I had a miscarriage last year. It was a missed miscarriage- which is where the fetus dies but your body still thinks your pregnant. Did not find out until I went to my 1st prenatal appointment. I didn't even know that this could happen at the time. I thought that I would know if I miscarried. I ended up having to have a d&c because my body never expelled the pregnancy on its own. It was a terrible time. Truly devastating and such a grand sense of loss. For weeks- I felt as if I had gestated death. I sat home on Halloween-shortly after I found out I was miscarrying and cried and cried and cried. All I could think was that it was the worst Halloween ever. Now here I am newly pregnant and I am terrified that it could happen again. That my bundle of cells could silently die inside me. I try to be positive but who knows. I am hoping for the best. Thank you for this article. I felt so alone and hesitant to talk about my miscarriage when it happened. I have since found out that so many of my friends and family members have experienced the very same thing.

Thank you for sharing this, Angela. My mother had several miscarriages and also lost a baby just after birth. All before I was born, her first living child. She never got to hold my older sister. She was discouraged from talking about it at the time, though we went sometimes to visit the grave of this tiny, named being. This helps me understand her a experience a little more. And it helps me put my own infertility in context a little.

Thank you for writing this. I had a miscarriage about 6 weeks ago. We saw it, heard the heartbeat, and two hours later it was gone. I was just coming to terms with what was happening to my body and where my life was headed, and then it was over. I've been relatively open about my experience, not necessarily by choice (sometimes those tears just come out of nowhere) but I found what has helped the most is hearing, "I'm so sorry, I've had one too." So many women I know have had miscarriages, they are so much more common than most people realize. Just to know that I wasn't alone made all the difference. Thank you again.

I felt lost when I miscarried my twins. I knew no words can ever make me feel better but I do know a lot can hurt me. I lost hope and didn't want to try again. And when I decided to try again, failed IVF treatments and other medications made me feel worse, that I lost my chance of becoming a mom. But after cycles of pregnancytips pills, I am now a very happy mom of one. The journey has been hard but worth it. And I thank my husband and family for all the support.. 

uncomfortable, fascinating, humorous, enlightening. I'm truly touched by your words. Thank you for sharing this with us.

Thank you for sharing this. I have lost two consecutive pregnancies, both early, and both emotionally harrowing. My hcg still hasn't returned to 0 after the second loss, which was on March 28. I am trying to prepare emotionally for a life without children, if that is how my life will go. I really appreciated all of the observations you make in this article--they resonate deeply with my thoughts and feelings.

I had my first miscarriage yesterday. While I'm still incredibly raw and filled with so many emotions, this article is the first thing that has helped bring a bit of comfort to me. My rational mind tried to remind me that this happens to so many women and that I'm not alone but my god the feeling of loss is so incredibly lonesome. I don't even know how to open up to my husband and just express my grief. Thank you so much for writing out your thoughts and experiences. It is truly eye opening and helped put words to the whirlwind of things goings through my own mind and heart. I know every woman's experience is different but I don't think I could have expressed my similar feelings any better than what you've written.