I am a prostitute. I started when I was 20. I am 36 now. I did an unthinkable thing to one (well, two) of my clients. While on a third “date” with a wealthy, very attentive, and kind man, I said the following: “I really like you, it’s strange how much you remind me of another client named ‘blank.’ Do you know him? I think you are in the same field.” As soon as this gem popped out of my mouth, I knew I would never see either client again. I have no idea where this self-sabotaging comment came from. I am sorry that I broke the number-one rule of dating for money: complete trust in confidentiality. I am really sorry about losing those clients. It’s not that easy to find clients who treat you exceptionally well in this field. Some slip condoms off in the middle of the deed. Some want to write checks (for half of what I ask). Some clients want completely weird things like pressing my boobs flat with their feet. I totally blew it with two reasonable guys who just wanted to take me out to dinner and have me-on-top sex (with a condom) after. A mistake I won’t repeat.
—Anonymous
Just like every other I,Anon, you set yourself up for sabotage so that you’d have something to cry about later. Boo hoo.
Fake. Everyone knows hookers can’t read or write. Pfffff.
Doesn’t sound fake, sounds boring in the “I joked about a small tip to a regular customer and now they never come back” way.
Zzz….
@4 If a prostitute joked about a “small tip” with a customer, it would seem unlikely that they would come back…
I think that clearly the problem here is TOO MUCH COCAINE AND COLT 45.
Or maybe not enough.
Look honey, you’re a paid slut. Live with it.
It sounds banal enough to be real.
This IA is predicated on these guys actually giving a shit about what you say, which is a bit far-fetched. It could just be the economy; perhaps they both got laid off, and/or they found a cheaper version of you.
In any case, I’m sure the competition for unskilled labor has gotten much more fierce in the past few years, and older prostitutes are always going to be feeling the pinch before the younger ones.
@9: It’s more about breaching confidentiality than caring about the opinion. The client had to be wondering “if she’s telling me this, she’s probably disclosing my identity to other people as well.”
One of the things wealthy clients pay for is discretion: they don’t want their wives/kids/constituents finding out about the well-compensated prostitute. If she’s not discrete, she’s a time bomb waiting to explode.
Bummer. Self sabotage indeed.
Forget the confidentiality mistake. What prostitute is dumb enough to accept payment by check? What do you do if it bounces? How do you explain it to the IRS?
This is either fake or written by the dumbest prostitute in the world.
@12 Google Jerry Springer + prostitute
Wow, a person announcing herself as a prostitute sure sets herself up to deal with a lot of contempt. Look at some of these comments!
The average prostitute is a more redeemable person than the politicians you support and vote for, than the executives we pay tons of money too, and a lot of other “high status” individuals in society. Enough with the abuse please.
@14, FTW!
Yeah, she violated the unspoken confidentiality agreement, which is industry standard with sex workers, but she admitted what she did was wrong. She repented in a public forum.
@9″In any case, I’m sure the competition for unskilled labor has gotten much more fierce in the past few years, and older prostitutes are always going to be feeling the pinch before the younger ones.”
Well, a good looking, independent cougar commonly commands a higher price than some of the younger gals. And as far as unskilled goes, many sex workers know nuances of sex that will blow the load of the some of the most impotent clients.
@12 Reading skills, idiot: she doesn’t think that taking checks is a good idea. She’s complaining that she has to deal with the guys who try to write her checks rather than paying in cash. She certainly is not accepting the check, just making a general point about how good clients are hard to find.
Also, @ everyone who is contemptuous of this woman for her job: I hope you someday find yourself in need of a kind, sympathetic, skilled pro for whatever reason and all the decent ones turn you down. They’re not idiots; they’ll pick up on your hypocrisy and you’ll be left with the unscrupulous ones. Have fun with that!
Could get a lot weirder than boobs and feet, I imagine. Lesson learned.
Seems pretty plausible that someone could be appreciative of normality enough to “drop character” at the most inappropriate of times.
It’s true. It happened to my brother.
oh boo hoo hoo
you lost a client or two
you’re a PROSTITUTE,
so in this case it’s hard
to feel sorry for you
maybe it’s time you got a clue
I’m a bartender. I lost a regular customer who likes to buy drinks for younger women and chat them up. Here’s what happened: he was talking to one of the girls he was trying to pick up, and doing kind of a “tall dark handsome stranger” routine. At one point, he said to her, “I bet you are thinking, ‘who is this guy, and why would he want to talk to me?'”
I blurted out, “Oh I think she has a pretty good idea of THAT, mystery man”.
Never saw him again, he moved on to other hunting grounds.
There, now tell me why it’s so hard to empathize with me because I’m a service worker whose job is all about social contact, people-pleasing and providing others with the physical joy of delicious beer.
Why does anyone care about this?
@22: “Human interest” story, you don’t have to be sympathetic of her plight. It’s not pathos.
I find call girls and strippers far more interesting to talk to than girls who care more about hair and make-up than life’s ups and downs. I’m older, with medical issues and sometimes need a practiced professional to get me going.
