by Monday at 4:54 pm•
I am in desperate need of some help and I don't know where to turn! I am a married, straight male, in love with my beautiful wife of nine years and I am in an unbelievably negative cycle/mental-state concerning "performance-anxiety." About six months ago, the first "symptoms" popped up: right in the middle of sex I lost my erection. The next time we were intimate, trouble again: couldn't get it up. In my panic, I ordered some Viagra online and have been taking a small dose (20mg) before sex. Problem solved, right? Not really, deeply shamed and embarrassed about this, I never told my wife about the ED-meds and low and behold, this past week, my very horny and sexy wife mounted me in lust got me hard and during a frantic search for lube, sure enough, I lost my erection AGAIN and my wife was left spread-eagle on the bed with a limp-dicked husband feeling angry, deflated and sexually rock-bottomed.Continue reading »
We talked, I told her about all of my mental roadblocks and issues around 'performance' but still didn't tell her about the Viagra. I went down on her, made her cum 3 times and she told me (and I believe her) that she's ready and willing to do all she can to help me over this hump. We've got two small kids and don't make a lot of time for sex. at MOST, we make love every-other week in a vanilla, prescribed manner. I've always had a strong sex-drive and my wife did as well (until our kids were born). She enjoys making love and orgasms with me regularly but she's tired often and we simply don' have much room if any for intimacy in our day-to-day lives.
These factors all lead to the inevitable build up of sexual expectations for when we do make love, ultimately leading to the perfect storm of sexual-defeat. Please help! I need some words of wisdom to navigate this and help me reclaim myself in the bedroom. Any thoughts on the matter would be appreciated!
Lost In My Percipience