My boyfriend prefers unprotected too (if possible -- we've used condoms exclusively for half a year with no problem since I've been going between birth control methods). He just likes the closeness. #3 nailed it.
This kid is lying.
How could two nice clean virgin boys get diseases having 100% foolproof safe GAY SEX with each other?
Don't they realize God meant them to stick their dicks in each other's asses and it is a perfectly Normal Natural NonDeviant UnPerverted activity?
You can't get diseases doing stuff like that...
Dan,
While you're quizzing your heroes at Kinsey be a dear and ask them why their namesake encouraged and covered up Child Rape.
Slog would like to know...
(will you be touring the Adolf Hitler Institute of Jewish Culture anytime soon?)
@7, right it's a gay thing. Straight women never get UTIs or yeast infections or anything else. Also, for the 203,102,245th time, if it's God giving the gays diseases for being gay, why do lesbians have the lowest rates of STDs of any group? Please answer, I know you have something good to say because you are so super smart!
Regarding the letter, I'm mostly straight, so it's not like I was having all that much anal sex. In those circumstances I suppose it might be preferable to just use condoms all the time, as sad as that thought makes me.
However! It occurs to me that the internal topography of the anus and vagina are sufficiently different that you might lose more to the condom in one than the other. The anal landscape is basically tubular and radially symmetrical, right? But the interior of the vagina is textured and only bilaterally symmetric. It could be that the condom itself isn't all that different in shape and texture from what you'd experience during anal sex anyway.
@4
"Closeness." Yes. We'll go with that, because anything less ambiguous and euphemistic would probably belong on an erotica site, not Slog. Suffice to say there are many wonderful things about sex in a relationship where there is enough trust to do without condoms.
Dammmit! I have to wait until I get home from work to view the cock! That being said, I am a cut guy and hate, Hate, HATE condoms. I can never come when I wear one unless I’ve gone days since my last orgasm. I also really, really prefer uncut guys and if your letter writer is looking for a 3rd…..
I'm uncut and hetro. I really haven't noticed much different between sex bareback and with a condom; there is definitely some, but wearing a condom is so much better than the hormonal crap women I've been with have gone through being on the pill or trying IUDs. They're cheap in bulk and take 2 seconds to put on. Plus they do make cleanup easier.
I'm straight and cut. I can't stand condoms, not because of the change in sensation, but more because of what's on my mind when I'm using one... like, we're not really touching each other sort of thing. Spoils it.
Uncut here, and I waay prefer it with a coat on. Otherwise I'm really too 'sensitive', if you know what I mean. With a little rubber in the way I can just focus on enjoying things and not be constantly having to visualise a three-way with Margaret Thatcher, Ronnie Reagan & Edwina Currie just to keep the pot from boiling too fast :)
@7 - A UTI (urinary tract infection) is not an STD. Both girls and guys can get them, and their cause is escherichia coli (bacteria that comes from your colon). Two people can fuck each other exclusively their entire sexual lives and still get them. Men and women who engage in anal play or sex will get them from santorum, and women get them more commonly from not wiping their asses properly. :S
You know- I don't know what it is but shlongs that curve down just turn me right off. As long as it makes him and his BF happy that's all that matters- but a cock curving down is a no go for me. It just . . . always looks sad, or half mast or something.
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Then what did 7 mean by saying "How could two nice clean virgin boys get diseases having 100% foolproof safe GAY SEX with each other?" if not STDs? UTI only?
Cut gay guy here. I like topping both with and without a condom. (I'm bare-backing with the bf cause we've been together for a while and we've been tested and all that jazz, but used plenty of condoms in the past.) With and without a condom are different, but both can be very pleasurable. The main sexual "perk" when it comes to condoms is that you can go for a really long time. :-)
I think many guys who don't like condoms haven't tried enough different kinds. It takes a bit of trial and error to find the one that feels best with the shape,size, and sensitivity of your dick.
