I should’ve known not to leave such a huge responsibility as taking
care of my cat for two weeks up to such a dirtbag as yourself. Your
“that’s what neighbors are for” routine clouded my judgment, and I’m
thoroughly ashamed of myself for not realizing what a huge fucking
mistake I was making. I didn’t want to look like a jerk and tell you
I’d rather have someone else do it despite my reservations—and
now my cat is dead because you fucked up, you fucking asshole. All you
had to do was follow the simple instructions I left for you, which I
also repeated to you numerous times! Instead you “blew it” and forgot
about the medicine you were supposed to put in his food. My main
concern was that you’d rifle through my shit while in my apartment.
Unfortunately, I underestimated your worthlessness. Thanks also for not
telling me when I called to check on everything—your attempt to
“not ruin my vacation” was a real classy move. I hope you overdose on
whatever chemical seems to have rendered you legally retarded.

45 replies on “I, Anonymous”

  2. That so sucks. I’m so sorry. If we were neighbors, I’d bake you cookies and drop off a case of tissues and gang up with you to get rid of this asshole.

  3. Oh boo-hoo, poor you. I feel so sorry that you’re too stupid, lazy and/or self-absorbed to take your responsibilities as a pet owner seriously. Having a pet is a choice. Unfortunately your cat didn’t have a choice in the matter and got stuck with a shithead like you. For the sake of society, please don’t breed.

  4. I’d say you both screwed up, but get over it. It was a sick cat. His time came. Big deal. How great could his quality of life have been, anyway? And it’s not like there aren’t a gazillion healthy, friendly cats and kittens waiting on death row to be adopted.

  5. Wow Sally. Nice show of compassion…what the hell is wrong with you? No matter who fucked up, the cat is still dead. Maybe show some sympathy instead of writing a bitchy comment. Seriously…you think Anonymous is the self-absorbed one? Rightttt……

    To Anonymous: Sorry your cat died…that really does suck…but when you’re ready, adopting a new loved one would be really rad.

  6. While I’m sorry for your loss, maybe you shouldn’t have gone on vacation if your cat was undergoing treatment that would result in death were it to be munged. Maybe the treatment didn’t have a hundred percent success rate.

    I don’t mean that in a snarky way, but as a chance to look at things objectively.

    Either way, talk about this with the neighbor, be prepared to accept some degree of responsibility here for choosing to leave your cat in the hands of a sitter, and move on to better things that aren’t so upsetting.

  7. I am so sorry to hear of your loss…I once left my cat for a few days alone with a roomate, i.e. someone you’d think you could trust, and returned to find a terrified (usually social) cat who wouldn’t leave my bedroom closet so who knows what happened (she’s ok, in fact now she’s 15 yrs old, this was a long time ago). I moved out soon after…you did the responsible things, sometimes people are lying bastards who trick you into thinking they’re decent human beings when really, not so much.

  8. How fucking hard is it to put medicine in food?

    So people should be chained to their houses if they have a sick cat? It’s a fucking CAT, not their grandmother. I think Anon knows this, since they took the vacation (might’ve been the first in years, who knows), and they’re rightly angry somebody screwed up some so retardedly simple.

  9. I’m really, really sorry about your cat.

    But if and when you decide to get another animal, be more responsible about it. A helpless animal (one that needs medical treatment to boot) should never have been left in the care of someone you did not trust.

    I recently went on vacation, and though they offered, I refused to leave my dog with my parents because I didn’t trust they would be able to watch him, that they wouldn’t feed him table scraps every day and make him sick, and lastly they don’t have a fence where he would be safe outside.

    I sucked it up, did the responsible thing, and paid the vet several hundred dollars to board him for 2 weeks.

    If you take on the care of a living creature you are responsible for it. It sounds like your neighbor screwed up, but accept your part in this and learn from it, please!

  10. Hey dipshit,

    Don’t go on vacation with a sick cat.

    Or like every intelligent person has stated, board it with your vet – who can give it the proper medical care, and react if the condition gets worse. If you can’t afford it, then mabye you shouldn’t be going on vacation.

