You probably get this question every day. I’m a man who loves it when my girlfriend fucks me with a strap-on. Another great thing: My girlfriend ejaculates frequently and plentifully when we have sex, and she has done so when she’s pegging me. Which leads to my question: What are the possible issues from getting female ejaculate in your ass? I am thinking about modifying a toy in a way that might enable her to squirt up my ass. It probably won’t work, but I am going to try. Because if it does work…
Oh My Fucking God
I get questions about female ejaculation every day—where does that shit come from? How the hell can I/my girlfriend learn to do that shit? Is that shit really piss?—but you’re the first person to ask me about modifying a sex toy so as to enable a woman to come in a man’s ass. (You’re going to want to patent that thing if it works, OMFG.)
Allow me to quickly dispense with the usual questions: It comes shooting out of a woman’s urethra; practice, practice, practice; that shit isn’t piss. How do we know it’s not piss? Science!
In 2007, a crack team of sex researchers in Vienna “collected” lady ejaculate from two lady ejaculators—not a huge sample, admittedly, but two lady ejaculators are better then none—and rushed their lady ejaculate to the lab, where it was “evaluated biochemically.” They published the results of their study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine (“The Female Prostate Revisited: Perineal Ultrasound and Biochemical Studies of Female Ejaculate,” JSM, September 2007). They concluded that lady ejaculate isn’t piss, it’s come: “The fluid emitted [was] clearly different than urine voided prior to sexual activity,” they wrote. “The values show that the source of fluid expulsion during orgasm is not urine, but is rather similar to male ejaculate.”
As lady ejaculate is chemically similar to gentleman ejaculate, OMFG, the risks of a lady ejaculating in your ass would presumably be similar to the risks of a gentleman ejaculating in your ass: You would be at risk of acquiring any sexually transmitted infection she might have. But if your lady ejaculator is disease-free, OMFG, then letting her come in your ass is a risk-free, if not squick-free, activity.
I’m a 24-year-old female living in London, where I have just finished a degree in circus arts. I’m in a relationship with a great guy. The problem is that while I have had long- and short-term relationships before, he hasn’t, and he can be very emotionally needy. For example, he can’t/won’t sleep without me in the bed. We’ve been together for 10 months, and he often tells me that I’m everything in his life. I’ve told him that under no circumstances is this normal, and I’ve confirmed my right to have a life outside of him. The real crux of the situation is this: I worked on and off as a stripper in a high-end club for two years. I haven’t done it while with him because of the physical demands of my degree. Now I’m done and broke and want to return to this work. This is an issue for him, as you can imagine. I won’t compromise: The job was great for me and allowed me such sexual (and financial!) liberation. I didn’t orgasm for the first time until after I took control of my own sexuality via stripping.
I don’t know how to handle this issue: He knew this about me when we met and says he hoped it wouldn’t carry on. I feel upset that he hasn’t accepted the whole of me and I guess part of me wonders if I’m in the wrong relationship. I love this man, but I feel trapped.
Clown College Graduate
Inexperience might explain extreme emotional neediness, CCG, but it’s no excuse. It’s just as likely that your boyfriend’s clingy, manipulative shtick—he just can’t sleep alone, you’re his everything, if you go back to a job you loved before you loved him, well, he’ll be vewy sad—looks to me like controlling, emotionally abusive behavior in pathetic sad-clown drag.
But you like him, CCG, so let’s give him the benefit of the doubt, shall we? Tell your boyfriend that you’re going back to your old job and he has a choice to make: Get over it or get over you.
If he sucks it up and makes an effort to change, he was just an insecure little douchebag and, hey, you helped him get over it! If he doubles down on the whining and clinging, then he’s a controlling dick and you’re well rid of him.
A quick comment on monogamy: I agree with you on the point that we tend to assume that all the other couples we know are in monogamous relationships, when in reality many are not. Recently, my mom told me that she wouldn’t mind if my father had an affair. Sex has become harder for her since menopause, and she doesn’t consider it the be-all and end-all of a marriage.
I’ve been married for a year, with several years of dating before that, and sex and arousal can be difficult for me and I have a lower libido than my husband. I’m not complaining—my husband is a wonderful lover and has been good about taking things at the right pace for me. And when the sex works, it’s amazing. One thing that really takes the pressure off me, though, is that we agreed long before marriage that faithfulness for us meant honesty, not exclusivity. My husband knows that if he wants to fool around, he can—so long as he’s safe and honest (with me and with her). The same goes for me.
