I’m a 27-year-old gay man. I had a really great first couple of dates with a guy, so for the third date I invited him to stay over. I cooked dinner, we watched a movie, and we had a lovely time in bed. In the morning, we had another romp. At one point, he was rimming me, and unexpectedly, unintentionally, I farted in his mouth a little. His reaction was along the lines of “EW! EWWWW! EW!” Mine was along the lines of trying to apologize through uncontrollable laughter. I said, “C’mere” and pulled him in to kiss me, and we finished with what I thought was minimal awkwardness.
Later in the day, to be cute, and even perhaps start a long-term shared joke, I sent an e-card that read, “I’m sorry for farting in your mouth.” He sent the following text message: “i’m not sure about this. yr a sweet guy but i’m dating some other people… i just can’t have farts in my mouth. i would have handled it a bit more respectfully.”
Is a sense of humor about the inevitable off-color moments too much to expect? I mean, this was one strike you’re out, not even a chance to talk it over. He dumped me over TEXT, for fuck’s sake! Good riddance, I suppose. But did I really handle this wrong?
Flatulent Anilingus Result: Termination
You handled this beautifully, FART—that’s why you got dumped via text message.
They don’t cover this in sex ed, I realize, but the average idiot knows there’s just one thing a person wants from someone who’s just “unexpectedly” farted in his mouth, even just a little, and it’s not an e-card. It’s a lengthy, abject, mortified, immediate, and heartfelt apology. And after a rimmee farts—a blessedly rare occurrence—it’s the rimmer’s response that sets the tone. Your guest was horrified and disgusted. You needed to take your emotional cues from him, FART, make your apologies and express or fake genuine remorse.
Instead, you laughed in his face, pulled him in for a kiss, and sent him a flip e-card. Basically, you did everything you could to give this guy the impression that you’re either an inconsiderate asshole incapable of reading another person’s emotional cues, FART, or that you may actually be into farts—or worse—and that you intentionally farted in his mouth. I would’ve dumped you, too.
Yes, a sense of humor about those off-color moments is not too much to expect. But no relationship progresses to the laughing-off-the-fart-in-your-mouth stage, FART, until after—long after—you’ve demonstrated to the person you’re dating that you’re a fundamentally decent, considerate person, worthy of their time and affections.
Every so often, I have to fight the urge to contact an ex-boyfriend. It didn’t end well (I cheated). I’m happily married, have two children, and live in a completely different part of the country now. Yet, I feel sad that we don’t still know each other. The reasons for the indiscretion include, among other things, stupidity and youth. (Also the fact that the indiscretion involved a different ex-boyfriend who begged and pleaded for one final hurrah—and then I told the then-current [now-ex] boyfriend that it was forced, which it wasn’t, which the then-current [now-ex] boyfriend rightly didn’t believe.)
I know my reasons are selfish: I want to explain myself, I want to move on, I want to be forgiven. But if he wanted to be in contact with me, he would be. And yet, like a crazed idiot, I still hold out hope that someday he’ll contact me or that we’ll bump into each other. Should I contact him?
Can’t Let Go
You should suck it up, CLG.
It’s killing you that someone out there might hate your guts (with cause), might think you’re scum (because you behaved like scum), and, we can safely presume at this stage, is content to have you out of his life (otherwise he would’ve looked you up on Facebook by now). This bothers you because you’re not scum, of course; no person is defined by the two worst mistakes she ever made. (I’m referring to (1) cheating and (2) making a false accusation of rape. What would’ve happened if your then-current [now-ex] boyfriend had gone to the police? Or taken the law into his own hands? Thank God your then-current [now-ex] boyfriend didn’t believe you.)
I don’t think you should contact him, CLG, not until you’re a little more interested in what you could give him (a long-overdue apology) and a little less interested in what he could give you (absolution).