    Here Lies Whiskers, whose owner was too cheap to give it the proper care while out of town.

  11. My sympathies on the loss of your cat. That’s tough to deal with. I’m not going to berate you for going on vacation with a sick cat (and maybe it was a longer-term treatment or something).

    But this line in your post is very revealing: “I didn’t want to look like a jerk and tell you I’d rather have someone else do it despite my reservations…”

    So your gut told you that this neighbor wasn’t the best person to care for your cat, but you didn’t want to hurt his/her feelings so you gave in. It’s your cat! Really, it’s ok to say no. If the neighbor thinks you’re a jerk for finding another cat-sitter, so be it. I say this as someone who hates conflict and hates the idea of people being upset with me–we have to suck it up and get over it or we will be miserable in relationships, at work, everything.

    Have a lovely funeral for the cat, forgive the neighbor for the sake of getting along, and say no to someone about something today.

  12. C’mon folks, a little compassion here. Hindsight is 20/20. Anon will no doubt be more careful in the future, but the mistake was an honest one and the loss is a real one. If there is any justice in the world, her dipshit neighbor will someday need life-sustaining medication that a careless nurse’s aid will forget to give him.

    And maybe anon didn’t know you can board an animal. Maybe I’ve been living in a cave, but *I* didn’t know that. Back off and show some humanity.

  13. You guys are jerks. A person should be able to trust a neighbor to put medicine in cat food, especially when HE INSISTS. And don’t you think that anonymous has probably beaten herself up enough for leaving her sick cat and going on vacation?

    anonymous, I’m so sorry for your loss. Please consider adopting an adult cat from the shelter when you are ready.

  14. To the people who are saying that the person should of NOT gone on vacation because their cat was sick- fuck off!

    Growing up I had a cat that had to have daily medication his whole life! And that didn’t stop me or my family from doing things and relying on someone to take care of our animals.

  15. Uh, lots of animals are given medicine regularly for their entire lives. When I was a kid we had a dog we gave pills to for 10 years and often left him in the care of another when we went on trips. Can’t you people even allow anonymous a good, clean grief-rant?

  16. Yeah, sorry about your loss Anon, but sounds like you made a poor choice and your cat paid the price for your retarded choice of your asshole neighbor as a caretaker. Glad to say that the correct action to take is to feel guilty and kick yourself repeatedly until you get a replacement cat and eventually forget that you killed your cat with one bad decision. Here’s to entrusting a loved one with someone you don’t trust- it sounds so… so… i don’t know what it sounds like, but it doesn’t sound like a decision made by someone who should be a pet owner. Responsibility ultimately lies with you, but I fully support kicking your neighbor’s ass, as long as you keep kickin your own

  17. What’s with all the horribly judgemental comments? It’s disappointing.

    I’ve been in Anon’s situation and it should go without saying that this situation is far more complex than a lot of the comment writers are assuming. It’s really not black and white. Anon does not deserve to be judged based on the tiny amount of information in the column.

    My condolences go out to Anon. It’s hard to lose a pet.

  18. I’m sorry Anon. Whe I was very small I had a rabbit that we let the neighbors watch for 2 days while we went away. The boy broke its leg and they had to put it down and it’s been 30 years and I still haven’t forgot.
    Maybe all of the mean commenters here would blame my mom for allowing the neighbors to watch the bunny but really. They lived next door and we had a decent relationship with them…why would she refuse to let them watch the bunny when they offered? She should have forseen that they wouldn’t know how to properly handle a bunny? Really it’s not that hard to know how to handle one. Anon should have known that the neighbor couldn’t follow simple instructions? Really what was asked was not that difficult and should have been doable by anyone with even a modicum of sense.

  19. wow! I can’t believe how many people are turning this on Anonymous. All the neighbor had to do was put some medicine in the cat food so that cat wouldn’t die. That sounds pretty fucking simple. If the neighbor forgot to put water in the water bowl would you blame the cat owner. “If you knew your cat needed to have water and be hydrated in order to live then it’s our own damn fault for being so selfish.”

