A year after Harvey Weinstein was outed as an alleged rapist by the New York Times and the New Yorker, #MeToo is on the brink of evolving from being a movement about powerful men abusing women in the workplace to one more about men behaving badly in general.
That, at least, is what a piece published by Jezebel last week argues.
The piece, entitled âThe Next Step for #MeToo Is Into the Gray Areas,â starts with a meditation on the future of #MeToo, but itâs actually a take-down of Jack Smith IV, a writer and video correspondent for the progressive website Mic. Smith is not exactly a public figureâunless you spend a lot of time on Media Twitter, there's very little chance you've heard of him. Over the last few years, however, Smith has made #Resistance journalism something of his personal brand, covering white supremacist movements and extremism in the U.S. Smith is also, according to Jezebel, a shitty boyfriend, and for this, he is now out of a job: Just hours after Jezebelâs piece was published online, Mic announced that their reporter had been fired. Even before that, the Mic Union came out in support of his alleged victims on Twitter.
Jezebel interviewed five women involved with Smith and their accounts paint a portrait of a man who is aloof, entitled, and kind of a prick. Only one of the allegations leveled at Smith, however, reaches the level of crime. The most serious allegation, from a woman Jezebel calls Jenny (this is a pseudonym), is that he nonconsensually choked her during sex. Smith disputes this. In an interview with me, he said that did not want to expound on the allegations at length, but that he would never choke someone without being explicitly asked and that he did not attempt to choke Jenny during that encounter. (Choking is an increasingly popular act during sex. In addition to endless choking scenes in porn, even publications like Womenâs Health have endorsed it: "Having a manâs hands around your neck plays into the fantasy of being taken, also known as ravishment,â sex therapist and researcher Christine Milrod told Womenâs Health in 2016. âAs a result, you feel you have an erotic power over him and your dopamine receptors are firing on all cylinders.â That does not mean, however, itâs safe. Choking someone incorrectly can and has proved deadly.)
In Smithâs case, far more common than allegations of physical abuse were allegations of "emotional manipulation" and "gaslighting." Nina, a pseudonym for one of Smith's accusers, told Jezebel that she met Smith on Tinder. Jezebel editor in chief Julianne Escobedo Shepherd writes:
[Nina] said that their first two dates seemed normal, if intense. âBoth times, we did have a connection,â she said, and on their second date, on May 19, they had consensual sex. For a few days after, they didnât see each other because of conflicting schedules; after Smith was unresponsive to several text messages, Nina said she attempted to end their brief relationship, saying it was clear it was going nowhere. Smith texted later, writing, âIâm surprised you couldnât sense my interest in you; youâre very sensitive to praise (not a criticism).â Nina responded, âahh, iâm sorry, maybe a lot of this was in my head!! we texted a lot over the weekend and then the quick fall-off/non-replies to the two times i asked you if you were still into it got me thrown off.â She would later characterize this as Smithâs first attempt to gaslight her, by ignoring her and then making her feel that she had interpreted his lack of response incorrectly.
Another of his accusers, Becca Schuh, said Smith âgot me very used very quickly to a specific type of attention from him, and very quickly gave so much of it to me,â she said. âAnd very abruptly took it away, and only gave it back in tiny doses.â She called this behavior âgrooming,â a term typically used in reference to children.
Another of Smith's former lovers, Erica Kay, told Jezebel that she began dating Smith in 2014, while they were both in college at Montclair State University, and continued to sleep with him for several years after they broke up. Kay classifies Smith's behavior as "coercive." Smith "employed tactics of control and manipulation," Shepherd writes, "including an unwillingness to have sex with [Kay] unless she wore a specific eye makeup."
In June, after rumors about Smithâs behavior began to circulate and Jezebel started looking into the story, the company conducted an internal investigation. âWe were naturally concerned by what we heard,â Micâs executive news director Kerry Lauerman told Jezebel. âOne of Micâs core principles is the fair treatment of all people. We immediately removed him as one of our video correspondents until we looked into the matter further.â Through their investigation, according to Lauerman, âthe team found no evidence that Jack had behaved improperly at Mic." Smith returned to work on September 5. He was fired less than three weeks later.
