You knocked me up and didn’t do shit about it. Oh, wait—you did give me $20. I was 15 weeks pregnant when I got the abortion. It was the most painful thing I have ever experienced in my whole life, and you ditched me like jury duty. When I asked to snuggle, you told me to be big spoon and rolled over and went to sleep. You never once acknowledged what I was going through or showed even a glimmer of respect for our child. When I called you to tell you how hard this was for me, your imbecilic response was, “Let me meditate on that and call you back.” You never called back. SUCK IT, you idiotic new age schmuck. What kind of person meditates on his pregnant girlfriend’s emotional trauma and decides NOT to call?! I should sue you for child rape while I’m still underage. You’re eight years older than me and you can hardly comprehend common fucking sense (i.e., giving some empathetic snuggle-time to your impregnated jailbait booty call… or at the very least some fucking ice cream). I’m glad to be rid of you. You always were inscrutably apathetic. You say you’re just simple; I think you’re just insipidly shallow. So here I am: underage, unemployed, homeless, and (thank god for second-trimester abortions) childless, filled with raging hormones, lactating like a fucking cow, hating your guts like Hitler hated retarded Jewish babies. Fuck you, you fucking fuck. I hope you break your kneecaps and wake up in a puddle of vomit the next time you decide to mix alcohol and ketamine. Dumbass.
P.S. I peed in your shoes. And I want my toothbrush back.
Sorry about how that guy treated you, but trust me: you don’t want your toothbrush back.
Well, why don’t you press charges while you are still underage? At the very least it would potentially stop him from mistreating another underage person in the same manner.
Press charges against this douchecanoe.
Love the accompanying picture. Doyyy!
“here i am…” “…filled with raging hormones, lactating like a fucking cow, hating your guts like Hitler hated retarded Jewish babies. Fuck you, you fucking fuck. I hope you break your kneecaps and wake up in a puddle of vomit the next time you decide to mix alcohol and ketamine. Dumbass.”
“P.S. I peed in your shoes.”
(applauds)
This, ladies and gentlemen, is what I anon is supposed to be for. Oh marvelous. It’s been a long time coming – this level of vitriol in an i anon. I love it.
Anon, I am truly sorry for your pain. But believe me when I tell you, as bad as his behaviour was for this, it was NOTHING compared to what you would have had to deal with if you’d had his child. You dodged a bullet, and as sad as you are now, you absolutely made the best decision. And yeah, you should get that douchenozzle in as much shit as you can.
Call the cops! Have them verify the clinic trip and get him a nice pair of linked bracelets!
@1: best lead-off comment in I, Anon in ages.
OP, he’s a statutory rapist. Unless, of course, you’re in a position in which it would be impossible for him to disprove that he knew your real age, have his ass thrown in jail. Now.
I swear, assholes like that give responsible lechers such as myself a bad name.
Calling in the cops is rarely a good idea, especially in instances where the other person is simply a prick. It was consensual right? It ends up being a lot of work and what’s the payoff? Maybe he’s convicted, maybe not. Be more creative. This post is a good start. Do you know his friends? Where he hangs out? His yoga studio (you know he does yoga)? Information can be conveyed in all sorts of ways and you’re clearly smart enough to figure it out. And remember, prickishness comes home to roost.
Calling in the cops is rarely a good idea, especially in instances where the other person is simply a prick. It was consensual right? It ends up being a lot of work and what’s the payoff? Maybe he’s convicted, maybe not. Be more creative. This post is a good start. Do you know his friends? Where he hangs out? His yoga studio (you know he does yoga)? Information can be conveyed in all sorts of ways and you’re clearly smart enough to figure it out. And remember, prickishness comes home to roost.
Press charges.
The I, anon was nice and vicious- as how it should be.
I really liked the illustration as well. The blocks of colors behind the line art is pretty cool. Good job, Mr Weissman (are you jewish?)
PS: (Tthe armband, if worn, was always on the left arm, though. Shame for not using reference).
totally turn this dude in for stat rape, fuck him he sucks!
Definitely press charges! No reason why he should get to go out and wipe his feet on another underage girl.
Anon, I’m not aware of anything that prevents you from filing charges against him after you turn 18- you were still under 18 at the time no matter how old you are when you file charges. The statute of limitations is based on how long it has been since the crime was committed, not the current age of the victim.
With crimes like these, in many places, the clock doesn’t even start ticking until the victim turns 18 because they realize that someone that young doesn’t always have the ability or where with all to go to the police, immediately.
It’s 100% up to you. In many instances with statutory cases it seems like it’s the parents who pursue it and often it’s a much bigger ordeal to the kid than the often consensual and non-issue event, itself.
This is *not* one of those cases. This is the case in point example of why there are laws against older people having sex with younger people even if they consent- because they can lead to abortions and emotional damage.
This guy sounds like a grade A piece of shit douche bag fuck wad, and you sound like an incredibly articulate and intelligent person. I think that the ball is in your court, and if it is worth it to you then you should have him prosecuted.