My wife and I divorced three years ago. Six months ago, I began seeing a good friend of my daughter’s. I knew this was dangerous territory, but I really liked this girl. A month ago, we took our relationship public. My daughter reacted poorly. She did not demand that we break up, but she let me know that the relationship made her uncomfortable. And she was rightfully upset about some personal information my girlfriend had told me about her.
During the past four weeks, my daughter has gradually edged my girlfriend out of her personal life. She has also begun to spend less time with me. She tells me she does not want me to have to choose between her and my girlfriend; although, if she stops spending time with me, that’s exactly what she’s doing. I know she’s upset. But I’m a grown man, and I just want to be happy. And in spite of the age difference, my girlfriend makes me very happy. What can I do to make my daughter more comfortable with my new relationship?
Father Doesn’t Always Know Best
P.S. The information my girlfriend shared about my daughter was inconsequential: the name of a young man she was seeing and that my daughter purchased an expensive dress.
It’s nice to know that your girlfriend manages to make you happy “in spite of the age difference.” Too many late-middle-aged men succumb to despair in the arms of their much-younger girlfriends. Anyway…
What can you do to make your daughter comfortable with you fucking her friend while her friend blabs to you? Nothing. Your daughter may eventually become comfortable with your relationship, FDAKB, but there’s nothing you can do to artificially force up her comfort level. And while emotional blackmail—”My girlfriend makes me happy, but I will sacrifice my happiness for you, darling, if that’s what you want…”—may result in your daughter spending more time with you and your girlfriend now, her resentment at being blackmailed will do irreparable damage to your relationship with her over the long run.
So just shut the fuck up, Dad, stop whining, and continue to enjoy the girlfriend in spite of the age difference. Then apologize to your daughter for (1) keeping the relationship from her for so long (your daughter may be losing sleep over things she told her friend before she found out you were fucking) and (2) the “inconsequential” invasion of her privacy that already took place. Then give your daughter the space she needs and the privacy she has a right to.
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FDAKB – As a 20-something, I’d be mortified if my dad was emotionally immature enough to consider someone my age an equal partner, and nauseated if he was pedophilic enough to bang someone my age. While I wouldn’t want to say something like that to a family member, I’d probably cut them both out of my life immediately. So, your daughter sounds like she’s handling you being a creep rather well.
I dissagree with Dan about FART.
@15, You said it best.
FART, you’re fine babe. You did nothing wrong. It just wasn’t a match. Good riddance for sure.
(e-cards are kind of lame though)
FART, the bottom line is your date didn’t like you enough to stick around. Had my gf farted in my face on date #3, I would have been pretty grossed out, but even after an inappropriate laugh and e-card, I would have forgave and forgot, because I would have liked her enough to want us to move past the incident. Your fart was his first excuse (and a really big one) to get out of the budding relationship, so he took it.
@51
Woah. Do you know what paedophillia is? There was a column about it a while back – maybe you need to look at that? Dating someone younger than you does NOT equate paedophillia. My dad is in a relationship with someone 21 years younger than him (exactly the same number of years as between my mum and myself, actually). She’s 23, he’s 44. She makes him happy, he makes her happy, it’s all good. The age isn’t – or shouldn’t be – an issue. The issue is the fact that it’s one of her FRIENDS he’s dating, which pretty much means she loses a friend.
@48 The problem isn’t that he’s an older man dating a younger female. The problem is that he’s dating his daughters close friend. If you can’t figure out the difference, then well, grow up yourself?
And heck, men might be attracted to hot young twenty-somethings, but few know how to go about that in a non-creepy way. You are not a hot young twenty-something, and do not know how creepy middle-age men (men in general for that matter) can be.
@48 – Were it me, my problem would not be with the age difference. Couldn’t care less about that, though some of us actually do continue to appreciate and be attracted to our partners throughout the course of the natural aging process.
My problem would be with a parent having a romantic/intimate/sexual relationship with a friend of mine. That would cross a major, major, major line. I would definitely feel invaded and unsafe, and it would affect the parent/child relationship for me for a long, long time.
