The tricky thing about making porn, for me, is not being sexual in
front of the camera. It’s not even having sex, attractively, with
someone you’ve just met. It’s the terribly unnatural timing of
it. That’s what I found out when I did my first real porn video
shoot for Kink.com two weeks
ago.

My shoot was for Kink’s anal-sex site, EverythingButt.com, with a lovely
woman named Bobbi Starr. You don’t get a script beforehand in porn, so
while I knew ass-fucking would be involved, I had no idea what
the overall theme of the shoot was or what, precisely, I’d be asked to
do with her. That’s an unusual situation for a top, but I viewed it as
an interesting challenge.

It was the stop-and-go nature of the shoot that was difficult. Like
most films, porn videos are made in short little pieces. So the
director would give me a few minutes worth of instructions about lines
and actions. “Matisse, in this part, you’re going to bend Bobbi over
the desk and pull up her skirt slowly. Then fondle her ass and tell
her how hot it is.”

I’d do that. Then the shooting would stop, the crew would rearrange
the lights and get ready for a different camera angle, and the director
would give us another little chunk of instructions. For a four-hour
shoot, that’s a lot of stopping and starting. It was hard to
maintain my energy from one segment to the next, especially without
knowing exactly where the scene was going. My director, Lochai, is
someone I know from the BDSM community, and he had warned me about this
aspect of porn: “This is different from the way you and I are used to
playing.”

He was correct in more ways than one. Before we began shooting, I
asked Bobbi about her limits. She eyed me a little warily. “Don’t
slap me in the face—someone dislocated my jaw that way. And
don’t call me a stupid whore or spit in my face.”

I was slightly taken aback. It isn’t that I’ve never done those
things. (Except the “stupid whore” part; I don’t like that brand of
verbal humiliation.) But I wouldn’t do them to someone I just met
unless he or she very specifically asked for that. I suppose it’s
different in porn, but I assured her that wasn’t my style of
domination.

So Bobbi and I got along just fine. Lochai was clear about what he
wanted from each scene and patient with my lack of experience.
Overall, it was a good experience. I haven’t seen the finished
product yet, so I’ll be curious to see how it looks. Privately, I
wished that we could just turn on the cameras and go, let the scene
happen naturally, and edit it later. But while I’m still a porn
newbie, I know it’s all about giving people the fantasy, not the
natural reality. recommended

22 replies on “Control Tower”

  3. I don’t watch much porn but Bobbi Starr is not a random skank. If you don’t like girl on girl porn or strap on porn don’t watch. By the way, why read the Control Tower at all if what you read brings out the worst in you?

  5. Don’t feed the trolls! Sad, insecure, judgemental little people who can’t face their own emotions and so go around the web looking for some attention! Pity the trolls. Don’t pay them any attention!

  7. Matisse, I enjoyed following the process via Twitter and watching the preview.It was interesting to reas about your perspective. Not a subscriber to Kink.com but watched the preview. You were definitely the most stylishly dressed.

    So how does it feel to add “Porn Star” to your credits?”

  8. Matisse, I enjoyed following the process via Twitter and watching the preview.It was interesting to reas about your perspective. Not a subscriber to Kink.com but watched the preview. You were definitely the most stylishly dressed.

    So how does it feel to add “Porn Star” to your credits?”

  9. as someone who likes both porn and sausages, I do NOT want to hear about what goes into making them. thx.

    I read kink.com and didn’t read further.

    please don’t ruin my favourite site.

  12. Matisse, you did a great job! I don’t watch much porn, but my boyfriend and I downloaded your scene last night. Loved it! And you look fantastic in blue eyeshadow! Teeheehee, my favorite line was, “And I’m *very* dominant, you know.”

    You pulled it off nicely. Thank you!

  13. “And I’m *very* dominant, you know,” is kind of a cheesy line, but with your voice… You could recite the ABC’s and I’d cream myself.

  14. It must’ve been more than a little unsettling to have someone else calling the shots, literally and figuratively. Good for you, M.Matisse, for broadening your horizons… so many folks find a little niche that works for them and stop looking in different directions…Brava.

  15. Do you think the mean, dumb commenters come back to the site, read others’ commenting on how mean and dumb they are, and jerk off furiously? I’m guessing it’s some kind of nonconsensual public humiliation fetish, or why would they bother reading stuff they know they won’t like? I don’t read Glenn Beck’s blog (assuming he has one) because, well, I know it would be vomit-inducing.

  17. @3 Cuz, reading Control Tower is like reading a Cathy comic stip. You know exactly what it’s about, that it Will Annoy you, and you read it anyway…

  18. Trolls are transparent:

    methinks people who wax all furious , outraged, offensive etc on this particular message board are in fact secretly hoping for a reactionary free online commentboard session with the Mistress.

    Of course, like all good fantasy, ain’t ever going to happen. *smirk*

  19. yuck. I loathe kink.com. They’re the microsoft of bdsm porn. Matisse must have badly wanted to get that box checked on her bucket list (especially since the pay is typically rotten, compared to a weekend in Vegas with one of her well healed regulars).

  21. Glad you enjoyed the typo Matisse. Since I mostly hate puns, that’s about the only way I will do one without at least the threat of severe punishment.

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