My mother died on March 27, 2010, in a car accident. She crossed the centerline and ran into a truck coming the other direction. It’s Mother’s Day weekend. I’m supposed to be grief-stricken. I’m just relieved.
My mom had me when she was 17. She always told me that having kids wrecked her life. (I’m the first of three kids.) When my youngest brother went to college, she announced that she was retiring from parenthood. She always drank heavily and used drugs. She encouraged me to drink and use with her when I turned 12. She gave me pot when I was 13 and heroin when I was 14. She let a friend of hers sexually abuse me when I was 11. When I told her that he was doing it, she beat the crap out of me for “trying to ruin a good man.” She then sent me to spend the night with him and his wife (no kids my age) to prove to my dad that nothing was wrong. I knew better than to complain when he stuck his hand in my vagina and touched my breasts. She would have beaten the crap out of me again. When I tried to commit suicide via overdose when I was 14, she didn’t even notice. She was in bed with a hangover. Three days later, my uncle noticed that I “looked sick.”
When I quit drinking and went to AA, I cried for weeks because I knew that if I got straight, I would never have a good relationship with my mother. I quit anyway. She hated my sobriety. She hated my new life. She hated my husband. She hated it when I chose to be a mother. She hated my career. Every single choice I made she took as an indictment of the choices she made. She was probably right. My choices were probably a criticism of her choices.
She’s dead. All I can think is, “Thank God.” 
ah. Congrats. Happy dead mothers day. I’m glad she’s dead too. She sounded like nothing be a blight to society. Hang in there and take care of yourself. Cause who the hell else is going to do it?
Fuck off and die, Hans.
I can’t tell you how many times (growing up, and still) I’ve wished my step-father was dead. For similar reasons (abuse, drugs, being an ass). When it happens I will finally have a reason to CELEBRATE father’s day; or as I’ll call it, “Today the World is a Better Place” Day.
holy shit……….the mother of tha year award goes to……….you should have followed the menendes brothers lead!!!!!!!time to take out the trash with a 12 gauge…..and people say parent licenses are out of the question
Wow. Something I may be writing someday as well. My mom is also a narcissist and has abused and sabotaged me for my whole life. Lately she’s taken to helping my ex try to turn my daughter completely against me and custodial interference. She is married to a pedophile who abused my daughter. She covered up for him in two separate trooper investigations though she admits she knows what he did. Initially she claimed that she was staying with him to avoids other children getting abused. Based upon her nonchalance when he is around children I now suspect that she may be in on it – quite sick. I am fighting like hell to keep my daughter safe. Sad that I must spend so much of my time and energy in life fighting this evil woman as I am actually rather intelligent and talented. To anyone who has a mother like this: RUN, run like hell! Things will only get worse, no matter how much you try to please her. The only reason I am still here is that I must protect my children from that woman and my abusive ex. Amazingly my mom has an entirely different public persona as an educator. If only people knew….
@55: How old might your daughter be? If she is 8 or above she should know better than to side along with her so called “grandmother” on custodial difference. Though if she is aware of the horrid situation she may help you in court (if tooken that far) eh?
@IA: Enjoy the weight off your shoulder, sounds well deserved.
Your mother sounds like mine. And I too am glad she’s dead. Thanks but no thanks for the crappy childhood.
Your mother sounds like mine. And I too am glad mine’s dead. I don’t ever have to listen to her crazy and abusive crap. Thanks but no thanks for the crummy childhood.