After 10 years, I got pregnant. What a perfect time to tell me you
never wanted children. You pretended I wasn’t pregnant and that I
didn’t even exist—except for the few friends you lied to, telling
them I poked a hole in the condom to get pregnant on purpose. Why would
I want to purposely have a child with someone who beat the crap out of
me, blamed me for the violence, and dared me to call the police? I can
barely afford to replace all the things you stole when you moved out
and threatened to go “somewhere that doesn’t collect child support.”
Classy. Please thank the lesbian you were cheating with for the genital
warts I got while pregnant. Considering the lies, cheating, hitting,
abandonment, and denial, don’t you think you should give relationships
a break? You clearly have no idea how much you truly hate women. 
I, Anonymous
Babymama Drama
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I feel really bad for you and hope your baby is healthy. Maybe you should give relationships a break, too, since you clearly aren’t very adept at pickin em. Not that it was your fault, but maybe lay off the assholes, especially since you have someone else to care for now. It’s not the baby’s fault that you hate men who hate women. Been there, done that, won’t go back. Be strong and get your shit together.
Hey–way to take responsibility for being such a stupid loser that would get knocked up by an equally retarded piece of crap. Please do what your parents should have done and get an abortion.
@ sock monkey
People like you need their fingers cut off, eardrums pierced, tongue removed and eyes rendered useless. Some people in this town have no heart. Way to fail at life
The four families of “I, anonymous” comments –
1)Sympathy. “I feel bad for you and hope things get better!”
2)Blame. “Way to blame other people for your own failures!”
3)Rebuttal to (2). “If you don’t feel bad then you’re essentially a less charismatic Hitler.”
4)Meta-commentary. “The four families of ‘I, anonymous’ comments…”
hahaha. Meta-commentary. Clever are you!
As Judge Judy would say, you picked him.
“Why would I want to purposely have a child with someone who beat the crap out of me…???” My question is, why would you want to be with someone who beat the crap out of you? For 10 years, no less????!!! Why???????
David for the win!
you all are a bunch of douche bags..
The coathangers are in your closet. Have a nice time, hun.
Opinions are like assholes…everyone’s got one.
I think comments on I anonymus defeats the purpose somehow.
“My question is, why would you want to be with someone who beat the crap out of you? For 10 years, no less????!!!”
Really. How were you still living with this man, and even having sex with him?
This is a category 2 comment.
Yes, how dare you let this nice man beat you. How dare you not have the clarity of judgment these commenters have. They would never end up in a bad relationship (or any relationship). They wouldn’t hesitate to selflessly rack up the frequent flyer points at Planned Parenthood. Stay classy, Stranger readers!
You ARE purposely having a child with someone who beat the crap out of you. You made that choice when you didn’t use birth control or get an abortion. You have options, I know that it’s hard to see those when you clearly feel so poorly about yourself that you choose a douchebag like him. Get an abortion, if you still can. And more importantly, seek therapy. Or, you will end up repeating your mistake.
Greg, you are an anatomically incorrect asshole. I am classy enough to know that your tiny cock is lending it’s sensitivity to a situation that doesn’t require a fem-man’s perspective. Seriously, leave the vag-soaking tampons to us girls.
You are making excuses for someone who needs to learn to get out of a situation, not have some nitwit with no sack tell her it’s ok and that she shouldn’t blame herself. At some point, blame comes a-callin.
Thank you for the original display of your amazing grasp of fa·ce·tious·ness (noun); we all appreciate the hell out of it. Did you see what I did right there? I used it against you. Wasn’t that funny?
@jen01
Way to neuter any attempt at a legitimate point with petty name calling and girl-on-girl bile. I, like you, don’t know this girl enough to attack or defend her. (And it was funny, just not the way you intended it to be.)
sorry, i didn’t manage to get my entire life story into this i, anonymous. but i guess i have to defend myself to opinionated strangers.
to clarify: the violence occurred a week before i gave birth. the rest was discovered after i gave birth.
and for the people lecturing me on birth control, we were using condoms.
for those that recommend abortion, again, i didn’t find out about this stuff until i was ready to give birth.
additionally, i love my baby & i’m very glad i had him, regardless of the situation with the father.
i dont get it. I like beating women. whats the big deal? ok so she’s pregnent. get over it. shit happens. chill.
fuckin whiner.
you choose your own pain.
As much as you should have left this guy long ago, I think you should promise yourself you’ll never let him have anything to do with the baby.
What’s up with blamming the genital warts on a lesbian. I seriously doubt that a lesbian would be screwing with a man? That, oh so (not) subtle slam/hate mongering should have the bloggers at the Stranger frothing but only me, not gay, noticed it? I’m sure he is a jerk but call his slut a slut not a lesbian.
Society can’t afford children like this … the numbers of your child growing up ok without being a raging traumatized lunatic …
small ….
and EVEN if he is able to come out and rise about his adversity (the best case scenario)
He will be ridden with a JILLION ASS LOADS OF DOLLARS IN STUDENT DEBT.
Congratulations.
Stop the victim blame!
Lady, I don’t know why you stayed with this a$$ wipe for ten years, I don’t know why you decided to have his child, I don’t know why you are still in contact now you’ve broken up with him. Get some therapy and soon. Oh, and put the kid up for adoption. He/she deserves better parents than the two of you. You may think you love/want the baby, but really you don’t. You’ll just end up resenting/hating it as much as you and the father resent/hate each other.
Lady, I don’t know why you stayed with this a$$ wipe for ten years, I don’t know why you decided to have his child, I don’t know why you are still in contact now you’ve broken up with him. Get some therapy and soon. Oh, and put the kid up for adoption. He/she deserves better parents than the two of you. You may think you love/want the baby, but really you don’t. You’ll just end up resenting/hating it as much as you and the father resent/hate each other.
