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If we're going to talk Weiner, how about his push against Clarence Thomas and how that august Associate Justice refuses to admit he's getting TeaBagger dollars through his wife?
The cock shots never look attractive (maybe with better lighting? someone else holding the camera?) But they are so common that I don't rule out a guy because he sends one. (There's usually a more obvious reason, like he can't spell and has nothing to say to me.)
Also, here's some free advice for all men..... NO ONE wants to see your flaccid cock. Seriously. I love cock, but sending me a picture of your soft cock is not going to do anyone any favors.
I have to disagree with EricaP, which is not something that I normally do. I've seen some very good cock shots, but as @13 stated, not flacid.
And @10, cock shots are not the place where one starts, @13 nailed it when stating that this is a good thing when there have been other conversations that lead to the cock shot. And if the conversation has evolved naturally, the shot will not be a bad one.....
I agree with others re context of the pictures.
it's hard for the average guy to take attractive pictures though unless they have a good body
But there definitely is a guy obsession with penises that we don't have, just look at the "art" that cover all the tables of my school if you doubt it.
Guys-who-like-gals, would you like a vulva shot from a woman? Or rather a full body nude?
Seriously? We'd pay you to let us see it. That's how different men and women are.
@17 - A face pic would be more effective than a cock shot. Or use words. Find something that you both have in common (from her profile or however you know her), and reference that. Read your message as if it were going from a stranger to your best platonic female friend, and think about whether she'd delete it, mock it, or respond well to it.
Yes, erotic full body nudes are fantastic. But the choice you set up is not one we normally get.
But realistically, these are selfies taken with a cell phone camera. It's very difficult to get a good picture under those conditions. I think it's funny to see the cell phone self pics with the toilet in the background.
;-)
Better luck with an ab shot or a bum shot.
I'm in the "yuck" camp...And besides, all cocks...er...kinda look the same, with a few minor variations. Sorry guys. Personally, I'm much more interested in the face, but then I guess I'm not really in the cock-shot target demographic. Incidentally, having a cute, smiling, friendly face more than makes up for being a little out of shape in my books (and those of most women I know).
The Weiner "news" baffles me. Yes, it's probably a picture of his crotch, but why is it our business? Is he being hypocritical in his crotch-photography legislation? If not, what's the deal? No law has been broken, right? I'm really embarrassed for the people who are grilling him on this issue -- surely a low-point in their journalism careers. A sexy photo of a congressman's underwear has proven to be more newsworthy than anything else going on in the world? It would be okay if it was just a humorous, racy story at the end of a newscast, but... it's front page.
I assure you that the vast majority of congressmen have funny or racy pictures of themselves on their computers, and that many of them have fun little sex lives that may involve snapping pictures. I'm no sociologist, but isn't it fascinating that we (and our beloved media) -- realizing that there is no legal or ethical issue raised by Weiner's hacking -- still must know IF THAT IS HIS OWN FLESH, pressing so tenderly against the grey, ribbed cotton?
Perhaps it's envy (it's a pretty good picture). If that's the case, continue wagging away, Mr. Weiner!
Ha. Yeah, a foot-long sparkly dick would be cool all right, but I can go out and BUY one of those. You can buy a dick made to your specifications - what you can't buy is the person attached to the dick. Case in point.
Just out of curiosity, do any of you straight men ever have a "yuck" reaction to unsolicited boob shots? (I'm thinking that's really the female equivalent.) Just wondering.
@21/22: Yes, of course most guys would love a pussy shot. There's nothing hotter than a close-up of a spread pussy. That's the whole point of porn... Full body nudes are also good for seeing what someone looks like but they're not as immediately arousing and sexual.
I guess this man has imagination.
But some of us live in a smaller world. And from any smaller world, we can all count on one thing being *urgent* for a guy. Sex.
By contrast, can we never count on anything being *urgent* for a woman? Shouldn't someone make it a first and either confirm or deny we can never count on anything being urgent for a woman?
...which is fine, if that's the case. I think it's fine to say we should count on sex never being urgent for women (otherwise the penis-shots wouldn't be ew). But for them to wear such impractical clothes, without sex being urgent for her -- then what? Why go through the discomfort? They'll help the peg-legged captain hunt the white whale as long as he dances for them? How do men present themselves in response to something like that? That isn't something you can attach to an email.
However much ew, sending the penis-shot is not the severest mystery in the suite of behaviors we encounter every day.
1) hetero men: would love them some vagina pics
2) gay men: would love them some penis pics
3) hetero women: 'ew' to the penis pics
4) gay women: would love them some vagina pics(?)
If #4 is false, then I might conclude it's a biological reason. If #4 is true, then hetero women have some issues, it seems.
Seriously, I think if you polled men on this issue, you would get roughly the same approval rating as a Saddam Huissein election result. 98% in favor and 2% brave enough to dissent.
