When you were down on your luck, I lent you money to make a car
payment on your stupidly overpriced BMW that you couldn’t afford.
Shortly thereafter, our relationship fell apart and I asked you to pay
me back. You refused. Then you made false claims that you already
had paid me back. When my cat was diagnosed with lymphoma and
needed $2,500 in emergency vet care, you still didn’t pay me back. She
died in my arms, and you still wouldn’t pay me back. Now I am diagnosed
with recurrent cancer and am facing an invasive, exploratory surgery
and medical leave from work, and you STILL WON’T PAY ME BACK. All
because you are fucking heartbroken that I didn’t want to spend the
rest of my (potentially shortened) life with you. Now that I know what
little heart you actually have, I know how you would have handled the
“for better and for worse.” You’re despicable—and if cancer were
contagious, I would gladly share some with you.

51 replies on “I, Anonymous”

  2. You totally should’ve gotten back together, then had he/she pay you back, plus borrow more, then die without paying the money back. Bwah hahahahahahaha!!!!!!

  5. @4 hahahaha….that’s exactly what I was thinking.

    Maybe you should’ve spent the money on health insurance instead of lending it to a d-bag. Sounds like a personal problem.

  6. If you really wanted to get your money back (or at least revenge) from the person in question, then you SHOULD have married them, not fulfilled all the requirements of your treatment (while racking up all kinds of medical bills that could never be paid), let yourself die and then what’s left of your debts and estate (if there even is one by the time you pass) will become theirs. I know it sounds harsh but this is the sad truth of marriage and death. The government will not bail them out with your social security earnings until they’re 65 IF they never remarry and they will end up potentially screwed and eventually lose that precious BMW with temperature controlled seats because if they can’t afford to pay that, then they can’t afford to pay your medical bills. Oh, I should mention that what you do pay on your medical bills while you’re alive (if you were to go ahead with this plan), you should charge until you’re over your limit on your credit card and never make a payment on that. The reason being that outstanding medical bills cannot be held against a person on their credit report, but credit card debts can and in Washington, it’s community property. Your spouse’s debt becomes your own after their passing. Of course, for those who have a heart and are going through cancer treatment or know someone who is, do everything you can to make sure you don’t leave your loved ones in financial ruin with the cost of your funeral arrangements, burial, and any other debts you may have had prior to your death. I hope you don’t have to suffer that fate, but it’s always a good idea to plan ahead, especially when you and your family are not Mr. Moneybags.

  10. yeah, burn the f***king car, put sugar in the petrol tank, slash the tires, smash the windscreen. you’re never gonna get the money back anyway, you should at least have some fun.

  11. # 6 has the best form of revenge. Crushing medical debt is a fate worse than death. Plus it has a Divine Justice factor going for it.

  21. I know for a fact these were all true events that all happened one after the other. Talk about your significant other not standing by your side when you really needed them. You were there when he needed you. That is the double standard of today’s thinking. Why is it that something is good for the goose then why not the gander. I know this from way to much experience of people taking advantage of my good nature. Also, can people please stop telling my sister she should have racked up money and then died…because she is a fighter and she is not going to die. Her life is worth infinity times more then a little financial revenge.

  22. LET IT GO. You do yourself no favor by hanging onto this when you need to focus on beating cancer. Yes, he’s a douche, yes he fucked you over, yes he deserves to suffer, but don’t be the one spending your psychic energy on it. When you finally put illness behind you and if the statute of limitations hasn’t run out, sue him in small claims court.

  23. She did let it go, she submitted this quite a while ago, I know because she forwarded it to me after she had submitted it.

    The guy was a CLASS A douche-bag, well, he still is actually. This doesn’t even come close to mentioning the extent of the horrific emotional abuse she was put through. He refused to leave her alone for MONTHS after she left him. He did not want her to let it go.

    And don’t go all “she should have left him instead of putting up with the abuse” because she obviously fucking left him and until you leave an emotional or otherwise abusive relationship and understand how truly and extremely difficult it is to do you can shut the fuck up.

  25. @25

    She’s doing great actually! There were some minor complications from surgery, but they have been rectified and she is back at work and just as lively as ever.

  27. @27

    Yeah, it’s not my place to give you that info dude. He’s a dick, don’t get me wrong, and has done some pretty f’d up shit, but still not my place.

    Besides, anyone that knows him and reads this KNOWS that this is him. It’s pretty obvious.

  30. To not the Douche bag:
    Why would you feel compeled to give out her name if you indeed did not feel like a DOUCHE BAG….??? Your not hurting her feelings she is an awesome writer and now you have given her more followers.

  31. So, @29, by outing your ex-girlfriend, you not only confirmed that you are, in fact, a huge douchebag, but also single-handedly increased her blog’s readership. Good . . . job?

  32. Oh my god not-the-douchebag. That was the douchiest douchebag move ever douched. Pay her the 8 grand you ass, say thank you, and slink off into the night. And for the love of all that is holy TRY to be a better person.

  33. what if ‘not-the-douchebag’ really is this amy person? doing a little promo work eh? yaaaaaa, little free pub eh? nice juicy drama REAL good for the ol bloggo eh?

    sneaky bugga.

  34. what if ‘not-the-douchebag’ really is this amy person? doing a little promo work eh? yaaaaaa, little free pub eh? nice juicy drama REAL good for the ol bloggo eh?

    sneaky bugga.