    For crying out loud, the guy didn’t follow simple instructions. Fuck you all. You’re never watching my cat.

  20. Wow, there are a lot of assholes posting here. It’s a really simple thing to put medicine in cat food…it’s not like they had to force it down the cat’s throat.

    And for those who say you should plan your vacations around your pet’s health, how long does it take you to get requested time off? And how much money do you have to pay to cancel plane tickets and hotel reservations? So glad you assume this person had the extra cash to waste in this day and age and is a great monster who deserves a dead cat.

    yeesh.

  21. there are reputable vets who will board a cat for reasonable fees.. it was your cat and ultimately your responsibility to care for her.

  23. I am so very sorry for your loss, that must have been devastating.

    If it is any consolation- having worked as a vet nurse for 8 years – I commend you on your care for your pet. Having first hand experience with all of the various levels of responsible pet ownership- you should know that just the fact that you chose to provide your cat with medical care and medication makes you higher on the list than a good number of people. One would be amazed at the numbers of seemingly good intentioned people who deny their pets adequate care, medication or even choose to euthanize their pets due to inconveniences in their lives (“I’m moving and can’t have pets”, “My husband is allergic”, “the neighbors complain that he barks all day and night because I’m never home” etc.- I have heard all of these excuses as a request to put a healthy animal to sleep. Luckily most vets say no.)

    You are not to blame- you were responsible, had your pet under vet prescribed care and medication and unfortunately your neighbor didn’t pay attention or listen to direction. That fucking sucks and you have every right to be upset. I hope your anger subsides soon and you can remember all of the love and happiness that little four legged family member provided you and others.

    My condolences,

  24. I pay to have my 4 legged family member cared for when I choose to vacation without him. If you are a true animal lover, you should understand that the responsibility lies with you to care for your pet, whether you are there or not.

  25. I’ve been burned by a roommate who promised to take care of the pooches, and then left them alone for three days and she didn’t even call to tell me; and also by a boarding kennel that I wasn’t familiar with because my usual place was all booked. On that occasion I returned to very depressed dogs that smelled of feces and uric acid. I’m so, so sorry for your loss.

  27. Ignore the assholes. This was not your fault. I’m sure you wouldn’t have left the cat with the neighbor if you’d thought for one second that the guy would fuck it up so badly.

    I’m so sorry about your cat.

  28. I’m really surprised that so many people are being such assholes about this. People go on vacation. They ask other people to do them a favor and feed their cats once a day. This is what happens. Asking to add some medicine to the cat’s food is an extremely simple request.

    All this “true animal lover” stuff is bullshit.

  29. I feel so very sorry for your cat. You, on the other hand, are a worthless human being. SeaTech, Gwendolyn and the rest are wrong – you are to blame. The fact that you blame your “dirtbag” neighbor and take no responsibility yourself shows just what type of person you are. I hope that someday your family decides to save a few bucks and force you to die painfully and miserably at home rather than receive proper medical care. And I hope that day comes sooner rather than later.

  30. Jesus people are such assholes. Pets are dear to all of us but they are animals, not people, and analogies that suggest leaving a pet with a neighbor (even if it needs a daily pill in its food) are tantamount to nurse or family failing to provide a human being with medical care are flawed.

    You had a pet, you also had a life, and you left your pet with a neighbor who insisted he could take care of it.

    My boyfriend and I house-sat for a family friend who has several dogs, we said we could watch them for two weeks, and they had an old dog which needed to have its food mixed with water and other special stuff.

    Once they left, either because the dog was sick or just nuerotic without its owners it started pooping over the entire house. Every day when my boyfriend and I came home after work there was poop in 4 or 5 places (The dogs had a pet door to go into the yard, and it’s not like we didn’t let them out when we were home

    We did our best to clean up every day for like 4 days (they were gone for 2 weeks, I think), and then we called the family and were like, wow, we can’t deal with this, and they were nice about it and we aranged to have the nuerotic dog put in a kennel for the rest of their trip.