What I don't understand are the bottoms who are all hot and bothered about getting fucked bareback. The nerves in your ass aren't that sensitive to tell the difference, so why take that risk?
@9: Assuming lesbians get less STDs, I would bet it is because of 2 things. firstly they probably are probably more knowledgeable about vaginas (compared to the average straight woman) and don't do stupid things like douche them, but leave them more nice and natural. Secondly, penetrative sex in women is a major cause of UTIs, because no matter how well you wipe there is bacteria around you butt, which is really close to everything else. Female genitalia are kind of like Japan that way, lots of stuff packed into a tiny space.
Don't forget the 'MR BUBBLE' generation. Women who grew up in the 80's who took a lot of bubble baths as kids developed chronic UTIs long before they started having sex. Ditto for women (and men) who use body wash. Apparently the chemicals in bubble bath, baby products, feminine hygiene products, and body washes cause dysuria and urinary tract irritation.
"In 1987, the FDA required that all children's bubble bath products carry a warning label about the risk of irritation to the skin and urinary tract from prolonged exposure."
My cut husband says there's not a lot of difference for him between condoms and bare sex. I'm pickier about the brand than he is. (But I love the easy clean-up, and it's birth control with no side effects.)
I guess I understand that. I do have to do a lot of breathing exercises sometimes when I'm all keyed up. I still prefer having the extra sensation and managing it, though.
That's the one thing I've ever liked about SSRI antidepressants, actually - it's damn near impossible to come prematurely. The downside to that, of course, is that sometimes it can be damn near impossible to come at all. Otherwise, I hate those damned pills. Never did me a lick of good for depression, but they did let me pound my girlfriend like a jackhammer. Oh well.
In my experience, some uncut guys have a problem getting them on and keeping them on. If the cock in question has too much of the 'snake in a sweater' effect, I have seen dudes totally lose the moment while trying to keep it adjusted and on, but I think that there is an experience issue as well. The bottom line is practice. Condoms are really cheap (most of them anyway) if not free! Why not work on your skills while jacking off? It's not like you have to keep it on for the whole solo show after all. For that matter There is no reason that a practice session cannot include up to several suit-ups and strip-downs (or a buddy for that matter). My favorite trick right now is the one handed application (with other arm around lover). People seem to think that it is pretty hot.
Totally agree with the clean-up issue as well and would not subject my female lovers to the hormone wierdness that is Rx birth control.
Hey Dan (or whoever would do such a thing on the Stranger staff), in your side column "Most commented on SLOG", could you slap a NSFW next to something that conains a pic of a huge cock or anything else generally considered NSFW? A newly hired co-worker just missed seeing said cock pic by about 1/2 a second, and all she wanted to know was where the recycling bin was!
I am a straight female who happens to get UTIs after sex somewhat frequently. It's not a disease, it's an infection. Nobody is sure what really causes it, but it does happen to some women. In cases such as this, their doctor will give them a low dose of antibiotic to take after sex to lessen the chance of getting a UTI.
UTIs are less common in men, but I'm wondering if doctors offer this option to them?
I'm with #30. I thank Gay Jesus for pictures like this. And for the guys to whom they are attached. And for the fact that I sometimes get to play with them.
So I'm sorry if the fact that I pray about this makes both some Christians and some atheists uncomfortable. Actually no I'm not. The existence of cocks like that make me truly believe that somebody out there is watching out for guys like for me.
Re the question about condom use and circumcision - i think you are definately right. I'm a heterosexual girl and I've had two harshly cut boyfriends who struggled to come even without a condom so with it sex became pointless...
In fact the African studies which all this hype is based on did show a difference between the risky behaviours of cut and uncut - the cut had 18% more partners in the South African test. Re condom use this was so low anyway that the result wasn't deemed significant - 17% of cut used condoms consistently compared with 20% of the uncut in one study. But that is a 15% reduction in condom use - and imagine what effect that could have in the developed world where condom use is much higher.