Does my marriage, or my parents’ marriage, count as monogamous? We look monogamous and probably will always look that way—and at the moment, we all are. But we’ve agreed that strict monogamy isn’t a requirement. Since I doubt that we’re alone in this attitude, you can add this group of “theoretical nonmonogamists” to the list of people who get wrongly classed by your critics as totally monogamous out of a lack of imagination and knowledge about other people’s lives.
Invisible In Canada
I’m convinced that there are a lot more PTBMCs out there than people realize—that’s “perceived to be monogamous couple,” a married/partnered couple with an understanding about when outside sexual contact is permissible. But for most of these couples—for you, IIC, for your parents, for me and my husband—the term “nonmonogamous” isn’t a good fit.
Tell an AMC—”actually monogamous couple”—that you’re nonmonogamous, and they’ll assume you’re a couple of huge sluts, i.e., that you’re actively seeking outside sex partners or that you’re swingers. There’s nothing wrong with seeking outside sex partners (in moderation!) or swinging (ditto!), but that’s not what you’re doing, IIC, it’s not what your dad has permission to do, and it’s not what my husband and I are doing. So if we—you, me, your mom—tell an AMC we’re “nonmonogamous,” we have to spend the next 15 minutes qualifying that statement. And that requires us to disclose more details about our actual sex lives than
(1) we wanna say, and (2) they wanna hear.
So I’ve got a new word to describe relationships like yours, mine, and your mom’s, IIC: “monogamish.” We’re mostly monogamous, not swingers, not actively looking. Monogamish.
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First letter sounds like a fake. Second letter: I feel bad that they love each other, because his dependence and her independence do not and will not work for either of them.
I still don’t believe it. That it’s not piss. Just don’t. Even a “crack” team (haha) in Vienna doesn’t convince me. Why Vienna? No researchers anywhere else? I think it’s yet another Porn Myth that makes a bazillion dollars for a few sleazy dudes while simultaneously giving poor old regular women another hoop to jump through. It’s not enough to look like a porn star, even down to having plastic surgery on your hoohah, and having to fake an interest in other women when you don’t feel it. The world would be a happier place if guys didn’t learn about sex with women from porn.
My partner says my “squirt” (his term) doesn’t taste like pee. But he also swears he’s never drank pee, so how can he really say for sure?
Letter 1 got me thinking about a funny story about my first week at the patent office: We newbies were in a class where we were learning how to search our databases for things that were already patented. The instructor was demonstrating on the screen how to search for “oh, let’s say, ‘children’s toys, maybe a type of squirt gun.'” Not sure what search terms she typed in, but a few seconds later there were several squirting dildos displayed in full glory on the huge projector screen, with all the engineering labels and functional details (“rubber straps,” “lubricant supply chamber,” “useful for men or women” etc). The instructor was mortified and it took her an hilarious amount of time to get the pictures off the screen. Since patent examination is very specific as to subject (one person examines all the applications for buttons and snaps, for example) I thought it amazing that there is a patent examiner who looks at these pictures as a full-time job.
That was a long story. Sorry.
As a reward, peruse the drawings in this patent.
NSFW:
http://patimg2.uspto.gov/.piw?docid=0620… ://patft.uspto.gov/netacgi/nph-Parser?Sect1=PTO2%2526Sect2=HITOFF%2526p=1%2526u=%25252Fnetahtml%25252FPTO%25252Fsearch-bool.html%2526r=2%2526f=G%2526l=50%2526co1=AND%2526d=PTXT%2526s1=(dildo.CLTX.%252Bor%252Bdildo.DCTX.)%2526s2=water%2526OS=ACLM/dildo%252BAND%252Bwater%2526RS=ACLM/dildo%252BAND%252Bwater
@4: squirting is very real, and no, it isn’t piss. Not every woman squirts- in fact, I’ve only been with two or three that did out of over 50- but I can tell you that it doesn’t smell like piss or taste like it (based on what I’ve heard about the taste of piss- haven’t tried it myself).
Squirting wasn’t common in porn back when I was checking out porn, so don’t make assumptions about where we learn about sex, okay? Me, I learned it firsthand.
Regarding monogamish: a great term if you’re willing to disclose such intimate facts, but for many of us that’s none of anyone else’s business, unless it’s someone that my wife and I want to fool around with. Even using such a term will result in far too many questions for my liking.
@4
Um… I’m sorry what?
I’ve been with enough guys and have never had anyone ask me to jump through the “hoop” of “squirting”.
I don’t even think most guys are that interested in it, to be honest.