Jezebelâs article is almost as much about Smithâs hypocrisy as a progressive man acting badly as it is about the behavior itself. As one of Smith accusers told Jezebel, âHow can youâŚbe this woke feminist progressive person whoâs the face of this sort of purportedly leftist media organization and treat women the way you do?â she said. âItâs just unacceptable.â In light of this, itâs worth wondering if this story would have been published if Mic werenât a hub of progressive politics and if Smith hadnât presented himself, at least professionally, as a woke male. Being an asshole to dates isn't (or wasn't) all that notable; plenty of both menâand womenâare coercive and manipulative to people they date. Being a bad boyfriend might not be criminal, but it has officially become a fireable offense (bad girlfriends, however, still get a pass).
Kay, the woman who told Jezebel that Smith would only have sex with her if she wore particular eye makeup, tweeted after the piece came out: âwhat he did to me was rape, even though it was through coercion and manipulation.â She also spoke about him more than once on her podcast, The Ex Files. In an episode that aired in April, she says: âI'm not going to say his full name because I guarantee that pussy would sue me. He's literally the worst person ever. Find my Twitter and I have at least three threads on why he's a [awful] human being and why he should not be employed at mic.com.â She also says that when she realized Smith was balding, she went out and got a bottle of champagne to celebrate.
The last time Kay and Smith slept together (which Kay called her âmonthly dick appointment with Jackâ), she says she noticed a Victoria's Secret bag in his bedroom, as well as an extra toothbrush, which made her suspicious. After leaving his house, she says on the podcast, âMy stalker ass goes to social media. ⌠He had me blocked since we broke up and Iâm like, whatever. Still going to fuck you. Dick too bomb. I didn't give a shit about this man as a human being.â By combing through his Instagram (because she was blocked, she used her dogâs Instagram account to log in), she discovered that Smith did have a girlfriend. She later contacted that woman to tell her that sheâd been sleeping with Smith for years, which, she says, Smith denied. (Kay, it should be noted, has a history of issuing threats: In March, she tweeted a screenshot of a text exchange with someone named Patrick. After a heated disagreement about whether or not the Wes Anderson film Isle of Dogs is racistâshe says it is; he says itâs notâshe texts, âif you ever get anywhere in life i will personally make it a point to call you out for this. i will not forget. i am not the person to make enemies with.â Kay declined to comment for this piece.)
I have no doubt that Smith treated Kay and the other women in Jezebelâs story poorly. But still, he is not, according to the Jezebel report, accused of malfeasance at work or in a professional setting. None of the women Smith is alleged to have mistreated worked with or for him. Some worked in the same field, but he wasn't their boss or manager or in any position of power over his accusers. He also wasnât prominent enough to make or break anyone's career. Heâs not a politician or a nominee for the Supreme Court. Micâs own internal investigation found that there was no evidence heâd acted improperly on the job. Still, Smithâs firing shows his personal life was clearly a liability for the companyâwhich, according to a report published last week in the Wall Street Journal, is currently considering an offer to sell.
Over the course of the #MeToo movement, a small number of writers and thinkers expressed concern that what started out as a legitimate response to sexual assault, harassment, and inequity in American society will spin into a moral panic, in which poor but normal human behaviors take on the weight of crimes. Masha Gessen wrote about this possibility last year in the New Yorker: âA moral panic is always a reaction to something that has been there all along but has evaded attentionâuntil a particular crime captures the public imagination,â she wrote. âSex panics in the past have begun with actual crimes but led to outsize penalties and, more importantly, to a generalized sense of danger.â
If this piece from Jezebel is any indication, weâre entering the âgeneralized sense of dangerâ phase of the movement now. And maybe thatâs a good thing. For far too long, many men have gotten away with brutality against women, both at work and at home. The man currently nominated for the Supreme Court has been accused of multiple counts of sexual assault. The man in the White House has been accused of similar crimes. Is a period of moral panic the appropriate corrective to decades of crimes? The answer, according to Jezebel, seems to be yes.
Straight men of America: take note.