I feel strongly that parents and children should respect boundaries with each other as far as getting involved with personal friends. Kids shouldn’t date their parents’ friends; parents shouldn’t date their kids’ friends.
At the end of the day, if someone is in love, in lust, or for whatever reason feels they have to cross this boundary, fine for them. Simply, I feel that they do it at the expense of the comfortability and safety of the parent/child relationship.
Certainly, there are kids who DON’T feel as I do about their parents and would be okay about it – but a parent can’t know that without asking first, and the failure of this father to ask first was a major one. Though I really can’t imagine it in reality, were this ever me as a parent, no matter how I felt about a friend of my child, I would never in a million years consider taking it past friendship without having an honest conversation with my child first.
In this case, it’s clear to me that the dad values his relationship with his girlfriend more than his relationship with his daughter. He should not be condemned, but he should definitely not expect her to be comfortable.
@48 The problem isn’t that he’s an older man dating a younger female. The problem is that he’s dating his daughters close friend. If you can’t figure out the difference, then well, grow up yourself?
And heck, men might be attracted to hot young twenty-somethings, but few know how to go about that in a non-creepy way. You are not a hot young twenty-something, and do not know how creepy middle-age men (men in general for that matter) can be.
I disagree with the fart issue. What happened was funny. He said he tried to stifle his laughter but it was just a naturally funny thing. That doesn’t mean he’s insensitive and inconsiderate. No one here Dan included has ever come across a funny situation all of a sudden and had to try to suppress laughter, a gut reaction? It was an accident.
And if you rim you have to expect that a fart or something worse might accidentally pop out. I mean you’re sticking your tongue in and around the a**hole. We all know what comes out of there. You’re willing to taste s*** BUT NOT A FART. Why are you surprised when a butt does what a butt is supposed to do? I think the rimmer overreacted.
@42 Pussy farts aren’t really comarable to ass farts, since pussy farts reallya re just plain old air, while ass farts are stinky methane and other horridness.
Just sayin’
@48 So what’s the window now for being considered hot? 18 to 25 and you’re done, now step aside and allow the latest crop of hotties to take over?
The thought of finding oneself dating, or marrying, someone like CLG is truly terrifying. I wonder about her husband.
@57 – “And heck, men might be attracted to hot young twenty-somethings, but few know how to go about that in a non-creepy way. You are not a hot young twenty-something, and do not know how creepy middle-age men (men in general for that matter) can be.”
Please. Like most twentysomething women apparently do these days, you probably find men above the age of 40 to be gross for simply existing and still having a libido. Payback will come when you’re older yourself.
@48, that’s some righteous stuff. But as an uncle, I must object to your equating “avuncular” and “asexual.” Asexual with the nephew or niece – I’m totally with you up to that point, but even in that respect, “avuncular” can hardly be MORE asexual than “parental.” In either case the sexuality isn’t directed to (or, frankly, flaunted around) the child or nephew/niece as the case may be.
@48: What you’ve described isn’t a man, it’s a vampire, leeching the youth out of people too stupid to know any better than tossing them aside. Or getting tossed aside when they get laid off and have to become a Wal Mart greeter, or start using a walker.
1.) Dan often says that he doesn’t believe there is “one true love” out there for everyone but rather you can find happiness with all sorts of people. As many people stated, there are other fish in the sea. So with the dad dating his daughters “good friend” it very well is crossing lines. Chances are they WILL NOT last very long. Knowing that, he also must have known that his dad would be upset and that it had potential to ruin their friendship or else they wouldn’t have kept it secret for so long.
2.) I am a young woman who does not have a lot of female friends. I have an easier time making friends with men, however I do have that one close best/good female friend. A girl that I can share my secrets to and vice versa. Go out and have fun with, and double date with as well. If she started to date my father, which I would be highly uncomfortable with and that would be a tremendous loss to me if it ended our friendship.