I think CCG shouldn’t stay with a clingy/needy guy – and “can’t sleep without me in his bed” is certainly over the line – but I think he’s perfectly entitled to object to her working as a stripper. Her dancing to sexually arouse customers in a strip club means that other people are, essentially, involved in the couple’s sex life and I find it perfectly reasonable that he doesn’t like that one bit, even if he was fine with her doing it before the relationship. I certainly wouldn’t (nor would my partner).
This is an issue that people in a good relationship need to be able to negotiate and talk about. (Same would apply, e.g. for sperm or egg donations). Settling it by ultimatum is pointless. If you want to end the relationship, go ahead, but keeping an insecure guy, scared to lose his first partner, in a relationship with an ultimatum is a shitty move.
Wait, what? Your criticism is that the study was done in Vienna? Do you not think they have science in Europe? I’m more curious about the tiny sample size, it’s not totally convincing until they get some bigger numbers.
Also, while there is porn for everything, I don’t think female ejaculation is a commonplace event. Last I heard it’s the Average Woman who should be worried about people thinking it’s piss, lest men be grossed out by women who can/do ejaculate and thereby have an excuse to deny them orgasm.
While it is a risk that then there will be unnecessary pressure on men/women to cause/experience FE when there is no evidence to suggest that every woman can do it, that’s a completely separate issue from the ejaculate’s composition.
Wait, what? Your criticism is that the study was done in Vienna? Do you not think they have science in Europe? I’m more curious about the tiny sample size, it’s not totally convincing until they get some bigger numbers.
Also, while there is porn for everything, I don’t think female ejaculation is a commonplace event. Last I heard it’s the Average Woman who should be worried about people thinking it’s piss, lest men be grossed out by women who can/do ejaculate and thereby have an excuse to deny them orgasm.
While it is a risk that then there will be unnecessary pressure on men/women to cause/experience FE when there is no evidence to suggest that every woman can do it, that’s a completely separate issue from the ejaculate’s composition.
I’m a hetero-ish male in one of those “giant slut” relationships. I’ve never been with a squirter, have no particular interest in squirting, but I would absolutely purchase a squirt-facilitating strap on. I mean, come ON. I cannot believe that the dude posted that idea all over the Internets.
On thinking about the squirting dildo idea- for it to work there would have to be some force behind the squirt, and a tube fastened to her urethra that could be sealed to her. Then you’d have to figure out what makes women squirt, so you could reproduce it mechanically.
A tube sealed to her urethra would not be comfortable at all- imagine shoving a tube into your dick and sealing it, then shooting a load into it. Don’t know about you, but that sounds like it would HURT.
But more than that- the squirt is usually more like a good sized dribble than a forceful blast that shoots out. Not enough to force it into a guy.
And as for making her squirt, that’s the hardest part. My wife does it when she gets the g-spot going, but also does it if she’s exceptionally turned on and I’m rubbing her clit fast and firmly. There really is no one way to trigger it, it just happens when she’s really in the zone and might be caused by a number of things.
Sorry, not feasible. Cute idea though.
@4: Just because real female ejaculate isn’t piss, doesn’t mean that the same must follow for what’s portrayed as female ejaculate in porn. The fact that you just jacked off to some woman drenching her co-star with a blast from the fire hydrant and are understandably sceptical about the provenance of said blast does not in itself constitute a meaningful rebuttal. Every time this topic comes up, at least half a dozen armchair Randis with hand-cramps come out of the woodwork.
CCG some men just can’t handle a relationship with a sex worker. Although I guess stripping (if it is truly limited to just stripping)is on the periphery of the sex industry. I get the feeling that at some point she will want to open the relationship. If so, she should end it now since I doubt he could handle anytime soon, if ever.
I squirt occasionally, and it doesn’t smell like pee and my boyfriend has never commented on it smelling or tasting like pee. My sheets don’t smell like pee afterward. It’s really more like a woosh than a squirt with force behind it though, so I doubt the invention idea would work. It definitely exists though.
Clown College Graduate: Dan may give your boyfriend the benefit of the doubt (he’s nice that way), but I don’t see why your boyfriend deserves it. He’s a passive/aggressive jerk (P/AJ) who is putting his needs way above yours. Plus you and he just seem very poorly matched. Is this the kind of relationship you were shooting for?
On the other hand, not wanting your girlfriend to strip (but JUST that issue) is not really that extraordinary, IF he were emotionally normal and not the P/AJ that he apparently is.
Like @9 said.
