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One thing though, Australians pronounce the 't' in 'fillet' so I suspect I would still pronounce your name incorrectly. Apologies.
A beautifully written story. You are clearly talented. I predict great success in everything you do.
Your name has ten thousand meanings.
I too grew up without a father, from the age of six - in my case I remember that he loved me unconditionally.
You are a very strong person.
Thank you for reminding us all that we are more than the sum of our genes. XOXO and best of luck!
Way to set the bar high.
Your desire to see the worst is sad.
@37 Just to clarify, both of my children are from my first marriage, they have the same mother and I have been raising them as the custodial parent since we divorced... I am not my father. And the "2 ex wives that I hate" on my website.. that is a joke....you know....in that series of jokes....that it was in the middle of. I don't hate them, I have a perfectly fine relationship with them. I just thought it was a funny juxtaposition.
@35, 38: DO NOT FEED THE TROLLS. Writing combative things about both the article AND the commenters definitely counts as trolling; add to that the mischaracterization of the article and the complete lack of any connection to "white guilt", and there's no question. Just let him wither and die without sustenance.
also don't sweat the dad thing, it has obviously made you great at thinking the way you think.
i had a strange relationship with my name and my father for a good portion of my life. i came to the same conclusion you did. stand proud, sir.
Reminds me of this quote:
The fifteen-year-old daughter of a friend once addressed the old Carl Jung as follows: “Herr Professor, you are so clever. Could you please tell me the shortest path to my life’s goal?” Without a moment’s hesitation Jung replied, “The detour!”
Anyway, congratulations on all your revelations. You write wonderfully.
( love Jon, Katie and Jack)
My name is Steve West and I too am happy that I am who I am. :)
Lots of kids I know of that same birth situation just drop the Nigerian last name since it has no 'family bond' worth with it, compels unideal questions/attention and that at least minimizes the dishonorable stigma.
I've seen people make it into a middle name or just dropped altogether.
Evidently your birth father couldn't be a better person but certainly gave life to one. Consider the surname change - sooo many people do.