    The worst part of your neighbor’s behavior is that he didn’t have the balls to let you know there was a problem when you were gone. We sucked it up and told them we were sorry but we couldn’t deal. He told you some lame story about not wanting to ruin your vacation which really meant he was chicken shit.

  31. It isn’t even the matter of someone going on vacation. The thing is, neighbor said he would do it and he didn’t. He could have said no…but he didn’t. Don’t say you’ll do something if you aren’t going to follow through.
    FUCK the neighbor and SO sorry about your cat

  34. When your gut tells you not to trust someone, and you trust them anyway because you don’t want to “look like a jerk,” its time to re-evaluate your priorities.

  36. I know this doesn’t help now, and I’m very sorry about your cat.

    There are other options to kenneling or getting a neighbor to watch your pets, as well. You can find a bonded pet-sitter. That’s what I use when I go out of town. You can check up on them to make sure they are not criminals or numerous other people’s animals didn’t die in their care. They’re much cheaper than kennels, you don’t need to get a bunch of vaccines for your animal & they’ll come to your home to take care of them.

  37. I think “an animal lover” gives the best response. Your neighbor is a sociopathic asshole, but you shouldn’t have left your cat to be taken care of someone you didn’t trust. I am very sorry for your loss. I am also very sorry for your cat, who probably died wondering where you were while he was suffering. If you can’t afford a pet sitter or boarding at the vet, you can’t afford to go on vacation. Please be more responsible with your next pet.

  38. “I am also very sorry for your cat, who probably died wondering where you were while he was suffering.”

    Jesus Christ Son of Mary! That level of a guilt trip could only come from a Catholic.

    The fact remains that all the neighbor had to do was put medicine in the cat’s food. He didn’t have to shove a pill down the cat’s throat or stick it with a needle. This is all pretty basic and on par with putting water in the fucking water bowl. Unless these seemingly simple instructions have been misrepresented, get off your high horse and show some fucking compassion.

  39. Animals are way better than most humans I’ve ever met. So if it was left up to me, I would beat the non medicine giving ‘care taker’ until he was a bloody pulp.
    Cheers!

  40. Uh, who said it was recently declared sick? What if it has had a condition since day one and the owner needed a fucking break.

    Treatment for animals is expensive as fuck. Maybe she got a free vacation from a family friend, but barely has the money to take care of her cat.

    Who knows? Who cares? Why be an asshole about it though.

  41. It’s fucking stupid that anyone would let a cat die because they were too fucking lazy/selfish to put medicine in a cat’s dish Anyone with an ounce of morale would have done it accordingly It’s not her fault she got stuck with a self absorbed piece of shit that can’t handle this one, simple task to save a life Quit giving her shit you inconsiderate jerk-offs

  42. You idiots that think a person can’t leave a pet just because it’s on medication? Lots of animals – and people – take medication daily, medication that changes their whole quality and length of life. That doesn’t mean life can’t go on! Shut up if you’re stupid.

  43. I can’t believe you are only posting about this here. Your neighbour should be jailed for life for murder. This is no different than if you’d left a human child & returned to find it had been killed by neglect. NO different. If the law won’t help you, you might want to consider punishing the murderer on your own. This is so appalling it completely eclipses all other news today.

  44. Sorry to hear about the loss of your cat. I have 3 of them myself and I can’t imagine what it would be like to lose one of them at somebody else’s hands.
    For those who criticize about you taking vacation with a medicinally needing cat. They don’t know if your cat was sick for the short term or needed the meds on a daily basis for the rest of it’s life. A friend has a cat with diabetes and she has to give him a shot everyday for the rest of his life.
    When you are ready, go and adopt a cat from the shelter and remember the lessons learned about who you chose to catsit.

  45. I’m so sick of these people who are more obsessed with their fucking cats than people. Get lives. The world has real, human problems to deal with without your cat shit.

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