You told me you had a vasectomy, and like a fool I believed you.
When I told you I was pregnant, you said, “I had a feeling.” What the
fuck? And thanks for telling me you would pay for half of the abortion.
Your words are very comforting. They’re even more comforting every time
I ask for the money and you say you’ll try to get me some when you can.
You make twice as much money as I do. I wish it were you who had to go
through the emotional and physical pain of an unwanted pregnancy. If
you’re wondering, I broke up with you because it disgusted me that you
kept your shoes in a communal fridge and told me how much to tip when I
was paying for your meals. You’re the biggest piece of shit I know. 
I, Anonymous
Baby Killer
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what is “babyaids”? that sounds like a store that sells childproofing supplies, or robotic nannies…
Okay, the guy’s an asswipe and he lied to you. Regardless of whether or not you believed him, you still should have used protection. Just because a guy has been snipped doesn’t mean he doesn’t carry any parasites, diseases or infections that he could pass along to you. Secondly, unless you’re married and you attended that doctor’s visit with him, don’t believe that he’s been snipped. In a way, it kind of is your fault that you got pregnant. Apparently, he knows how gullible you are so he’ll tell you anything to avoid being held responsible. Wise up already, would you? Hold yourself accountable as well as him and cut ties with him. He’s bad news and you’re not learning the lessons that you need to in order to protect yourself. Seriously? Who puts their shoes in the refrigerator and why? Do they want foot fungus? That’s disgusting.
It occurs to me that perhaps she broke up with the douche bag for the reasons listed,(shoes? Ew.) and THEN found out she was pregnant. Would viewing events in that order assuage the outrage against this poor girl that some posters here exhibit? And we don’t know that she didn’t use condoms do we? I have a lover with a vasectomy and we still always use condoms and YET we have had failures. Just sayin’. The douche is the bad guy not the girl.
“every time I ask for the money and you say you’ll try to get me some when you can”
I hope it’s soon, this isn’t really something you can wait on.
Abortions aren’t necessarily expensive. If you know you’re pregnant in the first few months, you can just take Misoprostin or RU-486. Sorry if you are more advanced and you have to get the physical abortion.
Be careful ladies. The reason some guys are single and available is because they just keep pissing off women! That’s why you learn about them before sex (an activity of risk and trust), and if they leave you b/c you’re not sex-ing them, then you know they are all for the risk and less for the trust!
Easy enough said.
I hope you find happiness, woman, and, you don’t meet the same kind of jerk twice in a lifetime. But jerks are often single, and available, and you gotta know what’s trash and what’s treasure!
You sound smart, you’ll figure it out! Sounds like you’re most the way there. Good luck.
get the abortion and worry about the bill later, not the other way around.
lol @ vince:
He’s got his shoes in the fridge and his baby in your oven. I think that’s better than the other way around.
Hmmm…
It is almost 2010 and you’ve been having unsafe sex? W – T – F is the matter with you?
Explain to me again why it is the man’s sole responsibility to provide birth control? Aren’t there about 15 different contraceptives available for women, but men only have condoms? And why is it a gay guy (me) knows more about women’s contraception then the average Seattle single-mom-to-be?
Um so this girl is my friend. And no she’s not supid. In fact she is highly educated and also incredibly kind and trusting. She dumped him before she found out about the pregnancy. And has since had the abortion. Which of course he has never helped pay, despite her requests. I have met this guy and can truly say that he is a complete fuckface. None of us had any idea that she was doing this until she showed it to us tonight. I think its a clever way to find closure in this whole terrible mess. And God willing he will read this and see what a dick he is in print. But don’t fret my friends and I have much worse things for him in store.
You should have made him pinkie swear that he had undergone a vasectomy. Then you could have proceeded with the sex with complete confidence.
Just to lay a couple more things to rest, she has other medication she has to takes which prevents her from taking the pill or the patch, reacts HORRIBLY to the shot, and was advised against an IUD. She tips exceptionally well, he’s just a self righteous dick. Oh, yes, and this is the second girl he’s gotten pregnant. THE SECOND. This guy is really more pathetic than anything, which he knows.
Also, not Brad from Lynwood.
BARF – Please let her know that Mirena is safe for just about everyone. She needs a second opinion and a re-education course on condoms. Even if she can’t get an IUD, she should still use condoms, if for no other reason than protection against STDs.
I just have to pipe up again, there ARE people whose bodies cannot tolerate any amount of artificial hormones, I’m one of them. I’ve resorted to Paraguard.
Oh and my mistake, Brad lives in Mill Creek. If you meet him, he lives just down the way from the Wal-Mart off of 164th. Stay away from him, because he likely won’t tell you about the 3 kids he’s had this way. His parents are paying everyone’s child support for him. He lives on the family property and plays World of Warcraft for a living.
I’m really glad it’s not him, and terribly sorry that there are at least TWO fuckfaces like that in in the greater Seattle area.
You have my sympathies. But in the future, at least for your child’s sake, why do you try NOT dating assholes? I know the bad boys excite you and make your vagoo twitch with delight, but as you’ve found out, they don’t make the best baby daddies. Good Judgment: Use It!