It's well worth having a good look at these African studies, who did them and what the actual results were. For example in Kenya as the gap between the risk behaviours of the cut and uncut widened in the final 6 months so the HIV infection difference levelled off - to just one man... After observing that, the circ advocates running the study stopped it early....and said they'd proved a massive difference in HIV and no extra risky behaviours...
What I don't understand are the bottoms who are all hot and bothered about getting fucked bareback.
It's not the sensation that they're after, it is the taboo/risk.
Also, I'm cut & for some reason I don't mind condoms when I'm f-ing a woman. However, with guys I have a hard time (no pun intended) staying hard. I never thought about the cut/uncut factor before; it does make sense.
I'm uncut, hetero, and can't feel a damn thing with a condom on. It's gotten to the point now where I literally can't even get one on before going limp. (I understand that it's now a bad psychosomatic feedback loop; I think the sex is going to be bad and disappointing with a condom on, and sure enough, it is! The fact remains that I can't feel much with a condom on.)
Bareback sex is better for me. I suspect it varies from person to person, like everything else. It's pretty meaningless to make a blanket comment for all cocks, because it's almost certainly wrong.
can i just say, as a woman, that i hate condoms...i use them because i have to, and it helps a lot to get the really good kind- the cheap kind that you guys laud for their cheapness really irritate me. i have not had anal sex, and i have only had vaginal sex w/ cut guys, but my observation is that since the condom seems to reduce the sensitivity, guys tend to seek out more friction in the encounter in order to cum, meanwhile friction w/ a condom seems to irritate me even though as far as i can tell im not allergic to latex per se...so by the time they cum, im often in pain. i get plenty wet and i even use extra lube so im not sure what the deal is, but just thought this thread could use a woman's perspective on the downside of condom use, at least w/ cut guys.
I'm a bit late to the party but I'm wondering if the curve in his penis might also affect his experience with condoms. I ask since I have a very similar bend in my own...
My boyfriend prefers unprotected too (if possible -- we've used condoms exclusively for half a year with no problem since I've been going between birth control methods). He just likes the closeness. #3 nailed it.
How could two nice clean virgin boys get diseases having 100% foolproof safe GAY SEX with each other?
Don't they realize God meant them to stick their dicks in each other's asses and it is a perfectly Normal Natural NonDeviant UnPerverted activity?
You can't get diseases doing stuff like that...
While you're quizzing your heroes at Kinsey be a dear and ask them why their namesake encouraged and covered up Child Rape.
Slog would like to know...
(will you be touring the Adolf Hitler Institute of Jewish Culture anytime soon?)
However! It occurs to me that the internal topography of the anus and vagina are sufficiently different that you might lose more to the condom in one than the other. The anal landscape is basically tubular and radially symmetrical, right? But the interior of the vagina is textured and only bilaterally symmetric. It could be that the condom itself isn't all that different in shape and texture from what you'd experience during anal sex anyway.
@4
"Closeness." Yes. We'll go with that, because anything less ambiguous and euphemistic would probably belong on an erotica site, not Slog. Suffice to say there are many wonderful things about sex in a relationship where there is enough trust to do without condoms.
you're one paranoid little puppy
and it is a wonder full arch indeed
UNCUT and Dan- thank you for sharing. Pleasant dreams tonight indeed.
Either way, not what you think.
Looks like UNCUT's doing a bit of a Uri Geller on it though...
Also, I second his P.S. to you Dan - you've helped a lot of us adults become sexually well angled...I mean, rounded. ;-)
what exactly do I think?
@7 never mentioned STDs.
Then what did 7 mean by saying "How could two nice clean virgin boys get diseases having 100% foolproof safe GAY SEX with each other?" if not STDs? UTI only?
Tool.
I think many guys who don't like condoms haven't tried enough different kinds. It takes a bit of trial and error to find the one that feels best with the shape,size, and sensitivity of your dick.
What I don't understand are the bottoms who are all hot and bothered about getting fucked bareback. The nerves in your ass aren't that sensitive to tell the difference, so why take that risk?