One girl worked her hands to the bone (figuratively and literally) to get me off and when it happened, it was sublime, erotic and explosive for me. All the while she smiled like she was enjoying the challenge. She left me with a tender kiss and my self-worth intact. For that, I am grateful and see her as often as I can afford. We’ve gotten to know each other quite well, but I have no illusions that I’m first and foremost a customer and we’re entering into a casual sexual affair. She’s not my GF, mother or anything other than what she is, a nice young lady with a shared reverence for coffee well brewed and a hot time in bed.
Sometimes she’ll talk of family, her difficult job, her desire to give men pleasure. She says she enjoys living alone in a small room, but her loneliness is palpable. She’s not a loser, though. She’s attractive and intelligent; she talks enthusiastically about her aspirations and the difficulty of balancing her shadowy life with a full course-load at college. She’s a warm, friendly human being who’s life is worth something.
I don’t understand many of the writers’ comments dehumanizing these working girls. Sure, they’re entrepreneurs, but they also have feelings and cherish the decent men who cross paths with theirs.
I may be just an old guy with gray hair and parts that don’t work like they used to, but she sees beyond that and treats me with respect and I reciprocate for her. Some might see our relationship as weird, it is what it is and I’m glad I know her.
All you bitchy commenters… I don’t think this person is looking for your sympathy or even, actually, crying about her mistake. Really, I think this is just a reminder to us all to “be careful what you say in regards to the particular company you are presently keeping” so that whole foot-in-mouth thing is avoided. This came across to me as an IA that is intro/retrospective and not at all balls… or wanky… or self-sorrow-full… just duly noting a personal mistake. Sometimes I say things out loud just so I remember about them… maybe this poster had to write it out so she could remember what NOT to do. I’m just saying…
@24: I don’t understand the hate toward working girls either.
A good prostitute knows that in seeking sex, clients also seek things that may come with sex: affection, affirmation, connection, validation, domination, etc. And a great prostitute figures out what those “things” are for that client and delivers them, without the client needing to ask or even being aware of those “things” himself.
Agree with 24 and 26. It’s the world’s oldest profession for a reason. When I was 19 someone tried to get me into the world of high-end escorting. The furthest I went was to strip and put on a show while the “john” jerked himself off from what I felt was a safe distance- I was paid about $500 that night (some of it “under the table” that I didn’t tell the madame about) and took home about $300 of that without even letting the guy touch me.
I can’t say I wasn’t tempted to just go for the money and say forget about the risks involved. After being paid $500 for 15 minutes of letting some guy not even get to touch me, I had a very good idea of about how much wealthy men might be willing to pay me to have sex. If $500 is no-touch to a guy like that, then the full experience would be at least 2-3 times that. A few good clients would’ve meant several thousand dollars per week. I knew that if I played my cards right, I could’ve made a six-figure salary as a high-end call-girl after a few years of building up clientelle if I was working for myself and didn’t have to pay-out an agency. Instead, I did what I thought was the “right thing” and kept my day job. I went back to school and got a degree and graduated just in time for the recession. After a few years of working low-paid, entry-level, shit jobs and never really getting ahead, I live with my parents now and work as a caregiver p/t and am struggling to get back on my feet. I have $20,000 in loans that I can’t pay.
I’m not sure I made the right decision. I’m miserable. I’m poor. I have no prospects. I’ve been sexually harassed on-the-job many times because of what I look like. I tend to be sexually objectified whether I am in a sexual setting or not. Sometimes I feel like, if I am going to be treated like a hooker anyway, then maybe it would’ve made more sense to have just gone for the cash for my fabulous titties, ass and legs in the first place. Trying to make an “honest” days living involves me getting screwed over. And I could be just as easily killed at an office job if someone goes postal, so an “honest job” isn’t not really less risky than fucking for money. I just get paid way less. At least as a call-girl you have some control over how you get screwed. I have hardly any control over anything at all in my life. I don’t even fucking have health insurance.
Bottom line- isn’t all that hate towards working girls about controlling women? If people can choose go to war and risk death, why is it such a big fucking deal for people to make their own decisions about their own bodies and money? War is no more noble than sex. At least sex brings pleasure instead of more hate and pain. If a guy wants to pay for it, then let him. And if a woman wants to be in control of her sexuality, body and money, then she should be able to do that without it being such a big, god-damned deal.
Not the most interesting IA, but the annoying part is all the folks who apparently can’t read and got it all backwards. IA used to be fun. Now it’s forum for ‘tards.
Awesome post, MA #27.
Lots of us DO pay for sex — we just don’t realize it at the time….
36? You’re too old to be a hooker. Time to move on to your next opportunity as a homeless skank.
That picture is priceless. Ouch!
@29: “Lots of us DO pay for sex — we just don’t realize it at the time….”
Nothing against sex workers, but I solve your problem by only dating people who *want* to be with me. My personality isn’t so repulsive, apparently.
@12: That’s why she was disparaging those who try to write checks. Your reading comprehension could use improvement.