  36. So let me get this right: this guy stood by you while you had cancer, you recovered and then you dumped him?

    Now your cancer is back and he won’t pay back a car payment you made on his behalf? Come on, whose the douche?

  37. No Bagel or whatever you want to be called. He wasn’t there for the first or second round of her treatments. Don’t assume things because when you assume something you are usually dead wrong. Now who is the Douche?

  38. @34 and @35

    Well, first off, no it was not her that did that because she is actually mildly embarrassed that the letter got published because she is no longer angry. He finally left her alone after she relayed his latest and most disgusting act of vengeance to some of their mutual friends. She had taken the higher ground and kept his bullshit between just her and her immediate friend group for a very long time, but, trust me, he crossed a line.

    He’s a dick, he sent threatening e-mails “you won’t get your money, but you will get what you deserve” etc.

    @37 what @38 said

    this piece of shit wasn’t around for any bout of cancer treatment. Probably would have ran off with his tail between his legs or made an attempt to convince her that she deserved cancer. He is that fucked.

  39. @34 and @35

    Well, first off, no it was not her that did that because she is actually mildly embarrassed that the letter got published because she is no longer angry. He finally left her alone after she relayed his latest and most disgusting act of vengeance to some of their mutual friends. She had taken the higher ground and kept his bullshit between just her and her immediate friend group for a very long time, but, trust me, he crossed a line.

    @37 what @38 said

    this piece of shit wasn’t around for any bout of cancer treatment. Probably would have ran off with his tail between his legs or made an attempt to convince her that she deserved cancer. He is that fucked.

    And, you know what, fuck you. What if had been around for one of many cancer treatments that she has had to go through in her life? So the fuck what? Does that somehow absolve him of being an emotionally abusive, controlling, bullying piece of shit? Does that somehow make it okay that he sent her threatening e-mails that said things like “You won’t get your money, but you will get what you deserve” or does that make it okay that he blew out the tires on her car? He’s a piece of shit and this whole I, anon is just the tip of the ice burg of the pile of shit turd antics he pulled.

  43. For me this further explains why no one should ever rely on another. Peopl: never, ever, give yourself over to anyone else. EVER.

    People suck! Life sucks! That’s just the way it is. ALWAYS look after yourself first. Don’t be a chump.

  44. So what you’re saying I, Anonymous, is that this person hurt you badly and now you don’t have long to live… Maybe a little revenge is in order.

  45. This I Anon is fairly mild considering what really went down. I almost traveled to Seattle to murder this fool. Old news, perhaps, none-the-less revenge would be satisfying, I’m sure.

    Also, best I Anon in quite a while…

  46. “Shortly thereafter, our relationship fell apart and I asked you to pay me back. You refused.”

    Am I the only person who watches Judge Judy around here? If you only want your money back after the relationship falls apart, it wasn’t really a loan. He may be a total ass, and you may deserve the cash and need it, but it’s not yours unless you had a specific agreement about repayment. Go on JJ to have her tell you and you can split the 5k pot each case gets, plus if you tell the right story you’ll get the lions share.

    Yes, people spend lots of cash on cats. I dropped 3k on my wondercat. It’s his one big splurge. If he bLocks the urethra again = dead. You take him to the vet and it’s never 3k upfront; it’s this much for the eval then this much overnight and then the urinary catheter comes out and you’ve already spent x much why not a bit more so as not to have wasted it… anyway I have had the cat another several years so it’s been less than $5 a day and he is well worth it. The cat nephrologist I met? who does dialysis? That is insane.

  47. So this person is out the money they lent on one car payment, which may not have even been formalized in a written agreement, and they are wishing cancer on their ex? Geez. That’s pretty sick. Whatever happened to small claims court?

  48. @48 + others: RIF — Reading is Fundamental. RTF link to her blog before you go and make uninformed judgments like you just have.

    The guy was a fucking asshole. capiche?

  49. @22 It sucks that your sister had to go through all of this. It’s awesome that she’s doing well. I do not normally suggest such a thing. I have been on the other side, though. I lost my husband last year to cancer and he did not do everything in his power to wrap up the loose ends financially with his medical bills, leaving me with his debts and a family friend ended up covering his funeral arrangements because our whole family was already dealing with financial crises due to the struggling economy. Of course, he and I actually had a very happy, loving relationship and he did not know when he was going to die. (His type of cancer has no treatment and he lived with it for just over 8 years after being diagnosed at 23.) I’m just saying for anyone in your sister’s position, especially if they know that there is no light at the end of the tunnel, this would certainly be the kind of Karma that such a douchebag deserved to receive. I also hate to break it to you, but there’s no guarantee for tomorrow for any of us. Everyone dies and those that are left behind have to deal with cleaning up the remains…and I’m not speaking exclusively of the corpse. I’m speaking of their belongings, their financial debts and/or estate, and the emptiness that they leave in the hearts of those that love them. We’re all fighters in some respect, but that doesn’t make us immortal. As far as the d-bag BMW driver goes, in one way or another Karma will find this guy and it won’t be nice to him.

  50. @51 That is retarded. If it was a gift when she gave it to him, then it stays a gift (ethically, and in most states legally). If there is a statutory or precedent related reason that this would be different, I would like to see the citation.

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