Don't forget the 'MR BUBBLE' generation. Women who grew up in the 80's who took a lot of bubble baths as kids developed chronic UTIs long before they started having sex. Ditto for women (and men) who use body wash. Apparently the chemicals in bubble bath, baby products, feminine hygiene products, and body washes cause dysuria and urinary tract irritation.
"In 1987, the FDA required that all children's bubble bath products carry a warning label about the risk of irritation to the skin and urinary tract from prolonged exposure."
http://jezebel.com/5261280/are-you-a-vic…
2)Y'all do know that this means that Charles is going to insist on posting a v-jayjay pix on here tomorrow, don't you?
That made my day, thanks Dan!
PS - my uncut boyfriend definitely prefers sans-condom sex.
I guess I understand that. I do have to do a lot of breathing exercises sometimes when I'm all keyed up. I still prefer having the extra sensation and managing it, though.
That's the one thing I've ever liked about SSRI antidepressants, actually - it's damn near impossible to come prematurely. The downside to that, of course, is that sometimes it can be damn near impossible to come at all. Otherwise, I hate those damned pills. Never did me a lick of good for depression, but they did let me pound my girlfriend like a jackhammer. Oh well.
I agree. The curve is a turn off, sorry. All I see is gonzo.
I didn't see "Gonzo" before. But now I do.
Shot that picture all to hell. LOL
Totally agree with the clean-up issue as well and would not subject my female lovers to the hormone wierdness that is Rx birth control.
I am a straight female who happens to get UTIs after sex somewhat frequently. It's not a disease, it's an infection. Nobody is sure what really causes it, but it does happen to some women. In cases such as this, their doctor will give them a low dose of antibiotic to take after sex to lessen the chance of getting a UTI.
UTIs are less common in men, but I'm wondering if doctors offer this option to them?
I have an ex who is curved like that. I called it the magic curve. Cuz it was magical. Mmmmagic. Mmmmm hmm. :)
So I'm sorry if the fact that I pray about this makes both some Christians and some atheists uncomfortable. Actually no I'm not. The existence of cocks like that make me truly believe that somebody out there is watching out for guys like for me.
Praise somebody. And praise him or her loudly.
Heck, I swear to one god or another now and again, whenever it seems timely to do so.
In fact the African studies which all this hype is based on did show a difference between the risky behaviours of cut and uncut - the cut had 18% more partners in the South African test. Re condom use this was so low anyway that the result wasn't deemed significant - 17% of cut used condoms consistently compared with 20% of the uncut in one study. But that is a 15% reduction in condom use - and imagine what effect that could have in the developed world where condom use is much higher.
It's well worth having a good look at these African studies, who did them and what the actual results were. For example in Kenya as the gap between the risk behaviours of the cut and uncut widened in the final 6 months so the HIV infection difference levelled off - to just one man... After observing that, the circ advocates running the study stopped it early....and said they'd proved a massive difference in HIV and no extra risky behaviours...
Funny that isn't it!?
So what you are saying is that anal sex is inherently unsafe, risky, dangerous behavior that gives people Infections?
That two people with no diseases at all who practice anal sex run the risk, each and every time they do it, of getting an Infection?
That doesn't seem very wise.
It's not the sensation that they're after, it is the taboo/risk.
Also, I'm cut & for some reason I don't mind condoms when I'm f-ing a woman. However, with guys I have a hard time (no pun intended) staying hard. I never thought about the cut/uncut factor before; it does make sense.
Bareback sex is better for me. I suspect it varies from person to person, like everything else. It's pretty meaningless to make a blanket comment for all cocks, because it's almost certainly wrong.
I am uncut and I have enjoyed sexual intercourse as a hetro with and without condoms.
I was a dedicated "They Fit" Condom user until they went off sale.
I have used many brands and the thin ones are usually better to retain the sensations of bare sex.
That stated, when I was much younger the condom helped me to slow the release so that the orgasms would almost be alike.