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I must say I have never heard of your fetish. But I am sure there are women out there who would be happy to oblige. I, for one, have a sort of obsession with picking dead skin or scabs and such spots off of myself and others. I really enjoy grooming others if they will let me. I sometimes have to remember to keep my hands to myself and not pick at people who would not be ok with it. So I just wanted to let you know that there is hope of finding someone to fulfill your fetish. Perhaps there are some people who enjoy the same sort of things on fetlife.com Best of luck! ^^
I want you to know that there are women out there who would want to help you out with your fetish.I, for one, love to pick at dead skin and scabs and things. I really enjoy grooming others and myself. Though I get no sexual pleasure from it. I would not be turned off if someone else did. So don't give up hope. And perhaps there are some people on fetlife.com who are into the same thing.
Then again, for all the awesome work you've done, being able to rig some lame ass cat food competition is perhaps a concession you deserve.
Voted!
WORD You admittedly are in an open relationship, and because this is a NSA relationship, DTMFA because he may really be a POS. You are not committed to this guy; there are plenty 8",9", 10" cocks out there that would just love to get a Great BJ from you, then pound your tight white collar ass like there is no tomorrow, Hell I would and I'm not even gay.
Dominant and Submissive are terms that we use to describe our roles in the realm of BDSM, Clearly as individuals we define what they are. One might call themselves a submissive while another might not. All our experience are unique and subjective: So in the realm of BDSM our roles are varied as we are all sexual individuals!
As for CGT and all the comments Pro and Con I have to say that sometimes we just can't go there. I Love to eat ASS and Pussy and I consider myself a DOM and some would argue that D/s wouldn't do that "submissive" act, I do. I had an incident where I was going to go down on my Drop Dead Gorgeous Piece of Ass, 20year old female fuck-buddy. She didn't have a chance to freshen up since she was just getting off from work. Needless to say I got one whiff of all day working without the benefit of baby wipes, a soapy paper hand towel or a shower and I made a hasty retreat(I know that I'm not the only one that this has happened too). I just didn't go there even though she insisted and thought that she was "Fresh", My Nose knew better. SO after she took a Shower I still couldn't going there. In fact it was this day that I Learned even a Drop Dead Gorgeous Hot Piece of Ass can smell just like an Ugly Funky Santorum Piece of ASS!!EEWWWWWWWWUGGGHHH!. YOU DON'T HAVE TO GO THERE!
The SKIN guy should take better care of himself, presumably his skin disorder is treatable to the point he is not an oozing wound, unless he wants to be. Its much easier to find a sex partner who is into grooming in general, and a good scalp massage would still get SKIN off, I am sure. He could probably find a good oil or similar treatment that would even burn a little/ tingle as it was rubbed into his scalp, sort of simulating the sensation of picking. His fetish may be very specific, but he can probably "scratch the itch" at least indirectly, in a more general way.
If it is a racism thing, it's pretty telling that he chose something nebulous like 88 instead of,say, a much less ambiguous swastika or lightning bolt SS.
There are 88 keys on a piano.
@SKIN: Based on the comments looks like his situation isn't hopeless (heck, I like to pick skin too, just not in a sexual way). I'm going to assume he doesn't want to "fix" his scalp condition, but for anyone else with a similar problem (and for whom dandruff shampoo fails), if you're not shampooing your scalp twice with regular shampoo, try that. It's shockingly effective.
so I googled "santorum" and sure enough,
Dan's still #1! LMAO
The first is that the dom is the one in charge because the dom likes things how he (or she, etc.) wants and the sub likes to please his dom. In thus framework, it's not the acts that matter, it's about serving and pleasing and taking care of someone's wishes. In this framework, it's not the sub who's really in control, though there can still be hard limits in play.
The second is more common in specific scene play and has to do with specific roles or archetypes, where the 'sub' might be the one being beaten, fucked, whipped, or giving oral sex -- even if it's exactly what the sub wants and the dom is doing it to please the sub!
This is where the seemingly contradictory idea of 'topping from the bottom' comes from: dom in sense 1, but sub in sense 2. Sounds like the LW. Nothing wrong with that, as long as you communicate to your partner, "I like to play sub roles in these specific ways and I like to choose and be in charge of what I do." (Note that this is very different from "I'll serve you in any way up to hard limits X and Y," which is sub in sense 1.)
