Credit: Steven Weissman

Dear older sister: I think you’re a complete waste of space and you don’t deserve to have a child. You’re grossly fat and smell like crotch, cat piss, cigarettes, and BO. You allow your child to live in filth and make me foot the bill to everything every time I visit. I am afraid to spend the night in your foul house and don’t want to visit you for any of your weird made-up holidays. Get a job and get off welfare. Stop using your daughter as a crutch. She is almost old enough to go to kindergarten. Oh, and stop using the excuse that dad beat you—he hit me, too, and I’m just fine.

Furthermore, I am not an ATM and I will not pay for another thing for you. I am sick of being called only when you need something. From today on, I’m done. I will buy clothes and toys for my niece, but you’re screwed. I count down the days until I can take her from you. Then she will be safe from cat shit and piss, while you sit and wallow in it.

Fuck you, you useless, worthless, slutty, terrible mom.

35 replies on “I, Anonymous”

  2. Instead of pissing and moaning, CALL CHILD PROTECTIVE SERVICES. If this kid really is exposed to cat shit & piss, that can have dire health consequences.

    If you want to help this little girl, you’ll need to be gutsier than whining on an anonymous forum. Do something that can actually improve her life.

  4. I am so with #3….toxoplasmosis anyone? You need to save this kid before she’s old enough to remember all of the horror her mother put her through. DSS will of course do everything to keep her with her bio-mom, but at the least they’ll force her to clean up her house and maybe give her the wake-up call she needs. And as the bio-Aunt you might have a chance of securing at least temporary custody.

  5. The I anonymous column and it comment section is consistently filled with typical seattle passive aggressive weakness. Anonymity only emboldens the cowards among us and enables self absorbed hypocrites to pass judgment rather than learn to empathize and work with people on a human level. Regarding this post specifically, if one cannot speak plainly, truthfully and without judgment to a loved one in an effort to help enlighten and overcome apparent issues then one has obvious problems of their own and perhaps should descend from their high horse and examine their own short comings.

  6. “but kwanza is a real holiday!” lol ! Dig this , as long as there is a baby’s daddy to get child support from they will leave the kid there forever unless she get’s busted for drug’s (hint!)p.s. festivus rock’s !

  11. @10 Truck

    I am unregistered not because I crave anonymity (as I figured one might discern since I used my real name) but because I rarely read, let alone comment on, articles in the Stranger. The impersonal nature of internet communications does tend to bring a cloud of anonymity to many exchanges, but there is a big difference between a comment on a website given under ones real name and an ongoing column where passive aggressive people anonymously complain about situations that they have no spine to confront maturely in any tangible way.

  13. @6 stop spreading misinformation.

    1. Toxoplasma gondii is one of the most prevalent parasites on earth. It’s spread to humans by poor sanitation. While cats are essential to the organism’s lifecycle, you are no more at risk of contracting toxoplasmosis from your cat than you are of being run over by the car in your driveway.

    2. Toxoplasmosis is life-threatening to the unborn, neonates, and people with compromised immune systems. Otherwise, it’s just a flu people (and cats) suffer only once in their lifetimes.

  15. Eric Cartman, the daddy can pay child support to Auntie too. That won’t keep the kid there if there’s a loving and capable relative to care the kid.

    It might, however, keep Auntie from ever being able to adopt said niece if the opportunity arrives and Auntie has relied on any public aid to care for her niece at all. Unless she can pay for a lawyer willing to try to terminate the bioparents rights.

    I’m raising my sister’s son. I’m disabled, so the kiddo gets state medical because she doesn’t keep his insurance on. Because of this, and that she pays child support (thanks to garnishing), I can’t adopt this kid who remembers no other mother (there’s no biodad in the picture).

    So Anon could still get custody if the Dad’s paying child support (and the bio mom could be ordered to pay as well if she has any collectable income), but it might interfere with adoption.