3.) On that note but from a different take, my good female friend mentioned, has a problem with being faithful to men and jumps from relationship to relationship quite often. Even if my father had the “best of intentions” with her, I would know if she didn’t with him. I would feel loyalty to each person and I would stay out of their relationship so that I didn’t share things that could ruin their budding relationship if this time it was different and they were “in love”. Because you just never know. So I feel the daughter was right in just backing away and letting them go at it, yet still making her feelings known.
FART was in the right. His boy should loosen up.
and anyway, the boy was seeing other guys so not much of a loss really
Dan is pretty spot on with FART. It’s not that he farted inside the guy’s mouth – it’s that he essentially made a non-apology by laughing the whole time.
He then followed it up with a funny e-card?
Third date? Yeah, I’d dump him too. One of my big concerns would be that he would find it “funny” enough to do again.
I’ve rimmed/been rimmed plenty of times. And you know what? No farting by either party. What is with you people who seem to imply he should have somehow expected this?
I don’t see the message FART got as totally dumping him — I think there’s still room there to write back, apologize now, and ask to see the guy again (if FART wanted to.)
I haven’t seen anyone else write this though, so I guess the message here is if you dump me by text message, you’re going to have to be clearer than “I’m not sure about this…”
These gals simpering about how dad cannot date their age-group/friends because, well, for some reason related to said gals’ feelings of butthurtedness have some personal issues to address.
If my parent dated an adult friend of mine, and they were both happy and fine with it, what more do I have to say about it? Nothing, because it is not really my business, any more than my parent could depth-charge any partner choices of mine.
It is called adulthood, folks, embrace it. Others get the same choices you have.
(Oh, and 51, pedophilia? You need help.)
Ohoho, #48 just WISHES he could get a piece of that 20-year-old ass.
Dan’s reaction to FART seems absurdly extreme. Inability to read social cues? That’s harsh. At worst, I would say these two are incompatible because they take different approaches to awkward situations. But to call FART insensitive or clueless seems harsh to me. He used humor to aleviate the tension of the situation, and did show sincere regret. That’s a totally appropriate reponse that shows emotional maturity on his part. As for the man who dumped FART, he will be a very lonely man if he rejects people for such small “crimes.” But then, perhaps he wants to be alone and used the farting as a way to excape and put the blame on FART.
I think this is the first time I’ve disagreed with Dan. I also think he was too hard on FART. Really, where was the harm? Sure, maybe he should have been more apologetic, but if you can’t laugh at a fart what can you laugh at? I suspect the guy just wasn’t that into him, and/or he needs to take himself a little less seriously.
I feel bad for FDAKB’s daughter, and I think Dan’s advice was spot on. My father has flirted with my friends and dated women younger than me, and it does kind of suck. It does seem an abuse of trust that the daughter’s private business–things she’d only tell a friend–would become the subject of pillow talk between her friend and her dad. But you can’t impose your will on others. Dad can’t make daughter ok with the situation. Best he can do is man up- don’t whine, don’t be sheepish, respect the daughter’s privacy, and don’t expect ever to have the kind of father-daughter relationship you think you deserve. And daughter can’t make dad end the relationship. Nice if they could all move on from this someday, but no guarantee.
After one of my dad’s relationships with a much younger woman, I (aged 23 at the time) asked him “what would you have done if I brought home a 58 year-old guy?” He said he’d have gone ballistic. We can’t help what we feel, even if we know we’re doing something stupid.
My father dates a woman who is only a year older than I am. For me, there are just some things that you never get used to. Sometimes it feels like he may as well want to fuck me. It also reinforces the sad truth: I’m considered too old by men my own age.
-L
I think FART wants a relationship where he and his partner can recognize and laugh at the often gross reality of being a human, whereas his partner wants to be with a man who never farts and who acts like he shits heart-shaped travel soaps. The fart itself may have prevented a protracted and ultimately doomed relationship.