For some people, pegging someone's ass (regardless of cleanliness) would ruin their sub fantasies, because they see the act as a dominant one (sense 2), whereas for others, it's pleasing their partner by doing what they are told and thus submitting (sense 1).
Maybe that's my problem. I'm a bio major with OCD.
/end sarcasm.
Seriously how is this so nasty?
I have to agree, though, that he has to find out. How can he suck a guy's dick while wondering if he's a bigot? It seems easy enough to ask, "Hey, what's the tat? You into NASCAR...?"
And finally, I don't understand the comments about class. Just because this guy is turned on by a blue-collar dude doesn't mean he has no respect for him, or the class as a whole. Let it go, people, it's probably just a fetish.
Who had a tattoo "eighty-eight."
He allowed his friend, Tim
Pick at his skin,
But only after his ass Tim ate.
#124, We must also be twins. I'm a 23 year old female as well, and I would love to be hooked up with this guy!!! On the other hand, I would be too disgusted to perform anilingus on a man ...however, I do enjoy having it done to me!
:)
I'm just guessing, but if the tattoo said, "Kill Fags!" WORD probably wouldn't have had to ask, and he likely would've walked out, too. For whatever that's worth...
I love the video on YouTube in which Dan talks about kinks and he says we should not talk about our kinks like "I have cancer, and these are my tumors" but "it's Christmas morning, and these are YOUR presents. These are the fun sexy fucking things you get to do with me. What are the fun sexy things I get to do with you"
Tell them that it gives you pleasure without mentioning it's sexual at first. As you might have seen already if you read the comments, MOST girls like grooming I think, and many times are afraid to ask, or teach their boyfriends to put up with it. You may find your kink can be totally mainstream!!
Most girls don't mind picking their boyfriends. And none mind them jerking off. Just use the right frame for it and enjoy!!
I love the video on YouTube in which Dan talks about kinks and he says we should not talk about our kinks like "I have cancer, and these are my tumors" but "it's Christmas morning, and these are YOUR presents. These are the fun sexy fucking things you get to do with me. What are the fun sexy things I get to do with you"
Tell them that it gives you pleasure without mentioning it's sexual at first. As you might have seen already if you read the comments, MOST girls like grooming I think, and many times are afraid to ask, or teach their boyfriends to put up with it. You may find your kink can be totally mainstream!!
Most girls don't mind picking their boyfriends. And none mind them jerking off. Just use the right frame for it and enjoy!!
Now, you know there are plenty of ladies that do mind. HandJOB. Just one more inconvenient thing to do. We women hate giving pleasure.
I know SKIN's woman, but unfortunately she just turned 16. My daughter has enjoyed this since she was very little and still does.
This means that there are others.
If WORD was an unabashed meat-lover and WORD's hot fuck buddy was a vegan, Dan would have not problem. But because WORD's sex partner might be on the far right, Dan has a problem...
Dan Savage shows his true colors and they aren't pretty!!!
Then, if you get an answer you wouldn't prefer, ask yourself how much it really matters in your extra relationship. Dan's mores in that venue may not match yours and Dan's mores are his for an extra, not yours. Ask yourself.
My query is whether it really is an extra if you're asking Dan for advice on whether it matters. Sounds like it's competing for primacy which is fn ridiculous if he's playing as you described.
So... keep asking women! There's bound to be other pickers!
@167: Some people think being a liberal (or conservative) is an "anti-human philosophy," which is just another way of saying "philosophy I'm strongly opposed to."
You're not convincing me.
WORD cares, that's who.
But, yeah, find out if Mr. 88 actually *is* a racist nutjob before ya dump him. The most...neutral way to do that might be to just ask "So, what's with the tattoo?"--less potentially offensive than other available approaches...
How about eating @#!*% IN the shower? Probably also a real hot place for pegging if that is on the menu....
As for the "jail" excuse... OMG as if. It's not expensive to get those covered in something else once you're out. If he didn't want a big ass 88 on his body if he was really against that he would have covered that shit up by now. As for the various sports excuses? Another please. it's such common knowledge what the 88 is for that no one would want such a potential mixup. And if it was for sports, for real, there would be something else like a car or basketball or whatever. Not just an 88.