Oh, Sugar, I am so sorry for what you’re dealing with. My own past has a few similar moments and I have some clues about how you’re feeling. He’s a dirtbag. He’s slime.
You do not want your toothbrush back and I’m glad you pee’d in his shoes.
I hope you’ll go to either Planned Parenthood ,to a center for battered women or to the rape crisis team to get some referrals to the resources available to get you back on your feet, emotionally, medically and in the more practical terms of a safe place to live. There is help available and there is no shame in seeking it when you truly are in need…. as for pressing charges, that’s a hugely personal decision and I won’t presume to say you should or shouldn’t but you need to decide soon, maybe with the help of a crisis counselor.
For what it’s worth, the hormonal roller coaster does not last forever, it just feels like it. It will settle down in a very few weeks.
I wish you all the best
What is up with all the baby-coddling comments.
You had unprotected, consensual intercourse, and *you* got pregnant because *you* had unprotected, consensual intercourse. This was really stupid, especially on your behalf, as the potential baby-host.
But let’s blame it all on him because he didn’t act exactly like you wanted it. He didn’t seem to realize that he owes all of that to you simply because your had unprotected consensual intercourse once. What a weirdo.
sweet g,
The age of consent is not eighteen.
@18 – This girl is underage, meaning a teenager, and given the level of sex education in this country, are you really shocked that a teenage girl had unprotected sex with someone way older than her? Can you really blame her, or should you be blaming the assfuck who led her on and really should have known better than to have unprotected sex with a teenager?!
Anon – you should absolutely press charges. Start with the clinic where you had your abortion, they probably can lead you to the resources you need (legal help and counseling).
No,no, MenAre’… She’s a teenager who had a common lapse of judgement and is paying a very high price for it. The fellow is a piece of shit who, as an adult, should have (a) kept it in his pants rather than bed down with a minor (b)failing that, should have taken the neccessary precautions to prevent her getting knocked up and (c) having knocked her up, should damn well have manned up enough to offer her some comfort and support through a very difficult time.
As a matter of law (if not always one of reality)she *can’t* consent, therefore, legally, it was not consensual and as I read it, it was not “once”, this sounds as if they saw each other long enough for her to believe that he gave a damn and would continue to give a damn when something painful and “not fun” happened.
Dan Savage touts the “Campsite Rule” for those who date people younger/less experienced than themselves: Leave ’em better than you found ’em.
This schmuck failed miserably to live up to the obligation he assumed the moment he expressed a sexual interest in this young woman.
“…didn’t show a glimmer of respect for our child”…but you aborted it? What kind of respect was that? I am sorry you had to learn a very hard lesson from the likes of this piece of crap guy. Have you ever thought of using birth control and condoms? It’s just an idea. Maybe you wouldn’t end up pregnant and having to abort another baby later on.
@18: Welcome to our state’s statutory rape laws, son. She made a bad decision in not using protection (or maybe she did and that protection failed), but jackass here broke the law. He is a criminal. And you are doing nothing to disprove the “All Men are Jerks” theory, by the by.
@Anon: Go to Planned Parenthood and get a copy of your medical records so you will have them if you decide to press charges. It can take awhile to get them. While you’re there get on Depo or an IUD. You are not going to be popping the pill everyday if you’re on the street. Depo also can eliminate your period, which is a bonus if you’re homeless. Good luck.
The more obviously fake an I anonymous is the more boring it is. This is the first one i didnt even make it halfway through in about 10 years.
#1 wins the thread early.
And yes, anon, have his ass thrown in jail. Even if he beats the rap, it will shame and stigmatise him forever, not to mention costing him lots of money.
Sweetie, the guy’s a douche and I’m sorry you ever met him. But please tell me you’ve learned something from this so it will never happen again. Or ever come close to happening again.
Most excellent!
Now you see why women his own age won’t go out with him and he has to resort to girls.
This is good, but it seems like you still have some feelings for him. I could see it being a teeny bit more hurtful. Calling someone ‘inscrutable’ and ‘apathetic’ is pretty weak in an anonymous essay.
By the way, is being ‘the big spoon’ a lower status position? I need to know if I’ve been taken advantage of because I’m tall.
Does Washington have an age of consent? Depending on that & her actual age at the time, it could throw a wrench into the pressing charges idea… but yeah, she should go for it. Even if it goes nowhere, it will still be on his record forever that he was charged with statutory rape, and that seems fair.
@16: I am not an attorney, but to my knowledge, the statute of limitations in most states is either two or three years upon the victim’s reaching the age of majority. In other words, Anonymous has until 20 or 21 to press charges. However, The Stranger is not the best place in the world to get legal advice, so it would be better for Anonymous to call the police immediately to verify this. I would like to see her press charges, as pseudo-sensitive New Age guys are some of the most predatory, prolific and slippery. If she waits until she’s 20, he may have changed his name to Nahoo and quietly moved to some Hindu retreat in Bangalore where he continues his con.
