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You completely overlooked the very real possibility of the asker's boyfriend being asexual. And if he is, I'd suggest taking him to a group for other asexuals to give him support and help him decode his feelings. If she feels like she can't date someone without a sexual component to the relationship, then don't. But be gentle with him.
I think his suggestion that she can see other people indicates his willingness to be flexible with her despite his lack of sexual attraction to people.
She is the one feeling helpless. There is empowerment in declaring your desires openly. It is incredibly powerful to say "This is the kind of relationship I want with you. Please let me know ife you feel the same way."
When faced with a direct question, a person thinks about something in a different way. If my friend comes upto me and says "Hey, anytime you want to invite me to a picnic, I'm game" it might well inspire me to have a picnic and invite the friend. I'd likely take my time, simply because picnics are not my priority. If my friend says "Picnic on the 17th, are you in?" I have to think about it in a much more immediate way.
He did not propose. We are still together and I am still waiting. I haven't mentioned it in a few months and things have been really good between us. My plan is to quit nagging and discussing it, give it some more time, and see what happens.