Because your genital muscles are intrinsically linked to our anal sphincter, during sexual arousal a tiny fart might slip out simply because you are relaxed and engorged down there. Not saying that I would personally find an e-card adorable, but you can’t start a relationship walking on eggshells and I applaud FART’s natural and self-assured response.
Ok so I’m not sure about the advice to FART. I think he laughed from being embarassed – not that he laughed at him. That explains the “trying to apologize” part.
I don’t think FART was a jerk but I don’t blame the guy for dumping him. Personally, after the intial shock and disgust wares off, I would laugh it off and tell him that next time he better warn me. Then make an amazing amount of fart jokes at his expense.
I understand that some people are very uneasy about gas and don’t ever find it funny. I’m willing to bet that they never found Ren and Stimpy and some of Family Guy very funny either.
Once, during orgasm, my girlfriend peed in my mouth. A lot. I wanted her to have a great orgasm, so I kept going… repositioning my mouth so as not to ingest it. She apologized profusely, laughed about it, and apologized more. I told her it was completely fine, not at all her fault, and didn’t bother me in the least. Of course it bothered me, but knowing that she was apologetic gave me the security to know that she really and truly did not mean to do it, and will make an effort to avoid it in the future.
The apology was important. I didn’t want her to feel bad, and did everything I could to reassure her that I was a-ok, but what can I say… the apology mattered.
CLG is a piece of shit! I guess she believes in the good ol’ feminist moto of “A man falsely accused of rape can benefit from the experience.”
And yet more people are going off about and ripping apart a man that is dating someone that is just younger than him instead?!?
No, being gay is not a choice, because if it was, I think a lot more guys would be since they know that they’re only 1 lie away from being put in jail and having their lives ruined just so an innocent little “victim” can remain pure in the eyes of society.
I really wish more women would be falsely accused of rape and found guilty until proven innocent…just so they can get a taste of it.
Ok, so maybe not “expected it”, but certainly he must have been aware that it was a possibility. I think that to put your tongue up someone’s ass and then be *that* freaked out by a small, involuntary escape is just weird. And while pussy farts are not really the same composition, and a good deal more common, the idea is the same. It’s like an unexpected belch during an aria, ya know? It’s a surprise, a mood-breaker, and a little embarrassing, and so some people (like me) might find it funny, in a perverse-humor kind of way, and some people find it disgusting and inexcusable. Whether FART found it funny or horrible, he didn’t really seem to value his partner’s feelings.
Having said that… no one would break up with someone that they were really into over something like that. (Via text, no less). I have a feeling that even if FART had not, you know, farted, or had acted Deeply and Truly Sorry, that short affair wasn’t as promising as FART seems to think. Three dates, you’re getting to know each other, everything is really great, and you break over that?
Something smells, and it ain’t FART. The ‘dating some other people’ thing is a clear tip-off. The fart was just a handy excuse.
Regarding FDAKB, I’m 45 and work at a university. There are many hot, hot early twenties young men that I am very, very attracted to… until they start to talk. Whether or not us elderly types find sweet young somethings desirable is hardly even a question. It’s that fact that FDAKB has found his emotional and intellectual match in someone with decades less experience that seems kinda pathetic. And the other fact that he has more or less thrust his sex life into his daughter’s social life. Speaking as someone who both has parents and is one, …ew.
Let go of the issue about the age difference, and remember that there are thousands of girls his daughter’s age that she doesn’t know. He could date one of them, right? But in order to meet them socially, he’d have to risk looking like a skeegy old dude hitting on young women half his age.
(Which, you know… if the toupee fits…)
The reason he’s with *this* girl is that her being his daughter’s friend gave him socially acceptable access. And the fact that he’s found his match in a woman half his age speaks volumes to me about how much he’s grown as a person since he was twenty himself.
@41
No, you’re right. I meant @10. Just a typo.