You have my sympathies. But in the future, at least for your child’s sake, why do you try NOT dating assholes? I know the bad boys excite you and make your vagoo twitch with delight, but as you’ve found out, they don’t make the best baby daddies. Good Judgment: Use It!
Dick_Izinya and Braniac_Chick, I think you’re having some gender issues. And CLEARLY she didn’t want him as a daddy.
“This is a perfect example of why I always say that giving men more of a say in what to do about an unplanned pregnancy than they already have would result in MORE abortions, not fewer.”
Why should men be forced to pay child support for children they don’t want? Wouldn’t it be a benefit to bring fewer children into the world with only one willing parent? I’m not saying the father should have direct say in the abortion, but he should at least have the right to abort his connection to the pregnancy, the same way the woman has the right to abort the fetus.
Also, isn’t it technically still possible to get pregnant from a guy who actually has had a vasectomy?
Number of times in recorded history a man has lied to a woman about having had a vasectomy: 4,982,834.
Number of times a woman has lied to a man about having taken the pill: 2,542,129,348,292,430,273.
@69-for a brief period after the surgery, there are still some sperm “in the pipeline.” The doctor tells men to ejaculate a certain number of times (I think it’s 20-30, I can’t remember exactly), then to bring a semen sample in for evaluation, to make sure he’s all clear.
I have known cases of men whose vasectomy was NOT complete. I have an aunt who was born as a result of that. However, most men who have vasectomies do go back for the after-surgery check up, since the whole point is to make sure they aren’t firing live rounds.
This world needs more compassion. Just sayin.
@sylvester
I’ll say it again: she’s a leotard and *he’s* an asshole. If I’d been in her place, I would have insisted on condoms just for STD protection, children be damned.
@gibby
If she was “highly intelligent”, she’d would have had enough common sense to avoid raw-dogging it with someone who she barely knew.
Perfect example of why (unless you’re married to a trustworthy person) you should always take responsibility for your OWN reproductive choices. If you do not want to be a parent, use a condom. If you do not want to risk contracting an STD, use a condom. There is absolutely no way someone should trust his or her sex partner to be completely responsible in the area of birth control.
Moral of the story: Don’t trust a woman to be on the pill (they do fail, you know) and don’t trust a man who says he’s “sterile” or “been snipped”. Fail to heed this advice and face the consequences.
I’ve made stupid choices whilst under the influence of hormones, youngness, infatuation and inexperience.
The worst I got was genital warts. It could have been worse.
@74
“Perfect example of why (unless you’re married to a trustworthy person) you should always take responsibility for your OWN reproductive choices”
Really I think you mean “Perfect example of why you should always take responsibility for your OWN reproductive choices”.
There can be cues indicating someone shouldn’t be trusted, but not everyone who’s untrustworthy throws up a flag. A good manipulator earns trust precisely so they can exploit it.
And statistics on divorce are one indicator that being married is no reason to abdicate any responsibility!
im so so fucking tierd of people doing stuped shit and going boo hoo you are fucking dumb to let aneyone stick there dick in you with out this little thing called a condom its a pritty new concept but give it a fucking shot. now you are going to be one of washingtons maney maney single moms who go around blameing and hateing on everyone who has it better than them. you know why people have it better than you? becuse they are not fucking stuped moron
@77 …”stuped moron” + lack of reading comprehension (anonymous is about an abortion, likely meaning no kids). Either you’ve got a really subtle sense of humor or you’re “stuped.”
But it’s all cool; after you put her in her place I’m sure everyone reading this knows that YOU’RE the only one allowed to bitch about things on this page 😀
Hey I understand.What a huge pile of bullshit.The one thing i don’t understand is? This fridge with the shoes.Is this one of the the people that jumps up and says my feet are really uncomfortable if i don’t put these freezing shoes on.The rest explain’s itself.
He’s a piece of shit, and you’re a dumbass.
But I’m sorry for the pain you went through.
Now Go get an IUD and a pack of condoms!!
@11 I know this must be late but “women” don’t have bad taste in men, a mojority of them anyway.
either you have bad taste, or awesome men stay clear from your pathway
@69: “Why should men be forced to pay child support for children they don’t want … the father should … at least have the right to abort his connection to the pregnancy, the same way the woman has the right to abort the fetus.”
Sorry, no. Better to screw over a guy who got sloppy about birth control than to leave his unwanted child hanging without any child support. Double standard? Yes. Fair? Not really. Necessary? Yes.
If it’s any consolation, there are probably millions of dads in the world who don’t support their unwanted kids. Ah, the sweet taste of freedom.
The shoes in the fridge really make this IA. A whole bunch of the commenters have their heads screwed on wrong, though.
@11 I know this must be late but “women” don’t have bad taste in men, a mojority of them anyway.
either you have bad taste, or awesome men stay clear from your pathway
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81, I agree. Those of us who made good choices aren’t writing anonymous essays bashing our mates. It’s sort of a self-selecting group.
Has it occurred to any of you fuckwits that she made him wear a condom for awhile, then after they got to know each other, maybe both got tested, they stopped using a condom because she believed this guy that she’d been dating for awhile that he had a vasectomy?? It’s no different than agreeing that she’ll take birth control pills and they won’t use a condom because they’re exclusive.