Is this a Palin Confession?
Well for starters fuck that guy!!What a piece of SHIT! He will get the karma he deserves, so don’t worry about that! Every woman makes mistakes when it comes to men the best thing you can do is just make sure you don’t make the same one. Learn the first time and move on because you can’t change your past but you can change your future. Don’t forget to make your life great on your own, don’t expect some man to do it for you because he won’t! Keep your head up and work with what you’ve all ready got 🙂
Wow, it’s really interesting that so many people get so righteously pissed off at someone who’s suffering. Yeah, she could’ve done (could do) things differently–I think she made some bad decisions, but it’s done now. Geez, why kick somebody so hard when they’re down?
There are domestic violence agencies that offer counseling and support groups that could help.
Babymama: Obviously, I wasn’t there, but I find it hard to believe that a guy would suddenly become abusive after ten years. I get that the baby’s birth would change things–probably, he amped up his abuse–however, I’d be that there were telltale signs of abuse long before that. Ten years is a long time. Domestic violence counseling would help you recognize the signs of an abusive behavior in potential future partners and keep your child safe.
Red Flags* of abusive behavior.
*Red Flags are not always absolute indicators–although some some are more so than others–but rather MIGHT indicate the potential for abuse.
1) Quick involvement – e.g. wants to move in after three weeks of dating, wants to spend every minute of the day with you
2) Talks about ex in disparaging way–e.g. they broke up because she was “a crazy bitch”–especially early on in the relationship
3) Extreme jealousy – e.g. doesn’t want you to go out with your friends, thinks you’re flirting with the waiter/waitress when you’re just ordering dinner
4) Always blames other people for their problems
5) Has a history of violence e.g. hurts animals, hit their ex
6) Calls you constantly and gets pissed off when you’re not available
7) Doesn’t respect your limits, e.g. calls late at night even if you have to get up early the next day
8) Deliberately breaks things that belong to you
Juno and that other quirky awkward teen saying, “All babies want to get borned,” so that it endears to your ‘eart piece closer than the tightest emo indie jeans ever, and also some peace-nik once said that, “I notice that everyone who is pro choice has already been born.” One teardrop tattoo for you.
Beth,
That’s rich. Fucking Rich.
Another vote for abortion.
Genital warts and pregnant? Sweetie, I hope you get to a doctor, and soon.
As far as “daddy,” you need to start legal proceedings against him and most definitely get far, far away from him. Screw the “life” you have now, because if you want a new one, you gotta save your ass.
I don’t know if you have more kids, or this is the first, but I suggest that whatever you do, now is the time to get your act together.
Good luck.
Do the smartest thing you’ll have done in 10 years and abort it.
did any of you idiots read the second post that she had the baby before she found out all this stuff?
stop telling her to have an abortion!
Ummmmm…you spent the last 10 years with this person and you’re mad at him?
Wow.
This place takes the cake for The Most Vicious Comments Ever. End.
Get an abortion or keep it. Both ways you need to look in the mirror. Yes, he is a jerk. But all men and women need classes on how to stop blaming others. I guess you learned it from those who reared you. As soon as you admit your mistakes, your life will get better.
date a short, weak, intellectual guy instead of a violent asshole and maybe you might find happiness, you clueless bitch
You need to get some help and figure out why you would put up with beatings for 10 years. You’ll have a kid soon and you don’t want him or her in that sort of environment. Be glad he’s gone and don’t be stupid and pick up another abusive loser. Better to be a single parent than one of those women who inflicts a continuous parade of abusive step-daddies on her kids.
Some advice:
Take a long, hard look at the kind of guys you attract and are attracted to. Focus on how they behave when you first meet. Their personality. Their mannerisms. The way they treat you. You will find patterns. After you identify the patterns, stay AWAY.
Your boyfriend was an asshole to you, and you’re an idiot for dating him. Get real and don’t date anyone for a while until you get your head straight and figure out what to do with the baby.
He may be the douchebag who done you wrong, but you’re still the douchebag whining about it. Yeah, leaving an abusive relationship is hard, but people do it every day. Kindly grow up a bit, or have an abortion. Preferably both, the world is already too full of resource grubbing, whiny-assed Americans.
“Red Flags* of abusive behavior.
*Red Flags are not always absolute indicators–although some some are more so than others–but rather MIGHT indicate the potential for abuse.
1) Quick involvement – e.g. wants to move in after three weeks of dating, wants to spend every minute of the day with you
2) Talks about ex in disparaging way–e.g. they broke up because she was “a crazy bitch”–especially early on in the relationship
3) Extreme jealousy – e.g. doesn’t want you to go out with your friends, thinks you’re flirting with the waiter/waitress when you’re just ordering dinner
4) Always blames other people for their problems
5) Has a history of violence e.g. hurts animals, hit their ex
6) Calls you constantly and gets pissed off when you’re not available
7) Doesn’t respect your limits, e.g. calls late at night even if you have to get up early the next day
8) Deliberately breaks things that belong to you”
Funny, that’s exactly what my baby was like… then when she got pregnant she moved out of state for 4 months because she was afraid I would drag her down to the clinic / push her down the stairs!
“Juno and that other quirky awkward teen saying, “All babies want to get borned,” “
Ohh, sorry, I read it as “All babies want to get BONED” !!!
“Juno and that other quirky awkward teen saying, “All babies want to get borned,” “
Ohh, sorry, I read it as “All babies want to get BONED” !!!