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Most of the Times Square '70s pumps were too squigged out to even discuss period sex of their women, despite living off the money made by their pussies.
Except the one dude who says, "I don't mind a little ketchup on my hot dog."
I don't understand the crazies who think menstruation = no sex.
A friend of a friend of a friend telling me that ancient Jewish guidelines are often contradicting each other, should be debated, and are open to interpretations.
The all-male Rabbis who follow the thinking that a woman is dirty during menstruation tell their followers that sex is not allowed on those days.
They also believe that despite being so dirty women’s hair and singing are way too tempting for men, hence women must wear wigs and are not allowed to sing when there are men in the audience.
Men in those communities are supposed to thank the Big G daily for not creating them a woman.
Is consent really enough? I don't think so. That is why you have a campsite rule, because a young inexperienced adult can consent to something that will do them no good.
That is why we qualify the word consent. It is not enougb to consent, you have to do it sober, or at least not too drunk. You can't ask your employee to consent because consent in a power imballance like that, could be real consent or it could be fear masquerading as consent.
So most of the time you need consent+.
Then as you have said in a marriage or an LTR, there can be an implied consent.
So I would argue with your tweet. Morality in sex starts with consent, but it doesn't end there.
I appreciated having that to look forward to. And sometimes plan for.
It's even sadder knowing that there are still many young people (not just women) who are indoctrinated (and made to feel shame) where anything below the waist is called "down there" and where any vaginal secretions are dirty ... especially dirty during one's period. On top of that misinformation, women are reminded they don't (so shouldn't) enjoy sex: they have it only to please their (male) partners.
Re: Sex on period, I've said this all before, but STOP SAYING THAT WOMEN WHO DON'T HAVE SEX ON THEIR PERIOD ARE UNCOMFORTABLE WITH THEIR BODIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Not everyone's bodies are the same. My own period comes with heavy blood flow, thick with clots, loads of bloating, intense pain and diarrhea (prostaglandins are a thing). I'm not uncomfortable with my body. I just don't think pain, bloating and liquid shit are sexy.
It's the usual. Do what you want, but once you go on the internet and tell everyone else they have to do it too, because you think x is gross or bad or degenerate, you're over the line. And once someone feels that they have the right to say that about whatever type of sex, I tend to think it's because they're deeply uncomfortable. And that's too bad.
I can imagine the princess on twitter when she first got on the rags. It's a shock for all of us, that first bit of blood arriving. Our freedom from the curse over for so many yrs. this girl must have been horrified. And ever since, when she plugs herself, or heaven forbid wears a pad.. it just must not feel right for such a special pure little flower, to have to go thru this, this, experience. Over and over.
Then to think a woman could open their legs, let the blood out and the stranger in. Just beyond comprehension.
but you know, fuck it. Born in this body mysterious may be problemic due to complex reproductive mechanisms, it's still a body to be proud of.
Disgust is another thing altogether. A man who's disgusted by my body? No way! Nor have I ever been disgusted by own body. Period blood should be disposed of properly, nothing worse. In the garbage, it's as disgusting as any other bodily waste. Shit (noun) is disgusting. People who have normal digestive systems which by necessity shit (verb) are not disgusting. Similarly, period blood can be disgusting, but people who menstruate are not disgusting.
This is why I wonder about the woman who wrote originally. She's not just saying that she has a preference. She says she's disgusted by her own body and by others' bodies. I don't get that.
In short, a crazy woman.
I post this the link Tachycardia gave on Jewish purity laws says that women who have intercourse during their periods are at increased risk for vaginal infections and cervical cancer. Not that anyone should be getting medical advice from religious websites anyway, but that struck me as particularly egregious misinformation. (Unless someone can point me to better information. Like I said, I did just a little reading.) (While I'm talking about misinformation, that site is one interpretation of traditional Jewish law and Jewish attitudes. There are many Jewish communities that take a far more negative and controlling view of women's sexuality.) (And, I suppose, a far more positive one too. There's a lot of variety out there, and I'm not arguing religion here.)
The other thing I found in my cursory reading about sex during periods is how many begin with the idea that it's gross. They start with the unquestioned assumption that women are disgusted and branch out from there to how women are the ones who won't subject men to their horrible selves when menstruating or how it's not really that bad and so on. While some sites eventually get around to just having sex in the shower or putting a towel down so you don't get the sheets messy, they start with the idea that no one would want to do that in the first place.
Obviously not how they meant it, but my initial thought when you were describing all that was, "daamn, that DOES sound uncomfortable."
Jewish Law on Sex (note that this was written hundreds of years ago. Pretty progressive!)
Sex is the woman's right, not the man's. A man has a duty to give his wife sex regularly and to ensure that sex is pleasurable for her. He is also obligated to watch for signs that his wife wants sex, and to offer it to her without her asking for it. The woman's right to sexual intercourse is referred to as onah, and it is one of a wife's three basic rights (the others are food and clothing), which a husband may not reduce. The Talmud specifies both the quantity and quality of sex that a man must give his wife. It specifies the frequency of sexual obligation based on the husband's occupation, although this obligation can be modified in the ketubah (marriage contract). A man may not take a vow to abstain from sex for an extended period of time, and may not take a journey for an extended period of time, because that would deprive his wife of sexual relations. In addition, a husband's consistent refusal to engage in sexual relations is grounds for compelling a man to divorce his wife.
My point is that that article is Modern Orthodox. It's hardly the strictest interpretation of Torah Law by a long shot. There are sects that take that sex-positive message you quote and use it to conclude that men should take their wive's underwear to their (obviously male) rabbis so the strange men can make a ruling on whether or not it's safe for the couple to have sex again after menstruation. We can talk all we want about how the rules concerning sex and menstruation are about ritual purity, but in practice for a tremendous number of women, it comes down to shame, shame, shame, a little filth, more shame, a great deal of non-knowledge, self-disgust, blame, and shame. There are sections of New York that are so repressive that if we heard about what was going on there in a foreign country, we'd be going to war to rescue the women.
There are lots of articles. This is one of the first that came up when I searched.
Your article reference @37 is frightening. These poor women, nothing more than baby making slaves. Make sure the female never finds her pleasure, she's easier to control then.
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