@ 77,
Uh, you sure it was peeing, and not female ejaculation? You can’t take the lady’s word for it because ejaculating feels like peeing for the woman experiencing it. Orgasm causes involuntary contractions of pelvic muscles, so it’s pretty impossible to pee during orgasm and even for a while after it, until the muscles have gone back to their relaxed state.
@78: SL readers focus on a particular question because (1) they relate to it or (2) it’s more nuanced/interesting. CLG’s situation is, hopefully, not that relate-able for most people here (either as accused or accusers), and it’s pretty fucking obvious she’s a piece of shit.
Also, you’re a psycho. Please get help.
Re: lameness of e-cards … they are most definitely lame, but I think that was part of FART’s joke.
About FART… eeeh-fucking-yuck!
@79. I totally relate to your smug, judgmental attitudes about men who date younger women. I too am smug and judgmental. I know this one guy, for example, who wears eyeglasses. Apparently he can’t see well without them. The fact that he wears eyeglasses speaks volumes about his inability to see. Let me know if you want his email address. You can send him an email mocking him.
It’s not that he should have expected it, it’s that he shouldn’t really be surprised…
@78
Being female didn’t protect me from being falsely accused of rape.
Re: FART, it happens.
I’ve had it done to me, and it’s pretty gross and pretty off-putting and the guy got really red-faced, but in my classic way I just said “when I told you to relax, I didn’t mean to relax THIS much”. Then we moved on to other acts.
I’m damn sick of creepy older men dating radically younger women with unequal power dynamics. Dating your daughters friend is just another power play on her and on the daughter. So old man, stop being creepy and stay out of your daughter’s friend’s pants.
I’ve got no problem with power in relationships, I’m active in the BDSM community, but power dynamics need to built from equal footing. Drastic age imbalances rarely make for equal footing.
Oh Hilarious…FART…that’s just…a Faux Pas too Far…I have to say, if you’re getting that intimate with someone, you’re sort of beyond the point where you can convincingly claim to be deeply offended. Perhaps FART is emotionally tone deaf, and reacted in a way that ignored how unhappy the guy was, but really to me it looks like the new friend was just looking for an excuse to dump or just wasn’t feeling it. Getting dumped shortly after the first romp is definitely a contender for worst dating experiences…BDTD. If this really was about the accidental gas, the eCard and laughing it off were adequate; if not, then the fartee was too uptight to be rimming.
Dad on the other hand, is just an ass. It’s fine to go playing in the daughter’s age range, but her FRIEND? C’mon…really, very, very, super-duper insensitive and selfish. Daughter is probably better off without him and the GF in her life…if that’s the kind of caring and consideration they have to offer…yeesh. @46 “drama prince” is probably too kind.
@78 Your post makes me hurt with giggles from the sheer hypocrisy.
First, you spit on the “feminists” who insist that men who are falsely accused of rape benefit from the experience.
Then you declare that you wish more women were falsely accused of rape so that they will know how it feels.
I mean, come on. Are you doing this on purpose? Is this an attempt at irony?
I agree it’s not good for a parent to get involved with friends of his/her offspring, since (among other reasons) it’s really uncomfortable for the child. Fair enough.
But this whole idea that it’s inherently “creepy” for older men to date younger women is just plain stupid. First of all, it’s obviously not just the men who want in on this arrangement, right? So do assign some blame to these poor shrinking violets who say “Yes” to the idea. And second, you’d damn well better be as vocally opposed to older women with younger men (an arrangement which arguably makes even less sense, since kids are often no longer a possibility), or else you’re a damned hypocrite.
Really, all y’all who are freaking out about older men dating younger women really need to take a good look in the mirror, because you’re sounding like embittered middle-aged yentas who screwed up their 20s and 30s and now can’t understand why it’s not a seller’s market anymore. You can rail all you want about how unjust it is that people in general, and men specifically, are more attracted to youthful women.