13 is right. It would have to be a little squirt gun, rather than something to actually funnel the female ejaculate into the guy. Hey, maybe the triggering mechanism could be up inside the woman. She orgasms: *squeeze- squeeze – squeeze* and it goes off: *sqirt – squirt – squirt*
A lifelike one of those would be useful for transmen. The opportunity to give their partners pearl necklaces. But how to simulate semen?
I want money out of this 😀
I’m confused about female ejaculation. I THINK i’ve done it–but I’m not sure. How much of the stuff is normal? Because those sprays on porn don’t look real, and from my experience it wouldn’t be enough to rig up to a dildo
Big surprise that ginourmous link broke.
NSFW!
http://www.patentstorm.us/patents/620349…
That research paper is very convincing. The source of the ejaculate is a large gland surrounding the urethra. And, also, the gland connects to the urethra by a small tube, just like in men. It may be de-evolved in some women, but in their two subjects it clearly was still functioning like a female prostate.
Tucatz/7: “…but I can tell you that it doesn’t smell like piss or taste like it”
You’re 100% correct from my, *ahem*, experience.
That’s all I’m saying about that.
And yes, there are women who squirt, and women who puddle. Female ejaculation is all dependent on the level & type of arousal. I haven’t much to say to the doubters. It’s kinda like talking to people who “doubt” global climate change, or schizophrenics. Nothing you say will convince them away from their crazy.
I first encountered the concept of squirting from Tommy Lee’s biography, and it horrified me (I’m a woman, btw). A couple months later, I was in my second trimester of pregnancy, experiencing my first orgasms ever, and whoops I squirted. I about died from mortification, and I’m still not too pleased with my new skill, but the fact is: good orgasms make me ejaculate, and not ejaculating makes orgasms feel lacking. I’m lucky to have had one partner during that discovery and to this day, and I haven’t figure out how I would introduce it to a new one, but it’s my reality and it feels good. Lay down a towel and enjoy.
Okay, I went to the Michigan womyn’s music festival (awesome) and attended a seminar on female ejaculation (seriously). It was equally amazing to the anal sex demo (Tristan Taormino I love you.)
Anyway.
They took 3 or 4 random women volunteers from the group and an instructor got them all to ejaculate in front of the group.
The moral of this story is oh my God lesbians are awesome. Also female ejaculation is real.
It’s not piss, you fucking morons who think it’s piss. Female ejaculate comes from the Skene’s glands through the urethra, not from the kidneys/bladder. Just like guys pee and jizz out the same hole, so do (some lucky) women. From http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Skene%27s_g…
“It has been demonstrated that a large amount of lubricating fluid (filtered blood plasma) can be secreted from this gland when stimulated from inside the vagina.”
“The Skene’s glands are homologous with the prostate gland in males. The fluid that emerges during sex, female ejaculation, has a composition somewhat similar to the semen generated in males by the prostate gland, containing biochemical markers of sexual function.”
“Because they are increasingly perceived as merely different versions of the same gland, some researchers are moving away from the name Skene’s gland and are referring to it instead as the female prostate.”
As for why not every woman does it, “Skene’s glands have highly variable anatomy, and in some extreme cases they appear to be absent entirely. If Skene’s glands are the cause of female ejaculation and G-Spot-orgasms, this may explain the absence in many women.”
Out of a sample of about twenty, I’ve been only with one woman who really ejaculates — quite a lot actually — (though several did get wet puddles). She was actually very shy about that, and thought there was ‘something wrong’ with her (she had never heard about it happening to any other woman). I was thoroughly delighted, managed to change her mind about it, and we both learned to enjoy it. Sigh!…
No, it didn’t taste at all like piss. On the other hand, it didn’t taste at all like male ejaculate either. It was much thinner than male ejaculate, and much more plentiful. Its smell was pungent, but only slightly (i.e., it felt like it was diluted in water). Since I’m not a chemist, that’s all I can say.
Tastes vary, of course, and I know there are guys out there who would be horrified by female ejaculate. But frankly, I find it glorious — and remembering how ashamed that particular girlfriend was about her ‘squirt’, I think it’s important to tell women who squirt that there is nothing wrong about it. Just as there is nothing wrong about not squirting — hey, there’s more than one way to have fun. Way more.
We should simply always take people as they come. Pun intended.
thank you for your comment No9 and ” it is this or the highway” is a casus belli for me and frankly i do not know who is more manipulative he or she. My own advice is that your part with the guy obviously you have different attitudes in life and some serious irreconcilable differences.