30, the age of consent in Washington is 16.
Best I, Anon in years. I want to take the writer of this one out on a date and show her how a real man with his shit together is supposed to treat a woman.
After she reaches legal age, of course.
#17 – what a great comment, Anon definitely needs to seek out resources. And Anon, speaking from experience I agree with LeBeau, the hormonal rollercoaster/lactation situation will end in a matter of weeks, not months. Don’t let yourself rot on the streets,there is help out there for you that has nothing to do with the idiot who got you pregnant. Get help, get on your feet and get satisfaction when 5 years from now, you’re still young, he’s not, you’re doing great, he’s not, and he begs, you don’t.
You people really don’t know how to do this guy, do you? I’m all on board with getting the abortion clinic records to prove the abortion, and proving the sex by deduction. Fine. That doesn’t establish paternity, and sex with douche by deduction. Money sounds tight, but she needs a small digital recorder (Olympus and Sony are best), and get it concealed in a purse or somewhere reasonably close to a conversation with douche. Some nice and positive discussion with douche where he lets his guard down, and talks about the sex with Anon would be GOLDEN if she wished to pursue prosecution. Clinic records + recorded admission to sex with minor = grounds for prosecution. If I lived in Seattle, I’d be glad to set it up.
Man, I hope anon isn’t coming here for legal advice, especially re: statute of limitations and (usually illegal) secret recordings.
Anon, if you’re online and reading this all somewhere out there, a women’s resource center will be able to give you specific information to inform you what your options are (legally, and otherwise) so that you can make the best decision on how to handle this and on what time table.
People are logging into here from all over the country (as you, yourself, may have written in from outside city limits or be referring to an experience before you wound up in Seattle). You need to know what the law and resources are where you are and where this happened.
Best of luck, kiddo.
Just one example of why I didn’t respect girls when I was underage (because they act like this trick), and why I don’t respect the women they’ve turned into now (because they still act like this little trick).
Shitty circumstances notwithstanding, anon, you’re clearly smart and capable. I have a feeling you’ll do okay.
And please tell us why you’re homeless exactly? And unemployed? I mean, you’re educated enough to use terms like “inscrutably apathetic” – is pouring a cup of joe for a little money beyond you?
Oh, and the whole “you never showed a glimmer of respect for OUR CHILD” was priceless.
You are exhibit A in the argument for forced sterilization.
@29, I interpreted the “big spoon” part to be not about status but about reassurance. I enjoy both spoon positions, but when I am upset, I find it much more comforting to be small spoon, receiving an embrace rather than giving one. Perhaps Anon feels this way too.
@29, the “little spoon” is the more sheltered position, and I’m betting that what she needed in that moment was to be allowed to have a safe, sheltered, snuggled spot because she was feeling small and vulnerable. I’m a bit claustrophobic, so when I’m upset, I actually want the outside of the snuggle where I can feel connected without feeling cornered, but most women want that feeling of being snuggled almost completely.
Dude’s an ass.
So based on the age of consent in Washington being 16, that means this guy fucked a homeless 15-year-old. And if he’s 8 years older, he’s 23 and damn well old enough to know better. Press charges, sweetie, and you’ll be doing the world a favor.
#36
You are right, recording in Washington state requires both parties consent. My bad, only 11 states require 2 party consent, and Washington is one of them. My bad. Don’t record.
This guy certainly needs manurity and a little tough love. Maybe jail time will give one or both of those. Press those charges.
Hmmm . . . let’s see . . .
“ditched me like jury duty.”
“acknowledged”
“imbecelic”
“empathetic”
“inscrutably apathetic”
“You’re” (used correctly)
Does anybody actually believe this letter was written by an “underage” girl?
otis, I don’t see why not. I knew how to spell at that age. My 14-year-old son knows how to spell and has a great vocabulary. True, she needs better judgment in her personal life, but that’s not necessarily related to one’s command of the English language (especially at her age.)
@45 If she’s old enough to get pregnant, we’re figuring she’s at least twelve, which is plenty old enough to know the difference between you’re and your, and none of those words are particularly challenging.
He got you knocked up ? were you in the kitchen making a sandwich when that happened ? Ever hear of a condom or the pill ? Oh yea, you are a poor victimized minor and only know how to use your pussy and not how to take care of it or your own dumb ass. You come off as a bitter tart in her twenties, which is what I suspect you actually are so go back to UW or Freakmont and quit crying. As far as the “respect” that you showed your baby I will use your catchy, clever phrase to say what she probably would have said right before she was murdered- Fuck you, you fucking Fuck.
“While I’m still underage” is telling me that she is somewhat close to 18. So either this didn’t happen in Washington or she is not familiar with local laws. Maybe you were able to consent legally despite being underage, sweetie.
I take it you’ve not brushed your teeth since getting pregnant?