Halfway through I was sure the response would have been another, "and how is it you're legally allowed to marry and I am not" responses... and, it would have been appropriate.
I have a friend who lives a live scary similar to this. Having had to listen to YEARS of stories like this, complete with child, I think it's telling where the letter writer glosses over details and paints herself as the victim, like "we got evicted." No one gets evicted for paying rent regularly, BTW. Honey, if you got a baby and the bills ain't gettin' paid, get a better job, put school on hold, or apply for county benefits. Or some combination.
I think there are a lot of places where LW paints her partner as bad, and he probably is, but fails to recognize her own contribution to the drama.
Hey GVNDB - you're filthy because you are lazy in self care. Own it. It takes 2 people to make a relationship fail. Own it. Your dad evicted you not because he was a mean guy, he got tired of BOTH of your bullshit. Own it. Co-dependant- read up on it and begin to understand it intimately. You are that person.The codependent may often feel like they are a victim, or that everything wrong in their life is another's fault. OWN IT. You-right now in your life - are an unfit parent. Reach out for help from the county you live in to get you straightened out.
Dump the chump too. He's dead weight.
I have never been as irritated by a letter as I have reading this ridiculous shit. The writer is a disgusting hipster. Her story reeks of manufactured drama and attention-seeking. She and her retarded husband deserve each other but their poor child deserves neither of them. I hope Angelina Jolie swoops in and adopts him and you two burn in hell, stupid hipster douche-cunts!
"green valkyrie needs dick badly". you might not have a time machine Dan, but this 22 year old certainly does as shes obviously fresh from playing Gauntlet in the arcades of the mid 80's! or its just an long winded fake to get that stupid joke through.
Granted, I could see "hipster" being defined as your average low-class failure of an idiot with no long-term goals, just with somewhat better taste in clothes and music than average, but without that knowledge I'd avoid calling them that.
@118: The desperate need to be different, cool and paid attention to permeates the letter and since that also describes the hipster douches around my parts, I figured she is one of them.
I found this pathetic story on my mind all weekend.
If this girl has followed Dan for a while as she says (and if so why didn't she DTMFA?), she is either
1. a very poor decision maker
2. uses drugs- (at least pot or alcohol) to account for her poor ability to make decisions.
I have met people like this- where every decision they make is wrong. If this is her path then she either needs to hang out with someone or someones who's decision making ability she can respect and follow. Start with Dan then maybe her father? She can't trust herself to make decisions because she has no common sense and can't see into the future at all.
I wonder if there is some way she can release her child (to her father perhaps?) and try to move out, move on, and get a life that works away from this man? She is really young still and maybe there is a chance she could walk away and start over. But probably she won't and the rest of her life will continue to be a trainwreck.
This is such a pathetic story. So glad this is not my life.
comments: tl:dr
short version: shit, I feel sorry for the kid.
I think there are a lot of places where LW paints her partner as bad, and he probably is, but fails to recognize her own contribution to the drama.
Dump the chump too. He's dead weight.
@116: Today's twentysomethings all have emulators, while the game isn't young, her dumb use of a meme certainly sounds it.
If this girl has followed Dan for a while as she says (and if so why didn't she DTMFA?), she is either
1. a very poor decision maker
2. uses drugs- (at least pot or alcohol) to account for her poor ability to make decisions.
I have met people like this- where every decision they make is wrong. If this is her path then she either needs to hang out with someone or someones who's decision making ability she can respect and follow. Start with Dan then maybe her father? She can't trust herself to make decisions because she has no common sense and can't see into the future at all.
I wonder if there is some way she can release her child (to her father perhaps?) and try to move out, move on, and get a life that works away from this man? She is really young still and maybe there is a chance she could walk away and start over. But probably she won't and the rest of her life will continue to be a trainwreck.
This is such a pathetic story. So glad this is not my life.