@13: The way your wife squirts isn’t the way every squirting woman squirts- hers might be more of a dribble, but mine is projectile with range up to 12 feet or so. The only problem is that I can’t aim it at all, but if he had some kind of funneling device, it could work, assuming his girlfriend squirts like me and not like your wife.
Also, to people who think it’s piss, it’s totally not. It smells different and it’s not yellow. Mine is clear, and I’ve heard of other women having a kind of white color, but I’ve never heard of yellow female ejaculate.
And to those people who don’t think the porn squirters are real, maybe some of them aren’t, but don’t think it isn’t possible, because I can do that. Scared the crap out of me the first time I masturbated because I had no idea if that was supposed to happen or not.
@4 I don’t think there’s any overwhelming demand for women to ejaculate. I first learned about the phenomenon from a sex advice column in a teen girl magazine; the letter-writer was worried that there was something wrong with her, like maybe she peed herself uncontrollably when she came. Orgasms are a pretty loaded (haha) subject, especially for us women — I’m sure almost all of us have felt pressured (socially or personally) at some point to come more, or less, or differently. Which sucks. Our pleasure is our damn business!
Random aside, I’m disappointed to learn that Tristan Taormino presented at MichFest. Apparently sex-positive doesn’t necessarily equal trans-positive. 🙁
What on earth is a degree in circus arts?? That sounds awesome, and I wanted to hear way more about that and less about the problem!
@29: Is MichFest still transphobic? That’s sad. I doubt Taormino supported their transphobic policies just because she did a workshop there.
@4: Nice trolling… well done.
Anent the squirting dildo — does the dildo really have to squirt her ejaculatory fluid? I mean, if the squirt is the whole point of the exercise, and if routing the squirtage through the end of the dildo would require painful (and probably unworkable) rigging, why not just design/use a dildo that squirts something else (water, saline solution, Grey Goose) when the female partner squeezes a bulb or something? No, it’s a step away from “real” ejaculate, but once you start talking about pegging and tubes inserted into the urethra I think it’s time to stop talking about authenticity, no?
Sandiai-6– No, that wasn’t too long a story. I loved it for the humor and for the perspective. Too often, I slog through comments without ever learning anything interesting. Then I happen on one that makes me think about something in a new way. No one who is drawn to this column is entirely new to the idea of sex toys. I never before considered the invention and patent aspect before. Thanks.
Forgawdsakes women are so uptight about sexual nonconformity. OMG, don’t talk about mythical female ejaculation or that will put more pressure on women to “perform” this new trick! (welcome to our world, ladies). Or, OMG I feel like such a freak, what will my boyfriend think?!
Men are pigs when it comes to sex. If your man likes feet or eating pussy or rimming your ass or golden showers or just plain old getting sweaty together, he’s not likely to make a fuss over female ejaculation if you do it. And if there becomes a “performance” issue, the expectation to produce an ejaculation is most likely going to fall on him. Just freaking relax and enjoy the sex, with or without female ejaculate.
“So I’ve got a new word to describe relationships like yours, mine, and your mom’s, IIC: “monogamish.” We’re mostly monogamous, not swingers, not actively looking. Monogamish.” This perfectly sums up my partner and I. Excellent letter, excellent advice!
I was with the same woman for 20 years and she never ejaculated…you would say she is one of those women who just does not. I was only vaguely aware of the phenomenon and certainly didn’t work for or hope for it, nor did she. One day, in a threesome with me and a guy she found very attractive (and very large FWIW–okay, so we were “monogamish”) she clearly ejaculated. And then IN THE VERY SAME WEEK, I was with a different woman for only the second or third time, and she ejaculated as well (at least I know it wasn’t just me). Go figure
I just want to say that I’m happy to live in a world where advice columns start with: “You probably get this question every day. I’m a man who loves it when my girlfriend fucks me with a strap-on.”
You’ve done a lot of good work, Dan.
All PTBMC needs to remember is that everyone has a different definition of monogamous. I know some couples (mostly gay males) who say things like “Yes, we’re monogamous; we have sex with other people, but we always come home to each other” which frankly I think is ridiculous nonsense, but hey, to each his bone.
The world would be a better place if some women didn’t blame porn for their boyfriends being jackasses.
A better option would be to stop having sex with jackasses.
best bunch of comments to a bunch of lame letters! my abs hurt @6,8,11,13,20,24,25,32-the lolz just don’t stop! whew
#2 Thanks for our weekly dose of SPAM.