But it’s never, ever, ever going to change a damn thing, and only makes you sound like exactly the sort of person no sane man of any age would want to get involved with…not because you’re old, but because of the chip on your shoulder which betrays a fundamentally damaged personality. Maybe YOU’RE the creepy one.
P.S. Before the predictable ad homs start up, I’m well under 40, and have never broken the “half your age plus seven rule”. But I also date, fuck, and love whomever I want (among consenting adults), and anyone who finds that “creepy” because of my gender or age is cordially invited to drink Drano.
tigele you rock ‘n’ keep on rolling
You knew this was dangerous territory, but you really liked the girl! Well its still dangerous territory and you made your choices. You’re acting like it shouldn’t be dangerous territory anymore because ‘you really really wanted to.’ How old are you again? Ask for your daughters forgiveness and understanding instead of lecturing her as though she shouldn’t have a problem with it. You don’t have the righteous high ground here, quit talking like you do and maybe then your daughter will come around. 2 people she trusted lied to her for 5 months, its gonna take a while.
@48: Close but not quite. You are right that men never stop appreciating what turned them on in their youth, (It wasn’t pedophilia then, and it isn’t pedophilia now.) However, love and a lifetime together do count for something in terms of finding someone sexy despite wearing the cloak of additional years on this planet. Say rather that our horizons broaden as we age.
You are totally on the mark about people’s irrational need to desexualize their parents. It’s bullshit. If we didn’t have sex, you damned offspring wouldn’t even exist. It’s bad enough that you put such a huge damper on the old sex life in the early years, what with all the inopportune knocking on the door, waking up crying (or puking, or feverish, or a rash, or growing pains, or, or, or), needing just one more bedtime story, and all that. (I was 40 years old before I finally figured out what Saturday morning cartoons were REALLY for: to provide a diversion, so Mom and Dad could get in a little practice being something more than roommates.) When you get to be 20 and 30 and still go “Ewww…” when you think about Dad possibly having sex, you are being a petulant little asshole kid. Fucking grow up already.
That said, however, the daughter isn’t totally off base to be a little freaked out over Dad dating her friend. What Dad has done is, he’s rearranged the hierarchy of shared confidences between the three of them. Girlfriends share all manner of details about their lives with each other, details that they would be mortified to have Dad find out. Now, suddenly Dad has a conduit into that channel of information, and his daughter is recalibrating her emotional hierarchies to keep the right people at the right distances.
Dan, a fart’s a fart, what’s everyone so uptight about? It was an accident, and for the rimmee to be SO UPTIGHT about someone farting, I mean…you’re FACE is in their ASS. What’s the big frigging deal? Jesus Christ, get over yourselves.
Oh, and I’d love to see the look on dad’s face should his daughter sleep with his friend. Or the look on the friend’s face should HER father nail her best friend. Ugh, it’s not the age difference that bothers me, just the relationship. Yes, this I’m UPTIGHT about…see how silly farts seem now?
@51: So what you are saying is basically that you, as a 20-something, aren’t an adult, and never will be.
Pedophilia is attraction to pre-pubescent children, stupid. Either you are an adult or you aren’t; and if you are an adult, it isn’t pedophilia to be attracted to you. It wasn’t pedophilia when Dad was 19 and his perfectly natural attraction was to his bride, age 18; it wasn’t pedophilia when Dad was 35 and looking at 20-year-old Playboy models; it isn’t pedophilia when Dad is 50 and divorced and his girlfriend is 22.
As a 20-something, you completely lack the perspective of what if feels like to be 45, in order to comment intelligently on how those older than you ought to feel and act. See comment #48, and grow the fuck up.
CLG, why does it make you said that you feel like you don’t know your ex very well? Are you married to your ex? No. He’s an ex. I don’t know some of my exes that well, want to know why?
BECAUSE WE BROKE UP. AND MOVED ON WITH OUR LIVES.
I think you are one of those people who needs everyone to like them. Focus on your spouse and your kids. Do they love you? That’s all that matters.
Sad* not Said 😛