is a little shy about doing it to me yet.I would love to correspond with other couples here in West Australia who are regulars at Pegging and have them chat to my wife so that she can overcome her inhibitions and fuck my bum too. Is there a public Forum where I can email people about this very interesting topic.

Posted by Avoboy on January 31, 2009 at 5:13 PM · Report this
Dan Savage-Theatre major. How cliche.
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'... searching for the most derogatory term in the American slang dictionary. Peg boy won hands down (or asses up).'

Very dubious claim. The 'American slang dictionary' to which you refer has to be 'The American slang dictionary' (1891), by James Maitland. There's no entry for 'peg boy' in 'The American slang dictionary'. Another urban myth exploded I'd venture.
Posted by Richard Mahony on May 2, 2014 at 3:02 PM · Report this
Also, nothing for 'peg boy' in the 'American Slang Dictionary' by Richard Spears (Fourth Edition, McGraw-Hill ESL, 29 June 2006).
Posted by Richard Mahony on May 2, 2014 at 3:15 PM · Report this

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