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6 replies on “Savage Love Episode 224”

  3. That’s interesting. As for the poly thing, I think the big issue is to make sure that you do not allow your children to get attached quickly to somebody new. (Same rule for single monogamous parents.)

    However, if somebody was there for many years before the kid was born, and is likely to be there for many years after, then the kid(s) would know that this person is special to mom and dad. And, of course, that doesn’t require talking about mom and dad’s sex life.

  4. Thank you thank you thank you for this podcast. Three weeks ago my nine-year-old son asked me how women get pregnant, and I FAILED completely by deflecting and redirecting.

    Listening to the podcast I thought, “If he’s asking me about this what kind of crap information is he getting from his friends?”

    The follow up conversation went reasonably well, and I’m sure there will be more questions soon. Thanks Dan!

  5. Just a quick note about the screamer! Don’t fucking scream during sex at night while your 4 year old is sleeping. Dan, your kid might have been a deep sleeper at 4 years old…I, sadly, was NOT. My mother was screaming so loud when I was 4 that I thought she was in trouble and I freaked out, ran into her bedroom and saw my parents boning. ugh. hhahaha! it’s still a funny story in the family, and it’s not like I’m scarred from it…but maybe if my mommy could’ve kept it down just a liiiiitle….I could have been spared that image….just a thought, screamer. And one more thought…you know…if you’ve never wanted kids (as I have never wanted kids) it might be worth it to really put some thought into it before you have them. Having kids because your spouse really wants them isn’t always what’s best for you or that child. But until you squirt one out, scream away! 🙂

  6. I disagreed on the whole “Uncle” business when we’re talking about open polyamorists. Kids can be intuitive, and if they get the vibe that their parents are romantic with their Uncle… well then how is incest more socially acceptable than polyamory? Handle this in just the same way that single parents who date would handle this. Call the person what they are. This is no different than saying, “Daddy is my husband.” If they are a “boyfriend,” say “boyfriend.” If they are another “partner,” say “partner.” If they are a “friends with benefits,” or “the couple we soft swap with,” well… then just say “friends,” no need for TMI. Single parents aren’t disclosing personal sexual details just by letting their kids know that they are dating. The same rule applies to polyamorous folk.

    I would even say it’s just kind of odd to lie to your kids about who you’re in love with. Imagine a single woman dating a guy for five years, the whole time calling him “Uncle,” and pretending it’s a non-romantic relationship. It’s kinda creepy.

    On the other hand, if we’re just talking about more traditional open relationships that are more about the sex, I don’t see the need to let your kids know about that.

    However, that kind of discretion is just unnatural in romantic, familial, emotional, polyamorist relationships.

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