  17. If you actually believe this person is an unfit mother to a kid you supposedly care about you should be doing a lot more than writing anonymously about it to the Stranger.

  21. Anon that was low blow to talk about childhood abuse as if she should just brush it off. Some people are devestated by it and just can’t “get over it”, especially if the abuse was from a close family member. Trust me, my boyfriend has PTSD from years of childhood abuse. He has gone to therapy off and on since age 9. He has a hard time networking and going out because of the depression from his past and he has a shattered relationship with his family, and has not talked to his father in over 15 years. However, his two brothers who were also abused by their dad as kids are both successful extroverts who are both on good terms with their dad these days. Not everyone processes abuse the same way, so for you to sit and call her out on it is complete bullshit.

  24. Hey, dsghrthrt, why have you decided your target sales demographic is people who read the comment sections on the website of an alternative newspaper?

    Dude, Stranger readers ain’t GOT money to buy stuff.

    And who the FUCK is “Puma Slipper Woman”?

  25. It sounds like your sister is suffering from PTSD and major depression. You could try actually reaching out to her and finding her some help. Find her a therapist and doctor who can prescribe medications for her. Unless, of course, you enjoy watching her and her child suffer?

  26. You can always count on some moron apologist standing up for any of these anonymous idiots, no matter how culpable they are for their own situation… talkin’ to #23 and #29. Turn down the empathy, turn up the rational thought, and get over yourselves. The only reason you run to the defense of jackasses isx so people can see you run to the defense of something. Does it make you feel like a hero?

  28. It sounds more like sibling rivalry to me. It is easier to judge others than to actually help them, if she really does need help. People who own cats do ted to have a home that smells like cats. It is true, if you call CPS they will make the mom clean the house, if it really is such a terrible mess. Sounds like you are bitter, and not really over the abuse you two were dealt at a young age. Get counseling for yourself!

  31. @32 – Having cats does not have to make for a house that smells like them. We have 2 and one of my allergic-to-cats friends has mentioned that we have the only house he could ever stay in for more than an hour or 2.

    Sounds like the cat piss smell is symptomatic of a much larger problem in general cleanliness.

  32. I don’t know. I think those of you on Anon’s side need to be a bit more skeptical. She seems to be far more interested in insulting her sister than in helping her niece. That to me says that some of what is claimed here, or maybe even all of it, might be complete bs.

    And why attack her for having “weird holidays”? Why does she feel the need to be so controlling that her older sister has to celebrate only traditional holidays? Sounds like she might be a bit of a control freak.

    She says dad hit her too and she’s “just fine” but if she’s really just fine, why all the anger? It can’t be over the niece because otherwise she would have done something about helping the niece instead of just complaining to I, Anonymous. It could be the money, but hey no one is forcing her to fork it over. Why isn’t she taking responsibility for her own choices? Maybe she has the same anger management problem her dad did.

    Maybe her sister really is as awful as she says, but that doesn’t necessarily mean this I, Anon is all that together either.

  33. @23 that’s true. Also true is that both siblings are not always treated equally, even when both have suffered abuse. I was sexually molested by my father as well as whipped on occasion, and my sister just had a few belt marks growing up. She has a decent relationship with him, and I haven’t spoken to him in 3 years… I still haven’t gotten over it but I’m unable to afford therapy since my health insurance doesn’t cover psych.

    Life’s a bitch.

  34. @37 – Sorry, but does your sister know your father sexually molested you when you were a child? If so, how can she possibly have a “decent relationship” with him now??? That would be seriously fucked up.

    If she does know, I hope she doesn’t have any kids of her own. (And that she never does!)

    A person who molests his/her children is profoundly and fundamentally damaged, and should be cut out of the lives of his/her children, grandchildren, etc. permanently as soon as the abuse comes to light. Do not be fooled – he/she will never change and become a normal, healthy person. It’s a sad fact, but it’s true. Your father is dangerous, and you and your sister both should do everything in your power to make sure that other children in your family are kept away from him.

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