OMFG, I am a patent agent. I will be happy to write that patent for you.
The patent office is full of interesting and sometimes horrifying patents. Check out this dildo bong that uses a vagina as part of the water chamber to stimulate the one being penetrated with the bubbles.
http://www.google.com/patents?id=Zhd7AAA…
Regarding female ejaculation:
My gf from a decade ago had a hard time orgasming. In fact, she had only done it once in her life before we were together, and she didn’t for the first three years we were together. I found this really frustrating at first, she was more accepting. I certainly made an effort, many efforts, to get her off. But she disuaded me. So, for awhile, that was the way it was.
To be honest, there were issues in our relationship, and she said partly she was holding back. But she was holding back in another way: she said she often felt close to coming, but held back because it felt like she had to pee.
Eventually, she learned to let go. She became quite orgasmic. And usually when she came, she gushed fluid and we got quite a wet spot in the bed. It was kind of funny.
And no, it was not actually pee. Like a previous commenter said, it was dilute and watery, but slightly pungent. It was clearly bodily fluid, but a fairly innocuous one. It was not smelly like her pee, which was normal pee-smelly. I know because she was a California hippie and abided by the “when it’s yellow let it mellow, when it’s brown, flush it down” rule.
I’d really like to take the side of CCG on this one (the BF certainly does sound like a clingy, controlling baby), but . . . anyone who chose to go to college to study to be a clown is automatically downgraded in any dispute. So, unless she writes in to say that said BF may actually be a serial killer or a conservative christian, I’d have to go against her.
Because she’s a fucking clown.
@45
Way, way, way too much info, bro.
I’m not a big fan of “monogamish.” I’m polyamorous, and I want to make polyamory and other types of whole-hearted non-monogamy more socially acceptable. When I hear about people who are monogamish, I feel like the hegemony of monogamy is actually getting additional ammunition. If I were practical and empathetic, I’d understand that other people were different from me, and the more we can fill out the spectrum of sexual and relationship interests and desires, the better. But, as a married polyamorous person living in a monogamous society, the idea of monogamish annoys me. Call me narrow minded and selfish if you’d like (because I am), but that’s my reaction.
Re IIC – I know she wasn’t asking for advice about her difficulties with “sex and arousal,” but I was struck by the phrase: “when the sex works, it’s amazing.” Should she and her husband be looking into hormonal questions, or other issues which might be interfering with their (sometimes) amazing sex? It’s just sad to hear about someone who is one year into a marriage and accepts that “sex and arousal can be difficult for me.”
@9, 27 People who threaten to leave unless their partner changes in some way – that’s an ultimatum. People who make their own decisions in life (“I took control of my own sexuality via stripping”), and accept that their partner may end up leaving them -– they are not issuing ultimatums. Some things in a relationship (ie pregnancy) have to be decided by consensus, but a person’s career and sexuality doesn’t have to be decided that way. I think she should be herself, and if he needs to be with someone who is more conventional, let him make that decision.
As a 27 y/o lesbian I can attest that squirting is a legitimate phenomenon, if one that not every woman can achieve (like myself). I’ve been with 2 squirters, and rest assured, it did not taste like pee, nor did it expel itself like pee. There was A LOT of it, and I mean A LOT. Like, dripping down my face and arms a lot, for over a minute. The first time it happened I was more than a little confused and intrigued, but as time went on I found it a satisfying confirmation of my ability to please these women. To dispel any more myths, squirters don’t always squirt every time, in fact when I was with these women the times when they ejaculated were rare and memorable.
Perhaps squirting is one of those genetic predispositions, like being able to fold your tongue into 3 folds, or having connected earlobes. I dunno, but it happens, and it can be sexy when it does. 🙂
@44 and 45. Looks like Michelle Bachman is super mad someone found out her husband is gay. Simmer down, Mich, it’s God’s will.
oops, I meant @43 and 44.
45 you’re fine, or, well, fine-ish.
Dan, I love you, but I don’t think I like “monogamish.” It sounds wishy-washy, indecisive, uncommitted, and I am none of those things.
I don’t know what the right word is — I don’t like anything that starts with “poly-” and sounds like it wants a cracker — but what the right word would express is “married/unworried.” I am not worried that sex outside my relationship will destroy it. I’m just not.
Monogamous with benefits?
Mostly off topic but where oh where do I find a man that wants to be pegged?? Not one of my boyfriends would even come CLOSE to letting me near their cute asses….not even a finger!
I have tried everything to get them to try it.
It’s going from fantasy to obsession!!!!