Regarding the dick stank issue: try 1000mg of vitamin C twice per day and see if that eliminates the problem.

Good luck.

Adam

ODOR needs to check and see if her boyfriend has been circumcised because if he isn't that might account for the foul smell. I'm not trying to imply that all uncircumcised men smell bad in the crotch area..I'm just saying that might be part of the problem. It's very easy to tell when a man has not been circumcised. There is a marked difference in the appearance between one that is circumcised and one that isn't. If he his not he may not know how to keep that area clean. If that is the case you can help him out. I have heard that uncircumcised men last longer than circumcised men..if that's the case if you can get to the root of his odor problem you might have a real winner on your hands.

@grinchbinch and zzakk -

I don't think people are offended primarily about whether what you said is true or false...rather by your unbelievable arrogance at thinking you could possibly make a claim about what "most" people want.

Everyone has different tastes, sexual and otherwise. Not only do we have tastes different from one another, we ourselves have different tastes from one minute to the next. And what people SAY they want sexually and what they ACTUALLY want are almost always different.

I may SAY I want a slim, fit girl with a perfectly proportioned body, and that's true. But it doesn't mean that the very next second I won't see a girl with a big ass and a nice smile and be physically attracted to her.

In spite of how you phrased it, your assertion isn't one about people's sexual tastes: you are, in fact, claiming that overweight people are unattractive. How else could you possibly take it upon yourself to presume that people in relationships with overweight partners aren't physically attracted to them?

And why is it exactly that you see someone jerking off to Playboy and being attracted to chubbies as being mutually exclusive? Because you're projecting your own narrow and, may I say, unrefined tastes onto everyone else. There is no generalizing when it comes to sexual preferences.

The fact that you're trying makes you a douche. That's what's offensive.

Thank you DonBito for being eloquent enough to say what the rest of us wanted to.

i have a big fat ass and haven't had any lack of people willing to take a whack at it.

stop letting your self-doubt get in your way... own who you are and be confident that if you're the most attractive you that you can be, someone will be sparked by it.

@15 -- No, you're not an asshole at all. Just clueless in this particular case. It was a joke.

And re ODOR -- as with pretty much every other problem humans (and dogs!) have: Exercise is the first step. It makes us happier and it gets the juices flowing around ... and flowing out. Besides, saying, "Smoochie, let's go for a walk," sounds a lot better than, "Smoochie, your dick stinks."

Why has NOT ONE person (other than Dan) suggested that ODOR's bf get himself to the doctor to get it checked out PROPERLY. It sounds to me like a fungus infection too, but it could be any one of a few STIs... which ODOR might pick up as well.

If it's simply a BO problem, usually the shower will make a difference (even if only for an hour or so), and it doesn't sound like that's the case here. Of course, fixing up the diet and dropping the cigarettes will undoubtedly help if BO is being compounded by an infection.

And Grinchbitch, nothing wrong with saying that people don't universally like fat arses. But turning it around to say that most people DON'T like fat arses is equally stupid. Haven't you seen all that BBW or big-ass porn around? Obviously not, in your narrow wee world.

Grinchbitch,

Well sure if everyone had the choice we'd all pick perfect mates with perfect bodies, genius brains, who make millions of dollars and give half to charity because they are also the most moral people around - oh, and also have the funniest sense of humor. But nobody with all those qualities actually exists, so we're all stuck dating and marrying real people and if we're lucky we get as close to the "whole package" as we think we can get. Looks are only one small part of the whole package, and maybe people are willing to trade a 23-inch-waistline or 6-pack abs for other characteristics we're looking for.

Maybe the best thing for SWAT to do would just be to date guys who she likes/like her without worrying too much about spanking right away. It wasn't a really big thing for my fiance to start slapping my ass on occasion, he just thought it was hot I told him I was a "naughty girl" who, er, needed to be "punished".

Man that sounds cheesy.

Not to drag the drama too much further, I don't actually think Grinch and Zak were trying to say that fat girls are unlovable. Their sentiment could have been expressed better, but from what I've read, all they wanted to say was this:

People on the comments board are trying to be too nice, they are giving people who have genuine physical set backs - as considered by many of the 'normals' - false hopes and not helpful advice (connected to the body image problem).

There should have been stronger focus on the fact that indeed, people DO find attaraction in things other than body size and smell etc, but in general those are not adding to the attraction unless one's partner has a fetish or particular preference for the thing.

The very fact that people are so eager to point out the failings of skinny people in landing a desirable partner seems to indicate another form of condescension - believing that fat people need ego boosts and success stories to go on. I.E: Not treating them as any other person, which they are.

Grinch pointed out at the start of the post that 'attraction' is based on tastes, this part of it was largely ignored in everyone's willingness to become self-righteously incensed by any hint of insensitivity.

Worded better, it's just the flip side of the coin everyone has been avoiding. If SWAT is really insecure and shy about herself and the REASON for that is she feels she is overweight, she can be encouraged to change that on her own steam. I'm not SWAT, so I can't tell what her whole story is. If she's comfortable with her weight but wants someone who can accept that, of course there are plenty of people who will do that, because as Grinch pointed out, people's preferences DIFFER from person to person.

If however, SWAT is shy and too self-conscious to advertise her kink because SHE HERSELF belives her body weight is a problem, her problem is obviously not ONLY that she is a shy person. She should not only be told "if you have a great personality it will all work out!"

This is the fantasy that Grinch was trying to dispel and I think it's valid. Some people are just naturally introverted, and that isn't helped when they have issues with their own image. I would encourage SWAT to change what she doesn't like about herself, not by ignoring the issue that's making her self-conscious (her weight), but by dealing with it head on.

She can either choose to be comfortable with how she looks, and battle this insecurity until she lands a partner and realizes indeed she IS wanted regardless of her own self-doubts. OR she can exercise, eat right, and overcome this part of her emotional issue with her body by changing it.

Sometimes it isn't best to simply tell a person that positive thinking and success stories means their life will turn out the same way. If we are truly concerned about people's welfare, we have to take into account that they may just need a helping hand to change what bothers them instead of motivational words that often offer only temporary respite from self-doubt.