I used to send these when I was younger before I realized that women weren't impressed (hopefully it wasn't personal :) All the cock shot meant was "I am horny, thinking of you and ready to go!" And, secretly hoping for the reciprocal gential shot in return. Ah college.
I also found it odd that Weiner couldn't just flat-out deny that the picture is him. I'm quite certain I've never taken a picture like that of myself, so I have no issue asserting that the photo isn't me.
@59: You might be correct about the poll numbers, but only because guys wouldn't think it through; as far as I'm aware, most men don't find women universally attractive and wouldn't appreciate pictures from women they didn't find attractive/whose genitals they didn't find attractive.
My own pleasure rarely if ever feels urgent. Urgent is about feeling rushed. If I'm rushed, I'm not feeling pleasure.
Also, when people talk about this and people say "oh, yuck!" I think to myself "I wish my boyfriend would do that." So yes, there are silent, prospective fans of this tactic. But I also am such a fan of that particular cock I considered asking him to buy one of those DIY-cock-model-vibrator-kit things so I would never have to be without it, so maybe it's situational.
Much like women blather endlessly to a guy, thinking that by talking and sharing thoughts, that somehow binds the guy in some way, when in fact, he is simply waiting until the point where they have sex.
And that all said, I actually kinda like that shot ascribed to Weiner. Since it is in pants, it has that element of mystery to it ;). But not on a first text, please...
@66 -- 99% of the cock shots I receive are sent by strangers. What you're talking about is visual play with a beloved sex partner, a totally different thing. I think very few women would say ew, yuck, when sent a picture of a cock they know and love.
@58: I think it's a physical thing. (not an issue, though) It's way more difficult to stare at your own (or others') crotch as a female, especially if you're not very flexible.
Out of context cock shots are usually pretty uninteresting to me, and as I've spent 5+ years on dating sites I've seen puhLENty. Now, once I've gotten to know you a little, it gets more interesting... even MOREso if I can see you face in the same shot. Context context context!
But penises are not "gross" or "ugly." Come on, people, grow up a little.
I remember what my brother-in-law said to my nephew when my nephew started decorating his walls with pictures of female genitalia that he'd cut out from photos of the entire person. "You do know you're going to have to deal with more of the actual woman than that, don't you?"
Except, of course, the penis. I wouldn't say I find my penis sexy, per se, but it is the only part of my body that I inherently and immediately connect with sex. Therefore, if faced with the prospect of having to send a woman a "sexy" picture of myself, I can't think of anything to photograph other than my penis. That is my "sex organ."
@EricaP How did Weiner have time to cheat on his wife? Haven't they been married like a year? Isn't it more likely that it was just a previous girlfriend?
Google his wife--now I'm not saying that guys cheat on girlfriends who look like supermodels...after a while, after boredom sets in but he simply hasn't had the time for boredom to set in. Don't slosh around gossip you pulled out of your ass, especially when it helps the Republican smear machine. Breitbart deliberately set this going right now because Weiner was getting movement on getting Clarence Thomas to recuse himself from Obamacare decisions because of the bribes given to Thomas's wife by the industry.
Interestingly, Anonymous has now gotten involved. They don't like this attempt to silence Weiner by blackmail.
You were saying something about a republican smear machine, asshole?
I'm still believing Jon Stewart's initial reaction, though. Friends know each other.
Sure some women are out there who enjoy them, but I'm looking at the responses and I'm pretty sure it's the majority of women who are "Ew, yuck" for random, not-in-context, unsolicited cock shots. (I've had a couple from guys that I've slept with, those are ok, I don't really care about them but they seem to like it so I'll be whatever. But not random, not craigslist, and not the leading picture on a dating or even a sex website.) Not interested. I'm looking at his face during sex, not his penis.
And, I also venture to say that those guys who send those shots would LOVE to meet us GGG girls who come to Savage Love. So I have to disagree with that as well. Sure they might meet a chick who will jump on you with a pic like that. But you're also cutting out us GGG chicks and I'd bet they would thank their lucky stars if they can get one (or more) of us in bed.
Last but not least, @67, I never thought of that. I blather all the time.
Debs
I agree with Extuno. And I think this points to a general difference between men and women, that men like things more explicit* whereas women prefer a little mystery. It's also why men prefer nearly nonexistent bathing suits on women while most women seem to recoil in horror at the sight (or thought) of a man in a skimpy speedo-type suit.
* I would bet that gay men are far less likely to go ""Ew, yuck!" at a cock shot than straight women.
Men -- straight men -- are "fixated" on pussy and breasts too. Again, in line with what Extuno said, I think that a lot of men feel "If we love your stuff, you should naturally love ours." But women, of course, are not men and don't (in general) think like men.
22/ blueworld: Guys-who-like-gals, would you like a vulva shot from a woman? Or rather a full body nude?
I'd prefer a full body nude, but I certainly wouldn't go "Ew, yuck!" if I a got a vulva shot (unless Glenn Beck's head was poking out of it.)