A woman is having an affair with a man who is probably gay. Should she help him to cross the line into homo-land, or butt out and find somebody who digs chicks?
A man is dating a gal who is perfect in every way except for one little problem. She is bat-shit, loony tunes crazy. Is the sex worth it?
A queer woman has a girlfriend who’s a real snoozer in the sack. She calls her hot gender-queer pals whenever she wants sex, fucks them and then comes home to her girlfriend to read in bed and fall asleep. Will it last? Is it right?
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Man, Dan’s advice to the guy who doesn’t want to be a parent was BAD. No one should be pushed into parenthood. Imagine how bad the kid is going to feel when the guy “man’s up,” but then leaves in a year.
If the guy can only get off when he’s alone, I’m not sure the solution is “keep masturbating.” How about “stop masturbating?” If he only gives himself the opportunity to have an orgasm when he’s with someone else (even if it’s by his own hand) sheer pent-up horniness may be able to make it happen.
If it doesn’t, then he should see a medical specialist.
Getting together with an ex in any form is ALWAYS a bad idea.
The Netflix ad read that you can “stream on your PC, Mac…” Unfortunately Netflix only supports Windows PCs and Macs. They do not support Linux PCs.
@fred, you’re wrong. Actually, I’ve had this problem for many years and am so relieved to hear this listener’s problem is EXACTLY the same as mine. I have talked to medical specialists; they know what to do when you can’t get it up, but no clue about cumming; they tell you it’s hormonal or whatever. It’s not.
Stopping masturbating is also not a solution, nor does it help you cum faster/stronger. Sometimes I’m super horny and when I finally do cum, it’s SUPER STRONG – meaning it wasn’t like I “wasted” orgasms – but it takes a long time and sometimes only with my hand.
I only learned to cum with a girl after doing therapy for a while and realizing that it had psychological ties. In fact, girls have this EXACT problem, but for them it’s accepted (and expected). Although I still haven’t learned to do it with oral or handjobs.
In my case, there’s a strong tie to my self-esteem, and the way I treat myself.
My tips for the listener:
1) DON’T FOCUS ON IT. Seriously. I know if I tell you to not think of it, you will think of it more, so I’ll say: focus on the other stuff. Think about how hot she is, how hot you two are, the situation. Enjoy the ride, seriously.
2) Explain to her beforehand that you don’t usually cum and that’s OKAY. Be adamant about that part. Expect a look of WTF. Give her an incredible foreplay session and show her that you can go for more than 5min unlike those fucking premature babies.
3) Feel your body. When you start to feel like it’s coming, and your mind goes “OK WE GOTTA DO THIS WE GOTTA DO THIS” that usually means you probably won’t do it. Fucking relax. Take a second.
In the other hand, if you feel a tingle, or a light goosebump, something totally physical… one thing that helps me is to be very positive. I know this sounds like bullshit, but just the way you talk to yourself can help a lot.
For example; instead of “OK let’s cum, don’t let me down dick” is the bad way to do it. “Oh man, this is so good, this is perfect, OF COURSE I’m gonna cum, this girl is amazing, I’m so horny and this feels fucking great” usually helps me get pumped, feel like “da man” and then what do you know, I end up cumming!
I also like to imagine for example, what that girl would look like covered in cum. Even if I don’t do it in the end, it’s a sweet thought and helps me feel confident enough to cum.
4) Find your favorite cumming position. Mine is missionary. I can pretty much do it every time in that position, as long as the sex is good (if not, then don’t even worry about it).
5) Get intimate with someone. I’m not even saying get a girlfriend; be with someone that you feel comfortable with. On a one-night situation I rarely – if ever – cum.
6) DON’T WORRY ABOUT COMING. Seriously. You don’t owe it to anybody. It’s not a fucking contest. It’s all about enjoying it.
I seriously said seriously too many times. Sorry guys. Not my best editing there, lol.
Yo, the podcast is down. “Error Opening File”, and download won’t work either.
all the product shout outs are bumming me out…
To the guy who can’t come from outside stimulation: There’s nothing wrong with you. My boyfriend very rarely comes from hand jobs or blow jobs. (For complex non-religious reasons, we often can’t have vaginal intercourse.) We still have great sex. I suck on him for a long time and work him into a frenzy, and he finishes by hand. 🙂
Rember that masturbating together is a sexual act too! Let her kiss you and touch your nipples or balls while you stroke your cock.
You might want to try stroking yourself almost to the brink of orgasm, and then switch to her tongue just before the edge, and see what happens. Don’t have any strong attachments to a particular outcome. Just play around and experiment!
To the parent waffly guy: keep in mind, not everybody wants to *ever* be a parent. There are some happy Child-Free-By-Choice people out there. (I’m not one of them.) Don’t marry her only for the sake of keeping the boy happy, if you think you might be one of those never able to parent types. It’ll be harder on the kid if you realize this after you’ve married her mom. But, as Dan said, if you think you do someday want to be a parent, then it might as well be the parent of this boy you care about, whose mother you love.
Did anyone catch what the last commenter said? Something about playing something up a laundry chute to make noisy neighbors go away. So mumbly!
When listening to the advice about the woman whom Dan said was pushing the guy and playing ego games with him, I got very angry. At no point in time was the issue of mental illness suggested as a possible cause for her behavior. Depression isn’t the only mental illness, yet it’s the only one I hear being mentioned on the podcast.
To me, everything she’s doing makes sense. But that’s because I have Borderline Personality Disorder. BPD and other mental illnesses such as bipolar disorder are REAL, DEBILITATING ILLNESSES. Don’t ignore the possibility that perhaps this woman isn’t being a cunt and is actually sick. It doesn’t make her behavior ok, but it means that the guy should go about handling this situation in a different way. Maybe talking to her about what she’s feeling and why she’s feeling and what seems to precipitate those feelings would be a solution that wouldn’t lose the guy this awesome sex he’s having and perhaps allow them to begin a healthy relationship. Or maybe she’s never had anyone push her into therapy or getting another form of health.
“They [healthy people] think it’s just attention seeking. But thats NOT what it is about. And they should realize that. You’re put down even more because this is how you’re acting, but you’re not really trying to act like that.”
-From the paper “Borderline Personality Disorder: The Voice of the Patients” by Nadine Nehls, Published in: Research in Nursing & Health, 1999, p.288
Regarding female ejaculation: I can’t speak for all women, but I’ve done it and I’ve also stopped doing it. I started by myself, by drawing out the orgasm, and then releasing everything when I came. Ladies, do you ever feel like you need to pee right before you come?
Later, when I was got tired of the cleanup, I stopped releasing everything. After a while, I didn’t have to consciously hold back anymore. Now it’s kind of an effort to make it happen, but I still can.
Regarding the ad for Netflix, Dan says “Hot Tub Time Machine” is “funny”. Maybe he’s forced to say that, but I wanted to say, do NOT see that movie (I saw it, on Netflix, and regretted it). It is heterosexist/sexist lowest-common-denominator dribble. Here’s a summary from the Onion AV club 15 worst movies of 2010:
“Hot Tub Time Machine looked like it would have it all: a funny title, a clever premise that took a bunch of middle-aged men back to their misspent ’80s youth, a bunch of talented leads, and cameos from ’80s fixtures. So why turn it into a lazy collection of obvious Reagan-era references, meandering subplots, and casual sexism, with a finale that negates the tiny bit of soul-searching the film allows its characters? Up-and-comer Clark Duke provides the lone bright spot amid the mess. Get that kid in better movies, pronto.”
http://www.avclub.com/articles/the-15-wo…